Zixuan listened, pondered for a moment, and replied seriously: "I will think about it seriously, thank you mother for reminding me." ”

Qiao Lan smiled, "Only by having more contact with the child can you know what he is thinking, why he will resist your teaching, you don't know what the child thinks, why let him listen to you, let him convince you." If you don't give him a moderate amount of warmth, how can he accept you, boys generally have a lot of hazy thoughts when they are about ten years old, and they must give some support and guidance at this time, otherwise they will dislike you, feel that you don't understand him at all, you can't communicate, and he doesn't trust you just succumbing to etiquette and silent confrontation.

That is actually not good for the child, not only to have the majesty of parents, but also to have the understanding of friends, as well as the father's love, the most direct and effective is to tell him, you are worried about him, you love him, what you do for him can not rely on the other party to understand, to tell him in the most direct and effective way, let him know clearly that his father is doing this for me to work so hard, to make him grateful.

There must be a benign interaction between each other, go out and play together, let him find your usual little hobby, very pleasant to each other, let the child worship you, find that you know a lot, hands-on ability is also very strong, my family bolt and your father-in-law have a common hobby, is carving, the earliest is to make up for the time with the child is too short, teach the child to use a knife, the subtlety is to carve to facilitate practice, contact and communicate with each other, in such an interactive process the relationship between father and son has been repaired, to make up for the defects of not living together for a long time。 We may be leaving at the beginning of spring, and when we come back and say that the child will be older, the child will grow up quickly, and I will talk to you in advance, so as not to turn back and forget it, what is the most taboo, father and son are not like relatives but like superiors to subordinates, what I order you to do, you must do it, that is the most undesirable way, your father and son have no affection only orders. ”

Qiao Lan didn't come much because she was leaving, so she hoped that Zixuan could take on the responsibility and care of her father, and it was also out of concern for her younger generations, because he found that men in this era have a deep love for their sons, and they don't say it easily, and fathers and children can't talk directly to each other to say love, so the relationship between father and son is more tense.

Zixuan is also the first time to hear such a father-son relationship, he knows that his mother-in-law is telling the truth, because he feels that the father-in-law and Brother Ziyu are closer to each other than him and his father, speak freely, they can laugh and scold each other and scold each other, and the bolt often scolds his father-in-law, when he discusses with their father and son in the study, the bolt often scolds his father-in-law, and the father-in-law is not angry, and he laughs when the bolt says it right.

It's not that he doesn't envy in his heart, his mother-in-law's words reminded him of when he was a child, and he felt that he should try to change, even if it was a small change, he still wanted his children to be close to him.

"Mother, I'm going to try to change, believe me. Zixuan came back to his senses and nodded seriously.

Qiao Lan smiled, "Change can start now, pour your father a cup of tea, fill clothes, tell him to pay more attention to rest, he understands this kind of care." You can try to change your father-son relationship first, and give your son a taste of it in advance. She shrugged happily, shook her hand, and went to the main room to eat with the old lady first.

Mrs. Mo had been waiting for her, and when she was late, she asked, "Why has it been so long, there is something in their house?"

"No, I talked to Zixuan about the father-son relationship, I saw that he hurt the child so much, but I didn't dare to hug it a few more times, I couldn't help but think of my old man in the past, so I chattered a few more words, let him get closer to the child, and understand the child more to better guide the child. Qiao Lan said with a smile.

"Oh, yes, he told me, that the brother-in-law and his father-in-law are very close, he is so envious, he never dared to scold his father, and he didn't dare to scare if he was wrong, but the bolt can be so close to his father-in-law, and he is close to each other to do carving, there are talking and laughing, the bolt is so big and will lie on his father-in-law's back to joke coquettishly, he and his father have never been so close, and his eyes are hot. ”

"This is what I taught well, when I was a child, Brother Huzi didn't dare to hold the bolt, and he reprimanded more than encouraged, and I said it fiercely. When my son was young, I often asked him to hug the child more, and when he grew up sensible, I said that you should hug the child more and give a hug, and when the child is older, you want to hug it is not uncommon for you to hug it. Maybe it's because of my encouragement and influence, their father-son relationship is very close, I often encourage my son, at that time he was still young, I said you go to your father to be coquettish, you say you can't walk and let him carry you, haha! I just plucked my son, and gradually their father-son relationship became closer and more harmonious, and the bolt also realized that in fact, his father loved him, but he didn't know how to say it. ”

"Hey, it's the same in my family, he has high requirements for Zixuan with a straight face, and he was very afraid of my master when he was young. Mrs. Mo also sighed, their father-son relationship was not too harmonious, and they both understood each other's intentions, but they couldn't say it.

"So, I let him learn to change from himself first, and then teach my son, don't thank me too much. Qiao Lan smiled proudly.

"Okay, good boy, this reminder is great, I'll pick you up a dish. Mrs. Mo smiled very happily when she heard this, and asked the maid to pick up vegetables for Qiaolan.

"Haha! I knew you were complimenting me, old lady. Qiao Lan played treasure to make the old lady happy.

After the meal, Zixuan personally sent Qiaolan home.

"Mother, you're back, are you tired, is there anything wrong with your sister?" Yun Qiying came out and helped her into the house.

"It's okay, I look very good, nothing at all, I had a meal with the old lady, we girls laughed and delayed for a while, did Xue Jun eat well today, what did she eat, and what color did you compliment?" Qiao Lan asked very carefully.

Yun Qi answered one by one, her smile was sweet to her heart, this set was learned from her mother-in-law, and later asked the doctor, observing the child's stool is very helpful to the child's physical condition, which is very necessary.

"Well, you have to make a record every day, don't dislike the trouble, this can help you observe the child's physical condition, the child may be too late to get sick when he is young, early detection and early treatment, you don't know what changes the child has and how to find it early." Qiao Lan patted Yun Qi's hand and said.

"Yes, I personally supervised and made records, and let the maid also help me do it, and I will carefully check it every three or five times, and the child's body cannot be negligent, I understand it, and I dare not forget it." ”

"Well, nothing is important about the child's body, and it can't all be handed over to the nurse and the maid, and the non-biological will be slack. Qiao Lan repeatedly told her, how important is it for a housekeeper to have a child.