"Are you going to take Xiaole back, where are you going back?Isn't this your home, where are you going to go?" I looked at Tong Wangjun, but I didn't expect to tell her the truth was also the result, and she was going to take the child away again.

"Back to my hometown, back to my home. Tong Wangjun said, "You are really not suitable for taking children, and I am not at ease when the children are handed over to you." ”

"Xiaole has registered here, she has already gone to school, you are taking her back to your house now, what are you going to do when you go back there, do you want to transfer her to another school? A person's character, can you not be so nonsense?" Tong Wangjun's words made me feel very uncomfortable after listening to it.

"Before Xiaole was poisoned in eating, I went to the hospital, I was afraid that you would worry, I didn't tell you, you blamed me for hiding you, now Xiaole has an accident, I honestly told you what happened, you are like this, what do you want me to do, no matter what I do, it seems to be wrong. ”

"It's not that everything you do is wrong, you just don't care. Tong Wangjun said, "It's not entirely because of this that I went back, my dad is sick, and I want to go back to take care of it." ”

"What's fun, what's wrong with your dad?" It turns out that there is still this reason, I feel a little more comfortable and happy, and I understand Tong Wangjun a little.

"I drank too much, I had a perforated stomach, I was admitted to the hospital, and there were other problems, alcoholic liver, duodenal ulcers and the like, anyway, there was something wrong with the whole body, and there was no place that was good. Tong Wangjun said with anger, helplessness, and some worry, "I told him not to drink a long time ago, but he drinks every meal, and he drinks a lot." ”

"Then you really should go back and have a look. I nodded, "It's the weekend in two days, I have time, and I'll drive you back when the time comes." ”

"No, how can you help when you go back? On the contrary, it may be more troublesome for the family to entertain you, so I can go back by myself. Tong Wangjun shook his head.

When I was young, I thought that when I grew up, I could decide things by myself, I would be much freer, and I would have fewer worries, but when I grew up, I realized that I was the most carefree when I was young.

There are parents on your head to bear for you, the pressure you are under is very small, even if you are a little not free, but you can still be carefree in general, there is no rice at home, there are parents to find a way, the tuition is not enough, and your parents will be more anxious than you.

When I grew up and played the role of a parent, all the pressure poured into me.

There are old ones to take care of above, and small ones to take care of below.

Getting married, having a house, having a child, a child getting sick, an old man getting sick, an old man passing away, a child going to school, etc., all things have to be resolved, many things are unpleasant, you don't want to face it, but you have to face it.

I took some money and gave it to Tong Wangjun: "You can bring this money back, it's not enough to call me again, I'll transfer some back for you, the old man is old, his physical fitness is poor, and he often drinks alcohol, it's normal to get sick, take care of it." ”

"I'll give you back the money. Tong Wangjun told me.

"Don't say that to me, I've told you many times that my money is your money. "I'm a little angry, Tong Wangjun always said, "Xiaole won't go back with you, I signed up here, went to school, and then followed you back, re-registered, and went to school again, not to mention that it is another expense, the key is that now your father is sick with you, you have to take care of the old and the young, how can you have time?"

Tong Wangjun was silent for a while, then looked up at me: "Chen Jin, don't you really remember anything from before?"

"What are you talking about?" I don't know what Tong Wangjun said.

"When I got married, I said at that time, if I had two children, one of the children could take my surname and leave the hukou in my family. Tong Wangjun said, "My parents also know about this." ”

I don't have any impression at all, but Tong Wangjun shouldn't lie about this matter, what she said is likely to be the truth, but I have some repercussions in my heart.

There is some traditionalism in my thinking, or a bit of machismo, I feel that having a child should have the man's surname, and the hukou should fall on the man's place.

It is said that men and women are equal, but in fact this is not the case at all, men and women have different physiological structures, different concepts of looking at certain things, and different roles in society, equality is impossible to talk about, this is just that