Ye Xiaohua has recently started to have insomnia. Pen ~ fun ~ pavilion www.biquge.info

And it just so happens that insomnia is often painful, because in a quiet night, a person faces the silent world of the night, facing the boundless darkness. You will be much calmer than during the day, and you will seem to see things more rationally.

But after calmness and rationality, it is often even more unbearable, and you will sadly find that you are often very close to the truth and essence of things, which means panic and anxiety for people who are used to being ostriches. At least that's what she thinks.

You think about the past, think about the present, think about the future, think about relationships, want to deal with people, think about the naivety of the past, think about the growth of the present, think about the recent dissatisfaction, think about the past satisfaction, anyway, you can't sleep, you always have to make the time consume more meaningful. However, we always think of bad things more than good food.

Vivien once said that forgetting is the best gift we can leave each other.

It's a pity that most of us can't forget when we get home, whether it's good or not, we live in the good past and the happiness of the present, magnifying our dissatisfaction and misfortune, so we are more attached to the good things of the past, so that we feel more and more unfortunate that we are now.

Most of us tend to struggle with one thing.

Many things and ideas in the world often come to fruition, in other words! We are still stubborn in thinking about what is happening now.

A lot of ideas are entangled, entangled, and you can't pull with brute force, and the more you pull, the more entangled you will become, and it will make you feel troublesome and painful. So, the only way is to let it get entangled and sit idly by.

Ye Xiaohua opened her eyes and listened to the ticking clock at noon, when she went home, she received a call, "Ah, tonight? Okay! Then where will we meet then......

Ye Jianqiang sat opposite Ye Xiaohua, and when he saw Ye Xiaohua hang up the phone, he said, "You have been with him for a long time." Bring him back for dinner tonight!"

Ye Xiaohua immediately interrupted when she heard this, "Grandpa, where do you want to go, we haven't gotten a word yet?

Ye Xiaohua is a little impatient, maybe the overall family atmosphere in China is still not tolerant enough, and the society is making rapid progress, but many people's ideas are still stuck in the past. Especially for people of Ye Jianqiang's age, this concept of family inheritance is even more serious.

At what age you have to get married, or if you don't have children, it's a big rebellion, this traditional concept is still strong.

Of course, getting married and having children is not a bad thing, she never objected, but she was against those who urged marriage regardless of the mentality and specific circumstances of the parties, and only knew how to urge one by one, just like when you were a child, your parents didn't care what your interests and hobbies were, you were unhappy at school, you didn't make good friends, and you only cared about your final transcript. It's like a game's daily check-in task, clocking in and out every day, which makes people feel very uncomfortable.

The pace of life of young people today is very different from that of the past, and not everyone can immediately enter married life and live a leisurely life. Therefore, not everyone is suitable for getting married on a blind date or getting married when they are old.

In the end, life is just a one-time experience, outsiders just watch the excitement, watching the excitement is not a big deal, no matter whether you are doing well or not, it is best to be able to live according to the script they expect.

What's even funnier is that the child seems to be more like a display piece to them. So that they can get fun and glory together in the boring life.

In fact, it's not just getting married? Life is often tired of meeting other people's expectations.

Whenever the alliance of marriage promoters fails to convince young people to live according to their expectations, they take out the irrefutable hat of "filial piety".

Even if they are a little dissatisfied with their parents, few people are willing to live their lives on the charge of violating filial piety.

They will say that their parents are old, they don't get married and don't have children, how incomplete their lives are, how they will be laughed at, how sad they feel in their hearts, and so on. It can even affect the marital status of siblings.

A former friend once told me that her parents thought she was getting married, but she didn't have a suitable partner for a long time. But the people he likes by his younger brother have also reached the point of talking about marriage, but the woman's parents do not want the woman to marry into their family. The various conditions of my friend's house are okay, and it can be said that it is a very good in-law's family, and everyone is very puzzled. It turned out that the woman's parents felt that there should be something wrong with the woman's sister so that she had no family, and in the end, if she didn't get married and had no children in the future, wouldn't it be to let her daughter raise her.

The idea is bizarre, but what's even more bizarre is that this idea is actually recognized by most people.

Also, the concerns of the woman's parents are indeed reasonable.

But doesn't everyone have the right to choose their own life, and how they want to live it?

People have the right to marry and not to marry, the right to have children, and the right to choose not to have children. Why should these most basic choices be condemned?

If a person doesn't like children and doesn't want to have children, doesn't he have no morality, no conscience, and no filial piety?

Can't just take things in this world for granted because most people think that's what they do?

Morality and public opinion?

But it is a warning line of social civilization. But this cannot be a weapon of persecution.

We always say that this is an impetuous society.

When you're single, you're being urged to fall in love: Oh, why don't you fall in love? How beautiful is falling in love? Who do you see......

It won't be long after you fall in love, and someone will urge you to get married: Oh, when are you going to get married? You have been running for three years, hurry up and end up while both parties are still in love with each other, and they are willing to accommodate each other, so that the marriage can last for a long time. Oh, you've been all in it for so long, and he doesn't mention it, so there shouldn't be any problem! Women are not like men, you say you are so ...... He didn't mention it......

When I finally got married one day, I thought I was free.

Let's have a child early, how cute the child is, and life is complete when there is a child......

Well, let's have a baby, after all, that's what everyone says.

Diapers, milk powder, kindergartens, key elementary schools, junior high schools, high schools, interest classes, going abroad, looking for a partner...... (To be continued.) )