How can so many people show him?

"Xiu'er, you're leaving, I won't see you in the future. "You wait for me, I'm going to get married

Without her provoking, the old lady had already blown up. It's no wonder that Old Lady Shen, she can't imagine what kind of consequences it will bring to the Shen family if she loses Shen Tiqing's money jar and loses a child with a talent for farming.

Mrs. Shen gave birth to three sons, and the eldest son couldn't beat a fart with three sticks, and he knew the smoking stick all day long. If she hadn't given birth to a grandson who could study, she wouldn't have let them live in peace for so many years.

Her favorite son, everything she gave him since she was a child was the best, but she had a strict temper with a wife, and her son was naughty and mischievous, and her daughter had a good face, but she was as timid as a mouse.

"Mom, let's go. "How can you mock the third aunt if you don't go? It took her so long to pave the way for this scene, how can she appreciate it?

"You girl is embarrassed sometimes. He Juan looked amused on the side, and reached out and nodded on Shen Xiu's head. "Xue'er, don't laugh, Xiu'er, this girl is crazy. ”

"No, it won't. Shen Xue hurriedly shook her head, she was actually very envious of Shen Xiu.

She wants to be like Shen Xiu and love He Juan as much.

She also has a batch of future flowers quietly withering in the college entrance examination every year, I don't know if anyone has paid attention to it, or rather.... Thought deeply.

Suddenly I remembered the news I saw by accident, a girl in the third year of high school jumped from the 17th floor of her house, ending her life in the flower season, even though many people think that this girl is fragile in the heart, but I can't help but ask: why is the child fragile? Under what circumstances would a person break down and dare to jump from the 17th floor?

Only when life is boring and hopeless, extremely rigid and boring life, and not understood, not cared for, unable to find any love, and unable to think of any way out, will they say goodbye to life so decisively, even if it is an extremely brilliant life in the eyes of others.

The 18-year-old girl was admitted to the ideal middle school, and in the eyes of her neighbors, she was "a good student, polite, and filial" and "someone else's child", her father was a successful entrepreneur, and her mother was a teacher. Due to family reasons, my father was busy with his career all the year round and rarely expressed his opinions, and the family became my mother's "Yiyan Hall".

The mother thought that the child inherited the excellent genes of her and her husband and was a genius, she poured all her expectations into the child, arranged everything for the child, and every time she planned, she thought that it was love for her daughter, and never thought that her child was just an ordinary person. Because of her mother's strength, the girl became more and more introverted, and she silently accepted everything that her mother imposed on her, making up lessons, learning calligraphy, and learning piano..... The pressure is mounting.

In a monthly exam, the girl played abnormally, she was hiding in the room and playing with her mobile phone in a bad mood, her mother angrily pushed open the door, and angrily reprimanded her, thinking that she was sorry for her training, and threw the mobile phone out of the window, the girl suddenly had a nervous breakdown, jumped from the 17th floor, and ended her young and short life.

She left quietly like this, leaving her parents with regret and heartbreak, leaving her teachers with incomprehension, and leaving experts with condemnation. Maybe in a few years, people will gradually forget her, maybe occasionally mentioned, it's just a sentence "that girl is too poor to bear the psychology", but is that really the case?

No, no! I heard a voice crying from within.

I couldn't help but look sideways.

Suddenly, I wondered, whose fault was all this? I already had the answer in my heart.

We often say that children are too fragile and lack frustration education. What is frustration education? Many people think that it is a heavy learning task, a beating and shaming, but it is not. The real frustration education is to give them the courage to face various problems in life and accompany them to cross one hurdle after another, instead of digging a pit to let him fall down, and then let him get up on his own, if he can't get up, he is called vulnerable.

There is no respite from the class schedule, there is no relaxation of study requirements, the infinitely higher difficulty of the course, the mountain of homework, they are like machines, struggling at three points and one line; when they return home, they are faced with the reproach of their parents and the hatred on their faces.

The child's shoulders are too immature and weak, not as strong as imagined, and in the discouragement again and again, he gradually begins to become numb, and then it is irreparably heartbreaking.

A student from Huangshan No. 1 Middle School also left in such a tragic way. He was originally a school bully, an existence that was envied by everyone, he had a wealthy family, just like the male protagonist in the novel, and his life was smooth. But it is such a person, after the college entrance examination, leaving three words "I am tired", and chose to jump into the lake to end his life. Many people say that it is because of his abnormal performance in the college entrance examination, but his friend's words have revealed this mystery for everyone.

He has been manipulated by his parents all his life, going to cram schools, brushing questions, reviewing, even in his own room, he can't stop his mother's "prying eyes", and every day in addition to studying or studying, there has never been self-space. This is the original words of a friend, and we clearly understand his helplessness, he ended himself in this extreme way, ended his soul that may have been broken, and "I am tired" became his last stroke in this world.

When everything is a foregone conclusion, the grief of parents is certainly painful, but as many films say, "If regret is useful, what do you want the police to do?", why not care more and understand more when the child is still alive, instead of poking the child's heart again and again with fierce words.

If, I mean, if, when the child fails, parents can tell the child that there is more than one way, if you are tired, take a break, and then go another way, if the child's grades do not meet his own requirements, do not trap him with the tactics of the sea of questions, he will not be grateful, on the contrary, if when he is tired, hand him a glass of water, say "hard work", he will always remember you.

In this way, when he is most desperate, he at least knows that there are still people who love and care for him, and he will not go to a dead end.

Many parents say, "We were also forced, and it was the fault of the education system." "I can't deny it.

As a student, everyone is tired, but they are forced and strong to go on, and there is no way back; as a parent, a simple word of concern and greetings can not be said, is it a failure?

Parents and children are the most intimate relationship in the world, why do they repeatedly walk into the abyss of resentment? Why do good or bad grades cause children to suffer so much? Why, when they talk about love, they keep hurting?