Someone in the Big Buddha Temple called to say that my mother-in-law had fallen, and I immediately asked for leave with the unit and followed Lu Tao to drive to the mountain. Pen Fun Pavilion www.biquge.info think about it, a person in his seventies falls down but his life is a major matter! Not to mention Lu Tao's mother and my mother-in-law!

My mother-in-law now lives in the temple on the Buddha Mountain for a long time, and only the Spring Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival will come back to live for a few days in a year. Mother-in-law is such a particularly focused person, once she chooses something to do, she has to make an appearance to show others. To say that there are many people who believe in Buddhism, most believers burn incense at home on weekdays, and go to the temple on big festivals to make offerings, but the mother-in-law lives directly in the temple, in addition to chanting the scriptures and incense every day, but also cleaning the Buddha hall, and personally serving the big Buddha statue in the big Buddha temple that does not know whether it is a stone carving.

There are more than 20 seemingly pious laymen like my mother-in-law who live in the Big Buddha Temple, and most of them are elderly women. In my opinion, they are not really Buddha-chanting people, they can only be regarded as a group of superstitious people. They believe that the world is divided into three realms -- earth, hell, and heaven! They believe that the Buddha is truly present and is the Holy Spirit who rules the world. They believe that good people will go to heaven when they die, and evil people will be sent to hell when they die. So they have to recite the Buddha and do good deeds, hoping that they will ascend to heaven when they die. But they don't really understand the meaning of the Buddhist scriptures, and they don't really understand the original meaning of the Buddhist scriptures of tolerance and desirelessness. Some time ago, my mother-in-law quarreled with a layman on the mountain, and went home to live for half a month.

In the past, I didn't understand the behavior of these believers, why did they get angry and quarrel when they believed in Buddhism and recited Buddhism? How can they preach Buddhism for the benefit of all sentient beings when they are so narrow-minded? Why do they still get together when they often have conflicts? But as time goes by, and as I get older, I can think about the problem from multiple angles, that is, it doesn't matter whether the Buddha really exists or not, what matters is that Buddhism is a big circle, a place for so-called believers to find self-realization. Most people in social life must find a circle that suits them, and they must put themselves into a circle, otherwise they will be squeezed into the margins of society and isolated by people. Those who act independently and do not want to join any circle are either saints with a relatively high realm or psychopaths. Sometimes the line between saints and psychopaths is blurred, because they have one thing in common, that is, their thoughts and ways of thinking are difficult for everyone to understand and accept. And the mother-in-law is neither a saint nor a psychopath, the mother-in-law is an ordinary layman, so she also needs to find a circle that can accommodate herself, and she has found the circle of Buddhism. She thinks that the Buddhist circle is suitable for her and is what she likes. Thinking about it this way, I can understand my mother-in-law's behavior, and I can also understand the reason why she is inseparable from the noisy and noisy laymen. If the mother-in-law returns home, she can only spend most of her time in loneliness, because her children cannot stop working and stay by her side every day, so the temple is like a nursery for the elderly for the mother-in-law, and the money she donates to the temple is equivalent to the old-age care fee.

Now the Big Buddha Mountain has been developed into a tourist attraction, not to mention that the Buddha has been re-painted with gold dust, the temple has also been rebuilt, expanded, and from the foot of the mountain to the top of the mountain through an oil road, our car can go directly to the top of the mountain.

But Lu Tao is still a new driver who has been driving for less than a year, and when he drove the car up the mountain road, I was always a little nervous, and kept telling him: "Drive slowly, change to second gear, and take care of the steering wheel." ”

I talked too much, Lu Tao began to get annoyed, and said to me: "You usually seem to be quite bold, why are you so timid now? ”

"Of course, I'm afraid that something will happen, because we can't have an accident at all, and if something happens, who will take care of Yangyang? Who will take care of your mother and my parents? People of our age are old and young, and they don't even have the right to die! We must live for our children and parents!" I said.

Lu Tao stopped squeaking when he heard me say this.

When I reached the top of the mountain and saw my mother-in-law, she was lying on the bed, surrounded by a group of laymen.

"Mom, how are you, can you move?" Lu Tao asked his mother nervously.

"I can't move my leg, maybe it's broken. The mother-in-law said with a painful face.

"Then let's go to the hospital. Lu Tao said and bent down to hug his mother.

No, the mother-in-law pushed his hand away and said, "You two will go to the main hall first to put incense and then come to move me, one is to ask the Buddha to bless me with a speedy recovery, and the other is to ask the Buddha to bless Yangyang to study well." ”

It's all this time, and my mother-in-law still wants us to go to incense. However, perhaps in her opinion, the more she suffers, the more she has to pray for the Buddha.

If I had been in the past, I wouldn't have burned incense and worshiped the Buddha, but this time I didn't refuse my mother-in-law and came to the lobby with Lu Tao. It's not that I started to believe in Buddhism, but I always make my mother-in-law unhappy, because I have already figured it out, and it will not do me any good to make my mother-in-law angry, and it will cause Lu Tao to be dissatisfied with me. I can't always be self-centered, I can't always act according to my own wishes, there are some things that I need to do for others even if I don't want to do, otherwise it will be difficult for me to be accepted by most people and integrate into this society. If it is done with good intentions or for the sake of the bigger picture, it is like telling a white lie, not hypocrisy, but a kind of wisdom.

When I arrived at the Great Buddha Hall, I really put on three pillars of incense, kowtowed three times, and stuffed a few banknotes into the merit box. I repeat, I don't believe in Buddhism, I'm still an atheist, and now I do these things because I don't want to lie to my mother-in-law, since I promised her to worship the Buddha, it doesn't matter if I really worship it, put incense on the pillar, kowtow, and I won't have a piece of meat on my body, so I should play a game. Thinking back to how serious I used to be, it feels really naïve.

After worshipping the Buddha, Lu Tao tried to pick up his mother-in-law and put his mother in the car, but as soon as his hand touched his mother-in-law's body, his mother-in-law cried out in pain. While we were worried, the laymen found two thick wooden sticks and a few boards, and made a temporary stretcher, so that they could carry my mother-in-law to the car. Next, it took a lot of effort to carry the mother-in-law into the car, and if the group's movements were slightly wrong, the mother-in-law would yell in pain.

After arriving at the hospital, I called my brother-in-law and sister-in-law, and in more than ten minutes, the brother and sister arrived.

The doctor first asked us to take my mother-in-law to the radiology department to take a picture of her legs. The photo shows that the mother-in-law has an open fracture of her right leg! The doctor said that surgery was needed and that the mother-in-law would be given a steel plate!

As soon as her mother-in-law heard that she was going to be operated on, she immediately became anxious, shook her head and said, "Give me a plaster cast, I have this old bone, what kind of operation will I do?"

"If you don't have surgery, I'm afraid that your legs won't grow well, because you're old and your bones heal slowly. The doctor advised the mother-in-law.

"Don't do it, don't do it, put a cast on me, and I'll be fine in two months. The mother-in-law insisted on her own ideas.

"Mom, we have to listen to the doctor, otherwise what should we do if your legs are not long and leave sequelae?" Lu Tao also came over to persuade his mother.

"Well, you have to listen to the doctor. ”

"Mom, don't be so stubborn and disobedient. ”

The brother-in-law and sister-in-law also persuaded together.

But the mother-in-law still disagreed with the operation, saying, "How can you nail a steel plate to the bone, and don't you break my old bone?"

It turned out that the mother-in-law was afraid of nailing steel plates, and it was not that she was unwilling to have surgery. At this point, it's time for me, the married man with a foreign surname, to speak, and I know how to convince my mother-in-law. I said to my mother-in-law: "The surgery is good quickly, otherwise people of your age are osteoporosis, and it is difficult for the bones to heal after fractures, and if your legs are not long, you will not be able to go to Dafoshan in the future." ”

The last sentence of my words worked the most, and sure enough, my mother-in-law softened when she heard it, pondered for a while, and said to the doctor, "Since you have to have surgery, let's have surgery!"

After the treatment plan was decided, we went through the procedures for hospitalization for my mother-in-law. The hospitalization deposit was paid by Lu Tao, because he was the eldest son, so he naturally took the lead in doing these things. During my mother-in-law's hospitalization and surgery, the three siblings took turns to serve her, and I accompanied my mother-in-law to stay in the hospital for a few days.

I don't really care about this mother-in-law who has always been cold to me, because she is almost eighty years old. Because I know that we should treat the elderly the same as children, take good care of them, and be more tolerant of them.

My mother-in-law probably saw the change in me, began to smile at me, and picked up the pastries and fruits that relatives and friends bought for her to eat several times.

Actually, I still don't like a strong and superstitious person like my mother-in-law, but I really need to have a good relationship with her, because I married her son, especially after my son was born, I don't want to have a relationship with this woman in my life. Since the relationship is constantly involved, it must be maintained, otherwise Lu Tao will be unhappy. I have now realized that trying to make my husband like me more and more is a smart woman.

My mother-in-law stayed in the hospital for a month before she was discharged and transferred home to recuperate. During the period when my mother-in-law was recuperating at home, she still couldn't take care of herself, and she needed someone to serve her food, drink, and Lazar. At the beginning, it was Lu Tao's three siblings who took turns to serve their mother, but within a month, the little uncle began to make excuses, saying that the unit was busy with work and couldn't always ask for leave. Then the sister-in-law also began to fish for three days and dry the nets for two days, and when it was her turn to be on duty, she often found some reasons to let her brother Lu Tao replace her. In this way, it is said that the brother and sister serve their mother together, but in fact, Lu Tao is serving his mother alone, so he can't take care of his business. In addition, the brother-in-law and sister-in-law have not shared the mother-in-law's medical expenses with us, I am very dissatisfied with these two people, and I nagged in front of Lu Tao several times, but Lu Tao disagreed, he said: "I am the eldest brother, of course I should take more responsibility, and as long as I fulfill my filial piety, I don't have to worry about others." ”

Hearing Lu Tao say this, I didn't say anything more. Indeed, absolute fairness is almost non-existent in this world, you can't always complain about others, just be yourself.

I ask Yangyang to come to see my grandmother every week, and he also has to be filial and know how to be filial.

Half a year later, my mother-in-law re-ascended the Big Buddha Mountain. Fortunately, she climbed the Big Buddha Mountain again. (To be continued.) )