After eating, Chen Zihao and Qian Xiaolong wanted to settle the bill, and Liu Shuchen told them that the general manager had already spoken, as long as Xu Feng and his friends came to eat, it would be free.

"How can this work, you do business, don't give money and don't want to go. Chen Zihao still has to pay the bill. Xu Feng stopped him and said that he was having a treat today, and he couldn't let anyone else settle the bill, if he really looked up to him, he would come a few more times in the future, which could be regarded as a welcome to the branch.

"Xu Feng, that's interesting, your buddy is settled. Chen Zihao said.

"In the future, everyone will be buddies, don't be so polite. Xu Feng said.

"Do you want to go home now? I'll send you back. Qian Xiaolong said.

"You go first, I'll go back later. Xu Feng said.

"I'll pick you up at home tomorrow. Qian Xiaolong said.

"No, let's meet at the old place. Xu Feng said.

"That's fine, you wait in front of the station, and I'll tell you if there's anything going on. Chen Zihao said and walked out with Qian Xiaolong.

"Director Chen has a bold personality and has no bad intentions, such a person is worth befriending. Pan Xueliang said.

"There are some things I don't understand, I think Director Bao is not bad, but listening to them talking in the car, it seems that I am very dissatisfied with him. Xu Feng said what happened in the car.

"A unit is like this, no matter how good a person is, there will be an opposite, and there will always be people talking about it, this phenomenon is normal. Pan Xueliang said.

"Now that's it, a few people in a unit, he is good with him, you are good with him, divided into several factions, it is not surprising that there are discussions. Wei Dahai said.

"There is no such thing as absolute perfection in the world, and the same is true for people, everyone has certain shortcomings and deficiencies. Pan Xueliang said.

Leaders should not be demanding of perfection in people, and anyone will inevitably have some minor faults, as long as they are harmless, do not need to be overly careful. The most important thing is to discover his greatest strengths and what kind of benefits he can bring to the business. Modern management advocates the implementation of functional analysis of people, and ability refers to the strength of a person's ability. A combination of strengths and weaknesses. Work refers to whether these abilities can be translated into work results. The results show that it is better to use talented people with shortcomings than mediocre perfect people without shortcomings.

As the saying goes, if you are a threesome, you must have my teacher, everyone is not perfect, and the ruler is short. Be good at discovering the strengths and strengths of others. Learn from others' strengths to make up for their shortcomings, and have a tolerant heart for the shortcomings of others, and be able to tolerate the shortcomings of others. As a person in the workplace, you must always maintain a humble and cautious attitude, be able to find the strengths of others, and be able to tolerate the shortcomings of others. Be good at self-examination, self-analysis, find your own shortcomings and make improvements, and constantly strengthen learning. Strive for continuous progress, so that victory is not arrogant and defeated, in order to adapt to the environment, adapt to the work, put into work, and better complete the work task.

"It's really hard to mix in the workplace, especially complex interpersonal relationships, which can lead to conflicts. Wei Dahai said.

"Judge right and wrong. As long as there is no intention to harm others, no matter how big the misunderstanding is, it will be eliminated sooner or later. Pan Xueliang said.

"The two of you are also old rivers and lakes, I am a fledgling, my eyes are black, I don't understand bullshit, please don't hesitate to teach me any experience. Xu Feng said with a smile.

"What an old Jianghu. It's not a fart of our little experience, and we all rely on ourselves to slowly accumulate it, which is a long process. Pan Xueliang said.

Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, how do you quit, it is true, whether it is business, officialdom, workplace, love, or social or friends. All are stored in zài rivers and lakes. It can be said that the rivers and lakes run through the whole of our work and life. In this case, we need to learn some wisdom of the rivers and lakes, and we need those old rivers and lakes to guide the maze, take fewer detours, less traps, and less touch the walls, so as to go smoothly in work and life, and climb high step by step.

In particular, compared with the vast majority of young people who are not deeply involved in the world, they may be highly educated and intelligent, but when they enter the society, they still feel sincerely afraid and powerless. For them, society is indeed complicated, and these complexities are difficult to cope with with only some professional knowledge and some gifted cleverness that they have learned in school. Therefore, they consciously or unconsciously make such and such mistakes, go through such and such detours, jump into such and such traps, and suffer such and such harms, and they are not even willing to face this society.

To get acquainted with an unfamiliar person in a short period of time, an overly formal opening line often seems contrived, polite, and laborious. At this time, it is better to find a little trick that everyone may be interested in to do, and in the process of everyone being happy, the strange and embarrassing atmosphere will naturally disappear. Therefore, those old rivers and lakes who are comfortable in social survival and stand out in the fierce competition are naturally examples that young people envy and even learn from. The wisdom of Lao Jianghu is not treacherous, slippery, and evil wisdom, but has experienced wind and rain, has been verified in social practice, and can play a real guiding role in our work and life. It is said that it is easy to walk when there are more friends, but some so-called friends wear your shoes and go their own way, so that you can find it, making you dizzy and tired.

The relationship between people is not a copy mode in a computer, one after the other, until 11 million will not make a difference. Rather, it is the photocopying mode of the photocopier, and when we keep using the previous copy instead of the original to copy the next one, the text that comes out will become more and more unclear.

For a person, don't rely entirely on word of mouth between friends and acquaintances, but personally investigate and understand. If you can't be sure, don't get yourself involved lightly, no matter how many people's faces are involved. Friends we should help, friends friends you have to be cautious, friends, you better learn to say no. Of course, if you have a deep understanding of him in your dealings with him, and become friends with him directly, then it's another matter, people like to form a circle, each circle, has its own fixed rules of the game and social methods, want to break into a certain circle, you must first understand these things. There is a saying in China that you should be forgiving and forgiving, and in communication, you don't have to be obsessed with the mistakes or shortcomings of others, otherwise it will inevitably lead to the deterioration of interpersonal relationships.

In social situations, we certainly want to get along with people, but people have different temperaments and opinions, and it is inevitable that there will be disputes. Ignore us and don't argue, even if you win. Not only will it not be beneficial, but it may also be harmful to yourself. Be reasonable, and you don't have to be aggressive, because your step-by-step pressing will stimulate the resistance of the other party, and as a result, the old contradictions will not be resolved. New contradictions have arisen.

There is never a real winner in a quarrel, and you are proud of yourself that you have persuaded someone. In fact, others just can't afford to provoke you, and you can just hide. The face is not gained, the lining is even more lost, and a person's spiritual victory is just a shameful laugh.

People who wear glasses must have had such an experience, when looking through the lenses, it is easy to see the shortcomings of other people's faces, some pimples, a little scar, a few wrinkles, and so on. Maybe the other party was originally a handsome guy or a beautiful woman, but it was discounted in our eyes. When you forget to wear your glasses, go and see the same person. He or she will feel unusual today and look extraordinarily beautiful. This is the principle that ambiguity produces beauty. The shortcomings on the other party's face have not disappeared, but because of the blur, I don't particularly notice it, and I naturally feel that the other party is beautiful.

The same vague principle applies when dealing with interpersonal relationships, that no one is perfect. Everyone in this world will have his shortcomings. Some people may have more faults, some people less. Some people hide their faults better, and some people don't know how to converge. Some people know how to reflect and try to correct their faults, and some people don't. That being the case, when we deal with people. You don't have to take it too seriously, and you don't have to choke on food.

As the saying goes, if the water is clear, there will be no fish, and if people are observed, there will be no fugitives, and if the river is too clear, the fish will not be able to survive, and a person is too harsh. It's hard to make friends, and no one dares to deal with him. There are pros and cons to everything, and on the one hand, clear water is a good thing, because turbid water can suffocate fish. But if the water is too clear, it's not a good thing. Big fish need to eat small fish, small fish need to eat smaller aquatic organisms, and the smallest aquatic organisms need to eat algae, and the microbial storage of algae will not make the water very clear, that is to say, if the water is very clear, there will be no algae, and the fish as the upper food chain will have no food to eat, and there will be no food to survive without food. In this world, who can guarantee that you will not make a little mistake, there will always be differences in views and thoughts between people, and the other party cannot behave exactly the same as you. After all, no one is a roundworm in anyone's stomach, and they can't hold their own set of standards to be strict with others, and they have to tolerate things that don't conform to their own values.

Don't force others to be the same as yourself, you must know that there are many conveniences, there are many root mechanisms, and there is no need to require everyone to obey their own will, and the eyes, ears, nose and tongue perform their own duties, so as to become a sound and useful person. With railways, we can build another road, or even add a highway, and only by dividing labor and cooperating can we play a higher function. Some people say that each of us is an apple that God has bitten into, with all kinds of defects, and all of them are unsatisfactory in one way or another. It is true, and one must allow oneself to accept this fact. If you pursue perfection too much and blame others, it will definitely affect your interpersonal relationships, and no one will dare to make friends with you, and you will miss the opportunity for success and happiness as a result.

There is such a Zen story, there was a Zen master in ancient times, one night walking in the Zen monastery, suddenly saw a chair in the corner of the wall, he saw that a monk violated the rules of the temple and went out over the wall. The old Zen master was silent, walked to the wall, removed the chair, and squatted on the spot. After a while, a small monk really climbed over the wall and jumped into the courtyard in the dark, stepping on the back of the old Zen master. When he landed on his feet, he realized that it was not a chair that he had just stepped on, but his master. The little monk suddenly panicked and opened his mouth. Surprising: It's cold in the middle of the night, go and put on an extra dress.

If a person has to distinguish everything clearly and without accommodation, such a person will not have friends. So in relationships, learn to turn a blind eye to some innocuous shortcomings of others. He likes to tease you, she talks too much, he eats and talks, she is a bit stinky and beautiful, you can't go online with him or her because of the other party's mistakes and shortcomings, so as to alienate the relationship.

The deliberate ambiguity of other people's shortcomings and mistakes is not to tolerate and connive, nor to recognize the shortcomings and mistakes of others, but because such mistakes and shortcomings may just be what you personally think and cannot bear. Or the other party is able to self-reflect and self-correct. Or maybe you have to compromise with each other's strengths and strengths. A person can't always be smooth sailing, bad luck, and it is inevitable to be suppressed. And his fall is a test of the interpersonal relationships around him. The person who is far away may henceforth become a passerby, a person who sympathizes with him and helps him through the difficulties. He could remember it for a lifetime. This is how the so-called friends who are not adversible and friends in distress are born, and the feelings formed at this time are the most valuable and cherished.

Some people usually don't burn incense, temporarily cling to Buddha's feet, and only remember to ask others when something happens, and it is to give gifts and money, but the effect is often not ideal. In fact, seeking others is like seeking Buddha, and sincerity is spiritual. If the heart is insincere, no matter how many people are polite, it is strange. Because the other party knows that your so-called courtesy is just a means of transaction.

There is a saying in China, there is less than a thousand glasses of wine for a confidant, and there is no speculation in half a sentence, and many times we like a person because there is a common language between the two. Therefore, if we want to make friends, we must find a common language with each other. Some people in social situations. This person's topic can be connected with two sentences, and that person's topic can also be reconciled, and he can mingle with others at once. And some people are not interested in what this person says, they don't react to that person's jokes, and they are like puppets. Of course, others will not pay attention to him and like him.

This is a social means that will come to things, and some people may say that things will come to things is not just flattery and flattery, watching people put food on the plate. Yes, watching people serve is a kind of welcome, but it is not so much a sycophant as a strategy that must be mastered in dealing with people. There is a distance between people, and they need the support and help of others, but they are incompatible with others. If you don't like people, how can you get others to recognize and support.

To get the help of nobles at critical moments, you should burn incense diligently, this kind of incense burning, not for a purpose, but for the wide variety of good karma that Buddhism says. A true hero, a golden encounter. The grace of a meal can make him remember it for the rest of his life, and if he needs it in the future, he will try to repay it. Even if you don't need anything, he will never forget you as a confidant.

There is a forbidden area in thought, and there is a forbidden area in action, which is a fatal shortcoming for a person in the workplace. The loyalty of the subordinates to the superiors is important, loyalty does not mean that they do not have their own ideas and opinions, the subordinates must implement the orders of the superiors, but this should be the implementation after understanding, not the implementation of confusion, let alone knowing that it is wrong and closing the eyes to do it, that is not called execution, called irresponsibility for the work.

Someone recognized it as a plum tree by its leaves, and someone recognized it as a cherry tree by its flowers, and finally it confirmed its true identity with a small fruit. Knowing people is like knowing trees, if we only look at those dense branches and leaves, bright flowers, it is likely to be wrong.

If a person's heart can tolerate a family, he can become the head of a family, if he can tolerate a city, he can become the mayor of a city, and if he can tolerate a country, he can become the leader of a country. In the real world, almost every successful person has the grace to make friends at all levels. When he is in trouble, there are people everywhere who take the initiative to help, and he never falls into a situation of being isolated. You have to be tolerant of your friend's shortcomings, you have to tolerate your partner's shortcomings, and your colleagues have low work ability, and you have to have a motivating heart. You know, there is no absolute truth in the world, and nothing is necessarily right or wrong. The so-called right and wrong are just different views because of different positions and different angles. The shortcomings or incomprehensible things that we see in our eyes are likely to be taken for granted from the other person's point of view. If your friend lied to you, you should first think about whether he has any difficulties, and maybe you can understand him. If you say ugly things without thinking, your friends will definitely not be able to do it. It's not good for you or for him.

In real life, many people scoff at people they don't like or stay away from them, which is actually too biased and is bound to have an adverse impact on interpersonal relationships and career development.

Everyone has their own unique way of life and family background, and the habits formed on this basis cannot be the same as yours, so respecting the habits of others should be the minimum requirement. The contradictions between friends will always fade with the passage of time, and it is unwise to hold on to the past grievances and grievances. Forget the unpleasantness of the past, and we will be friends in the future. Don't blame others, don't blame the other person for making small mistakes. Be sure to consider the other person's ability to bear, otherwise although you will vent your anger for a while, it will also destroy the interpersonal relationship.

The next morning, Xu Feng came to the bus station to wait, and after a while, Qian Xiaolong drove over, Xu Feng got into the car, and on the way, Chen Zihao said about finding a deposit, and Xu Feng introduced him last night. (To be continued.) If you like this work, you are welcome to vote for recommendation and monthly passes, and your support is my biggest motivation. )

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