I thought that after one night, Yang Yang forgot about not being a cadre at work, but he didn't expect that this incident would still bother him, so that he didn't want to go to school anymore, and he asked me to help him ask the teacher for sick leave! If I help him ask the teacher for leave, is it a lie? I don't think it counts, he may not be physically sick at all, but he is psychologically sick, because he can't face up to the matter of not being a cadre at work, he always thinks that the teacher is unfair, and he also feels that he has no face in front of his classmates, so he adopts an evasive attitude and can't get out of the bed! Looks like I'm going to have to talk to him. Pen × fun × Pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 ｉｎｆｏ

"Yangyang, since you have a stomachache, your mother will send you to the hospital for injections, just get a few injections. "This is my first trick to deal with Yang Yang pretending to be sick - scare!

"I don't need injections, I just get some sleep. When Yang Yang heard that he was going to inject an injection, he burrowed into the quilt like a loach and did not show his head.

"No, you have to get an injection, and if you don't go to the hospital, your mother will call the nurse to come and give you a shot. "I threatened him further.

"No, I don't give injections!" Yang Yang heard that the nurse was going to be called, and he got up directly from the quilt in a hurry.

"Don't you have a stomachache?" I asked, feigned surprise.

"It doesn't hurt very much now. Yangyang knew that he was exposed, and lowered his head and said.

"It's not very painful, just get dressed and get ready for school, mom has to go to work too, let's not be late." ”

"Mom, can't I take a day off? "Yangyang still doesn't want to go to school.

"Obedient, go to school, or what if you miss class?" I said, taking his clothes and handing them to him.

"I have already prepared for today's lesson yesterday and have learned it. "He's still begging me.

"You can't just skip school, the child who skips school is not a good child, if you go today, your mother will buy you a big spinning top to play with, okay?"

"Is it the kind of spinning top that Wu Xuewen played for more than thirty yuan?" As soon as Yang Yang heard that he was going to buy him a spinning top, his eyes immediately lit up, and he was full of energy.

"Yes, I'll buy it for you when I pick you up from school today. I promised.

"Okay, Mom, anyway, my stomach doesn't hurt very much now, so I won't ask for leave today. "As I expected, under my intimidating offensive, Yang Yang compromised with me.

In this way, sometimes when Yang Yang does something wrong, I will also reward him, and this reward is to make him correct as soon as possible or not let the situation develop to a worse point. In today's case, if I were to be tough on him, the result might be that he would be antagonistic to me, either not going to school, or not listening to the lectures after school, in short, when he was in a very bad mood, he would not be interested in studying for days or even longer. I would like to remind parents not to think that their children are learning when they sit in the classroom, but to see whether the child is in a state of voluntary learning, otherwise it will be ineffective. I've seen parents hit and scold or punish their children who don't want to go to school, and they wonder if they have ever thought about the use of putting a disgruntled child in the classroom? Will he go to study? Conversely, if you tell him that there will be a reward for correcting his mistakes, then he is likely to compromise with you. Because children themselves don't want to be antagonistic to their parents, and antagonizing their parents will make them feel lonely and afraid, of course they don't want to do this, but if things are not handled well, they would rather isolate themselves. I call this kind of reward for getting my child to correct his mistakes an inverted reward.

Of course, if my reward is used by Yang Yang, and he in turn tries to achieve a certain goal by not going to school or doing other things that should be done to make me chirass, then I can't follow him at this time. For example, if he doesn't go to school to get a spinning top, then I'd rather he don't go to school than buy it for him, and I will tell him, "I'll buy it for you after you go to school."

However, although I persuaded Yang Yang to enter the school, I knew that the matter of the cadre on duty was still a knot that he could not untie, and it had already had a great impact on his body and mind, in order to solve this problem, I decided to go to his homeroom teacher.

One day, during the students' after-class activity time, I met Ms. Bai, the beautiful homeroom teacher of Yangyang, in the teacher's office. I first learned about Yangyang's learning situation with Teacher Bai, and then asked the question euphemistically whether Yangyang could serve as a class cadre, on the surface, I seemed to be asking the teacher for an official for my son, but in fact, I wanted to find out why Yangyang couldn't be a cadre at work, whether Yangyang's performance in the class was really not good enough.

Teacher Bai replied to me like this: "Yangyang got fewer small red flags in the class, so I can't nominate him to be the class cadre, other children will not be convinced." ”

"Little Red Flag?" Although I knew that the little red flag and the little red flower in the kindergarten that the teacher said meant the same thing, both of which were signs of the assessment level of students, I still asked.

"If you get a ranking or make significant progress in the exam, do your homework well, help your classmates, do good deeds, win awards, actively answer questions in class, etc., you will get a small red flag if you do one of them. Teacher Bai said.

"Yangyang has been improving in these exams, and his ranking has also entered the top ten in the class. "I immediately helped Yangyang come up with a reason to get a small red flag.

"It's not enough to just study well, you have to be good in everything else. The teacher immediately denied the advantage of Yangyang's good learning.

"Yang Yang doesn't behave well in other ways?" I asked again.

"I can't say it's bad, it's not good. Teacher Bai said.

"Oh, that's it, then thank you Teacher Bai, I'll talk to him when I go back, goodbye Teacher Bai!"

After I came home from school, I couldn't calm down for a long time, I always thought that Yangyang was an excellent child after going to elementary school, but I didn't expect Yangyang to have such a bad impression in the teacher's mind. In order to find out the truth, Lu Tao and I went to Wuda Ren's house in the same community at night. Although living in the same community, we have never been to Wuhan University Ren's house, today as soon as we entered the door, saw the luxurious decoration of Wuhan University Ren's house, Lu Tao and I did not dare to go in, standing at the door, I saw carved carpets, leather sofas, widescreen large color TVs, solid wood furniture and elegant wallpapers, etc., until we were allowed to wear shoes inside, we carefully went inside.

After a period of greetings with Wu Daren, we explained our intention, that is, we wanted to learn about Yangyang's situation in the class through his son Wu Xuewen, but I didn't want to talk to Wu Xuewen directly, worried that after Wu Xuewen told Yangyang, Yang Yang would think that I was spying on him behind his back. According to Wu Xuewen, Yang Yang is a child who studies well, is enthusiastic, loves to help others, and does not bully his classmates at school. This is strange, since Wu Xuewen said that Yangyang performed well in school, why didn't the teacher approve of it?

Because I was worried about Yangyang, Lu Tao and I only sat at Ren's house in Wuhan University for more than ten minutes before going home. When I got home, I didn't mention it during Yangyang's homework, and after Yangyang went to bed and lay down, I tried to ask him:

"Yangyang, have you ever beaten and scolded your classmates at school?"

"Nope. Yang Yang shook his head and said.

"Have you helped your classmates?"

"Helped a lot!" replied Yang Yang proudly and loudly.

"Examples. ”

"For example, I have swept the floor for my female classmates, borrowed pencils for others to use, and bought food for my classmates......" Yang Yang said a lot of good things he had done in one breath.

"Do you actively answer the teacher's questions in class?"

When asked this, Yangyang's excitement suddenly disappeared, and he pouted and said, "Teachers rarely ask me questions." ”

"Did you break school discipline?"

Yang Yang smiled embarrassedly and said, "Yes." ”

"What is the violation?"

"For example, talking in class, throwing notes at classmates, dozing off, going to the toilet during class......"

It seems that I have found the reason why he can't be a cadre at work, and I said to him: "You often violate discipline and can't get a small red flag, so you can't be a cadre at work." ”

"No, Mom, I admit that I have violated discipline, but not much, only occasionally, other classmates have made more mistakes than me, take our class leader as an example, he is lazy when cleaning, forcibly takes other people's things, and bullies his classmates, but he has the most small red flags, because he is the son of Teacher Bai's elder brother's family, called Teacher Bai's aunt. There is also our music committee, who often copies other people's homework, and our group leader often steals food in class, anyway, everyone has made mistakes, but sometimes the teacher doesn't know. "Yang Yang gave me a lot of examples to prove that he was no worse than his classmates who were on duty.

"You don't talk about others, just be yourself, you have to abide by school discipline in the future, you have to actively answer questions in class, and only by doing your best can you hope to be a cadre at work. I said to Yangyang.

"Mom, I don't want to be a cadre on duty anymore. Yang Yang said this, proving that the situation had gotten worse.

"Why not, didn't you say you wanted to be?" I asked.

"Because I can't make a single mistake without making a mistake, and besides, not all of my classmates who are cadres at work have a lot of small red flags, and not all of them have made mistakes, and they don't all study well, anyway, I feel that the teacher doesn't want me to be at all!" Yang Yang said.

"It's not what you say, as long as you behave well, one day you will become a work cadre. I advised him again.

"Mom, can you not mention the matter of being a cadre on duty, didn't I say that I don't want to be a cadre?" Yang Yang was a little angry.

Seeing Yang Yang's impatient appearance, I knew that my efforts today were in vain, and it seemed that it would take a long time to eliminate his feelings of loss, especially if he didn't get the help of his teacher.

I don't know why Teacher Bai is so cold to Yangyang, so he doesn't ask Yangyang in class, is it really because I haven't given gifts to Teacher Bai? )