Once upon a time there was a murderer, and when he was about to go to the execution ground, he made a request to the judge, he wanted to see his mother one last time, and the judge agreed to his request, so his mother was brought to her son. Faced with the grief-stricken mother, the son made a final request to his mother: Mom, can I eat your last mouthful of milk? The old mother, who wanted to cry without tears, nodded silently. Then there was a scream, only to see that the mother's ** was bitten off by her son. Then the son said, "Mom, why didn't you educate me well since I was a child, why did you dot on me so much, and led me to become lawless and embark on the road of crime today? You are responsible for my death!" The mother looked at her son with a solemn look and was speechless.

"Everyone has heard this story, but they all think that it is for others, and it is really their turn to still dot on their children, and not long ago I saw an article about a mother's confession. Zhu Lianjing said.

When the son was 7 years old, the father left them, and the mother saw that the poor child had lost his father's love at such a young age, and was always afraid that the child would be wronged, so she tried her best to meet the child's wishes, did not criticize him when she made a small mistake, envied other people's toys, and bought him without saying a word, regardless of the lack of money, and never lacked fruits, snacks, and drinks at home. He was given much more clothes than his own, but what did he get in exchange for accommodating, conniving, and satisfying? In exchange for selfishness, rudeness, and lack of morality. Once, he actually beat up a classmate who accidentally broke his toy, and learned that his mother had hurt him.

Some parents are puzzled and have created such good conditions for their children, but why does the child get worse and worse the more he learns? This should be analyzed from the perspective of children's psychological characteristics; because of their age and the limited things they have come into contact with, children's psychology is in a rather simple and naïve stage of development, and their ability to perceive and feel love is also in a rather superficial and superficial stage. Studies have shown that the direct consequence of doting is the "satiation" of children's feelings of love, and too much love will make children insensitive to the emotions of love. They don't know how much love is given to them, and they don't know how to love others. The indirect consequence will induce the child's dependence psychology and delay the maturation process of the child's personality. The delay in this process will lead to the vicious expansion of the individualistic character of "self-centeredness", and even become incompatible with the legal constraints and moral norms of the entire society, and eventually come to the brink of danger. It can be seen that spoiling children is really unwise.

"In social reality, some parents around us are too doting on their children, holding them in their hands for fear of falling off, holding them in their mouths for fear of melting, blindly spoiling their children, becoming full-time nannies for their children, and the child's personality in the distorted love, will deviate from the good intentions of the parents more and more farther, and when they grow up, they will become selfish, and they will not love their parents but let their parents raise and love them as a matter of course. Zhu Lianjing said.

Therefore, parents should strive to raise children who are caring, physically and mentally healthy, and have a sound personality, so that it is beneficial to themselves, their families, and society. Because children have developed a dependence on others to survive since childhood, they can't take care of themselves, and they can't take care of others. Xu Feng said.

"It seems that your experience is extraordinary, you know everything, and you are a little different from other boys when you speak, and you are much more mature than them, no wonder Deputy General Manager Chunhua is so important to you, and you have to ask for your opinion on some things. Zhu Lianjing said with a smile.

"Don't exalt me like that, my little knowledge is nothing, at best it is just a few scratches, far from those who have ideals and aspirations, and will not reach their realm in a lifetime. Xu Feng said.

"You are very modest, ** said, humility makes people progress, pride makes people backward, and there will be a great future in the future. Zhu Lianjing said.

"As the saying goes, there are people outside the world, and there are people outside the sky, and the more you overestimate your own abilities, the harder the reality will hit you. Confucius also said that if you are a threesome, you must have my teacher, choose the good ones and follow them, and change the bad ones. Xu Feng said with a smile.