"I ......" Xu Le's eyes looked into the distance again, "I believe yes, I didn't know before, but now I know." Pen, fun, pavilion www. biquge。 info That thing, it really happened. ”

This is Xu Le's own feeling.

Lu Ran also guessed that it was likely to be like this. However, what Lu Ran couldn't be sure was that knowing that this incident had happened was a good thing or a bad thing for Xu Le.

Just when Lu Ran was thinking about how to help her analyze and digest this matter.

Xu Le laughed out loud on the contrary, the kind of laughter that could not be described as happy: "Thank you, Dr. Lu, before, when I heard about this incident, I always had a hurdle in my heart, worried that it was true, and suspected that it was just made up by my mother, I wanted to believe that it didn't happen, but I always thought about what if it was true." I often think about it and I am anxious.

It's better now, knowing what happened, maybe you won't be happy, but in the end, a heart has finally hit the ground, and you don't have to worry about it anymore.

Moreover, I also know why I have this heart disease. ”

The tone and expression of Xu Le's speech reminded Lu Ran of some monks who were disillusioned and saw through the red dust, and his heart was broken, but his face was still upright.

Lu Ran still didn't express his opinion, and continued to ask: "Then why do you think you have a heart disease?"

"Because of this. It's because of my father's behavior that I have always been afraid in my heart and left a hidden danger, so now I am sick. ”

Xu Le's words are quite reasonable, and they are basically in line with Lu Ran's previous judgment.

Lu Ran continued to ask her: "If, as you said, it is because of this incident that you are sick now, then, what I want to ask is, in your past growth process, in the past time, have you ever been sick?"

"This ......"

This question stopped Xu Le.

She is a smart woman, and she knows that if her answer is no, then there is a loophole in the guess just now.

If her phobia is because of the shadow left by birth, then she should have grown up with fear, she must have had an outbreak of symptoms, and by now, she may have developed a strong fear or rejection of her father.

But this is not the case.

Xu Le hesitated for a moment and frowned slightly, "I can't say that I haven't been afraid at all." However, if you want to talk about the onset, it is really not an illness.

In the past, at best, there was some anxiety.

When I was young, I was anxious and my test scores were not good enough, and when I was older, I was worried that I would not be able to go to a good school and graduate from a good company......

But to say that the onset of the disease is unprecedented. ”

At this moment, because of Lu Ran's question, Xu Le was a little confused again.

Lu Ran smiled and encouraged her: "Ms. Xu, you are very honest. You have the courage to be honest about it, and you don't over-exaggerate the consequences of it because of the hurt in your childhood.

It's good to be honest, and it helps you see things as they are. It will also help me restore this thing to the way it was. ”

Lu Ran straightened out his thoughts and said, "Just as you answered just now. Growing up, you were often in a state of anxiety, which is a sign of constant stress, but other than that, you haven't experienced such severe fear symptoms as you do now.

I haven't experienced any other horrific incidents of domestic violence, have I?"

Xu Le recalled for a moment and nodded: "Except for the occasional quarrel between my parents...... That's true. ”

Lu Ran continued to analyze: "This can explain several points, first, you have not been in fear, second, this episode, in addition to the incident in your childhood, there must be a special reason that triggered your fear; third, and most importantly, your father did not exert other violence on you when you were growing up, and it has been proved that you are safe to live with him." ”

Lu Ran tried his best to help her analyze the whole matter objectively, without bias, bias and arbitrary assumptions.

Her father may have really made that excessive move, but after analysis, he doesn't eat people, and he is not a terrible devil, his father is really that dangerous, and Xu Le can't grow up healthy and healthy, and he is still so good.

Even though she was excellent, it was so heavy that it was almost difficult for her to breathe.

Xu Le carefully thought about every word Lu Ran said, and nodded slowly: "You are right. In fact, when I was growing up, he rarely beat me.

He's just, just majestic.

He was always serious and strict with me. He was very demanding of me, and if I couldn't do it well, he would sigh and be disappointed. ”

Xu Le said some of his father's usual image and style of acting.

"And you always want to be able to meet his requirements?" Lu Ran asked.

"Yes. ”

"Why, what if not?"

"If you don't reach ...... I, I'm going to be sad. Xu Le frowned, "Seeing him sigh in disappointment, I feel anxious." I don't want to, I don't want him to think I'm not good. And if I see his satisfied smile, I know that he will be proud of me, and then I will be happy. ”

"And your mother's words have also increased your stress?"

"So to speak. My mother always reminded me that I had to work hard, harder, to satisfy my father. ”

It sounds like Xu Le lives in a very stressful family atmosphere, and her childhood must be like those top students, the desk is always full of homework, and the score is not ninety-eight, and she will never be satisfied.

It's really exhausting.

However, at this time, Lu Ran still had a smile on his face, and he didn't mean to help her.

"In my opinion, you are very happy. ”

Xu Le turned his head, his eyes widened, and looked at Lu Ran. She didn't understand what she had just said that would make him feel like this.

"First of all, you love your father very much.

If you don't love your father, you won't feel heartfelt joy because you desperately want to meet his requirements and you won't feel happy because you have met his expectations.

You're pleasing him.

Not to mention, setting an extremely high standard for your children to meet their own requirements and please themselves is not a suitable way of education.

But you are sincere, you are willing, you sincerely hope that you can be good enough, that he can be happy.

From this point of view, your father is happy. ”

I don't know which sentence it was, but when it came to Xu Le's heart, her eyes were a little red.

"Secondly, your father also loves you. ”

When he said this, Xu Le's eyebrows were raised, slightly surprised, and he looked at Lu Ran with expectation. (To be continued.) )