A good friend of mine, Han Han, ran away from home.

My friend's growth trajectory is similar to everyone's, nothing more than a family that gave birth to a child, was well protected, grew up to be in his twenties, has not been out of the province, has a stable job, and has a harmonious family, and that's probably it.

When I received Hanhan's text message, I thought she was joking, because she told me, "Honey, I'm running away from home."

I thought this little girl was joking again, and I replied with a smile, why, ran away from your mother's house and walked to your grandmother's house?

But this reply text message surprised me.

Hanhan didn't post anything, just asked me to watch WeChat. I opened WeChat and found that Hanhan didn't send me anything else, but just sent me a location, which was located in a northern city thousands of kilometers away.

I replied to her, don't scare me, it's not fun, don't scare me with false positioning.

Hanhan told me, I didn't lie to you, I'm here now, if you don't believe me, I can open a video for you and see the ice and snow behind me.

That night, I talked a lot, many, many things to Hanhan, and I heard her say for the first time. This child, who has been a good girl at home for more than 20 years, ran away from home overnight and went to a city where he was unfamiliar with his life and started over.

"Xiaoda, do you know? I've never been on a plane before, and when the plane flies, it is very comfortable, I feel like I'm going to fly, and as I look at the ground getting farther and farther away, I realize that I have indeed escaped. ”

"I never thought about disobeying my parents before, I just thought, make my parents happy, I don't know what to do anyway, so do what my parents want."

"I followed their wishes, I went to high school, I went to college, I graduated and joined the company they arranged, doing the job they asked, they were happy, I thought, this is what I wanted, but it didn't turn out like this."

"I don't like this job at all, I don't like this major, I don't like such a rigid and stable job, I even hate getting paid for doing nothing every day."

"I don't know that in the company, everyone is a colleague and a relation, why do you have to intrigue to kick others out. I don't know why people have to make small reports to each other and pour dirty water on other people. ”

"My job is envied by everyone, saying that my job is good, stable, easy, and I don't need to do anything else to get the same salary."

"I don't know what my day is about, I feel like I'm just an ATM, I don't have any other use."

"I've been smashing up Weibo all day, and I'm tired of playing things."

"I don't even have to do anything to find an excuse to hang out, just hang out all day, that's it, and there are no problems, no job is going to find me, and no one asks me where I'm going."

"I don't like that I'm at home except for work, and I'm sick of being pushed home every hour after I go out."

"I hate that I can't go to any places that don't look formal, I can't even go to KTV when I look so long."

"Every time, I have to control how I communicate with others, control what friends I make, who will be a network after making friends, and who will not be helpful in the future and don't need to make friends."

"I don't want to get married when I'm old, and then get married and have children, and live year after year, day after day."

"I don't want to live for the rest of my life, I don't know what I want to do, I stay in one place all my life, like a frog at the bottom of a well, and I never know how big the world is outside."

I listened to these WeChat voices, and I was shocked and never stopped. For so many years, I really haven't seen such a Hanhan, at least the Hanhan I have seen is a warm and cheerful look, honoring his parents, and not caring about anything.

I never knew she had such a grudge against her life, or even her parents. I didn't know how to comfort her, and I didn't even know if I should tell the truth when her parents called me and asked me where Hanhan was.

In the eyes of all of us, Hanhan's work is the best. In our industry, fledgling, inexperienced, and even in the internship period, can be so reused, in such an important position, and the workload is still small.

The working environment is very relaxed, and even the company does not have much business, and the life is very leisurely, which is simply the ultimate goal of our industry to enter the company.

I don't even understand why Hanhan is unhappy.

But I know that even though we seem to be doing well, Hanhan is just not happy. I asked Hanhan, do your parents know that you ran away from home?

"Got it, you should be looking for me like crazy now, but you can't find me, I'm going to go around crazy for a while. In the past twenty years, I have suppressed it for too long and ignored too many things. ”

Listening to this voice, I seemed to see Han Han's expression, which only represented one meaning, that is, liberation.

I seemed to know, even if I told her parents where she was, her parents wouldn't find her.

When a period of time passed, it was three months after I received the news from Hanhan. Hanhan sent me a photo.

Han Han in the photo is smiling happily, standing in a piece of spring light, people are more beautiful than flowers.

I asked Hanhan, are you happy now?

"I've never been happier."

"I used to think about what I was going to do the next day every day because I didn't have anything to do, and I had to find all kinds of things to pass the time. I had to find something meaningful so that I didn't feel like my life and time were being wasted. ”

"But now I'm different, I have things I want to do every day, I don't need to think about what I want to do in the future, what I want to do in the future, I have things to do every day, although sometimes I work overtime until midnight, but I earn the money I work hard to get, instead of sitting there and doing nothing and getting paid."

"Even if it is intrigue, I feel that I have strength, I rely on my own efforts, the salary I get, the job I get, this position, I don't rely on relationships, I deserve it."

"I don't have to think about whether my parents will be happy, what I have to do to make them happy, even if I don't end up happy."

"I can use a lot of my spare time to learn things that I like, and I don't need to learn what I don't like because of my parents' preferences."

"I can make a lot of friends that I like, and I don't have to think about it every day, and my parents say that this person can't be friends, and it will be useless for the future."

I asked her, what about your parents?

"I know I can't raise me anymore, and if one day, they can forgive me, they will definitely understand me."

"I've been depressed for too long."

I asked Hanhan, have you ever thought about how much trouble your departure has caused to your parents. Your work seems to have nothing to do, but the handover is really troublesome, and it involves money, the company directly called the police, and your father sat in the company with the money in the morning, only to wait for the news that the accounts are indeed correct. Your mother searched outside for a day and a night because you were missing, and she didn't close her eyes. You only think that you have been depressed for too long, how have you ever thought, what about your parents?

"I know it's irresponsible. But I didn't say I was going to resign. They always say that this job was introduced by relatives, which is very good, and everyone is envious of it, and I shouldn't leave like this. ”

"I was told that I was in a hurry, and sometimes I even came to scold me, I didn't want to do this business, why did I choose this major in the first place."

"But when I first chose a major, who asked me?"

"What do I like, haven't I been vetoed one item after another for so many years? Am I willing to do anything that seems to them to be unambitious and idle? Didn't all the friends I want to make make them mess up? ”

"Don't you know, when have I attended a party in its entirety for so many years? I can't even eat out for more than an hour, even with a bunch of girls! A group of girls whose parents have known each other for a long, long time! ”

"As long as the family has no power or power, or is not very good professionally, and I don't find a good job, my parents won't let me be friends with others, saying that it is a waste of time and will not help in the future."

"I don't know, why do I need to think about what I can get when I make friends?"

"Growing up, I refused to have contact with all the opposite sex! Instill in me the saying that the opposite sex is a bad person. As a result, I didn't dare to talk to boys for three years in college, and I trembled all over my body when I said more. ”

"Seeing that the friends who were rejected by them are now mixing well, they shy and ask me to make friends with others. Have they forgotten how they bothered to separate us in the first place? ”

"I don't want to go to such extremes, but I really can't live in this environment, I feel like I'm going crazy, why can't I live my own way, why should I be like a puppet."

"I can't control it so much, it's good to call the police and arrest me, or cut off the relationship, I can't live like that anymore."

I listened to this voice, I understood that the former president, I used to think that Hanhan was just less social, so he was more shy when he saw people, so he didn't dare to talk to the opposite sex, and now I know that this is the case.

If Hanhan's classmates knew that the cold goddess in their eyes was like this, would they be shocked? I only know that Hanhan's parents protect Hanhan very well, and for so many years, Hanhan has always been a good student, no early love, no resistance, only studying.

I only saw Hanhan's well-behaved for so many years, I saw a good student in the eyes of teachers and a good child in the eyes of parents, but I didn't see a good friend in the eyes of my friends.

I didn't think about trying to persuade Han Han anymore, and I really can't persuade anything. Although I saw that after Hanhan left home, the situation at Hanhan's home. But I really can't persuade Hanhan. I've never met a person who is never more than an hour away from home except for school and work.

If you go to work at noon, you have to go home even if you have an hour's rest.

I've never met anyone and never had any communication, and I'm just a lot of mobile phone contact, and I don't go out much at all.

I used to think that Hanhan was a housegirl and didn't like to go out much.

Now I know that Hanhan just can't go out at all.

How do I catch a bird that has managed to fly out of the cage and get back into that cage? Can the cage that once relied on the affection of parents to maintain it still be able to hold up this bird that has experienced freedom?

I know that Hanhan is very tired from the work he is doing now, getting up early every day, not only getting up early to squeeze the bus to work, but also going home late at night. But what kid who just graduated isn't like that?

We only envy Hanhan for finding a good job, and we envy Hanhan for not being very busy and having a high salary for a month.

But we don't know that in Hanhan's heart, freedom, hard work, and preference are far more important than these.

Hanhan has been locked up at home for more than 20 years, and in these more than 20 years, there has not been a single day of freedom, and he has never thought about how to make his parents happy and how to do things according to his parents' wishes.

Don't disobey and do anything, even if you don't like it.

Parents like to work, even if they are frowning.

But no one ever asked Hanhan what he liked. Even if it is until now, no one has asked, only Hanhan, why is he so ignorant.

I don't know if a stable job is the envy of everyone, and I don't know what it is for a city kid to dislike stability.

But I know that Hanhan's parents spent their lives pursuing the stability that Hanhan disdains now. They suffered a lot when they were young, and they didn't get one-tenth of what Hanhan lives now.

They just want to make Hanhan what they want to be, and live the life they wanted to live that they couldn't live at the beginning.

I want to find a good job for my hard-working child, so that I can work hard for a lifetime without being like myself in the future.

But Hanhan's parents forgot that in this world, there are not such smooth things, and Hanhan's stability is due to the relationship that Hanhan's parents worked hard to save when they were young, not Hanhan's own efforts.

The wings created by the ability of parents are not as good as the wings that they have worked hard to train.

The eagle soaring in the sky has learned to fly since he was a child.

Nothing can be done overnight.

I pulled back and looked at Hanhan's smiling face in the photo, I saw the light of happiness and freedom, although now Hanhan is already an eagle that only needs to have the ability to fly independently, but because of the overprotection of his parents, Hanhan is no different from the eaglet who has just learned to fly, and I even saw the joy of the first successful flight in Hanhan's eyes.

I thought, wings, I still have to work hard to plump up.

I replied to Hanhan, relying on my own efforts to do what I like.

(To be continued.) )