After a night of thinking, Xiaoqian finally organized the language, and since Xiaoqiang asked her to say it directly, she was welcome.

"Guo Jing in the Legend of the Condor Heroes is a controversial person, some people think that he is a great man who jumped out of the national category and chose the common people, some people think that he is ungrateful, Mongolia adopted him, and he finally helped Song to fight Mongolia and killed a lot of Mongolians, different positions have different results. Another example is the story of the farmer and the snake, which is a metaphor of ingratitude, putting aside the implication, we only analyze it from a scientific point of view, the farmer saves the snake out of good intentions, but the first reaction of the hibernating snake after being woken up is to look for food, biting is just instinct, both of them are instinctive reactions, why did it cause tragedy?

As a result, the instinctive reaction of the snake is still spurned by people, and the snake is very responsive from the perspective of human beings, but what about the problem from the perspective of the snake? Psychology studies the human instinct, and looks at the instinct beyond the moral constraints, and many of the instincts brought about in the evolutionary process are contrary to ethics.

"Isn't the second brother's pan pan very good?" Yu Minglang understood why she was insinuating.

His words had already made Xiao Qian's heart tremble, and her intuition was right.

Xiaoqiang may not have thought of adoption so far now, but he blurted out Panpan as an analogy, which proves that he still subconsciously has the idea of adopting Chaha.

Transnational adoption is indeed not an easy task, but the Yu family's connections are there, and if Yu Minglang really has this heart, it will not be impossible, Xiaoqian is afraid that things will come to that point and she will be passive to herself before saying it in advance.

Xiao Qian and Yu Minglang did not shy away from Xiao Wei when discussing this matter, after all, this is just a doll that has not been weaned, even if she has always behaved very smart, Xiao Qian and his wife did not think that such a conversation across a layer of paper could be understood by a baby, so no one saw Xiao Wei's eyes widen when he heard Panpan's name.

"Panpan's situation is different, first of all, Panpan's IQ is very high and sensible earlier, and secondly, Panpan has been raised by his second brother's side since he was a child, and he is exposed to the values of your old family, and there is one most important reason, Panpan was personally cured by his freshman year, and the emotional bond between mother and son is by no means understandable to others. ”

After Xiao Qian finished speaking, she observed Yu Minglang's expression, she was watching his reaction, if he blurted out that you can also give Chahaji, then she would be disappointed in this man.

Fortunately, Yu Minglang didn't say that, but just motioned for Xiaoqian to continue, which is a detailed embodiment of respecting Xiaoqian and putting Xiaoqian's feelings first.

Xiao Qian continued with satisfaction.

"Life is like a game that constantly touches the switch to get different endings, you touch this switch and it leads to a series of chain reactions, if you don't touch it, you may not be able to trigger the result, let's talk about Guo Jing, if it wasn't for the Mongols who adopted Guo Jing, would there still be this controversial view? If the farmer didn't disturb the hibernating snake, would he still be bitten? In order to emphasize the dramatic conflict, we will make extreme treatment, in reality, we obviously have a better way to deal with it, why do we have to become dramatic? ”

From a human point of view, the snake seems to be frozen, and warming the snake with human pity is itself a "taken for granted" behavior, I think this is good for you, why don't you appreciate it - consider the feeling of the snake!

People hibernate so well there, you have to wake up in someone's arms and be bitten as food, and you have been made up into a fable to warn future generations, is this bullying the snake can't speak and can't avenge the grievance? Who told you to treat the snake like this?

Similarly, this question can also be used between Minglang and Chaha, if Yu Minglang insists on adopting Chaha with his mercy, he himself is busy with work, and the child is still brought by Mr. Qian, and Mr. Qian has a lot of work to take care of his daughter, and the slightest negligence will be pointed out by Qianfu, there is no shortage of moral in the world who stand and talk without backache, and it is certainly not a good experience for Chaha himself to be adopted by the person who killed his father.

Major issues must not be followed by a farmer's slap on the thigh and "I want to be good for you", but must take into account the overall situation from an all-round perspective.

"I will find him an adoptive parent who will take care of him, and will not adopt it myself. ”

Stupid kindness is more terrible than deliberate evil, this truth is more terrible than deliberately evil, even if Yu Minglang can't stop for a while, Xiao Qian will understand everything with a little click.

Xiao Qian was relieved to get his non-adoption promise in person, Xiaoqiang is a person who says nothing, and he dares to promise that he will definitely do it.

Xiao Qian blinked, "I didn't say anything, you said it yourself!"

The Holy Father was enlightened, and this enlightenment came up in a rocket.

"What else do you need to say, little clever ghost. Yu Minglang nodded Xiaoqian's head and said dotingly.

"I will arrange someone to deal with the matter of Miaolun later, and we will donate her medical expenses in the name of the International Assistance Fund, so that it will not cause too much psychological pressure and burden on their mother and son, and we will not suspect the source of this expense in the future. ”

Xiaoqian thought very comprehensively, Yu Minglang was very heart-warming after hearing it, and kissed her with emotion.

"There is a treasure in the family, if there is a treasure. ”

Xiao Qian pushed him, "You don't come, do you dislike me for being old!"

The original saying is that there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure, it is easy to cut down!

"I'll go wash up, and I'll take you two to play later, and finally have a few days off, let's not waste it." ”

Yu Minglang walked to the bathroom in good spirits, Xiao Qian looked at his back and smiled slightly, hugged her daughter and taught her earnestly.

"When the judgment is constantly suffering, being a person, especially a woman, can not just 'take it for granted', you must learn to deal with problems rationally, if your mother is like those shrews crying and wiping her tears and saying that your father doesn't love me anymore, and don't think about things from my point of view, this matter will be over when the quarrel is over, in fact, it is a matter of a few words, my little only will learn to think rationally when he grows up, you know?"

If Xiaoqian didn't take precautions like this, Yu Minglang wanted to adopt, what would normal people's thinking be?

I'm so tired from working every day, so tired with my children, you're busy with work and family affairs all year round, don't care about being the shopkeeper, have you considered my feelings, you just don't love me, you're selfish, I want to think about how I paid for you, you are now also to me Balabala, you just don't love me Balabala...

The standard husband and wife quarrel sublimation model, this template can be applied to more than 50% of the couple's quarrels.

How do couples who love each other get centrifuged? It's that too many assumptions are added to the failed communication again and again, Qian always never does that, she is also imperceptibly taking her daughter with her own behavior, as for whether Xiao Wei will grow up to become a woman who knows how to be as skilled as her mother, then only time can give the answer.

Xiao Qian reacted precautionarily for the sake of her family, and Qi Yuxuan, who was far away in China, frowned at the results of the Miao Ring survey he obtained, thinking that it was a simple little help, but he didn't think that there were these behind it.

It's time to prepare for the rain for your daughter, you can't wait for the rain to come, then it's too late.