"Mom, I've figured it out. Pen ~ Fun ~ Pavilion www.biquge.info I'm going to take a break for two months. ”

"Would you like to hear it, Mommy?"

"Well, you say. ”

"Don't rest. Just quit your group and quit this circle. ”

"Oh, Mom, this ......"

Concubine Jiang was a little caught off guard, in her opinion, her mother had never said such a thing in front of her, even when she just wanted to try singing, her mother didn't understand and didn't support it, she didn't explicitly oppose it, and as far as she knew, in recent years, with the works they have come up with and the achievements and influences they have made, not only is her mother no longer opposed, but she is also a little proud and proud. What's going on today?

Deng Zheng was also taken aback, he didn't expect this Aunt Li Man to be so strong and energetic as soon as she came up.

To say, on weekdays, he didn't feel Li Man's opposition and incomprehension of Concubine Jiang's work!

In the room, Li Man smiled, held his daughter's hand, didn't directly pay attention to his daughter's surprise, and changed his words, but suddenly said: """Yitian" has been serialized until now, among the four girls, who do you think can be by Zhang Wuji's side for a long time?"

Deng Zheng didn't want to listen to it anymore, it was rude, but Li Man's way of opening the topic made him a little unable to walk.

Concubine Jiang was even more confused, still immersed in the topic of "quitting" just now, she didn't understand where this was, and subconsciously replied: "It should be Zhao Min." ”

"How so?"

"Zhou Zhiruo is a little blackened. Zhao Min is constantly whitewashing. And she loves very crazy, has a high emotional intelligence, and is even more skillful, unlike other girls who are reserved, she will seize any opportunity to flirt and confess. ”

Li Man laughed, listening to the voice, as if he had picked up a newspaper or a magazine on the table, "You read this "Zhao Min's Two Great Tricks: Crazy Love and Great Confession", right?"

"Read. Mom, the author who wrote this is his apprentice, named Zheng Wenhan. is also a martial arts novelist, who has written a trilogy of swords and sticks. ”

"It seems that he is also a young man. Maybe in the eyes of you young people, he is right. But in the eyes of my mother, this view is childish and ridiculous, and it is very wrong. ”

Li Man made his position directly, and then said unhurriedly:

"In the matter of men and women, how to chase, this kind of thing, the role of skills is limited. It is not a good means to force it. In reality, if someone really had to do this, there was a good chance that they would die miserably.

Basically, my opinion is that whether two people are compatible or not is actually mostly there for a long time. To try, to run-in, to conflict. After adulthood, many things are almost determined by growth experience and basic conditions.

When you meet someone who is tempting, you have to really influence each other, get along, test your fit, and even develop a new 'self' and a new 'each other'.

I think too many people, especially your young people now, overestimate the importance of skills and ignore the adaptability of the two people who already exist; I always feel that the person I like is following someone else, and I have eaten that person's tricks.

Tricks, just the 'icing on the cake' stuff. On the other hand, thinking too much and designing too much will become a 'snake to add to the picture', which is disgusting.

For so many years, my mother has seen too much, and there are many people who can chase, what did they buy "Flirting Han Treasure Book" and "Chasing Beauty Dafa", and hooked each other with some clever tricks, creating an illusion that the two are suitable. In fact, it's really real, and it's best to get along with each other with all your might. ”

Concubine Jiang was thoughtful, but a little puzzled: "Then the examples cited in the article by "Zheng Wenhan", the tavern, the Spirit Snake Island, and the boat, are they not all tricks?"

Li Man's step-by-step persuasion:

"He said that what Zhao Min said and did was 'tricks' and 'intentional', I said that it was her true temperament, direct, not against her will, and she also had her own sense of proportion and distance.

Whenever Zhang Wuji needed to respond, she responded to the position just right, and did not let his subconscious doubts and needs fall short.

This is by no means a simple technique, this is 'suitable', these two people are 'compatible', these two people are 'reliable'.

"Yitian" mother has been reading after dinner, Guan Zhang Wuji, this person is not a person with strong secular desires, he grew up on Ice and Fire Island since he was a child, and inherited his father's kindness, righteousness and gentleness. Even Yin Susu, who was once full of evil deeds, behaved as a wife and mother as a gentle and virtuous lady, righteous and observant. The death of his parents and his mother's last words laid the groundwork for his future.

Not long after Zhang Wuji's death, Xiao Deng's pen allowed him to constantly meet all kinds of women: childhood sweetheart Zhou Zhiruo, Yang has no regrets about his rough life, martyred with his husband, experienced tragic Aunt Ji, and Jinhua's mother-in-law......

After recovering from his injury, he entered the WTO, and the young man's heart, full of hope and joy, was first deceived by Zhu Jiuzhen. Then I met a vicious and weird problem girl, Ah Spider. Combined with his mother's last words, Zhang Wuji's cognition of 'woman' is being refreshed over and over again.

suddenly met the real first love Zhou Guliang again, thinking that it was down-to-earth, but he was stabbed in the chest by Zhou Yatou.

If it were Zhang Wuji, he would have been injured a long time ago, his three views were shattered, he didn't love the pain, and he would definitely scold God, and he couldn't understand why this happened.

After that, Zhao Min appeared.

First of all, Miss Zhao is very beautiful, and when Zhang Zhao first met, although there was a looming good feeling, because the position was hostile, they didn't have any ideas about each other.

Every time they meet after that, in the midst of pressure, as long as the two treat each other with their true temperament, they can always feel relaxed and happy. Later, they were no longer opposed, they went through hardships together, repeatedly confirmed, and became closer and closer.

Such a result cannot be achieved by simply saying 'deliberate' and 'reluctantly'.

The most important thing is that although the two people are of different nationalities and have different positions, they have their own acceptance and tolerance for each other.

Acceptance and tolerance are the enduring roots of all happiness.

Compared with the main competitor Zhou Zhiruo, Zhao Min's biggest advantage is: pure purpose and true love.

What Zhao Min asked for was much simpler than Zhou Zhi, Zhao Min was smart, she was born as a county lord, and she had seen all her status and wealth. What she wants to love is the person in front of her. Zhao Min's gains and losses and desires are not as heavy as Zhou Zhiruo's, and she is willing to give up many things. For the sake of her lover, the girl turned her back on her father and brother, abandoned her glory and wealth, and even risked her life to fight with others when the man was in danger. Like a flower, smart and atmospheric, such a good girl, who doesn't like it?

Zhou Zhiruo's biggest problem is that her survival is based on 'seeking', because she has nothing.

She asked for much more calculations in her heart than Zhang Wuji. She wants fame, status, martial prowess, dignity, vanity. Because she was in trouble since she was a child, she was sent under the fence, she was ostracized, and she had nothing. When she entered the Emei Gate, she respected her teacher, and her sisters regarded her as a thorn in her side; she had to follow the teacher's way, but also face the world's eyes and fingers.

You wouldn't be naïve to think that if Zhao Min was timid and didn't use her 'tricks' to stir up the situation when Zhang Wuji and Zhou Zhiruo got married, Zhang and Zhou would be together forever without incident? !

Think about it, you are a man, one of them resists a strong enemy with you, has no intention of retreating, and does not hesitate to stab himself in the stomach with a sword;

I even think that if Song Qingshu is better than Zhang Wuji, who dares to guarantee that the last one who is used and abandoned by Zhou Zhiruo is not Zhang Wuji?

In a word, Zhao Min is much more 'safe' than Zhou Zhiruo.

Therefore, going around and around, Zhang Wuji will eventually feel that Zhao Min is the most reliable, the woman who makes him feel safe, and who is really tied to his heart.

A sense of security is the key word.

That's all. (To be continued.) )