Chapter 222: Resolving Conflicts and Cooperating the Wedding

(Two couples of comrades-in-arms held a wedding at the same time.) The county leaders support the co-organizers and attach great importance to it.

In order to hold a "revolutionary wedding", the relatives encountered resistance and had to divide up to do it

Persuasion work. As soon as the old contradictions are resolved, new contradictions will occur again------)

Although Ye Lan answered the phone call from her fiancé An Mingxian at the beginning of the office, she was indifferent and serious to an almost arrogant and unreasonable attitude, and she couldn't help but be resentful and angry, so she held back her strength and wanted to have a good "theory" with him after meeting------

As for why he changed his attitude today? Perhaps there was a reason for the incident: Either he had some troubles at work, encountered some difficulties, and was not happy, and he made an appointment to meet himself, or he wanted to confide in himself in order to seek his own comfort and persuasion? Or was it still the same old question in the past: When to go through the formalities of marriage, and when the two of them formally formed a new home, "only by living in peace can they be happy." If it is the former, whether it is the chief officer in charge of the personnel work of the organization or his fiancée, he will have an unshirkable responsibility. What's more, it caused the other party to lose face at his relatives and friends in his hometown, and to be ridiculed and suspicious in front of his colleagues and subordinates------

Knowing the inside will understand that it is because the fiancée who is in a high position is ambitious, too busy with work, and really can't take care of it, "going through marriage procedures, holding a wedding, and formally forming a family to live together" These are all personal and private matters, and outsiders should not comment on short and long talk. However, will those who do not know the situation think that since he was reinstated to his post as a member of the Standing Committee and head of the organization department, he has become worth a lot and looks down on acting county magistrates of the same level; do they have any other ideas if they do not go through the formalities for the other party to start a family for a long time? If they turn their backs on the benefactors of the past, it will be too unconscionable? If they are good at persuading and suggesting in the open, but sneering and sneering in the dark, they will reach the ears of the person concerned, and even those who are firm in their thinking will inevitably not be moved by it.

In view of this, it seems reasonable for the other party's attitude to become cold and serious. In this case, if you want to consolidate the foundation of your love and marriage and rebuild a harmonious and loving relationship, in addition to saying to each other that "because you have been too busy with work recently, you have neglected to care for each other and continue to cultivate emotional problems; you should not take the initiative to check and understand that the marriage date has been postponed again and again; more importantly, you must take action to determine an accurate date for the wedding date; only by taking action and sincerity can you regain the understanding of the other party and restore the relationship between each other as before.

After all, Ye Lan is a leading cadre who has been engaged in organizational and personnel work for a long time, and as long as she thinks through the essence of the problem and is willing to do it, it is not a piece of cake to deal with the relationship between her lovers. An Mingxian Nai was affected by subjective and objective factors before, and he did have a lot of complaints and dissatisfaction with his fiancée Ye Lan; he really wanted to have a serious attack when he asked him out this night, and even wanted to give the other party an ultimatum to limit the time------

But in terms of life and ideological work, he is indeed inferior to the other party. Before he could complain and question the ultimatum, the other party first examined himself in a gentle drizzle, and then immediately after a sunny and clear statement that the marriage date was confirmed, he immediately blew away the clouds that shone on An Mingxian's heart, and Zi Yishu unfurled his eyebrows that had been locked for many days------

At the same time, Yu Liang, director of the office and Gong Li, director of the Letters and Visits Office, were not so unanimous in their views on the larger issues of principle such as "determining the date of marriage through consultation and how to hold the wedding." First, because they were a little younger, they were not so eager about the marriage date sooner or later; second, because they worked in the same hospital of the county party committee, they did not look up and look down all day long, so they naturally had many opportunities for contact, and they were serious about falling in love. To tell the truth, in view of the current social climate, young men and women, young lovers, unmarried cohabitation, and unmarried pregnancies abound. Neither of them was a Puritan chaste woman, and they were not exempt from vulgarity. In fact, not only do they know in their own hearts, but even if they have relatives and friends around them, many colleagues in government agencies know that they have slept together a long time ago, but because they are leading cadres, after all, they dare not live together openly.

Therefore, at present, for the two of them, there is just a lack of red books issued by the civil affairs department. If they follow their ideas, they will register sooner or later, and the wedding will be held sooner or later, it has nothing to do with the overall situation. In addition to the above two reasons, which are different from Ye Lan Mingxian, another focus of contradiction does not come from within, but from outside. To be exact, it came from the two of them. The first is the peasant parents from Liang. The countryside has its own old rituals and customs. "Marrying a daughter-in-law early and getting a grandson early" is one of the old customs. Therefore, he was very dissatisfied with his son and unmarried daughter-in-law for not registering and getting a family for a long time, so he always urged behind him.

However, Yu Liang had a mind that was inconvenient to explain to others, although he was the only one in the nine standing committee members of the former county out of the strategy and needs of the municipal party committee in the previous paragraph. Although this secret has been well known among the leadership, it is impossible to explain it to the majority of the cadres and the masses one by one, and this has made him still infamous to a certain extent. Under such circumstances, if they were anxious to register and obtain a license for the wedding, wouldn't they let the original people in the drum continue to scold themselves for being "villains"? Therefore, although the parents of the peasants at home were urging him, he still couldn't make up his mind: Should he do it early or continue to postpone it?

But Gong Li, who was born in a family of primary and secondary school teachers in rural areas, is willing to keep in line with her fiancé - continue to postpone the marriage. But she also has her own difficulties. The key is that the teacher father, who is upright and responsible, regards the reputation of himself and his family and children as more important than life, and once he hears that his daughter has talked about the object and has a loving and intimate relationship with each other, but he has delayed the marriage registration procedures and the wedding, he thinks that the two are not decent, so he also urges the two to get married as soon as possible. Under the pressure of the parents, the two had no choice but to give in, and began to plan to start planning for the marriage------

In view of the comrades-in-arms, the two pairs of lovers who are concerned about each other are currently preparing for their own marriage, so there is no need for everyone to bother and spend more time to persuade and mobilize separately. So, the rest of the business is much easier, just help them get the wedding done. But to have a good wedding, it is simple and simple, and it is complicated to say that it is complicated. This is because Secretary Zhong Jingliang set a precedent of "everything should be low-key and simple" when the Standing Committee members were reinstated long ago; and the higher-ups have recently emphasized that the two lovers are not only party members and cadres, but also leading cadres; and three of them are also members of the county standing committee; when they hold their own marriages, shouldn't they resolutely implement the "Eight Regulations"?

The wedding is low-key and simple, or even "a revolutionary wedding" as advocated earlier: no banquets, no guests, and resolutely no courtesy. This is not a problem at all for the two couples concerned, but the focus of the conflict is on the parents of the newcomers, especially Yu Liang and Gong Li's parents, and the focus is on Yu Liang's two peasant parents.

According to the usual psychology of people: For several generations of the Yu family, it is not easy to hope for a decent descendant to become a county official, and what a great joy it is to marry a wife, but they are not allowed to set up a banquet to entertain guests, let alone accept gifts, and what kind of "revolutionary wedding" is allowed to be held? This makes parents, brothers, and sisters-in-law, how can they do the work of the old thinking of their neighbors? Because everyone has long inquired, "When will the second son of the old Yu family who became a county official get married, so that he can take the opportunity to give a generous gift in order to strengthen the tie, and then he will beg for something in the future." ”。 But if Yu Liang's parents, brothers-in-law, and relatives and friends do not handle the affairs well, and reluctantly hold a "revolutionary wedding" for him, when the time comes, no matter who gets into the wedding scene and gets confused, it will be difficult to end up in a big incident!

Therefore, Zhong Jingliang temporarily convened several key cadres of the county party committee and government to hold a meeting just for "how to hold a wedding for two pairs of lovers". Hou Ye and Chen Suyun, who have always been good at working as workers and peasants and in ideological and political work, and his wife, were assigned to take on this important task; they went to the homes of Yu Liang and Gong Li to do the work of their families and relatives in order to seek understanding and support. At the same time, it was decided that "the two pairs of newlyweds who are in love are not only the main leaders of the party and government of our Jinshui, but also adhere to the correct line in several county government repetitions, and have made meritorious contributions to the economic construction of reform and opening up, so in the joy of their marriage, the county party committee and government will attach great importance to it; at that time, the two main leaders of Zhong Jingliang and Hao Shuyun will preside over separately and be divided into two organs of the county party committee and government, and colleagues from the two organs will be specially invited to participate in a grand and grand tea party to celebrate the wedding of the two pairs of lovers."

Originally, everything was arranged and planned in a clear and orderly manner, which not only achieved attaching great importance to the warm celebration of the happy events of comrades-in-arms and giving strong political and spiritual support, but also did not violate the requirements of the central authorities for party members and cadres, and the "Eight Regulations on Honesty and Self-discipline." If all goes well, it is believed that this will be a unique and creative "revolutionary wedding" for two couples, which will surely play a milestone role in the future life of the two lovers as a couple------

However, in the reality of life, there are often unexpected contradictions that do not depend on people's subjective will. Originally, during the meeting, based on analysis and speculation, there might be some contradictions or resistance among the relatives of the people concerned, so Hou Ye Suyun and his wife were sent to do ideological persuasion and contradiction resolution work in advance. Anyway, on the morning of the day when the two houses of the east and west houses separately held the wedding for the two couples on the selected auspicious day, the parties and everyone had been tense and prepared to guard against the contradictions or problems that might occur at the relatives of the newlyweds, but they never happened------