There are many mountains here, mostly hilly areas, since ancient times, the oppression of women is extremely strong, but also the lack of labor force and too poor caused, when all the Han women wrap up their small feet and strictly abide by the "male ploughing and weaving" lifestyle, the women here are all Tianzu without exception, and regardless of the old and young are all under the field to work, the so-called "men do not plow, women do not weave", the field work and family work are carried by women together, it is said that "ploughing and reading heirlooms" The descendants of the family, in fact, due to the high emperor of the sky, there are very few men who are really academics and officials, and there are few famous figures in the county history, and they are implemented in the end purely "incense heirloom". www.biquge.info Most of the women are hard-working and tenacious, quite great but really hard. This trend has continued to this day, with young girls learning to cook wood from the age of seven or eight, young women going out to work to earn money, and older women staying at home to make ends meet and take care of their children. Women are so tired but still busy oppressing each other, so this style has made men lazy. The general environment determines people's thoughts, boys are offered like gods, blindly spoiled, and the rest of the farm is full of braggadocio and exaggeration, and girls are instilled with the idea of male superiority and inferiority of women from an early age, and are accustomed to such a miserable lifestyle, and have never thought of resisting or fighting for their rights.

The county town is completely different. It is not only the economic foundation that determines the superstructure, but also the change of the ideological pattern to the way of life, and the women's liberation movement after the founding of the People's Republic of China in 49 years is really reflected in the cities above the county seat. Urban girls have far better opportunities to study and work within the system than rural girls, but in fact, reading not only changes their fate, but also opens their horizons and changes the way they see problems. Most women in the city are economically self-reliant and self-reliant, men are also happy to hand over power, women's status is generally higher, the relationship between clan relatives and relatives is basically equal, except for some traditional occasions, most urban families have realized the unitization of the family. The original families of Yu Yue and Shi Yuan are really very different. This is also the reason why Yu Yue's parents objected at the beginning, the most important thing is not the difference in living habits, but the gap in ideology. During a relationship, many problems will be masked, and even if they are exposed, they will be downplayed by the sweeteners produced by hormones.

Shiyuan's father was very proud and pleased with the choice of his three children on the issue of marriage, thinking that the three children were all competitive, all of them had found people in the city, and they all had jobs to eat public meals. When most rural people think that "reading changes fate", their children can understand marriage can also change the family, it is this kind of unwillingness to keep to their own growth concept has been favored by fate, this kind of precocious maturity is by no means the flowers that grow up in the greenhouse can imagine, most people can only realize the "truth" at an age, they seem to understand very early, people from poor backgrounds are not qualified to speak romantic, everything should be based on reality.

The eldest aunt Qian Xiaoying once had a marriage, the man is a second-rate son in the village, for her virgin's sake and a good family background, the second-rate son married her, but after all, she still dislikes the woman's dirty and rough lifestyle, and she doesn't know how to dress up and is verbose. You must know that most of the second-rate people are romantic, and when they go out with this kind of wife who has never seen the world and is rustic, it is their own face that they lose. Soon after marriage, the second-rate son naturally cheated, and infected her with venereal diseases, and finally she quickly divorced with the help of her younger brothers at home, and got tens of thousands of yuan in compensation, and accidentally became the first divorced woman in the village. By chance, she was fortunate to meet the only son of the vice chairman of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference (CPPCC) and successfully counterattacked. A countryman who graduated from junior high school, a divorced woman who has no job and looks poor enters the house like this, and finally enters the county hospital with the help of her husband to collect fees. In response to that sentence, the sparrow turned into a phoenix, and since then there is no one in his nostrils facing the sky, and he has a nouveau riche style, and he feels very good. From this, I further realized that as long as you are bold enough and dare to reach out, there is nothing that cannot be done. The first time Yu Yue saw his brother-in-law, he felt that Shiyuan's whole family was very disrespectful to him, and he was snorting and drinking at every turn, his eyes were full of viciousness, and he seemed to have a lot of resentment in his heart, especially at Shi Zhai's wedding banquet, his father-in-law scolded his brother-in-law in public, and the kind of presumptuousness that did not leave any affection made Yu Yue really puzzled. The angry Yu Yue asked Shiyuan about the situation, but Shiyuan always avoided the important and trivialized, emphasizing how unlucky his sister was, and her in-laws did not recognize or pay attention to it, Yu Yue thought to herself, this may be the price of "Gao Pan". More often than not, Yu Yue got it from the best friend of the eldest aunt's mother-in-law several years later, and the girlfriend is also her mother's best friend, as soon as she knew that Yu Yue's aunt was Qian Xiaoying, she blurted out: "Your aunt is a shameless character, you have to be careful of her, don't get too close to her, don't be scraped off by her when the time comes." Yu Yue understood that she couldn't get along with the eldest aunt for so long, but she didn't immediately be indignant, and she first learned about the situation. The aunt came one by one: "It's a long time to say this." You have to start with her in-laws' marriage, your aunt's mother-in-law had a marriage and a son before marrying her father-in-law, but the marriage was very unfortunate, suffering from domestic violence, she couldn't bear it and resolutely left the family to marry her current husband, don't look at the current husband is the vice chairman of the CPPCC retired, no one was willing to marry him back then. He is engaged in literary and historical work, speaking of which is an old acquaintance with your grandfather, he was a celebrity in the county back then, but people with a little culture were hit hard in the **** era, and he found a wife in his thirties. My friend gave birth to three children for him, but he had no choice but to meet a mother-in-law with an extremely patriarchal mentality, and when she helped take care of the children, she left everything good to her grandson, and the two granddaughters were so hungry that she cried, she was also a strong woman who did not allow such bullying of the same sex, so she wanted to take the children with her, but her mother-in-law in the countryside was looking for life and wanted her grandson to stay, and finally had to take her two daughters with her, and her reading education was no different from that of boys. So, although your brother-in-law is an only son, he should have hurt like the eldest young master, but during the decades of separation between mother and son, his grandmother's education for him was a separation between mother and son, resulting in a deep estrangement between mother and son, which is also a lifelong wound in my friend's heart, hey. ”

Yu Yue immediately understood, "No wonder my in-laws always taught him that he must have a good relationship with his own family, and when the time comes, he will have to leave to others if he can't move forward." Shiyuan said that his brother-in-law Liu Xueshu's sister wanted to occupy the house and had two old life savings, so he always instigated his parents not to want this son. The aunt immediately jumped up when she heard it, ", it's all the heart of a villain, his two sisters don't know how big it is, they always look for opportunities to integrate the relationship between mother and son, and often enlighten their mother to say that they want to accept their son, don't fall for his grandmother's plan, and make the family disharmonious." If your in-laws speak like this, it is too sinister to teach bad people, are their parents just property to him?" Auntie's sharp eyes looked at Yu Yue's hair, "Hmph, one is Liu Xueshu, the other is you, they are all good children I watched grow up, I understand." Auntie wanted to speak and stopped, in fact, she didn't say that Yu Yue also understood what was next. Many problems Yu Yue is not without a hunch, but she wants to save face and refuses to admit defeat, she doesn't want to be useless as soon as she leaves her mother's arrangement, she thinks that she can turn things around and live according to the life she wants, it is undeniable that Yu Yue is excellent in many aspects, which causes her to be overconfident in her ability to control. "Liu Xueshu's condition of his family, it is difficult for ordinary people in the city to marry into the door, not to mention a woman who is uneducated and has a bad reputation, how do you think their family wants? This kind of woman is used to pleasing men, this child is an honest man, she has lacked maternal love since she was a child, and suddenly a woman who is obedient to him does not surrender? What's more, he was still at the tobacco station in Meilin Township at the time, and he unknowingly got a child, for a family like them with a face, they were afraid of scandals, and they were most worried that women would make trouble and lose face as a clean official all their lives, plus this son's insistence for no reason, they had to give in. After the child was born, they also heard the scandal of your eldest aunt, saying that while secretly marrying Liu Xueshu in the village, she also dated someone else at the same time, and she didn't know whose kind of seed she didn't know in her stomach? Xueshu's mother questioned her and didn't dare to answer, the two families cut off contact for several years, until the girl got older, the more like Xueshu, this Qian Xiaoying seemed to be more and more wronged, and her waist was strong, and Xueshu's mother slowly got older, so they went. I want to be strong for the rest of my life, and I lost my son. ”

Yu Yue was silent, the eldest aunt's power is nothing more than understanding, willing to bow her head to cater to, for a man in his thirties who has not yet fallen in love and married, initiative is the strongest charm of a woman, and who can resist in the face of a mature woman's embrace? Qian Xiaoying's biggest charm is simplicity, she gave her brother-in-law what she wanted the most, a down-to-earth life, which is insignificant in the eyes of ordinary people but a precious sense of security for him. Qian Xiaoying is a down-to-earth and capable woman, a very typical traditional woman, a leader in housework and farm work, and also has all the character characteristics of a woman at that level, narrow-minded vanity, good at calculation, clever tongue, left and right, exquisite, she can flatter the upper ninth rate, and can also talk and laugh with the lower ninth rate. Yu Yue's respect for her is limited to her appreciation of her ability to live, and she is disgusted in terms of dealing with the world, she doesn't intend to be too close to this eldest lady, just politely respect each other.

When talking about marriage, Sewon came with his parents. As soon as the mother entered the door, she praised Yu Yue from the ancestors to the house, and at the end she did not forget Yu Yue: "Yu Yue's scholarly family came out of the door, my family is high, my family education is good, and I have a general sense of cultivation, unlike my son, who can't speak and is very naïve in dealing with things." Yu Yue glanced at Shi Yuan, he happened to look at it too, and his expression seemed to be already talking, "Your mother is too good to speak," "She was born", the two exchanged a look, and couldn't help laughing. Dad also said politely: "Shiyuan is very old, and his thinking about problems is very clear, Yu Yueshu has read a little, his brain is not active, and he is still very naïve and ignorant of things, so it is good for adults to mention more in the future." The two sides were polite for a while and turned to business, and the father-in-law took a few red envelopes out, indicating "bride money", "milk money", "vegetable money", and some small packets, such as "parents' clothes" and "bridal clothes", and then said vigorously, "This mind is really not much, it is not easy for everyone to raise a daughter, and it is not enough to count it." Fortunately, there is no need to deal with the house anymore, otherwise where can two young people afford this housing price, and the house in Lido will give them a good life, young people, as long as we don't make noise, we adults will rest assured. Mom asked: "What is still missing in the house, our woman's family is a good dowry, and they all say that it is good for them, don't be polite." The mother answered, "Everything is complete, there is nothing to add, just my little daughter-in-law, their family sent a TV, saying that it was seven or eight thousand." "Mom was upset and walked away as if she had been led by the nose. Yu Yue was embarrassed for a while, no matter how much she wanted people's things, she couldn't be so direct, it was too obvious, hey, it was really a lack of cultivation. After all, my father-in-law had read some books, and immediately scolded my mother, "Why do you talk so much." Everyone, everyone, everyone's situation. When it comes to this, everyone is actually uncomfortable, when eating, the mother still keeps talking, and she doesn't eat a few bites, only to see that she always turns over the old things of the people in the village to talk about it, and takes the scandal as knowledge. My father-in-law couldn't help but interrupt many times, "People don't understand who your "fourth or sixth uncle" and "eighth sister-in-law" are, how many people have you seen, what are you doing so much, people Yu Yue's mother is the leader, listen to your." The mother was afraid of her father-in-law, so she didn't say anything when she scolded her, but her parents were round, saying, "It's okay, it's okay, it's okay, it's not a report." "Okay, this time the mother is coming, she doesn't understand that people are going down the stairs, the more she talks, the more energetic she is, it seems that she knows more about the world, and everyone is silent when it comes to the back, eat well.

Guest away host Ann. Yu Yue's parents opened the gift money and looked at it, they were dumbfounded, the "bride price" was 1990 yuan, the "milk money" was 5990 yuan, the "vegetable money" was 750 * 15 yuan, that is, 11250 yuan, and several other small packages were several hundred yuan. You know, although the girls in the city don't talk about "earning a dowry", but the nominal shot still has to have, at that time, the dowry was 19,999 yuan, and the woman's parents generally used the dowry to buy a dowry for their daughter, and then posted it if it was not enough. Mom was not happy at the moment, there was a gust of wind and rain, and even Dad was quite complaining. Yu Yue had to admit that she had become cheap because of the money, which was de facto disrespectful. But the more his parents belittled, the more Yu Yue was resistant, "No wonder people say that people in the city are powerful, you care so much about face-saving matters, what can you do with a few more dollars?" Mom's righteous words made Yu Yue defeated, "Then what should I do? Everyone has brought it, and you can't make up for it, right?" Dad echoed, "You are all going to be husband and wife, don't you discuss these things to do? Just let them decide? Now that the gift money has been sent, it is a fait accompli, so how can we step down?" The three of them were silent, and for a while, my mother spoke, "That's it, how much money you can do, anyway, it must be posted, but it is impossible to post as much as we want, and their family is really unkind." Yu Yue didn't dare to object. Parents have spent a lot of money for themselves, junior high school high-priced students, high school high-priced students, college students have the most monthly pocket money in the whole dormitory, they save money but are afraid of wronging their daughter who is studying in college outside, arranging work is also a worry for parents, working for so long is also a time to pay for food, a lifetime of security is given by parents, what else can be said?

Yu Yue angrily asked Shiyuan out. Qian Shiyuan had a number in his heart, and he was originally weak-hearted, but when he saw Yu Yue's menacing appearance, he was determined to kill Yu Yue's majesty first, rather than let her be slaughtered with great guilt. "What do you mean, who are you cheap or do you think I'm cheap?" Shi Yuan pondered how to clean up the situation, and he was not convinced, "My younger brother just got married, everything is now learned and sold, Fangfang is also from the city, they didn't ask for a price, we inquired about the rules of the people in the city, it is generally a rebride price, and it is troublesome to take it, it is all for show." Besides, my house has everything, I don't want you to buy anything. Seeing Qian Shiyuan's playful appearance, Yu Yue became even more angry: "Can that be the same? What is in your family is your business, what are we going to do, why should I get married according to other people's standards? Why is it all rules and regulations from the beginning to the present, don't think that I don't know, their family can send a TV as a dowry, it is because your family borrowed 150,000 yuan to give them working capital, and it took more than half a year to pay you back, you are embarrassed to charge interest, so they are a smooth sail." Everyone's situation is different, her family has only 10 tables in total, you have all covered, our family has more than 20 tables, have you all covered? How can it be so unfair! Don't tell me that people in the city want to post it, you have seen a few people in the city, and it's really rare for me to think that their family is like that, isn't it just that it's convenient for your family to show up at any time? Why don't you say that people in the city are more decent?" Yu Yue talked endlessly, Qian Shiyuan was a little surprised, Yu Yue usually listened a lot, he had never found that Yu Yue was so able to say it when he was angry, but now was not the time to joke, he wanted to tease her and held back. "That Fangfang will also feel unfair, we will pack her for ten tables, and you will ask for fifteen tables, and then there will be contradictions, which will make the brothers disunited. That's for you now, fifteen tables. Yu Yue glared at him, "It's okay not to say this, it's embarrassing for you, if you say a table of 800, you will give 750, don't you think it's a loss if you don't bargain? The psychology is so dark! Also, when it comes to this, I wonder, last time your father said two sets of silverware and one set for each family, you go and get it back?" Shi Yuan "sighed" in his heart, and didn't dare to answer. Yu Yue saw that he didn't care, and his temperament was also awkward, "You go and get it now, didn't you say a meeting gift?" Shi Yuan softened, "Hey, didn't you say last time that you would put it with your parents, no one is embarrassed to take the two sets that are different, so don't chase it, it's not easy to buy silver jewelry, I'll buy it for you now!" "I want you to get it now!" Yu Yue repeated word by word! Shi Yuan pulled down his face and ignored it. The more this is the case, the more confused Yu Yue becomes, it was not a matter of fact, but he noticed that there was a cat in it. "OK, since you have done this to me, then don't get married and break up. Shi Yuan suddenly stood up and crashed into the pillar of the pavilion, "Are you trying to force me, women's ****** are just careful eyes, everything is according to the rules of the city, you are human!" Yu Yue was stunned by his sudden move, and was stunned for a moment, reflecting on whether she was talking too seriously, or was she calculating? After a while, she reacted, and was very disgusted by Qian Shiyuan's rogue behavior, she was sure that she was not careful, but the other party was changing the topic to avoid the serious. At that moment, she was determined to break up with him, so she turned around and left without saying a word. Qian Shiyuan didn't hesitate to catch up with her, and his words softened, "Both sets of silverware were taken to his house by Shi Zhai, I originally asked him to take one down, he said that he just entered the new house, things only go in and out, and take it out to spoil his feng shui, I don't want to force him, my parents will say that I won't be a big brother." Yu Yue looked back and looked at Qian Shiyuan, who usually looked like a "big uncle", and thought that the scholar was really respected at home, but he didn't expect it to become a reason why he should be wronged in everything. "Joke! It's been almost a year since I moved, and it's still called a new house? What isn't my own shouldn't be my own feng shui! Don't talk about this in the future, if you can't handle this thing, what's the point of getting married?" Yu Yue resolutely walked away alone, leaving Qian Shiyuan messy in the wind.

Yu Yue's silence was punishing herself. Qian Shiyuan didn't know how to get his younger brother to take out another set of silverware, he still ate at his father-in-law's mother-in-law's house every day, and followed up with Yue, Yu Yue ignored him when he read the book, he just kept looking at her, as soon as Yu Yue put down the book, he immediately handed the pen to Yu Yue, so long Shiyuan has been used to Yu Yue's reading habits, and there must be a pen next to him to annotate. Yu Yue went online, he didn't say a word to accompany him, sometimes he served tea and water, Yu Yue was looking for classmates to play, he sent and picked up, and made a few phone calls to say hello halfway, which made friends laugh at her for having a "dog skin plaster". Yu Yue didn't want to be moved, and she became afraid of marriage, so she was silent for a long time. Qian Shiyuan was mad by her cold violence, and couldn't help but say several times, "What do you want me to do? I have satisfied you with everything you want, and if you are not satisfied, you can say it." Sewon looked like he was waiting for her answer. Yu Yue usually looked at him coldly, and then did whatever he had to do, when he was air.

Later, Shiyuan also learned to ask his father-in-law and mother-in-law for help, Yu Yue's mother took the opportunity to count him, Shiyuan was unconvinced but echoed, while not forgetting to excuse his parents, "Although they have earned some money, they are all in the house, the two sons got married less than a year apart, and they spent a lot of money at once, their parents have no social security, and they can't help but be nervous, the two sons will not make money if they are not angry, otherwise they don't have to worry about our parents, we are wronged by Yue, marry a family like mine, rest assured, I will love her." Shiyuan's crying scene made his parents feel compassion, in the end, they were still good people, and they all persuaded Yu Yue in turn, and her mother was always more rational at this point, "If you really break up with him, just say it, what does it mean not to speak? If you don't want to break up with him, show some attitude, and by the way, bring out the plan of how you plan to deal with family problems in the future, and don't be unclear. "Dad is a man in the end, but he thinks about each other's parents, after all, there are two sons, to balance the brotherly relationship, no one wants to treat anyone badly, anyway, the house furniture is there, don't be stubborn in form.

Yu Yue slowly took care of Qian Shiyuan, he was also a person who was bright with a little sunshine, and gave him a little smile, but he was more open than Yu Yue, and directly regarded the matter as resolved, and suddenly the clouds were light. Yu Yue's heart knot is still resting there, many future things have not been encountered, and I don't know how to preconceive, the so-called "ugly words are ahead", "villain first and then gentleman" is only suitable for experienced people to use "words in advance just in case", but it is really not suitable for Yu Yue, she has no social experience, including her parents are lacking in this regard, she can only take one step at a time. At this point, a breakup is a thing of the past.