"Now the family has one child, at most two, so this aspect is not obvious, if it is in the early years, a family of several children, this situation is very common, a family has two children, one is very obedient, one is very naughty, when you grow up, if there is a problem with the obedient one, it must be a big problem. Pen Fun Pavilion www.biquge.info"

Yu Mu's expression froze, "Xiaoqian, what do you mean by that?" ”

"Obedient children have many psychological problems, this is a common phenomenon in psychology, the core of human nature has an "instinctive core", this thing makes us desire to become an independent person, can control themselves, but when a child has been eager to become an obedient 'good child' since childhood, the instinct is suppressed, and when he should have independent thinking, it will conflict with his injured instinctive core. ”

"Suppressed..."Yu's mother shed tears.

She really didn't expect that her obedient second son had been suppressing himself.

Xiao Qian pretended not to see her shed tears and continued.

"You see a person like Minglang, he has been a naughty child since he was a child, but his instinctive core has been satisfied, he has a sense of reality and understands the meaning of life."

So Yu Minglang dared to insist on choosing the army he wanted, and he dared to choose a woman like Xiaoqian, all because Yu Minglang understood what he wanted.

"However, the child in question is a very smart child."

"It doesn't matter if you're smart or stupid, it's instinct. Let me speculate boldly, Auntie, did you say that the child in question had at least 2 or more children in the family, and he was in the middle or had younger siblings in the back? ”

"Yes, how do you know?"

"I've been learning this recently, professional courses can involve, after having a second child at home, some of the older children will become very obedient, and parents will be very happy to say, the child is sensible, in fact, a child how old is it, what do you let him understand? It's all instinct! ”

"Instinct?" Yu's mother recalled that when she gave birth to the third and fourth children, because she was a dragon and phoenix fetus, Yu Mingyi really helped her very hard, and she seemed to grow up overnight, and she used to be a naughty child.

"When there is no new member at home, he may be a child who is concerned by his parents, but suddenly there is a new member, and the parents must take care of the baby more, and he wants to win the attention of his parents, either by being naughty or being obedient to win praise."

After the second child is opened, these situations are particularly common, some parents will be very proud to say, my family is more obedient or something, but in fact, I didn't expect that a child of a few years old has been using all his efforts to win the praise and attention of his parents.

Helping to coax the child will win the praise of the parents, look, my family is obedient and sensible.

In order to cater to their parents, some children will satisfy their elders with obedience, and when they say that they are loyal and filial, do you ever think about who caused all this?

"I really don't know this..."Yu Mu turned around and wiped her tears.

She has always been proud that her second son is an obedient and good child, thinking that this child is the most worry-free, but she doesn't want to owe him so much.

"Too much telling children that you want to be an obedient and good child will put shackles on his 'instinctive core' at a very young age, so from our psychological point of view, these good children, when they grow up, have a greater probability of problems than naughty children."

"Now, what should I do?"

"The best way is to pay more attention to communication with the child from a young age, so that he can feel the love of his parents, and when he grows up, the effect of seeing a psychiatrist is always not good, especially - some people are too smart, the inhibition is very strong, he will have a rejection reaction to psychotherapy, you are a doctor, you should know that if you have antibodies to antibiotics, you are terminally ill."

Xiao Qian looked at Yu Mu's stimulated expression and felt that she seemed to be a little cruel, but she couldn't do it if she didn't say it.

"Suppose that your friend's child is serving in the army, especially in a special department, and he has no problem receiving regular psychological examinations, and he himself is unwell in some way, then see a psychiatrist... It's useless, you can only go with the flow. In fact, there are many such cases, but some people just happen to be in important positions and do not pose a threat. ”

But the second brother can't do it, his position is too special, and if his mentality changes slightly, there will be danger, Xiaoqian looks at the people coming and going outside the window, because there are too many people who have interfered in marriage and work, but those people are not pilots, and they will be able to live a lifetime.

Yu's mother never thought that such an excellent second son would hate the blue sky and hate flying, and it is very likely that she and her wife had unintentionally brought him influence since the child was a child, and this cognition was a huge blow to the mother who loved her child.

"How could this be..."

"In fact, from the perspective of parents, it can be understood, parents are not gods, there is no way to do all-round consideration, as long as it is not a principled heart problem, it is not a problem, Auntie, you see so many people in this world, how can they be perfect?"

In those days, it was great to be able to feed and clothe children to grow up, who had the time to think of these details?

Yu's mother wiped her tears, she really felt ashamed of her child, but there was no way to get rid of it, did she really want the child to take off his military uniform and live the life he wanted was the best choice for him?

Xiao Qian judged so, she felt that Yu Mingyi's military uniform must be taken off, at least she couldn't fly.

What Xiaoqian didn't expect was that Yu Mingyi, who she couldn't cure, someone could cure her.

Yu's mother and Xiaoqian returned to Yu Mingyi's house from the cold drink shop, neither of them mentioned it, Yu Mingyi didn't see that his mother's eyes were a little red, and after sending Xiaoqian and Leng back home, he suddenly found that the folder he put on the coffee table was gone.

He thought about it for a while, and suddenly guessed that it might have been taken by his mother.

Yu Mingyi grabbed the phone and wanted to call his mother, but he picked up the phone and put it down again, his expression calm.

The secret that has been hidden for so long is known by his parents, and it is estimated that his father will soon come to settle accounts with him, and when the time comes, he will tear up the transfer report according to his father's wishes.

After all, this is also expected, but I don't know how long I have to endure such an unhappy life...

Yu's mother held the child and went all the way home, and when she arrived in Q City, it was already dark, and Yu's father was waiting for her to eat.

"I'm back, hurry up and eat, why is it so late today--what's wrong with your eyes, old woman?"

Yu's mother handed Panpan to the little aunt, took out the job transfer report from her pocket, and handed it to him quietly.

Major General Yu didn't know why his wife was so serious, so he took it, just glanced at it twice, and slapped the paper on the table angrily.

"Nonsense! This little bunny, this is floating! The cost of training a pilot in the army is higher than the cost of building an airplane, and he even picks a son to be a deserter! Bastard! See if I don't clean him up! ”

Major General Yu was about to go out as he spoke, but Yu's mother suddenly cried loudly.