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The thing is probably like this, my colleague's eldest sister filed for divorce with her husband today, which made the author feel very deeply, and the reason is very simple, just like ordinary families, it is nothing more than the relationship between the in-laws of the family.

The cause of the matter.

The eldest brother of the husband's eldest sister of the colleague wanted to buy a car, but he had no money in his hand, so he wanted to take some from his mother, but his parents had no money at all, so the eldest brother wanted his mother to open his mouth and take it from his younger brother.

At that time, the colleague's eldest sister didn't say anything, and didn't contact her husband until the evening, but in the morning, the eldest brother had already spoken to the colleague's eldest sister's husband about this matter, so the colleague's eldest sister's husband, after receiving a call from the colleague's eldest sister, seemed very dissatisfied, he thought that it was normal to spend money on his mother, and the colleague's eldest sister should not worry about it.

The cause of the incident ended, and because of this incident, the two quarreled out of control.

Let's talk about the family situation of my colleague's eldest sister.

There are two children in the family, a boy and a girl, the girl has just been admitted to high school, and the boy is about to face the high school entrance examination, the family has three houses, but they are all carrying mortgages, and they need money everywhere, and the burden is not heavy, so the husband of the eldest sister of the colleague works outside all the year round, and the number of days he goes home does not exceed one month, and the two are in a state of separation all year round.

End of the family presentation.

Next, the work is introduced.

The work of the brewery, presumably some readers can understand, the first-line packaging workshop, the production machine is 24 hours a day continuous work, men are used as livestock, women are used as men. The work schedule is two shifts, twelve hours each on the day shift and night shift, and the standard working time is from seven o'clock in the morning to seven o'clock in the evening, but in fact, it is usually delayed by an hour, so the working hours are as long as thirteen hours a day, or even fourteen or fifteen hours.

China's legal working hours are eight hours, the working hours of the eldest sister of colleagues have long exceeded this range, and when the peak season comes, it will face today's night shift, tomorrow's night shift, the day after tomorrow's night shift, and even the day after tomorrow is still the night shift working hours, four or five consecutive days of work is not a dream at all, and these excess parts will be stored in the so-called working hours bank.

So what is the reason for a woman to insist on working continuously and intensively in a working environment of high temperature, high noise and high pressure!

Answer, for the sake of this family, in order to make this family more comfortable, in order to make the two children live no worse than others, in order for the two children to have a better future, but also to let this family exist forever.

But all this ended today, which made the author feel very uncomfortable.

Next, let's talk about things.

Let's not care about this matter, who is right or wrong! Let's analyze the root cause of this first!

According to the author, there are two reasons for this,

First, the most fundamental reason. The author believes that it is the separation of the two places, which is not only a killer of sweet lovers, but also a killer of harmonious families.

The separation between the two places for a long time has led to a cold relationship between the husband and wife, and the communication is only based on a few words on the phone. No one. Whenever my colleague's eldest sister is wronged and complains to her husband, she will always be impatient, because the husband of my colleague's eldest sister thinks that he is working hard to support the family, and you stay at home, your job is to take care of your mother-in-law and children, what do you have to complain about? I'm the one to complain!

Perhaps it is based on this mentality that the two have communicated less and less, less and less, until the point where they are today.

Therefore, the author believes that the separation of the two places is the main culprit of this matter.

The second reason is the relationship with the in-laws' family.

The husband of my colleague's eldest sister is a filial son, every time his mother makes some requests, he will unconditionally complete them, this is human nature, filial piety is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, which is also understandable.

However, filial piety is not a one-person thing, and the author feels that it is a kind of selfishness to drag down his family in order to fulfill his filial piety.

What's more, the husband of the eldest sister of a colleague, and an elder brother, filial piety should be a matter of two people, one person blindly asks, and the other blindly pays, the person who takes is endless, and the person who pays drags down the family, isn't this too much?

The author feels that this is very excessive, very excessive, in order to satisfy a person's filial piety, but to drag down the whole family, if there is only the husband of the eldest sister of a colleague, this one son, this matter is normal, but the problem is precisely here, two sons, the mother is still eccentric, can this make the colleague's eldest sister balanced?

Of course not!

To put it more seriously, my colleague's eldest sister, every time she goes to work, she is almost exchanging her health for it, and she uses her life span to add bricks and tiles to this family, but in exchange! And what is it! Endless complaining and incomprehension!

My husband's incomprehension! Husband's complaint! My husband's all sorts... To sum it up in one sentence, I am working hard outside, and you are enjoying yourself at home, taking care of my mother for me is what you should do, no matter how much you do, you are not doing well, it is impossible to make me 100% satisfied.

Absurd! That's what women should do?

A man needs to rely on a woman to work to barely support this family, is he still worthy of being called a man? Does he still deserve the title of the breadwinner of the family?

Of course not!

Women want to be independent, how can women be self-reliant! It's all the excuses men seek for their incompetence.

If you are a man, you should be able to let your wife and children live a happy and worry-free life!

If you are a man, you should be clear about things and don't entangle your family with your parents too deeply, because there are not only parents, but also two children, and a wife who also struggles for this family.

For his own selfishness, let the whole family dedicate himself to his so-called filial piety?

Absolutely not!

The two biggest killers of marriage! Long-distance separation! Unclear family affection!

That's all!

I hope that all readers can rationally sort out the relationship between filial piety and family, and see the reasons for this!

Because, although your parents gave you life, they can't accompany you to the end, and the only person who accompanies you to the end is your wife and children, that's all.

Did the husband of my colleague's eldest sister do something wrong? No! In order to fulfill his filial piety and satisfy his filial piety, he detached himself from the actual situation of his family!

So is my colleague's eldest sister wrong? Of course not! In order not to make this family difficult and not to let her children suffer, of course she was wrong!

What is wrong is man's insatiable lust!

What is wrong is the current unbearable social climate!

Here, the author would like to advise all officials, especially those of you who are married, but are in a state of separation!

Don't think that your love is unbreakable, in today's society, it is at best a layer of window paper that can be broken when you poke it, not as strong as you think, that's all!

So, for the sake of your children, in order to have a beautiful family relationship now, go back to your family!

PS This point of view is limited to families with brothers and sisters in the family, except for single-child families!