Qiao Lan pursed her lips and smiled, "The family is big, the brothers have their own families, as a daughter-in-law, it is not too much for her to worry about her small family, but everyone's position is different, as a mother, I naturally hope that your brothers will be harmonious and humble, I will choose to help the weakest, the child with the worst prospects, well, the mother sometimes has a little bit of the idea of robbing the rich and helping the poor." And the big one will feel so unfair, I have sacrificed a lot of things, why can't you see me.

Daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law, mothers, and sons have different starting points, and they start from the perspective of themselves and their relatives, and do not look at things from the perspective of others, so there will be contradictions. For example, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law feels that she is filial to her in-laws and serves her sister-in-law for your family, why does my sister-in-law still find fault with me, and my mother-in-law still looks at me unpleasantly, so it is obviously my sister-in-law's fault, why bully me. There are also concubines who run on me, and so on, these problems will be encountered in every household.

But who do you say my mother-in-law will help, my sister-in-law is my daughter, and I will definitely help my daughter. As a son, you first have to appease your mother and sister, this is the blood thicker than the water of the relatives is subconscious instinctive reaction, this daughter-in-law feels more lonely and helpless and more aggrieved, I sacrifice so many children for your family and finally be regarded as an outsider by you, I am an outsider when I encounter something, I am your family when I pay for it, I am not so bullying. You see, everybody's thinking is different. It is not easy to be truly fair, and it is inevitable that there will be bias.

It's like myself, Brother Yu will spend more time by my side, and your father and I will inevitably be pampered more, because I don't expect him to have any great achievements, even if he is not strict with martial arts, I will not let Brother Yu go to the battlefield, you know that this is impossible. But because I didn't accompany you enough when I was a child, your father and I both felt guilty in our hearts, and we would subconsciously compensate Brother Yu for being more tolerant.

is very strict with you and Baa Baa because your father has expectations for you, and his hope for the future is in you, not Brother Yu. And Baa Baa as a girl, if she doesn't have a good upbringing and bearing, her marriage is destined to be a tragedy that can be seen, and I can't hurt her. But I am tolerant and loving to Brother Yu, but it is actually unfair to you, because what you lack cannot be made up, and it is even more unfair to you to make up for Brother Yu. Although this is just a trivial matter, it will become a pain in the long run, because habits are also terrible things, so I agree with the grandfather's suggestion to send Brother Yu to the capital to study, so that Brother Yu can also learn to be independent, so that your brothers and sisters can get along well and enhance their relationship. ”

Embolis and Baa Baa lowered their heads and pondered, Qiao Lan said so much Actually, she wanted to say that because of the changes in the environment and the population around her, everyone's thoughts in her heart will also change, and her thoughts in different periods will also have different places, and they are not static.

Everyone looks at the problem from their own point of view, a woman will inevitably help her daughter-in-law, because he will also marry or already married, but if his identity is a sister-in-law, then needless to say, he must help his mother, even if the mother is wrong, but at such an age, she will think that you are a daughter-in-law, can't you let your mother-in-law, what is there to fight, and who do you put a tone of lesson and admonition all day long, do I have a father and a mother who needs you to teach?

In fact, the contradiction may be caused by the deviation of ideas.

"You mean his sister-in-law isn't actually wrong, is it? ”

"It's not all wrong, she is not fighting for herself or for the sake of the children, but also to see that it is the grievances in her son's heart, there is some tacit understanding between husband and wife, even if it is a couple with a very bad relationship, they will understand each other's needs. What she is fighting for is what her son wants her to fight for, otherwise she won't speak, and her husband won't be able to pass this hurdle, since she can make trouble with the old lady, it actually represents her son's grievances. "Qiao Lan has been a daughter-in-law for so many years, in fact, she has some experience in her heart.

"Well, you're right, if I don't agree, I'm sure I'll warn my daughter-in-law not to upset my mother. Explain the matter of one sentence, first of all, his attitude is ambiguous, and the daughter-in-law has figured it out, right. "The plug seems to be coming back to its senses.

"That's right, it seems that the daughter-in-law is not sensible, why not the son behind the back, but once the husband comes forward, there may be no room for maneuver, but the daughter-in-law comes forward to be different, just look at it and scold a few words, just think of other ways, isn't there room for this. Qiao Lan smiled.

"I understand what you said, I will take care of Brother Yu. The bolt tilted his head and glanced at his mother.

Qiao Lan smiled, "I believe you, I said this to make you understand that your daughter-in-law sometimes blows the wind on the pillow." I specially explained that I wrote your father's name in this big house, just to leave a way for Brother Yu, if you write yours, after you marry your own son in the future, Brother Yu may not grow up. The daughter-in-law will not have a little mind when she watches her children grow up day by day. This little uncle is an eyesore, he will think that this is our house, and the little uncle eats white food. ”

"Nonsense, I see who dares to say this. The bolt's eyes widened, and he suddenly became angry.

"People's hearts are fickle, vicissitudes, and you can't deny that there will definitely be this change in the future. Qiao Lan smiled indifferently.

Chuanwei also nodded, "Bolt, what my sister-in-law said is right, I will say a few words when your aunt is not here today." My sister-in-law originally wanted to divide the family business clearly and withdraw the manpower, but I didn't agree, I still used the manpower of the eldest brother, not to prevent your aunt, but I didn't want Duanhui to interfere too much in some family affairs, but I was afraid that there would be conflicts. Ten people in a sentence, it will change the flavor when it is passed around, because the benefits brought by different positions are also different, so I am also worried that the people below will be a little cautious, and it is not appropriate to use all the daughters-in-law, you should be careful in the future, what my sister-in-law said makes sense. No one can guarantee that my mind will remain the same for the rest of my life, and I can't guarantee that I will not be biased for the rest of my life. ”

The bolt sighed and nodded, "I know, it seems that it is really important for the family to have a good wife, and the wife's character also determines the future prosperity of the family." ”

"But isn't it, otherwise why do you think I want to send you to the capital to study, it's not that there is no better place to study, but the Li family has a good upbringing, and the environment is well-behaved and polite, what I want you to learn is this, every move of upbringing and behavior rules can be recognized and accepted. Qiaolan is serious and long-hearted, books can be read anywhere, but it is a good family environment and upbringing atmosphere, words and deeds teach these things are not what books can bring us, but what the elders see and learn from their words and deeds.