Solve Zhang Zixuan's resistance from the perspective of data? This is really fantastic!

Zhao Ran felt a little funny and asked, "Professor, tell me, how to solve it from the perspective of data?"

Zhan Yeming didn't care about Zhao Ran's teasing, and began to talk eloquently.

"I look at the issue from two perspectives. First of all, why does your child resist you remarrying? The reason is that she is insecure. Data studies have shown that most children have natural anxieties about their parents' divorce and remarriage, and have a natural expectation of returning to their previous family life. In this process, some children slowly accept the reality on their own, some children are forced to accept the reality, and some children meet good parents and happily accept the reality. Therefore, we need to be good parents, so that children can happily accept the reality with a sense of security. The second angle is why children are insecure, which comes from the excessive publicity of negative events by the whole society. It is not news that stepparents are very good to their children and get along very happily, and it is news that stepparents abuse children, from a data point of view, stepparents who abuse children only account for a very small proportion, but a mouse is full of soup, in the minds of children of divorced families, especially underage children, any such news is a disaster for them, and it will have too many negative effects on their young minds, especially in the era of advanced information, there are too many channels for children to obtain similar news. ”

To sum up, Zixuan's performance confirms my statement, and I feel that her sense of security is or has been missing. When she came, there were two things that were acceptable, one was to maintain the status quo, and the other was to return to the status quo, and it was unlikely that she would accept change unless she could meet an interesting stepfather. And I plan to give it a try, challenge myself, strive to be an interesting person, dispel her concerns, help her regain trust in her family and even this society, and rebuild her sense of security. ”

Zhao Ran was dumbfounded when she heard this, and then burst into tears, she sobbed and said: "I'm not a competent mother, I never thought that divorce would hurt my children so much." I've been busy with work and haven't communicated much with her, but now that I think about it, it's really undeserved. ”

Zhan Yeming hesitated for a while, reached out to grab Zhao Ran's shoulder, and said softly: "It's okay, now with me, everything will be fine." ”

When Zhan Yeming's hands just touched his shoulders, even through his clothes, Zhao Ran was stiff and his hair stood on end. This body has not been touched so affectionately by a man for a long time.

When the warmth on Zhan Yeming's big hand came clearly, Zhao Ran breathed a sigh of relief, and her whole body relaxed, she leaned forward, twisted around and lay on Zhan Yeming's chest, and continued to sob.

Zhan Yeming was a little proud, he was finally able to be so close to this woman! At the same time, he felt a little distressed in his heart, it was really difficult for such a woman to work hard to achieve such a situation.

Zhao Ran only cried for two or three minutes, then quickly turned around and left Zhan Yeming's embrace, she wiped her eyes a little embarrassedly, and whispered: "I'm sorry Lao Zhan, I got your clothes wet." ”

Zhan Yeming said with a smile: "The precipitation is not large, and it will dry up in a while, and at the same time, I am honored." ”

Zhao Ran was amused by him, and punched him in the shoulder, Zhan Yeming didn't dodge, and said with a smile: "The strength is too light, you have to continue to practice!"

Zhao Ran blushed and said, "Practice you big-headed ghost!" After speaking, he turned around and went to the bathroom and sorted out his makeup.

Half an hour later, Zhan Yeming and Zhao Ran appeared in the mall. It was still early to pick up the child, and Professor Zhan said that he needed to prepare, and asked Zhao Ran to wait for him in the rest area of the mall.

Zhao Ran was also happy to rest for a while, ordered a cup of coffee leisurely, and tasted it slowly.

As soon as he finished drinking a cup of coffee, he heard a commotion in front of him, Zhao Ran raised his eyes, and saw a person wearing a Spider-Man costume, dragging an adult-sized fluffy brown cloth bear, playing not far away.

I saw that he would carry the bear on his back for a while, press the bear under him for a while, and hold the bear for a while.

Spider-Man played for about a quarter of an hour, waved to the audience, and turned to leave.

Zhao Ran looked at his watch, it was already half past ten o'clock, and his daughter was out of school at half past eleven, and she had to rush to school from the shopping mall, and the time was a little tight.

Just in a little anxious, Zhan Yeming came back and said with a smile: "Let's go." ”

Zhao Ran looked at his empty hands and asked, "What about the gift you prepared?"

Zhan Yeming smiled: "In the car." ”

Zhao Ran was relieved and went to the underground parking lot with him.

The Mercedes-Benz car was quietly parked in the parking space, and Zhan Yeming opened the co-pilot's door very gentlemanly and waited for Zhao Ran to get into the car.

Mr. Zhao was very satisfied, turned around and was about to sit up, and when his eyes inadvertently swept the back seat, a huge brown cloth bear was lying there.

Oh my God! Zhao Ran suddenly understood, the Spider-Man who was playing treasure in the rest area just now turned out to be Zhan Yeming! I said, looking at the figure, it looks a little familiar.

Zhao Ran stopped his figure and asked directly, "Spider-Man just now?"

Zhan Yeming nodded proudly: "How is it? Yes, I used to be a part-time actor at Disney in the United States, and I have played many roles, and my favorite is Spider-Man." ”

Zhao Ran knew that Zhan Yeming had worked hard when he was studying abroad, and he was convinced of his words. But there was another question, she asked, "I can understand that bears can be bought in the mall, but where did you get the Spider-Man clothes?"

Zhan Yeming said embarrassedly: "I put it in my car last night, and I originally planned to make you happy when I went to the grass skiing field today." ”

A hot spring suddenly gushed out of Zhao Ran's heart, making her feel warm. She took a step forward gently, kissed Zhan Yeming's face lightly, and said in a low voice: "I saw the performance just now, I am very happy, thank you." ”

Zhan Yeming touched the place where his face had been kissed, and said with a smile: "Kiss next time." ”

Zhao Ran chirped: "You have to move in an inch! Hurry up and drive." ”

……

In the car, Zhan Yeming talked about his plan of action, and Zhao Ran was shocked when he heard it.

It's already surprising for a big professor to pretend to be Spider-Man, the key is that his daughter is 12 years old, can such an exaggerated method be effective?

Zhan Yeming swore an oath: "Don't worry, believe me! Do you know what Disney sells? Happy! Happiness is everywhere in the air! Not to mention children, adults also like it." You saw the effect just now, and everyone is happy, right?"

It seems to make sense, okay, then give it a try.