Sunday, June 2, 2013)

On April 6 this year, my colleague Sun Xiuying and I were chatting on QQ.

Sun Xiuying suddenly said to me: "Li Chunyan is gone, it's been three years. ”

When I heard this, I was taken aback, and then I was very sad.

Just like my son was crushed in a col by the Wenchuan earthquake and could not survive, the reality is so cruel, but this is also helpless, so I have to accept my fate.

In addition to sadness, I recalled Chunyan's life and our interactions, and wrote a short essay "Chunyan, you rest in peace!" to pay tribute and remember my friend.

Chunyan's family and I were married to Chunyan's daughter in 2005.

Later, my husband and I went to BJ to join our son, Chunyan and my wife went to Hegang to join our daughter, and we both left our hometown, Laha Town.

Since then, we have lost contact.

In the eight years since I lost contact, I have missed them all the time and always wanted to find their contact information.

Especially in the first few months of this year, I missed Chunyan and her family even more, and even dreamed of them.

When I learned the sad news of Chunyan's death, I wanted to find the contact information of her family, and I wanted to comfort them - Chunyan's husband Xu Chunlin, Chunyan's daughter - my goddaughter Xu Fei, I have a lot to say to them.

The news of Chunyan's death was told to Sun Xiuying by Tao Yujie.

Tao Yujie, 77 years old, is our old colleague at Laha No. 1 Middle School, and she was the matchmaker between Chunyan and Xu Chunlin.

I think this Tao Yujie must know the phone number of Chunyan's family.

I told Sun Xiuying to ask Tao Yujie for the phone number of Chunyan's family.

On May 20, Sun Xiuying went to Tao Yujie's home for a gathering of old colleagues in QQHE City.

Originally, Tao Yujie also called me and invited me to her house for a party.

Everyone hasn't seen each other for many years, and at this age, I value the friendship of this colleague very much, and the estrangement of the year is gone, only the love of missing.

However, I have bought a house for three years, and I have to apply for a house license, and I can't leave if I can't decide which day to do it.

Also, Li Guiqin's husband Liu Yongwu had cataract surgery, and she couldn't leave.

Only Tao Yujie, Sun Xiuying, Chai Hua, and Dong Guilan had a gathering.

They got together for two days, and they didn't go sightseeing, just chatting and taking photos.

After Sun Xiuying returned to her home in HEB City, she wrote down the phone number of Chunyan's family on QQ.

I only saw it the next morning, and immediately sent a message to Chunyan's husband Xu Chunlin, but he didn't read the message and didn't reply.

In the evening, I called Chunyan's daughter Xu Fei, but I didn't get through, it turned out that the phone number was wrong.

I had to call Xu Chunlin on my mobile phone, and it worked!

I was very happy and said, "Chunlin, I'm ××, I'm in Jiamusi." ”

Xu Chunlin heard that it was me, and he said, "Sister, second sister, I'm so excited, I have a lot to say to you." I can't believe you're so close to us......"

My husband and I chatted with Xu Chunlin for half an hour, and both of us were very excited and spoke freely.

He comforted us for losing our son, and we comforted him for losing his wife, and he was really connected to the same fate and very close.

My husband and I invited him to come to Jiamusi for a get-together, and Xu Chunlin agreed.

After we chatted with Xu Chunlin, I called Xu Fei on his mobile phone, and it was quickly passed!

The image left to me by my goddaughter is very good: tall, slender figure, fair face, dark eyes, thin mouth.

Now, she is the mother of a seven-year-old boy, a mature woman in her thirties, and a college English teacher.

After Xu Fei heard my name, she was overjoyed and excited, and called "godmother" one by one, very affectionate.

I think her voice is a little childish, not like someone in her thirties.

My husband and I also chatted with Xu Fei for half an hour, like a family, very happy.

At 7 a.m. on May 31, Xu Fei called and told me that her father had come to Jiamusi to visit us that day.

My husband and I were overjoyed, we didn't expect Xu Chunlin to come so quickly!

An hour later, Xu Chunlin called and said that he had arrived at half past eleven in the car.

My husband took the bus at ten o'clock to pick up Xu Chunlin at the bus station near the train station.

At home, I went to the small market and supermarket to buy food and drink, ready to welcome the villagers.

At twelve twenty-five o'clock, I heard the doorbell ring, and knew that the guests had arrived.

When I opened the door, my husband was in front and Xu Chunlin was behind.

After Xu Chunlin entered the house, we were all smiling, shaking hands excitedly and greeting each other warmly.

Naturally, we looked at each other and looked at each other carefully.

Xu Chunlin said happily: "Second sister, you are fat. ”

I looked at Xu Chunlin and saw that he was also fatter, but it didn't seem to be fat, he was a little bloated that year, and the image of his youth no longer exists.

My eyes flashed the image of Xu Chunlin when he was young: tall, a little thin, very handsome, black hair, ruddy face, bright eyes, high nose, thin lips.

Today, sixty-one-year-old Xu Chunlin's face is still a little red, but it is no longer moisturized, and it has changed a lot, but there is still a young shadow.

However, in his sixtieth year, he was still free and easy.

After we sat down, my husband called my brother and brother-in-law, told them that there was a fellow countryman at home, and asked them to come and see each other.

I had prepared the food and drinks, and the three of us sat down to eat and drink and talk.

It was natural to talk about Chunyan's condition.

Chunyan did not die directly of mitral stenosis in the heart, she suffered from pulmonary hypertension, coughing, and cavitation of the lung lobes, and was hospitalized in Harbin for many days, basically cured, and got the doctor's permission to go home.

But when she arrived at the station, there were many people, she was stimulated, suddenly fell ill, and the rescue was ineffective.

This situation is a bit like my younger brother and sister, who suddenly fell ill, the rescue was ineffective, and they died, and they went west!

According to Xu Chunlin, BJSH Harbin, Chunyan have all been cured, and there are no regrets, life and death are fate, Shoulu is in the sky, and the sky does not leave you, what else do you want?

After talking about Chunyan, the three of us talked about the mood of being separated for eight years, the lack of communication and longing. also talked about the situation of Chunyan's mother's family.

In the evening, my brother and brother-in-law arrived, and everyone greeted each other.

Dinner, is seven dishes and eight bowls, meat and vegetarian interspersed, a total of six people, sitting around the table, toasting the wine, drinking heartily, talking affectionately, laughing and laughing, and continuously.

The atmosphere is warm, warm and cheerful!

After dinner, my brother, husband, and brother-in-law accompanied Xu Chunlin to play mahjong.

Sister Xu can't go up, there is no place for her.

The next day, I was not interested in going out to visit, my brother-in-law went to work, and my sister had a place, and the four of them played mahjong, and I went to play on the computer.

Dinner, pot brushing, delicious food, refreshing.

At night, they still rubbed mahjong until twelve o'clock.

After Xu Chunlin came, in addition to talking about his feelings of parting and missing, he also naturally asked about his personal affairs.

Chunyan has been gone for three years, and Xu Chunlin is still alone and has not renewed.

Everyone persuaded him to renew his good relationship.

Xu Chunlin shook his head and said: "I can't forget Chunyan, the husband and wife have lived together for more than 20 years, and their feelings are deep. I don't want to find a restraint, ask for trouble, be alone, free and casual. ”

I admire Xu Chunlin very much.

Chunyan has been dead for three years, and he has never forgotten his old love, and he is like a jade, which is really commendable.

Many cheesy men, whose wives are alive, love them in every way, once they pass away, even if their bones are not cold, they immediately find a new love and forget about their wives completely!

I don't understand, these men, are they the need for the release of the physiological machine, or are they lonely and unbearable?

From this point of view, it is the parents who last the most in the world, and even if their children go before them, they will never forget it, and they will not look for any other children!

And between husband and wife, it seems to be like glue, once she dies, her husband will become someone else's husband, breaking off love, liking the new and hating the old!

There is a saying that is an unbreakable truth: husband and wife are birds of the same fate, and they fly separately when disaster comes!

Therefore, I advise my husband's wife not to be so affectionate, of course, including the wife's husband: the love between husband and wife is short-lived, and it will not last long!

Your love before your death was strong, gentle and considerate, and your hard work and fatigue all came to naught!

If you die, you die in vain!

Under everyone's persuasion, Xu Chunlin still did not change his original intention, no matter who had a goal, he ignored it, and just said: "Let's talk about it later." ”

On the morning of the third day, Xu Chunlin insisted on going home, and my husband and I were struggling to stay together, saying that it was because he was on fire when he went out, and it was inconvenient to move around.

In this case, it is inconvenient to force him to stay, so he has to go.

Fortunately, Hegang and Jiamusi are not far away, and trains and cars are very convenient, so you can come back at any time.

My husband said: "Chunlin, my home is your home, and your home is also my family, so I will come and go often in the future." ”

Xu Chunlin nodded in agreement.

Hey, if only Chunyan were alive, she would definitely come!

We have multiple relationships with Chunyan's family, that is, neighbors and colleagues, Chunyan's eldest brother is my brother's classmate, and Chunyan's daughter is my goddaughter.

This layered relationship has forged the deep friendship between us.

What's more, when people reach their old age, power, status, fame and fortune, honor and disgrace, gains and losses, everything is indifferent, only this true love in the world is particularly valued, extraordinarily desired, and cherished!

What a significance this unexpected reunion is!