21. Prelude to marrying in the grassland

Just when Shandan and Mao Daner were on winter vacation in their third year of high school, Tie Daner was ready to marry a daughter-in-law.

First of all, Tie Dan'er went to the family, and all the relatives and friends who had a polite exchange had to be notified of the ceremony of marrying a daughter-in-law on the sixteenth day of the first month.

Then in winter, they will kill pigs and sheep, buy fish and chickens, and store all kinds of vegetables, waiting for the arrival of the sixteenth day of the first lunar month.

From winter to Layue, Tiedan'er family only eats pigs and sheep in the water, pigs and sheep's heads, and they don't want to touch the miscellaneous and water again when they eat Shandan for the rest of their lives. It was only on Chinese New Year's Eve and the first day of the first lunar month that I was willing to wrap two dumplings to eat, and boiled a large pot of bones for the family to celebrate the New Year. All the meat is to be left for the feast. Tie Dan'er's mother is a very face-saving person, she said: You have to be generous to others, and you have to be frugal in life. I'd rather eat bran vegetables by myself than treat my relatives and friends slowly.

By the fourteenth day of the first lunar month, Tie Dan'er's family had already found more than 20 people in the village to help. Daidong (the one who takes the place of the lord's family in the matter of marrying a daughter-in-law), the bookkeeper, the cook, the cook, the plate, the tea, the pot, the pan, the plate, the chopsticks, the dish washer, the person who asks people to eat, the person who steam cakes and sprinkle sugar, the person who drives the car, the person who carries the sedan chair, and the person who marries...... Wait, the people are all settled.

All sorts of people went about their work.

The borrower took a few large baskets and borrowed pots and pans, plates, chopsticks, etc., from house to house, and asked each family to go and inform their distant neighbors that they would settle down when the feast would begin. Tie Dan'er's mother loves her son, and she also wants people to know that life is good, put on a big show, treat relatives and friends, and plan to sit at as many as twenty tables.

On the evening of the fourteenth day of the first lunar month, all the helpers in the kitchen have already gone to work, making all kinds of snacks, stewing, stir-frying, and pickling various dishes.

In the wax moon, Tie Dan'er's mother asked the third aunt and the sixth aunt to wrap thousands of dumplings, put them outside the house and freeze them, and make a supper for a few days. I also steamed a few dim sum, bean buns, and baked a number of baked cakes to make dry food.

It is said that on the fifteenth day of the first lunar month, distant relatives and friends have arrived at Tie Dan'er's house, first a light meal at noon, steamed snacks with big stewed vegetables.

In the evening, it is a supper dinner.

The relatives in the village are all old and young, and they have nothing left to eat. In addition, there are more distant relatives and friends (friends and villagers who are not related by blood), a table for eight people, tables are placed on the kang and the ground, and the Li Erjia and Eryang family next door, Wang Da's family in front, and Zhang's family behind the house are all borrowed to sit on the table.

First there are four hot and cold plates, then boiled dumplings, then sweet cakes.

I only heard Dai Dong's shouting: "Distant close friends, people next door and two neighbors watching, in the next is not talented, the owner can afford it, please come to Dai Dong, in the next talent is shallow learning, there are not thoughtful places, please take care of your relatives and friends! On this day of the great joy of the Tie Dan'er family, thank you for your blessings! Please give a gift to your mother-in-law!"

The bookkeeper spreads out the big red paper to make a gift book, and writes down the gift money for each person and each household one by one, so that relatives and friends will have a basis for marrying a daughter-in-law and a daughter-in-law in the future.

So, according to the first mother-in-law uncle, the first ceremony: Tie Dan'er's uncles paid money one by one, one hundred yuan per person, followed by a series of relatives such as aunts, aunts, uncles, etc., and finally friends and neighbors from the village. While collecting money and keeping accounts, the bookkeeper shouts loudly what relatives and what names and how much.

After answering the salute, their distant relatives and neighbors all found their own resting places.

Tie Dan'er's family got together for a night, and Tie Dan'er's mother got up from time to time to check all kinds of things in the courtyard kitchen, and she also had to take care of her own chickens and ducks, and it was the son-in-law of the family who married her daughter-in-law.

In addition to his own son-in-law, what cousin son-in-law, the upper and lower generations, as long as it is the son-in-law of the owner, they are all uncles, first of all, Daidong's good wine, good tobacco and good meat, each person distributes a good cigarette and a bottle of good wine. Thousands of instructions should not be too big a joke, delaying the business.

Shandan and Erlian are still young, so the Tiedaner family does not have a son-in-law, only sons-in-law of the upper and lower generations.

The old Jin family has been here for four generations, and it is also a large local family, and there are naturally many sons-in-law. There are many old and young sons-in-law, and the local custom is that every banquet is lively.

Dai Dong's delicious food and drink entertain his son-in-law, it is best to be able to encircle and not offend, and save the owner a lot of things.

Otherwise, the son-in-law can justifiably steal, rob, make trouble, and toss, and on the day of the big day, the owner can't be annoyed, but can only be enveloped.

Deal with people fairly and get along with everyone in harmony, the sons-in-law will make a fuss, and the excitement will be over once it is over, if you are usually harsh and mean, take advantage of the empty banquet, the sons-in-law will turn the world upside down.

A cousin next door married a daughter-in-law, and the sons-in-law took care of it once: on the night of the ceremonial account, the sons-in-law caught all the chickens of the owner and killed them for meat, and the chopsticks in the kitchen disappeared overnight! The next morning they had to send someone to the town to buy them.

I bought the chopsticks back, and the original chopsticks appeared inexplicably.

Also, I lost a prepared hard disk dish, which was originally prepared and planned in advance, and I had to take cigarettes and alcohol to exchange it for a while, just to give an idea of a lively one, if someone made it bad in private, it was not so simple, not to mention the price of the sky, and it may even be delayed when the banquet was opened, but on the day of the big day, everyone would not be angry, so I had to ask grandpa to tell grandma.

Tie Dan'er's mother has always been reasonable, although her own days are tight, but she has always treated her relatives and friends generously, so her sons-in-law respect her very much, and no one is specifically against her, but she and Dai Dong's ask for wine and meat to drink and eat meat.

Tie Dan'er's mother was not at ease, so she got up in the middle of the night and went to inspect the kitchen and everywhere, without any errands, so she squinted shallowly for a while. The night was uneventful.