"But people don't care at all, they are proud of it, and they still do their own thing." Chen Fei said.

"What a special character, it won't end well if it goes on like this." Qiu Weiqiang said.

"It's all the result of her parents' doting, and sometimes the responsibility is not on her, but on her parents." Chen Zihao said.

As the saying goes, parents are the best teachers for their children, and for parents, they should always set an example for their children. As a smart parent, be good at distilling the most useful real things. The so-called real things are those that can say one, two, three, and can be understood from both positive and negative aspects.

"As the saying goes, if there is a father, there must be a son, and she can also see the shadow of her father from her. Qiu Weiqiang said.

"Therefore, parents themselves must not only work hard, but also study often, and influence their children with their own practical actions." Chen Zihao said.

From childhood to adulthood, children and parents spend the longest time together, one day or two days is nothing, but parents for a few years, more than ten years of habitual behavior will become a psychological suggestion to children. Make children unconsciously imitate their parents' words and deeds. If parents have bad habits, they will affect their children throughout the day. For the growth of children, parents should be strict with themselves and restrain their behavior, so as to play a subtle role.

"As the saying goes, if you don't teach, your father's fault is all the stinky problem that her father is used to, and if her father is not a leader, he will definitely not be like this." Qiu Weiqiang said.

"I dare to do this with some background, to put it bluntly, I don't know how thick the sky is, one day Lao Tzu will step down, see how she survives." Xu Feng said.

"There is an old Chinese saying that a habitual son is like a murderer." Chen Zihao said.

This sentence is an eternal truth, and despite such ancient teachings, some people simply cannot hear the voice of the habitual son like a murderer, cannot see the phenomenon of a habitual son like a murderer, and cannot feel the experience of the habitual son like a murderer. Therefore, it is not known how deep the danger of doting is to the child. Children who grow up in a doting environment have some confused values in their brains. All children will have to go out into society, if a child is in the doting ↗dǐng↗diǎn↗ xiaoshu ↗, .¤.o≦s_(); When you grow up in the environment, you can't receive the influence of that kind of correct values, and after you go into society, a series of problems will occur. Because he has always lived in a doting environment, he can do whatever he wants. Then he will feel that he doesn't need these right values, that he can feel satisfied, and even that his mind will be stuck in that feeling. Such a child is in a state of confusion about many issues, such as questions of principle, questions of values, etc.

"If you ignore the emotions and interests of others, there will be problems in social interactions, and those who are strict may even go astray because of infringing on the interests of others, on the contrary, if you can take into account the emotions and interests of others and be good at getting along with others, you can become an excellent member of any team, or become an excellent team leader." Xu Feng said.

"Thinking about how others think about this problem and how others will feel can help realize that people are equal to each other, and blindly being self-centered will hinder their own development, in fact, self-centeredness is also a mental illness." Chen Zihao said.

I only want to satisfy my own ** in everything, and I ask everyone to be my own, but I ignore the needs of others. Unwilling to do half-sacrifices for others, not caring about the pain and itching of others, expressing selfishness and self-interest, harming others and benefiting oneself. Ask all people to be centered on Him, and want the earth to revolve around His will and obey Him. As long as the collective care, there is no collective discipline. Otherwise, I will feel aggrieved and unbearable. However, they are unwilling to proceed from objective reality and cannot obey others and the collective. This kind of person has a strong desire for others to respect him, but he does not know that he has to respect others as well. In short, these people are full of self in their hearts, but there is no one else, and they believe that people are not for themselves, and heaven and earth will be destroyed. The problem lies in the fact that the self-consciousness is too strong, and it has gone to the extreme of self-centeredness, or the individualistic thinking is strict.

"We should face up to the social reality, learn to be courteous, make concessions when necessary, and learn to respect, care and help others, so that we can reap the rewards of others and experience the value and happiness of life." Xu Feng said.

"From a psychological point of view, in order to achieve psychological health, people must complete the transformation from the small self to the big self." Chen Zihao said.

The so-called ego is the small circle of the self, the closed self. The so-called big self is to integrate oneself into one's own group, environment and even society, take more responsibility in the group and society, and live in harmony with others. And if people want to get out of the ego, they must have a spirit of selflessness, full of enthusiasm and interest to study, work, live, and socialize, this spirit of selflessness will make you forget your own diǎn pain, frustration, discomfort, gains and losses, and experience happiness, success, pride, and fulfillment.

"In the human heart, there is a balance that is exactly the same, only by paying blood and sweat, can they be baptized, and the balance loses stability, that person is not working, greedy for other people's hard-earned money, will take it for himself, that is a lazy and incompetent person, you must know that there will be results with pay." Qiu Weiqiang said.

"Once upon a time, there was a couple who worked diligently, working all day and night, and created a piece of industry, so after a few years, the family became rich." Chen Zihao said.

They doted on their son since he was a child, stretched out their hands for clothes, opened their mouths for food, and cared for him from the bottom of their hearts, prompting him to develop a bad habit of being lazy and greedy. After the old couple died, he and his wife ate and drank all day long. When you are hungry, you eat the food left by your parents, and when you are cold, you wear the clothes left by your parents, and you live a happy life like a fairy. You must know that there is no food that you can't eat, you don't have clothes that you can't wear, you sit on the mountain and eat empty, and finally you starve to death and freeze to death. As the saying goes, you get what you work for. If you don't work hard, you want to get the fruits of the harvest, which can never be achieved in real life.

"Life should be like a sesame seed blooming, growing higher and higher." Xu Feng said.

Don't celebrate the New Year like Wang Xiaoer, a year is not as good as a year. If a person sits on a mountain and eats empty, no matter how much he has saved, he will be used up one day. Therefore, our elders will say that it is better to teach us diǎn alchemy and give us fish, than to teach us how to fish. What will life be like in the future, the savings will also become more and more, like a snowball, and they will become richer and richer every year.

"Ability is an intangible thing, in fact, everyone's ability is the same, not that others can do what you can't do, as long as you put your heart into it, you can do anything, but there is a difference between being skilled or unskilled, those who think they are incapable, it's not that he is really incapable, but he has been evading, no conditions, no opportunities, no time, and a qiē appearance factor has become a reason to escape." Qiu Weiqiang said.

"There is no work that cannot be done, and there is no ability to finish, but there is no confidence in oneself, when a person is forced into a desperate situation, he will either give up on himself or will explode himself and force out his ability." Chen Zihao said.

"When you can't change others and society, take the initiative to change yourself and sharpen yourself." Xu Feng said.

"In short, I think that work is done, and the work is not for others to do, but for oneself, this collective can operate normally without anyone, but if you leave this collective, how much value can you have, good or bad yourself have to continue, then it is better to do your best to do a good job, and have an explanation for yourself." Chen Fei said.

"Like the mayor's daughter, if it goes on like this, if you don't repent in time and change your past mistakes, the outcome can be imagined." M.

"Everyone's fate is in their own hands, God has given you a chance, if you don't know how to cherish, don't make good use of your advantages, and sit on the mountain every day to eat and fall into the air, no matter how good your life is, it will be in vain." Chen Zihao said.

"There are many gains and losses in life, giving and returning, when you get something or something, you must be prepared to lose, when you get it, it means that you will lose. If it does not belong to itself, then sooner or later it will leave itself, because it does not belong to itself. Chen Fei said.

"That's right, there are some things that don't belong to you, you can't force them, there is such a little story, that is my personal experience." Chen Zihao said.

One day I got on the bus and sat in a single seat. A mother and daughter followed closely, the mother was about thirty years old, and the daughter was about five or six years old, holding a stuffed animal in her arms. There were still some empty seats in the carriage at that time, but the little girl looked at the empty seats, and then pointed firmly at me and said to her mother, "I want to sit here." I was stunned, and the woman smiled apologetically at me. He lowered his head and said to the little girl, "Let's go and sit by the window over there." No, I'm going to sit here. The little girl pointed at me again. She was in a fight with her mother, and no matter how the woman coaxed her, she just stood there and refused to sit with the woman. She didn't sit down, neither did the woman, and the two stood in the narrow aisle, allowing many people to look at them with strange eyes. The little girl didn't want that seat, but a satisfaction. Habitual gratification, satisfaction of justified or unreasonable demands. This satisfaction of hers can be obtained at home, at her mother. The problem is, she's not at home. Finally, I couldn't help it and reminded her: "Little friend, you should ask me for this seat, not your mother." At this time, a passenger next to her laughed and teased her: "Little friend, call uncle, uncle will definitely let you sit." (To be continued.) )