Where there are always advantages, such as the local marriage that costs a lot of money for engagement marriage, the relationship is stronger, more reliable than the marriage certificate, because the economy is not clear, and it is not cost-effective to separate.

Men spend a lot of money, some almost all they have to marry their wives, if the divorce is a heavy loss, no ability to remarry, the woman is not at fault, there is no reason to sweep the floor, and once the woman is divorced, there is no place to stand, the man is not satisfied with his wife, he is willing to go outside to raise or find a mistress, the most bitter is the woman, it is really to marry a chicken with a chicken and a dog with a dog, knock out the teeth and swallow it in the stomach, give birth to a son waist pole up, if you can't give birth to a son, you will be like Xu Ying, the family is fragmented, and it has to be maintained.

Of course, there are also some women with superior family conditions, because they are not satisfied with the man's heart, and pursue the person they like, this kind of woman who is free from the shackles of the family is difficult to find a good marriage, unless she gets out of this environment and goes to live abroad like Xu Ying's brother and daughter-in-law.

Most of the textiles in this area of Changle are sold to Shishi Jinjiang Quanzhou, business contacts, more or less understand the customs there, the most typical is the Hui'an woman, it is really the work of shoulder to shoulder grinding, and the stranger thing is that the woman lives in her mother's house before getting married, and occasionally her husband secretly takes her home at night to live for one night, and sends it back early the next morning, until she gives birth to a child before she is accepted by her in-law's family, and moves to live together, even if she gives birth to a child and does not confinement, she still works, and has no status at home, Hao Lina often listens to those men around her joke that marrying a Hui'an girl will live an easy life。

Fujian is not a large population and not much, called the land of Fujian, eight major language families, in fact, far from knowing, the language is very complex, many places a village speaks a language, neighboring counties and cities to communicate, must speak Mandarin.

The customs and habits are different in various places, but the big aspects such as weddings and funerals are still relatively similar, the economy in southern Fujian is more developed, the extravagance consumption is higher, and the government has formulated a number of measures, which seem to be to no avail.

Some inherent traditional concepts and customs cannot be changed, Hao Lina remembers that when she first came, Chen Yingyu couldn't get used to seeing which men and women walked together, let alone hugging each other and making love, they didn't have the habit of husband and wife traveling together, what feelings, from time to time free love, marriage pays attention to the right family, interests are trade-offs, marriage is to form a family, the man is responsible for making money to support the family, the woman is responsible for giving birth to children, the man bears the expenses of the whole family, the woman is a pure housewife, does not interfere in the life of the man, a bit like the feeling of Japanese women, the husband basically doesn't care what he does outside, and some men can't afford it, and the woman has to go out to do things。

A relative of Chen Yingyu's mother's family, widowed around 30 years old, in order not to delay the child's studies, he was introduced to Japan to do hard labor, until the three children graduated from school and had a job, and then went home to settle down, when Hao Lina went out to play with Chen Yingyu, she occasionally met once, a woman in her forties looked like she was about to be 60 years old, full of vicissitudes, rough skin, and her hands were full of calluses.

Hao Lina also came to Fujian to work for her three children, think about it much stronger than Chen Yingyu's relative, in recent years, there has been an increase in people from different provinces and cities, exchanges and communication, mutual influence of concepts, and some habits are integrated with each other, but they can't change at all, in the countryside here, a woman who has a dead husband is unlikely to remarry, and no one marries, because of the superior geographical conditions and the large number of immigrants, she is willing to go outside to marry back, so women who have no financial ability and no courage can only live with their children.

According to local customs, engagement is equivalent to having a marriage relationship, girls naturally live in the man's house, complete the task of inheritance, that is, to give birth to children, as long as it is a rural household registration, the first daughter, the age of five can give birth to a second child, if it is a boy, the reproduction will be fined, so they must give birth to a son, the conditions are good to give birth to a boy and give birth to a daughter, to meet their wishes before sealing the belly, and then to apply for a marriage certificate, a one-time fine, first apply for a marriage certificate, if the regulations are violated, the family planning office people come to the door every day, forcibly pull to the hospital for abortion or sterilization, the front of the people suffer, some of the fast minds of businessmen play smart, take advantage of the loopholes in the policy, everyone followed suit, and after a long time, a kind of atmosphere was formed, and those who engaged in family planning had no way to manage it, so they had to turn a blind eye.

Zhou Shaobai's wife entered the door happily, her stomach quickly stood up, his mother and wife both wanted a son, but he wanted his husband's daughter, and the second child was first checked out to be a son's rebirth, so that there was no fine, they had few families, and they had to have two children, such as Zhou Jingzhen's first son, who wanted to regenerate, and was worried that he didn't have so much money to pay the fine.