The building that Hong Tao mentioned is his family's old house, that is, the one-bedroom simple building he lived in before he moved. The pen "Fun" Pavilion www.biquge.info it is only 100 meters away from the alley of grandma's house, and it is out of the alley. This house has been empty for more than ten years, but it is not deserted, grandma, aunt, and uncle will come over to open the doors and windows for ventilation when they are fine, and simply use it as a storage room during the New Year's holidays, and put some New Year's goods or something. Someone takes care of it, not only will the house not be broken, but even the earth heating can still be used normally.

Now I have to repair my yard, and this house will have to live in it for a few months. Originally, Hong Tao planned to make do at his grandmother's house, and by the way, he could take care of the old lady, which was also considered filial piety. But the rhythm of his life is too different from that of the elderly, he gets up early and goes to bed late, and he likes to tinker with something when he has nothing to do, which is too annoying at his grandmother's house.

And I'm single now.,Can't rely on the five girls to soothe the lonely heart.,Once you meet the opposite sex who needs to be comforted like yourself.,It's a lot of money to go out and open a house.,The park is not steady.,In addition to mosquitoes, there is joint defense.,What was originally a very warm thing is likely to turn into a tragedy in the end.。 So, let's take it home and talk about life is the most reliable. This can't be brought to grandma's house, once or twice can be said to be a girlfriend, but every time you change people, even the old lady can find out that something is wrong.

The yard of grandma's house is full of old neighbors who have lived for decades, and grandpa and grandma have been their own people all their lives, and the old people are afraid of this kind of gossip that will be poked in the backbone. Hong Tao will not be so selfish even if he is a bastard, let alone so ignorant, just because of his own needs to find something unhappy for the old man. So think about it, it's better to go back to your own house to live, one bedroom is one bedroom, it's good to clean up, you can also stuff some furniture or something, outsiders come and have a place to stay.

As for fame or something, Hong Tao didn't have this consciousness at all. What kind of reputation, I don't steal or rob, where do I come from so much, who likes to say it. Grandpa and grandpa are afraid of fame, and their parents are also afraid, so they have to change the rules when they come here.

You can live how you want, as long as you don't break the law and commit crimes, don't chirp crookedly. If you want to chirp, don't let yourself hear it, otherwise don't blame us for not being emotional. If you want to say where this problem comes from, please look at the West House, Comrade Uncle Xiao is Hong Tao's role model. He lives like this, and he lives a very nourishing life, Hong Tao thinks it's good to do this, let's learn from it.

Therefore, parents are children's role models, it is useless to talk to children about the truth, your words and deeds are in the eyes of children and in their hearts. Aren't the ancients cloudy, teaching by word and deed. To speak is to reason, and to teach by example is to lead by example.

Don't underestimate the four words of leading by example, it is easy to say, but it is very, very difficult to do, and it is not under your control, it is not that you can lead by example if you want to. Why? Because no one can live in a vacuum, society is a very, very influential thing, and it will force you to do something that is not very appropriate, and it will not make you feel it.

For example, many times you have to lie and deceive people, because you have to climb up in the unit, it is impossible not to lie and deceive people, not to slap the horse, not to stab twice, after a long time, you will take these things as a habit, and you will not realize that they have been seen, heard, and felt by the child. When your child grows up, he is also such a person, and it is very likely that he will be better than the blue, after all, he started earlier and got the family heirloom.

To put it bluntly, what kind of people are parents, children may grow up with more knowledge, higher education, and more money, but he is still this kind of person in his bones. Because the concept established since childhood is very stubborn, and it can't even be erased for a lifetime, even if people are very rational and can recognize themselves very clearly, they will bring out some from time to time.

The relationship between Hong Tao and his little uncle is like this, which is why Hong Tao's father was resolutely unwilling to let Hong Tao have more contact with his little uncle. But is it useful? I can't say that it doesn't work at all, but it's not realistic to try to completely block it. Even if Hong Tao's father is sure of this result, he can't get rid of the influence of society on him, so he can only watch and see without any way.

So whenever colleagues in the unit talk about how well their children are educated, Hong Tao will pout and sneer in return. To see what a child is, there is no need for face-to-face contact at all, let alone a long period of observation, as long as you look at these parents and the moral standards of society, it is basically the same. You first change those intrigues, slapping horses, seeing money, harming others and benefiting yourself, double-faced, and untrustworthy, and then lick your face and say how your children are.

Even if you change everything, Hong Tao still has to pout. Parents are only role models for their children for a period of time, and then there is society. Have you changed your own problems and changed society? So this is an unsolvable problem, no one should brag about this cowhide, and educating children is a very unreliable thing in Hong Tao's view. Especially in the era when the whole people are looking forward, social morality is basically zero, and children can only be said to be fed, don't talk about education. Where is Nima education, if it is said that teaching them to become a selfish, low-eyed, and shameless person is also education, then there is really it.

As soon as he thought of the child's problem, Hong Tao was very depressed, and he felt very sorry for his grandmother, because he was painting a big cake for her old man to play. I didn't plan to have a child at all, for the simple reason that I couldn't find a reason to have a child. What is the use of children? Is it true that raising children to prevent old age? This is pure nonsense; how many children will be able to repay their parents like their parents treat themselves when they grow up and marry their daughters-in-law? It cannot be said that there are none, but there are very few.

The ancients have passed the clouds, and there is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness. This is not something that the ancients drank too much and talked about and played, but a general law that has been summarized over hundreds of thousands of years. Since it is a universal law, it is not a special case, but a majority. So the question is, since most of them are like this, how can we raise children to prevent old age? How many old people die in an instant with a click? There is a process of aging, and this process is very long, even reaching a span of twenty or thirty years.

In this span, people will continue to get sick, and most of them are chronic. If Hong Tao lived to be 60 years old and became ill, he would have to be hospitalized from time to time, and someone would have to take care of him when he was discharged from the hospital, and he would not die until he was more than 80 years old. Then the question comes, can Xiao Hongtao or even Xiao Hongtao be by his side for more than 20 years?

Not to mention 20 years, Hong Tao feels that if he can survive 10 years, his son and daughter will not be raised in vain, it is worth it! Unfortunately, there are not many such children in reality, even if they barely survive, the quality of life is not guaranteed. Even if the quality and time are guaranteed, the child's family will be dragged embarrassed by themselves, and when they go westward in the crane, their family will have to pay off their own debts, and if they don't do it, their family will have to be broken up by themselves.

Therefore, Hong Tao feels that the idea of raising children to prevent old age is very, very unreliable, even if it is not 100% unreliable, as long as it reaches a certain probability, it is no different from 100%. It takes a lot of energy and material resources to raise a child, and it can be said that it is the best time period in a person's life, which is not a small effort, and it can even be said to be the biggest payment in a lifetime. If you pay so much in exchange for a very, very unreliable result, then whether it is worth doing will have to be weighed. This Nima is not as cost-effective as gambling and buying lottery tickets.

Some people said that raising children is to continue their bloodline, and Hong Tao also feels that this reason is not sufficient. If you are a big person, what kind of big career needs to last for more than a hundred years, and if you break your bloodline, you will break your inheritance, then it makes sense. But when I looked in the mirror, I didn't have anything, I didn't have more of myself, and I didn't have a lot of less, and the Hong family was not a royal noble, if it was broken, it would be broken, who would remember?

When you kick your legs to death, does whoever burns you paper and worship still have a half-dime to do with you? Isn't it just that you are afraid that others will say what you are doing to the living? Otherwise, if you have that kung fu and that money, it is not better to accompany and honor your parents more when they are alive, and you have to wait for someone to do it again? Isn't it just that you are afraid that others will say how you are, and it has nothing to do with the dead.

It is cost-effective to take the best time of a person's life, just to support a person who has to put on a show for others after he dies, then Hong Tao feels that this investment is even less worthwhile.

Someone else said that it is customary not to let the child's parents not agree, Hong Tao felt that this sentence was even more nonsense. What is a custom? That thing is not static, the day it appears, it will be refreshed and changed all the time.

People live their own lives, not for their parents, relatives, friends, and colleagues. It's not that what they say and what you listen to is what they gave birth to you for. Your life is not the same thing as theirs, they just look at things from their point of view, but they can't live for you for a lifetime, and they have to make their own decisions.

In addition, I would like to ask one more question, how many things do people have to decide in their own lives? Hong Tao carefully counted them, and it seems that there is nothing that can be 100 percent decided by himself, except for getting married and having children. Then the question comes again, there are only two things in a lifetime that can make your own decisions, and you have to listen to the will of others, so what kind of life does this person have, whose life is this? )