The so-called "giving" is to give first and then get, and only when there is giving. To succeed, you should first pay, this is a "truth" that many people agree on, in fact, getting along with people is the same, it is also this truth, you think for others, is to think for yourself, as the so-called "give people roses, hands have fragrance".

One dark night, a monk saw a small lantern flickering in the depths of the alley, and the people around him told him, "The one holding the lantern is a blind man." ”

The monk was puzzled, stopped the blind man and asked, "Since you can't see anything, what's the use of picking a lantern?" ”

The blind man said, "In the night, no one with normal eyes can see, so I lit a lamp." The monk realized, "So you are lighting someone else!" ”

But the blind man said, "Not exactly, this lamp is also illuminating myself." Although I am blind, I chose this lantern to both light the way for others and let others see me so that they would not bump into me in the dark. ”

The reason is as simple as that: when you give, you will also gain something. To reverse this, if you want to get something, you have to give something first. If you want to be happy, give happiness to others first; If you need love, you must first learn to give; If you need the attention and appreciation of others, learn to pay attention and appreciate others first. Therefore, only those who continue to give can reap better interpersonal relationships.

Leo is the only black ophthalmologist in the state, but he is quite a prominent figure in the state. By what did he establish this prestige? The answer is just two words: dedication.

Leo's way of giving is also simple: to serve the public. Sure enough, this method won him the hearts of the people and put his career on the road.

Daniel's career began when he was 20 years old. The first thing he did when he started working was to compile a list of all the friends he had ever made, and to join the city's black group, where he served them so hard that he soon became the leader of the Black Association, serving two terms.

During his tenure as leader of the association, Leo was active in black schools and amateur theater groups, and participated in sports, religious and other parties. In order to let everyone have a more realistic understanding of the situation abroad, he took the time to make a slideshow of what he saw and heard when traveling abroad, which undoubtedly made him very popular with everyone.

Leo's life is colorful and busy, but he still finds time to expand his social network. Because he believes: "If you can participate in social work more and help the people around you, you will have a higher chance of being trusted by people, and you may sell yourself at any time." ”

In this way, Leo has won the respect and trust of the public in a very short period of time with his dedication, which has also made his career more successful.

Giving and receiving are present in everything in a relationship. Life is like a process of farming, what you sow, you will reap. When your dedication is sincere, the reward you reap is also proportional to this dedication.

I once heard a professor tell a story like this:

James's family was very poor, and because he had no money to go to school, he had to go out to work every day. One day, he and several of his companions were chopping down trees, each of which had to cut a certain amount in order to receive a salary. Because James has a lot of strength, he cuts the most. At noon, everyone rests and eats lunch together. That's when James discovers that someone is stealing the tree he had just cut down. If you look closely, it turns out that it is a few young children, because they have no strength, they can only secretly pick up those cut down dead branches, needless to say, this is to pick up home to make firewood. Several other people persuaded James to catch the children, scold them, and even punish them for doing some work for themselves. But James noticed that the children were all dressed in shabby, and he thought that if it weren't for the poverty of the family, the children would not have come to steal their things. James let the children go and said nothing.

In the afternoon, everyone went back to work. Just as the sun was about to set, I saw the children come here under the guidance of a middle-aged man, with tears on his face, and the man limping. He came to James and the others, and first apologized to everyone, because he didn't expect the children to come here to steal firewood! He felt that although he was poor, he would never allow his children to steal. James looked earnestly at the middle-aged man who spoke: his face was full of wrinkles, and one leg was still lame...... Apparently, he had scolded the children. Looking at these children, James hurriedly said: "You misunderstood, the children are not stealing firewood here, they did not steal, but I gave it to them." Listening to James's words, several children were very surprised. The middle-aged man expressed his deep gratitude to James and led the children away.

Many years passed, and James was fired because of his age. One day, while he was looking for a job on the street, a young gentleman came over and said to him, "Sir, my company still needs an employee, can you give in?" James, who had been hitting a wall for many days, was overjoyed and immediately agreed. Even he didn't expect that this young gentleman was actually one of the children who had stolen his firewood! Now, he is an entrepreneur with millions of assets.

Give people roses, and there is fragrance in your hands! When we treat everyone around us with a sincere heart, we gain sincerity and kindness, and of course, there will be a lot of love!

Only those who have the noblest and happiest character will have the happiness of infecting those around them.

- Harvard student, famous thinker Emerson

Lesson 30: Develop compassion for others

Compassion is a feeling of compassion that allows us to put ourselves in the shoes of others when they are in need. This is done by taking the focus away from yourself, imagining what it's like to be in someone else's predicament, and at the same time feeling a sense of love for that person.

This cognition can help us understand that other people's problems, pain, and frustrations are even worse than we think. By acknowledging this fact and trying to offer some help, we not only open our hearts and expand our horizons, but also greatly cultivate our gratitude heart.

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