When everyone heard this, they were all stunned, what kind of logic is this? Su Xiaowan thought, could it be that Shen Jiadan has the complex of the Holy Mother to save the world?

It seems that there are many people who think this way, and if they don't help each other, they feel as if they have done something bad. Pen @ fun @ pavilion wWw. ｂｉｑUｇE。 ｉｎｆｏ

Although the education since childhood has been benevolent, helpful or something, but ......

Su Xiaowan looked at Shen Jiadan seriously and said: "Dandan, although it is a good thing to be helpful, and it is also a good deed to be good at helping others, but like Zhang Ying and them, you would rather go against the will of others than give them unwanted help, you are forcing others to do things you don't want to do, and your purpose is for your own peace of mind, your behavior is selfish......"

After Shen Jiadan listened, he immediately sat up straight as if he had been attacked, and looked at Su Xiaowan in a daze, his face was red, and his hands were a little trembling, as if his heart had been pierced.

Su Xiaowan looked at Shen Jiadan like this and knew that what she said stimulated her, but this is a good time, Shen Jiadan is good anywhere, it is this kind of idealization that loves to fight unevenly and always wants to save others is too obsessive.

Whether as a friend or her cousin-in-law in the future, Su Xiaowan feels obliged to say it.

So, regardless of Shen Jiadan's red eyes, direct gaze, angry, hostile gaze, he continued: "Dandan, I said that you are selfish, not how bad your behavior is, but the starting point of your work, you must help them get out of the sea of suffering, it is better to say that you want to get a sense of peace or accomplishment in your heart......"

"I don't know if you have read too many martial arts novels, or how, I think those heroes are uneven, and it is cool and admirable to do the way for heaven, but you have to notice that although the people who are saved are suffering, the most important thing is their will, they don't want to be oppressed, they don't want to be enslaved, they don't want to be persecuted, and they all want to be 'saved', and under this expectation, the person who rescues them appears, that's the hero in their minds, the hero......"

"But, Dandan, whether it's your hair Xiaoxiao, Xiaojie, or Zhang Ying, let's just say Wang Hong, they are all willing, and you do this just to meet your own inner expectations, so your starting point is selfish......"

After Shen Jiadan listened to Su Xiaowan's words, the whole person was blindsided, while Peng Cuiling and Nie Yunmei were confused, and they didn't understand what they were doing when they were going around......

Only Shen Jiadan understood and understood, she never knew that she had such a mind, and she never explored her starting point.

In her cognition, all the bad and persecuted should be saved, and she has done the same since she was a child, she admires those heroes who are righteous and brave, and the omnipotent immortals......

Therefore, she has liked to fight unevenly since she was a child, and has a chivalrous dream, otherwise she would not be attracted by Song Yonghui, and everyone also gave high praise to her behavior, thinking that she is a good child who acts bravely.

However, no one had ever said that she was doing this selfishly, which made her very angry, and what embarrassed her even more was that by asking her heart, she found that what Su Xiaowan said was actually right.

This made her fall into an extreme panic, and began to wonder if all the decisions she made were selfish, she has always been a good child, a good child praised by others, no matter how naughty she is, but in the hearts of others, she is still a good child who is lively and cheerful, playful, sincere and kind, but today some people say that she is not good, saying that she is selfish, which makes it difficult for her to accept......

Su Xiaowan carefully observed this Shen Jiadan, and when she saw her frowning for a while and pondering for a while, she knew that she might have fallen into a battle of her own thoughts.

Su Xiaowan knows that it is not easy to change a person's concept, but it is not easy to always try, otherwise, Shen Jiadan's future life cannot be said to be very bad, but there will always be trouble.

Su Xiaowan knows best who his second cousin Song Yonghui is, but he is not the kind of nosy person who saves the suffering, compared to these, the second cousin Song Yonghui is still very organized and has a bottom line, so this may also be a contradiction point for them, since Su Xiaowan has met, they can't ignore it.

So, he continued: "Dandan, we all know that you are a person of temperament, there is nothing wrong with liking to fight grievances, and it is praised by everyone for being righteous and brave, each of us has a selfish heart, and everything we do, many times we put our own interests first, which is normal......"

"However, our selfishness cannot be based on the suffering of others, if that is the case, it will be very immoral, so do what we like, do what we are true to our hearts, we must have a degree, less will be painful, more will be painful, so you have to weigh it well......"

"And in my opinion, you are a little more at this level now, that's why you are in pain, you don't help them to be more painful, you want to help them to alleviate your pain, increase your sense of pleasure and achievement......"

"But in fact, they don't need your help, they don't, as the old saying goes, you are too lenient......"

After listening to Su Xiaowan's words, Shen Jiadan was ashamed, he didn't feel anything before, but now he seems to have woken up, and he really has a taste of being too lenient.

At this time, the whole face was even redder, not angry, but ashamed, and said embarrassedly: "Xiaowan, I, I heard you say this, it seems, it seems to be a little bit of that meaning, but, but why did I never find out?"

"I've been drilling the horns of the bull before, I don't understand why they are like this, I'm like this, so try my best to help, they still don't accept it, I think it's all their fault, and the fault is on them, and I'm indignant about it, I'm very angry, I think they don't know how to be grateful, and they are kind to donkey liver and lungs, and the dog bites Lu Dongbin and doesn't know the hearts of good people......"

"However, at this moment, I realized that it seemed that I had forced ......"

Su Xiaowan and the others were in a better mood when they saw Shen Jiadan say this, and they finally opened up, it was really not easy.

Su Xiaowan smiled and took Shen Jiadan's little hand and said, "Dandan, I'm really happy for you, it's great that you figured it out......"