After returning home, I criticized Yangyang, saying that it was very uncivilized and impolite for him to smash the lamp in the teacher's house, and he couldn't do such a thing in the future. Pen? Interesting? Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 info But Yang Yang insisted that it was the teacher's fault in the first place and that he should not have thrown his pistol downstairs. I told him that the teacher did that to punish you, and that playing with toys in the middle of your study was disrespectful to the teacher, and it was also a bad attitude towards learning, which was completely wrong and should be punished. He also said that the teacher's punishment was excessive, and he just confiscated the toy gun, so he had to throw it downstairs and smash it. I said that just confiscation does not serve to warn you, you will make the same mistake next time, and you may make bigger mistakes in the future, and mom can't let you become a bad child, just like those criminals who are arrested by the police, it is because their parents did not discipline them well since childhood, and then they became criminals. Yang Yang thought that I was too far away, and said with wide eyes, Mom, are you comparing me to a criminal? Didn't I just drop a lamp? Am I that bad? I said that you are not so bad now, in fact, you are not bad at all now, just a little ignorant, but if your mother doesn't teach you and doesn't punish you after making mistakes, you may slowly become so bad in the future, so parents or teachers discipline you for your good, and they all hope that you will be a good person when you grow up, but it is not enough to be a good person, you must also have the ability, at least you can earn money to support yourself, if you can also do something beneficial for others or society, it will be better.

In this way, I talked a lot with Yangyang, although I don't know how many words he listened to, I don't know how many words he understood, and even later he just shook his head or nodded to answer me, but I knew that what I had to do was to tell him what I had to say, he might not accept it all, but he couldn't listen to it all, because his hearing and thinking were normal, and some of what I said would unstoppably enter his mind and affect him subtly.

Later, I didn't ask for a tutor for Yangyang, but became his tutor myself, the advantage of this is that the family does not have to pay me, and there is no problem of resignation at will, and I am the person who knows Yangyang the student best, and he is also the one he relies on the most, my tutor should be suitable for him.

Before I hired a tutor, I was always accompanying Yangyang to do my homework, at that time it was just a role of accompaniment and supervision, and finally after he finished his homework, I just signed his homework book according to the teacher's requirements. The main responsibility of the tutor is to guide the student's learning, which requires the tutor to understand what the student has learned, must be able to do the problems that the student is doing, and must also help the student plan his learning process. So I decided that before I became a tutor in Yangyang, I had to go through all the textbooks in Yangyang like a primary school student. Fortunately, the textbooks in primary school are still very simple for me, and it only took me a week to go through all the textbooks in Yangyang, and then I officially took up the job of tutoring. As a mother, nanny, playmate, and tutor, I can be regarded as a multi-functional mother.

Since becoming Yangyang's tutor, every night I have to find out how much homework Yangyang has that day, and then sort out the order for him, usually first let him do Chinese and English and other memorization homework, and finally let him do more brain-intensive math homework. The courses that Yangyang needs me to tutor are mainly mathematics, Chinese, and English, which are also the three subjects that are currently set as the main subjects by the school, and these three courses account for the largest score in the college entrance examination. Other tasks that are easier to complete, such as ideology and morality, natural science, and history, are basically completed by him alone. In the process of his problem, I have to answer the questions he doesn't understand at any time, but the situation is a little unexpected, I think there are very simple elementary school homework I can't do, such as finding logical math problems, giving you a few seemingly unrelated numbers on the surface, let you find out the rules, and then write out the following numbers, so that I can not do all the IQ questions, and I have to give up when I encounter too difficult ones, and wait for the teacher's answer the next day. However, I think that giving up this kind of question, which only reflects a person's logical thinking level and is not practical, will have little impact on Yangyang's test scores and IQ development. I believe that knowledge should serve life and to further our understanding of nature and society, and it doesn't make much sense to artificially create some difficult problems that are detached from reality to meditate, unless you are a person who has aspired to be a mathematician since childhood.

Of course, it is not all smooth sailing for me to tutor Yangyang, and I often encounter times when he does not cooperate, but fortunately, I am his mother, and unlike the hired tutor, I am not tutoring Yangyang for a fixed period of time, nor is it for the purpose of making money, so my tutoring for him can be more flexible, and not as serious and non-negotiable as hiring a tutor. For example, in the middle of homework, if he suddenly wants to eat, then I will immediately become a chef and go into the kitchen to cook delicious food for him, and when he eats or I eat with him, we will continue to do homework. Lu Tao will often say to us: Watching you eat and drink for a while, can you learn well? The heart is used to eat! That's when I say: if you want to learn well, you have to replenish energy, and if you want to replenish energy, you have to eat! However, there was an unexpected result, and my weight was always increasing as Yangyang's academic performance improved.

It doesn't matter if you're fat, you can't do everything, and it's worth sacrificing your beauty for your children. Before I got married, I was also very concerned about dressing up, although I was not the most fashionable person, but I also went out meticulously every day, my hair was styled, my clothes were matched, and sometimes I had to lightly draw my eyebrows or add some color to my lips, and I had to stand in front of the mirror for half an hour before going out every day. But what has become of it now? The hair is simply tied in a ponytail at the back of the head, the clothes tend to be casual, the eyebrow pencil and lipstick have not been used for many days, according to Lu Tao's words, I am dressed more and more like a mother, I say nonsense, I was originally a mother.

My study counseling for Yang Yang is in various forms: instead of just waiting for Yang Yang to ask questions, I will take the initiative to find his problems and help him correct them; It's not a simple professor, and sometimes you have to do some of the homework for you. Lu Tao was in favor of the former method, but Lu Tao strongly opposed the latter method: "Are you doing his homework for him? Then you might as well go to school for him! ”

In fact, it's not that I want to do my homework for Yangyang, nor that I'm worried that Yangyang is tired, but it's a helpless move. On the one hand, the amount of homework in Yangyang is very large, take Chinese homework as an example, every day there are writing words, memorizing texts, writing essays, writing reading notes and writing other Chinese knowledge and thinking questions, etc., among which writing words is generally a word, plus pinyin, write three times, group three phrases, make three sentences, and to write two crosses, you have to write thousands of words! Needless to say, other assignments are needed. Of course, writing is very important, and literacy is not only the basis for learning Chinese well, but also the basis for learning everything well, and the basis for better understanding the whole world. Therefore, I have very strict requirements for Yang Yang in the writing process, and I usually ask him to complete it all alone, except for sometimes I will provide some help in sentence formation. My point is that if a child can't speak well or can't say a word, it's better for you to teach him. This method was later extended to writing essays. Later, I often wrote essays for Yangyang!

Here's the thing, we have to set aside half of the time for Yang Yang to do math homework, and sometimes a math problem gets stuck in us, and a card is an hour or more. So in order to ensure that I was not reprimanded by the teacher the next day after completing my homework, and in order to prevent Yang Yang from developing the bad habit of doing things with a beginning and an end, I sometimes had to do homework for him. However, the homework I did for him was limited to writing reading notes, writing a diary, and doing hand-drawing, and I would only write for him when he was pressed for time, and I would not completely replace him, I would let him think first and express his thoughts and opinions. For example, when writing reading notes, I will ask him to express his understanding and opinion of the article after reading an article, and if there is something that he does not understand and recognize, I will explain it to him in a deeper level, and then if time is pressing, I will ask him to write other homework, and I will help him write down the feelings we discussed after reading in the reading notebook. Another example is the writing essay, Yang Yang's writing ability is very poor, and the essays he writes sometimes can't talk about the overall concept and personal opinions, but often bullshit, and other scribbles, so it's better for me to write an essay for him to read and learn. Of course, every time I write an essay for him, I will explain to him how to write an essay, how to write it, I said to him: a good essay is nothing more than moving, or enlightening, or recording and refining a scene and a piece of history in life that is worth knowing and remembering, if in a word, if your essay can touch people's hearts, it must be a good article.

At first, Lu Tao didn't understand my approach, and I told him that just like you learn Xingyi Boxing, if the master doesn't teach you by hand, you will practice it yourself, and it will be difficult to practice well. Yes, by the way, Lu Tao is practicing Xingyi Boxing, and he wants to become a martial arts master! The same goes for writing essays, if there is a lack of guidance, children will make slow progress by writing their own essays, especially if they don't know how to write a good essay or what kind of essay is a good essay. The essays I wrote for him were all sample essays for him, and although I can't say how good my writing was, I think my writing level is good enough to teach a primary school student. Chinese students like to quote famous quotes in their essays, some students' essays quote famous quotes in large quantities, I don't approve of writing like this, I said to Yang Yang that you have to say your own words, you must learn to express your own views in your own words, of course, occasionally use one or two famous quotes can enhance the persuasiveness, it is also desirable, but not abused, I prefer you to treat your words as celebrity quotes. Sometimes Yang Yang would happily say when he came back from school that the teacher had read his composition in class, and then Lu Tao would ask, did you write it or did your mother write it? I will say that what I wrote is also encouraging and beneficial to Yangyang if I read it to the teacher, and it is not cheating! Cheating is like a lie, depending on where it is used and what purpose it is used for, if it is positive, it is beyond reproach. You can never find someone who has never cheated or lied all their lives, and if there is, it must be an idiot. Later, after Lu Tao saw that Yangyang's own compositions were becoming more and more complete and had more and more personal ideas, he no longer objected to me writing essays for Yangyang. (To be continued.) )