"What!"

Zhao Guode's loud voice came out of Lin Zeng's mobile phone, as a background, and the little baby's wah-wow-la-wow scream. Pen | fun | pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 ｉｎｆｏ

"A bad-tempered child?Is it about the same age as my family?Where did you secretly give birth to one?" His jaw dropped in shock when he heard Lin Zeng's question.

"Dad, Dad, Dad, ......" a series of balabala summons, dubbing Zhao Guode's shouting. Hearing this, Lin Zeng's scalp was numb, and he felt that the child was really a very terrible creature.

"Okay, baby Asheng," Zhao Guode said in a voice that was so tender that he could pinch out the water, "Go there to play with grandparents, Dad is talking to uncle!

"Fruit Fruit Fruit ......"

Even if Lin Zeng couldn't see Zhao Guode's expression, he was tortured by his friend's voice so much that goosebumps fell to the ground.

"Okay," after waiting for a while, Zhao Guode's voice finally returned to normal, and it seemed that he was getting rid of his son's entanglement, "Why did you suddenly ask the child? Have you already gotten on the bus?

Zhao Guode looks like an old driver.

"Don't talk nonsense, it's just that when you meet a baby with a very bad temper, it will bark, uh, this child usually has little contact with people, and he stays alone, so he may be a little withdrawn, right?

Hearing what Lin Zeng said, Zhao Guode didn't study it carefully, sometimes, even in the face of a dead party, the other party didn't want to say more, knowing that it was a virtue not to ask.

He cleared his throat and said solemnly, "First of all, I want to correct you a few concepts. ”

"Oh, let's talk!" Lin Zeng humbly asked for advice.

"Don't label any child as withdrawn, and don't use correction as a method. ”

"As a licensed dad, I read all kinds of prenatal health care and postpartum parenting books before my wife gave birth, do you know how difficult it is for male compatriots? Zhao Guode inserted a sentence, which made Lin Zeng have a black line, "Children six months ago can't be characterized by the label of loneliness. Six months ago, the child was in a symbiotic period with his mother, and he needed to establish a sufficient sense of security. You see my baby, when he came out of the incubator in the neonatal department, he cried all day long, because the mother and baby were separated for too long, and he was extremely insecure, so I still opened my belly and let him lie on my belly and listen to my heartbeat to sleep. ”

...... "Okay, sure enough, it is father's love like a mountain, thinking of the scene described by Zhao Guode, Lin Zeng really wanted to support the wall and be weak.

However, if you think about it another way, it can be regarded as an early parenting education class.

What, ahem, I can't say that I will use it with Mr. Jiang in the future.

"So, you just said that these characteristics of the child are extremely insecure children, very normal manifestations, please don't make a fuss. Zhao Guode couldn't see Lin Zeng's strange expression on the mobile phone, and continued to teach the parenting scriptures. "In modern parenting research, both in the East and the West, there is a strong emphasis on building a sense of security before the age of three. Especially six months ago, during this period, give the child enough companionship and establish enough security, so that the child can truly move towards independence, and if at this stage, the sense of security is missing, in the future growth, there will be many problems, and it will take more time to make up for it. Not to mention being alone for a long time, under the age of three, separated from the primary caregiver for more than seven days, and without enough care, there will be different degrees of apathy, loneliness, lack of security and other problems. ”

Lin Zeng quietly listened to Zhao Guode's narration.

Because Zhao Guode has first-hand experience of this. From birth, Ah Sheng has been admitted to the ward of the neonatal unit. Although Zhao Guode sends him breast milk every day, he can only visit outside the glass window twice a week, for half an hour each time, and this sequelae of separation brings sadness to his parents and elders, but the biggest impact should be Zhao Guode's child Xiao Asheng.

After returning home from the hospital, Xiao Ah Sheng had a lot of problems.

He was more attached to his parents' arms than ordinary babies, and as soon as he put it down, he cried so much that it was terrible and miserable.

Until now, he has not learned to sleep alone, his body seems to be equipped with radar, and the person in charge of sleeping with him, if he leaves slightly, the little guy will jump up in panic no matter how heavy he sleeps. Every day, he likes to stick to Zhao Guode's belly, rubbing his little face around, and the contact of the skin will make him feel at ease.

After listening to Zhao Guode's rough explanation, Lin Zeng understood where his mistake was.

He thought that the newborn baby knew nothing, and the phantom fruit vine could take care of him, so he left the little baby in a special secret realm.

As soon as the little baby was born, she experienced the most painful abandonment in her life. According to Lao Zhao, if he is given enough companionship and a sense of security later, he may be another little Ah Sheng, although he is still a little timid on weekdays, but he is also lively and cute. However, Lin Zeng handed over the little baby to the Phantom Fruit Vine to take care of. The little baby, who does not have anyone to communicate, accompany, caresse, and caresses, is clearly in character because of this.

"How to deal with this situation in general?" Lin Zeng asked humbly.

"You know, my wife's maternity leave is very short, more than three months, the hospital is short of manpower, so she called her to work, she just left the days ago, my baby is like the sky is falling apart, I haven't had a good night's sleep, I haven't eaten a good meal. Speaking of this topic, Zhao Guode's voice was low.

"Then I thought about it, anyway, I have free time on weekdays, and my wife is not free, so I'll go up!" Zhao Guode said easily, and only he knew that for more than 20 hours a day, the experience of the little baby hanging on his body and not wanting to come down was simply ......

Hanging on your body for more than twenty hours a day?

When Lin Zeng heard this, his face darkened, how could he have that free time?

The information in the inheritance system made him feel that there was not enough time, and in reality there was still a lot of basic work to be completed by breeders. Let him be idle, and spend a lot of time every day to provide a sense of security for a bear child.

He really couldn't do it.

It's one thing to sympathize with this child, but let him give up his research for several years and focus on raising a child, Lin Zeng thought he couldn't do it.

It's not that he is indifferent, like many parents, who love their children, but will not give up their careers for their children.

"Is there any other way? For example, get some books, or cartoons to show him. Lin Zeng asked.

"What else can I do?" Zhao Guode patted his head speechlessly, and said: "Do you think raising a child is raising a goldfish? It is to raise an ordinary dog, and you should also take time to take it for a walk, deal with eating, drinking, and playing for it." ”

Lin Zeng silently remembered the little black-backed Saike he bought from the flower and bird market, because he rarely took care of it, he had long regarded the red boy as his master

Well, it's so much effort to raise animals and children, or plants are much cuter.

"If you really can't help it, you can spend money to hire a nanny, many people are not like this now, parents are working hard outside, grandma or grandmother, or even nanny is the obligation to replace parents. Zhao Guode gave Lin Zeng a suggestion, although he was very curious about what kind of state the child Lin Zeng was talking about, but Lin Zeng obviously didn't plan to tell him, so Zhao Guode didn't ask more.

"Huh?!" Lin Zeng was reminded by Lao Zhao, and suddenly a thought flashed in his mind, and he had some ways in his heart, "I understand, thank you, it's not early, you hurry up and put your son to sleep!"

"Okay, just ask me if there's anything, I have followed dozens of parenting public accounts on WeChat on my mobile phone, and now I can go to the class to teach. ”