(17 November 2013)

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My sister drove west on January 28, 2009, on the morning of the Chinese New Year's Eve of the lunar New Year, due to a sudden cerebral hemorrhage and ineffective rescue.

I came to Jiacheng from the capital thousands of miles away to attend my sister's funeral.

Since then, my sister's voice, smile and figure are no longer in the world.

Only the brother-in-law is left in the sister's family, and their son has a single family.

After returning to Beijing, I called my brother-in-law and nephew from time to time to express my condolences to them, asking them about their mental state and diet.

I know in my heart that the saddest thing about my sister's death is her son, but her son is not lonely, he has a wife and daughter to accompany him.

And the brother-in-law is alone in the empty room. I don't know how much loneliness and even sadness his sister's departure will bring to his heart.

But I know that my brother-in-law will not be lonely after all, he will find a new love, and it is my sister who is lying in the cold cemetery who will be lonely forever.

A few months later, maybe five or six months, my brother and sister called me and said that my brother-in-law had already lived with another woman.

The younger sibling knew the news, and it was not the brother-in-law who took the initiative to tell her.

My younger brother and sister have a girlfriend and no husband, and the reason is whether the man died or divorced, I don't know.

The younger brother and sister wanted to connect with her brother-in-law, she first did the work of her nephew, and then introduced her brother-in-law to her brother-in-law, only to know that her brother-in-law had already renewed her marriage.

I don't know exactly when it happened, it seems that it has been more than three months since my sister left, and it can also be said that the bones are not cold, not even half a year.

Hehe, if you walk on the front foot, people will find a new love on the back foot. In the past 30 years, how many one-night couples have been in love for 100 days, all of them have disappeared.

According to my brother-in-law's stepwife, she arrived in July 2009. Her statement didn't seem to match what I had heard, but I didn't think she needed to hide it.

The stepwife said that when she first came, as soon as she went out, her brother-in-law dragged her into the house, afraid that others would see that the ex-wife's departure time was too short.

Actually, what's the point of this, you have already shared a bed with another woman, and you still have to worry about why your deceased wife will not have many days?

As long as it is a woman, no matter which one she is, she can quench her thirst and be with her, and she doesn't have to miss the dead person.

Suppose this later woman also died, didn't the man still go to the third or fourth woman while her bones were still cold?

All in all, men don't stay alone in an empty room, men aren't good things, right?

In my heart, I naturally mourn for my sister, not only did she not enjoy a little blessing, but on the contrary, she paid the price of her life, when she was alive, for the sake of her family, she fought hard, and loved her man, as soon as she died, the man left her in the forgotten corner.

However, it is the right and freedom of people to find another woman. It's just a pity that the bones of the dead are not cold.

With the love of my sister, the blood of my nephew, and even the comings and goings of my sister for decades, between us and my brother-in-law, we will continue, perhaps, this is a kind of commemoration of the deceased sister.

On October 20, 2009, my husband and I came from Beijing to join Jiacheng. I called my brother-in-law and told him what time we arrived.

My younger brother went directly to the capital from Dalian to pick us up.

My brother-in-law went to pick us up at the train station and arranged for the hotel to pick us up.

My brother-in-law's stepwife also came, and it was our first meeting.

The stepwife is taller than her sister, and she is dressed in a rural style. She is indeed from the countryside, from other places, and she walks with me.

Later, we corresponded with my brother-in-law and gradually became familiar with my stepwife. She is the mistress of her sister's house who has taken over from her sister.

The brother-in-law and the step-wife met not long after the death of the younger sister.

My brother-in-law's second sister and my stepwife's aunt were both living in my current area at that time. It is said that by chance, the second sister of the brother-in-law told the death of the younger brother's wife, and the aunt of the second wife naturally thought of the celibacy of the niece.

So, they matched, and the brother-in-law and stepwife became a halfway couple.

At that time, his stepwife had not yet retired, so she hired someone to teach on her behalf, and came to her sister's house alone.

Thus began the second half of their married life.

According to later contact, they got along well, never quarreled, and in the words of his stepwife, "not distracted".

According to my observations, my brother-in-law is very fond of his stepwife, and he always likes to joke with her, and his words show his praise for her.

The stepwife loves to hang out, and soon after coming to Jiacheng, she walked around and became familiar with the basic routes of Jiacheng, and her brother-in-law praised her.

This stepwife, judging by her good personality, is stable and peaceful, not angry or acidic.

The stepwife and nephew get along, and on the surface, they are harmonious.

According to the stepwife herself, the living expenses of the family are all expenses of her brother-in-law, and even if she buys something, it is very limited.

Half a year after she came, she went to work as a worker in a unit, and two years later, she went through the formalities of retirement. My brother-in-law is also retired and also works as a worker in a unit.

The stepwife's pension and current salary are more than 3,000, and the brother-in-law's pension and current salary are also more than 3,000.

Perhaps, her brother-in-law fell in love with her at the beginning, and her income was probably also a very important factor.

I don't know what the reason is for my brother-in-law, my stepwife doesn't have to pay for the family, and she is responsible for the family expenses alone, which is a very important issue, and the brother-in-law doesn't care about it, has no complaints, and recognizes her very much.

When my sister was alive, I'm afraid it wasn't like this, right?

When we went to my brother-in-law's house, I saw my brother-in-law go to the kitchen to cook, and he didn't stay and let his stepwife take care of himself.

The year before last, they moved from the bungalow they had lived in for many years into a new building. The stepwife said, "I want to live in a building." The brother-in-law fulfilled her wish.

A few months after they moved into the new building, the family was able to use natural gas, however, the stepwife said that she did not dare to use it, and her brother-in-law used it to cook.

Whatever my brother-in-law didn't think of and did when my sister was alive, now, my brother-in-law can think of and do it.

My sister is a person with strong ambitions.

She is ingenious and does housework, there is nothing she can't do, nothing she can't do, and nothing she can't do.

When my sister was alive, my brother-in-law was very happy, and I rarely saw my brother-in-law in the kitchen, and my sister cooked and cooked, which was delicious.

My sister is an idle person, and she doesn't do more than her brother-in-law, she would rather be tired herself than her brother-in-law.

My sister and brother-in-law lived together for 30 years, and together they created a family business, a handful of mud, a piece of billet, and built three or four houses, which changed the face of poverty.

Coupled with their hardships and hard work, diligence and thrift, there is a prosperous world today. If those three or four bungalows were moved, it would be a lot of money.

However, my sister didn't enjoy a single day, and she died prematurely!

In other words, my sister gave so much, what did she get?

Now, the stepwife who came halfway has enjoyed the blessings that her sister did not enjoy, and she has received the love that her sister did not get.

is the same woman, the same brother-in-law's wife, but the ending is completely different, which is really emotional.

The brother-in-law is indeed very affectionate to his stepwife, and even wants to destroy his promise to his children and grandchildren because of this.

However, this halfway couple is still different from married couples, even the so-called "no separation" of the step-wife, there is an essential difference.

For example, their salaries are not pooled together and are not managed by one person.

Salary, what it is, is money. Money, what it is, is bloodline, is the capital of survival, and is an important link.

When her sister was alive, she and her brother-in-law's money were put together and managed by her sister alone, and the family's savings were also handled by her sister alone.

All in all, the brother-in-law is more to the step-wife than the deceased ex-wife, although they have been together for many years.

This halfway husband and wife are still very harmonious, and the stepwife is still satisfied with her second marriage, I have heard her hum, which is undoubtedly the external display of contentment and happiness.

Although I feel a little emotional, I still want my brother-in-law's halfway husband and wife to live happily, my sister has passed away after all, and my brother-in-law can't live without a partner for the rest of his life, and it's a good thing to have a partner.

As long as they live well, as long as they and their children and grandchildren care for each other, it is our greatest happiness!

My brother-in-law and we continue to do so, which is the best memorial to my sister.