When Xu Xiu really appeared in front of Xu, Xu suddenly felt that he didn't know what to say to this niece and granddaughter.

The marriage is a foregone conclusion, and nothing can be changed. At this time, I will tell Xu Xiu what are the disadvantages of being a person filling the house, and what is the significance? Xu also does not know much about the Gui family, and wants to mention to Xu Xiu what to pay attention to in the future life in her husband's family, but I don't know what to remind. Now that she is so sick, there are few people in the Chengenhou Mansion who can listen to her instructions and help her find out more news about the Gui family. She wanted to see Xu Xiu, she thought that when she saw someone, she would have a lot to say, but now that Xu Xiu was really standing in front of her, she opened her mouth and found that nothing seemed to be meaningless.

Xu could only be silent for a while before he said, "This family business...... Are you willing? Are you wronged? How to put it, it's also filling people's houses...... I know the pain of being a step-room. That's how I came back then. At that time, the Yuan in front of me was unpopular, and Qin Song still treated me with some sincerity, so I survived. But you ...... You are different, the Yuan partner in front of you heard that he is very popular with the Gui family, and even her mother's family is still friendly with the Gui family. The current situation of the Xu family, I'm afraid it won't help you. Although I don't know how your parents helped you find this family business, but the Gui family is strong, the Xu family is weak, and you are filling the house for others, so I am afraid that you will have to suffer a lot in the future......"

She said all the way, coughed all the way, and when she said this, she couldn't hold it anymore in one breath, and she had to stop and catch her breath.

Xu Xiu listened silently, and only then did she answer her softly: "Grandmother, don't worry." The matter of marriage is the order of the parents and the words of the matchmaker. Since the niece and granddaughter have been allowed by their parents to marry the Gui family, they should be cautious and abide by the discipline of the girl. Whether it is to be a yuan match or to fill the house, you only need to do your best and fulfill the responsibility of being a wife and a daughter-in-law. The big and the weak are all trivialities. The niece and granddaughter only believe that sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity. The Gui family is a scholarly family, and the style is upright. If there is nothing wrong with the niece and granddaughter, the Gui family will naturally not embarrass the nephew. ”

It's impossible to find fault with this, just like what any well-bred lady would say. But Xu was in a hurry, she felt that her niece and granddaughter were too naïve. Where is it so simple in this world?

She said to Xu Xiu: "I'm not familiar with the Gui family, but that kind of family has always paid attention to the rules. No matter what is going on inside, you always have to be face-saving in front of outsiders. After you get married, no matter what you do, you can't let people seize the handle. Be submissive to your mother-in-law, as long as your mother-in-law is willing to protect you, you can talk about other things. Between concubines, you can't be too hard, you can't be too soft, although you are not the eldest daughter-in-law, and you are a stepfamily, but you can't really make people despise you. Once you make people look down on you, they will no longer take you seriously in the future, and no matter what you do, they will make you suffer. Before she could finish speaking, she coughed again.

Xu Xiu knew that this was Xu's face-to-face teaching and teaching her the trick of being a daughter-in-law. This was the duty of her grandmother and mother, but her grandmother had passed away, and her mother's teaching was a little different from what Xu taught.

After Xu Shi finished coughing, he gasped for breath for a while before he had the strength to continue to say: "The most important thing is to envelop the man first." As long as the second son of Gui is willing to stand on your side, and has the protection of his mother-in-law, no matter how arrogant the concubines are, they can't help you. If they dare to bully you, your mother-in-law and husband will stand up for you. The most important of these is that your husband comes first. As long as you win his heart, he will say good things for you in front of your mother-in-law and support you in front of your subordinates. Therefore, you must make sure that he is happy with you. Even if he has other favorite concubines in the house, or does something that makes you look unpleasant, you have to endure it! Not only do you have to endure it, but you also have to think more thoughtfully than him. He has a favored concubine, and you are better with that favored concubine. If he has any preferences, you have to turn those preferences into your own! When your husband thinks that you are all in his liking and that there is no one else to replace him, you will be considered to have real weight in his heart. At that time, even if you are filling the house, others will not be able to underestimate you. If you can give birth to a few more children for him, no matter how powerful the Gui family is, no one can despise you!"

Xu Xiu's face turned pale when he heard this, but at this time, he couldn't help but ask in a hesitant whisper: "Is it ...... Then you won't have to hold back like that?"

Xu Shi paused for a moment, and showed a wry smile: "To be a daughter-in-law, to be a wife, when can you not bear to swallow your anger? From the first day you got married, you have to endure any anger." It's easy to wait until your son can be the master of the house at home, and when you don't have to rely on others anymore, you will naturally do whatever you want. Therefore, you must give birth to your son as soon as possible and carefully teach your son to become a talent. When he is angry, you can count on the day when you can raise your eyebrows. ”

Xu Xiu was depressed by her, and her eyes turned red, so she held back her tears and calmed down.

Seeing Xu Xiu's expression, Xu sighed and said softly: "Being a daughter-in-law, especially when the status and power of the husband's family is greater than that of the mother's family, this is the case. Unless the Xu family competes, one day you can be on an equal footing with the Gui family, or even surpass the Gui family, your status in the Gui family can be improved. Not only your husband, but even your in-laws, uncles, concubines, and family members, no one dares to underestimate you. Therefore, with Gui Shilang's current official position and family background, if you have the opportunity to promote your mother's father and brother, don't let it go easily! You must know that whether it is your mother-in-law or husband, even if you can protect your husband's family and live a better life, you will not be as close as your flesh and blood after all. Only your mother's relatives can you really rely on! Only when they are well can you live well. They are not good, how can you be at ease in your husband's house?"

When Xu Xiu heard this, he couldn't help but ask tentatively: "That...... What about my own children? They are also close relatives of flesh and blood, and are they not also my dependence?"

Xu smiled bitterly: "Silly child, unless that child was raised by you since childhood, and everything you think and think is of the same heart and mind as you, otherwise, it is a child raised by the Gui family after all, and it is the Gui family." How can they sincerely think about the Xu family? You are surnamed Xu, and no matter how many children you give birth to in the Gui family, to them, you are still a foreigner!"

Xu Xiu's face turned pale again: "That...... Will my mother's family be reliable? Won't they ignore me? Am I not another married wife to them?"

Xu Shi looked at her lovingly: "Silly child, where is it so easy to give up flesh and blood affection? Besides, if you think about them wholeheartedly and contribute to the Xu family, how can they abandon you? Our Xu family is not such a ruthless and unrighteous family. ”

Xu Xiu looked at Xu, and the balance in his heart had fallen. She is not a stubborn person like Xu, and she knows very well what her family says about Xu. In her opinion, the Xu family can be said to have done everything for the Xu family in this life. But what do you get at the end of the day? It's a tragic negative example. Xu Xiu felt that she might do a little bit for her mother's father and brother, but if she wanted to do her best to plan for the Xu family like Xu, regardless of her own interests, she would never be able to do it, and she didn't plan to do it. She didn't want that after doing so much for the Xu family with all her heart, all she got was a dislike from the younger generations of her mother's family.

What did the cousin of the Qin family do for her mother's family? But she was still very favored in the Chengenhou Mansion. There was a disaster in Zhenxi Mansion, and the Chengenhou Mansion and the Yongjiahou Mansion could still join hands to protect the entire Su family. It can be seen that the words of my aunt and grandmother Xu are not golden rules. She doesn't have to blindly obey.

My aunt and grandmother married into the Chengenhou Mansion for decades, although it helped the Xu family to maintain a temporary glory and wealth, but she herself insisted on going her own way, but she separated from her children and grandchildren, which led to her children and grandchildren being at odds with the Xu family. It is difficult to say whether my aunt and grandmother have more credit or fault for the Xu family. If my aunt and grandmother were in the Chengenhou Mansion, they could still say the same, and the current Xu family would not have fallen into such a situation. Xu Xiu felt that if he could gain a firm foothold in the Gui family in the future and be able to speak, then even if the Xu family was down for a while, it would not be completely defeated. But if she loses power in the Gui family for the sake of the Xu family, it will really outweigh the losses. She must distinguish which is more important than the other.

Although the idea is far from Xu's, Xu's words still make Xu Xiu's future direction clear. She didn't say anything, but solemnly knelt in front of Xu's bed, kowtowed to Xu's three heads seriously, and said, "Aunt Xie's grandmother's teachings, my nephew's daughter has already understood in her heart. After getting married, she will abide by the discipline of the boudoir, be filial to her in-laws, get along with her concubines, respect her husband, be friendly to her relatives and friends, be a virtuous and good daughter-in-law, and live up to the scholarly name of the Xu family for generations. ”

Xu nodded with satisfaction, and asked again, "What else?" Xu Xiu said all about what happened in the Gui family, but did not mention her mother's family.

Xu Xiu glanced at her, and said some rules and phrases such as "husband and child".

Xu Shi frowned and sighed: "In front of my aunt and grandmother, there is no need to prevaricate with these old words. If you don't say it, my aunt and grandmother also understand that you can do this. My aunt and grandmother just hope that you can firmly remember that our Xu family has been scholarly for generations, and the glory of our ancestors cannot be buried in our generation. Even if you are a foreign daughter, you can't forget your roots!"

Xu Xiu actually understood what Xu wanted to say, but she didn't want to lie in front of her aunt and grandmother, so she just lowered her head softly and said, "The niece and granddaughter will be a good daughter-in-law of the Gui family and will not live up to the name of the ancestor of the Xu family." ”

Xu began to feel that something was wrong. What does the Gui family's daughter-in-law have? The key is to be a good "daughter of the Xu family"! She wanted to say something more to Xu Xiu, but Xu Xiu bowed down again: "Thank you for your aunt's teaching today, and your nephew and granddaughter will definitely remember it." Please also ask for a rest of your health and recuperation. Wait for your nieces and granddaughters to have a chance in the future, and then bring your nieces and sons-in-law to kowtow to you. ”

After bowing this salute, Xu Xiu respectfully withdrew. Xu Shi looked at her departing figure, coughing, and at the same time felt uneasy in his heart.

How did she feel that things were not quite what she had expected?