"I have a high EQ?" I first heard someone say I had a high EQ, and it felt a little ridiculous, "I don't have a high EQ at all." ”

"If you don't have high emotional intelligence, how can there be so many women around you? How can there be so many women who are willing to think about you and help you?" Xiao Shan said.

"What's the use of having more women around? It doesn't bring them happiness, and many times there are many contradictions, awkwardness, and quarrels. I said, "If you really have high emotional intelligence, how can such a thing happen?"

"Don't be dissatisfied, there will be a quarrel between two women around ordinary people, even if there is only one woman, just one more glance at a woman on the side of the road, there will be a quarrel, just like me. Xiao Shan scoffed at my words, "You are too greedy, and you still think that all women are in harmony and there will be no quarrels at all?"

"It's quite good to be able to reach this level, and now in China, in fact, not only domestic, but also internationally, this matter about women's rights has been a little distorted, Weibo, Zhihu, including WeChat public account, all of them are some chicken soup articles about women's rights. ”

"You are responsible for earning money to support the family, I am responsible for being beautiful like a flower, marrying a man who spoils you as a daughter, and the boyfriends above the middle three should break up, etc., the WeChat circle of friends is full of similar articles, women's rights have changed a little, they want not only power, but also shirk their own responsibilities, become very self-conscious, and women's rights have completely become a taste. ”

"Look at Baoqiang's incident, there is obviously a real hammer to prove that Ma Rong is cheating, but there are many women who leave messages on the comments, not accusing Ma Rong, but accusing Baoqiang, saying that Ma Rong cheated because her husband did not do a good job, so the wife cheated, or blamed Baoqiang for not scrupling the two children, and announced the things between the husband and wife, not a good father, and then extended from this point to say that Baoqiang is not a good man, so it is reasonable for Ma Rong to cheat, and even some people have no evidence at all, so they say that there is no man who does not steal, saying that Baoqiang must have stolen something outside, no different from Ma Rong, he did not accuse Ma Rong's position。 ”

"Women really can't give them too much power, didn't the ancestors say it a long time ago? Only villains and women are difficult to raise, this is all experience, but if you look at the women around you, they are still around you and there is no big conflict, this still proves that your emotional intelligence is high?"

"Ordinary people have enough difficulty to deal with a woman, but you have to deal with many women, and you can still get along so well, isn't your emotional intelligence high enough? ”

After Xiao Shan left, I was still thinking about what he told me, he said that I am wise and foolish in terms of emotional intelligence, and I don't look at my emotional intelligence, but in fact, my emotional intelligence is very high, otherwise it would be impossible for so many women to surround me.

After a little thought, it seems to make sense, but I really don't feel that my emotional intelligence is high, occasionally give a gift on my birthday, and usually don't say that I pursue romance, put love made of flowers in the house, or adjust the atmosphere, create a romantic atmosphere, drink some red wine, eat some steak, or write a love letter every day.

I haven't done any of these things, I haven't gone out of my way to pursue any romance, let alone have a good morning kiss every morning when I wake up, and a good night kiss every night when I go to bed.

Su Ran, Tong Wangjun, Tang Wan and others, they didn't make such a request to me, the only thing I can do is probably responsibility, I am willing to be responsible for them, but this kind of responsibility also makes it difficult for me to choose between several people, and I have to endure the inner torment, because being responsible for one party may mean causing harm to the other party.

But I think many men are also willing to be responsible, my situation does not seem to be able to show that my emotional intelligence is high, I think there may be only one reason to explain this phenomenon, that is, Su Ran, Tong Wangjun, Tang Wan, including Chen Wenjing, Liu Shuang, Jiang Xiaoning, these women around me, their mentality is not like the women Xiao Shan said just now, not so extreme, not enjoying the rights at the same time, but also pushing out the responsibility.

All they want is to be with me, and the things next to them can be placed in the second place, even if it is Tang Wan, because my concern for her was transferred to Tong Wangjun's body and to Su Ran's body, she had some resentment towards me, but when she was pregnant with a child, this resentment turned into maternal care, and her temperament changed, became gentle, and considered it for me.

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