"The example I gave just now is a bit extreme, let's change the example. Pen, fun, pavilion www. biquge。 info" Gray continued, "If you accidentally break a teacup, at first glance it looks like your fault, but it's not. You don't want to break the teacup, that's why it's considered a mistake. If you broke the teacup on purpose, then you must have a purpose, and in that case, breaking the teacup is not a mistake because you were meant to break it in the first place. ”

"Since you don't want to break the teacup, as a person with normal capacity, you shouldn't break the teacup because you don't want to break it and you have the ability not to break it. You must have been influenced by the outside world when you broke the teacup, so you share the blame with the person or thing that affected you. If you don't have the capacity to act normally, you shouldn't touch the fragile teacup, and your guardian will be fully responsible for it. If you are just stupid for a while, then the person who educated you will have to bear part of the responsibility, because people should not be stupid in the first place, and this is a mistake in education. ”

"Even if it's something as trivial as accidentally breaking a teacup, it's not all up to you. There are people in this world who are willing to take responsibility for others on their own initiative, and their purposes are different, some out of compassion, some out of affection, some for money, and some for vanity. And you, Mel, for what are you doing with all the blame for yourself? ”

Gray's questioning stunned Myer. The matter has passed, and no one is held accountable, and taking all the responsibility on yourself will not help anyone. When Mel finally realizes that what he did was pointless, he begins to wonder why he is taking the blame.

"That's why I say you're self-righteous." Gray spread his hands, "You always want to protect others - do you know what kind of people always want to protect others?" The answer is someone who always thinks they are better than others. What kind of person is a person who always thinks that he is better than others? The answer is the proud people. At the same time, it is also a sign of self-righteousness. ”

"I know you care about your women and don't want to cause them even the slightest harm, so you'll always deliberately ignore their shortcomings and take the blame on yourself. Listen to me, Mel, women are not as fragile as you think, and fragile women are what men are used to. If you really want your women to be good, you can't indulge them, which will only make them more and more wrong, and in the end they will be hurt more deeply. ”

"You have a good eye. The child you value the most is a good woman like your mother. Actually, I've always wanted to find a chance to apologize to you, if it weren't for my drunken gaffe, you would definitely choose this child as your wife, right? Now you don't have to worry about me and your mother's feelings, and you don't have to worry about Darius's feelings, just do whatever you want. Darius is stubborn, but he is a reasonable man, and I will explain it to him. ”

"I used to tell you that Alice was a good boy, and I wasn't fooling you. Alice is indeed a good child, and if you have lived together since you were a child, she will become a good woman like Xiaoxiao when you get married. It's a pity that when you met, you already had the woman you loved, and you were still entangled with two other women, so she didn't become like this after marrying you. If you can, I hope you'll give Alice more opportunities to prove herself, and then you'll discover another side of her. ”

"As for the other four kids, you know them better than I do, and you know what to do. As for the four pregnant women, if you really like them, I don't have much to say. As for the new princess that the children have chosen for you, whether you accept it or not, it's not something I can decide. That's all I have for you. ”

On April 11, 137 AH, the Tajon elf settlement near the city of Byrons.

At the request of the Tayyong elves, Maier comes here again to show the Tayyong elves their women's clothes. At this time, more than 150,000 Taeyong goblins had gathered here, and Maier spent nearly a day just showing off the women's clothing.

The clearing that Mel had given the Tajon elf was so large that it was now occupied by all kinds of buildings. These buildings simply can't accommodate the 150,000 Tajon elves, and Mel asks the officials of Byron City to guarantee the independence of the Tajon elves, so the officials don't know how the 150,000 Tajon goblins live here.

The Kingdom of Byron did not provide a single grain of food for these Tajon goblins, but these Tajon goblins did not seem to have gone hungry. Myr wondered where their food came from, and after asking, a wingless Tayron elf pointed to the depths of the mountains where the city of Byron was located.

"Do you mean that your grain comes from the mountains?"

The Wingless Tairong Elf shook his head, and a crisp word leaked out of his mouth: Settlement.

Her answer shocked Myer. Since the establishment of Byron City, the Tajon goblins have never been found nearby, and it was not until the Tajon goblins followed Mel back that the Tajon goblins appeared near Byron City.

After careful questioning, Mair learned that the Tairong elf settlement mentioned by the Wingless Tairong Elf was indeed in the mountains where the city of Byron was located, but it was a long way from the city of Byrons, and there was no road leading to it.

In fact, there were originally Taeyong goblins in this area, but since Nichoichi established a stronghold here, Taeyong goblins began to move away from the mountain where the Black Shrine is located and migrated in the direction of where the Taeyong goblin settlement is located. Since there is a "Tairong Fairy Vacuum Belt" north of Byron City, and the Tajon Elves who followed Mel to Byron City are all from the south, the news has been spreading to the south, and it took a long circle to reach the Tajon Fairy Settlement, which is the closest to Byron City.

In September of the 136th year of the new calendar, this Tairong fairy settlement only learned the news. By the time their men arrived in the city of Byrons, it was October of the same year. At this time, the temporary Tairong elf settlement outside the city of Byron was overcrowded, and the food supply could no longer be met by picking and hunting, and since then this Tairong elf settlement has shouldered the responsibility of delivering food and grass to the temporary settlement.

The Taeyong elf settlement set up a supply depot in a clearing five kilometers away from the temporary settlement, and they delivered supplies to the supply depot and the local Taerong elves distributed it themselves. Due to the semi-isolation of the area from the outside world, Maier only knew about it until now.

Since it was getting late, Maier had to go back to the Bluestone Palace first. The next day, Mair arrives at the makeshift settlement again, and he randomly finds a Taeyong elf who is willing to show him the way, and follows her to the supply station. In fact, the location of the supply station is very easy to find, and the Tairong goblins have been transporting food from the supply station to the temporary settlement, as long as you follow the Taerong goblins who are responsible for transporting food, you can find the supply station.

Every day, a team of Taeyong goblins will set off with wooden carts to deliver supplies to the temporary settlement. A convoy of planks arrives at the depot every day, and when Mel arrives at the depot, the Tajon elves are unloading. The Tajon elves who had seen Mel greeted him warmly, the elves of the settlement had never seen Myr, but they had heard about Myr. The goblins of the settlement, who had no work at hand, immediately surrounded them, and looked curiously at the rumored foreigner.

Mair has long been accustomed to the onlookers of the Tajon elves, and these petite and cute creatures will involuntarily run to watch when they encounter something of interest. Taeyong goblins' onlookers are real "onlookers", they will surround the target of the onlookers, and then stare at each other generously, without hiding their curiosity.

After some exchange, Mel easily gained their trust, which made him worry about the innocence of the Taeyong elves once again. The reason why he wanted to isolate and divide the rule at the beginning was because he felt that the Tairong goblin was easily deceived by foreigners and harmed by foreigners. He believes that it is unfair to them that this lovely creature must be protected and that they can no longer be harmed by the mistakes of foreigners.

The Tajon elves are willing to take Mair to their settlement. Like the Taeyong elves in the "Golden Bird" settlement, they only want to take Mel back to the settlement alone. After learning that the Taeyong Goblin Settlement was only about a month's walk away from Byron City, Maier decided to take Liu Xiu out with him this time.

Considering that Maier was going to lead the army in May, he could not go to the Taeyong Goblin Settlement until the end of the border battle, so the matter of going to the Taeyong Goblin Settlement could only be talked about later.

Three days later, on April 14, Zhenxin gave birth to two healthy baby boys for Maier. On the 15th of the same month, Yan He gave birth to a healthy baby girl. On the 26th and 30th, An Jie and Nami each gave birth to a baby boy.

The four princesses-to-be gave birth to four boys and a girl for the Byrons family at once, which made the princesses who had not yet given birth to sons nervous, and none other than Alice, Ulis and Yishan.

Among the first batch of children born, only Xiaoxiao gave birth to a son. But the three of them are only jealous at most, because for the most favored Xiaoxiao, having a son is nothing more than icing on the cake, and the status of others will not be affected by this. But now the situation is different, and the four would-be princesses gave birth to four sons at once. The Byrons family, as a Leiting family, has priority for men in terms of inheritance, but sons born to wives do not necessarily have priority in inheritance.

In the vast majority of cases, the Leiding family will put his mother in the position of the wife because of the importance of a certain boy, which is the so-called "mother is more expensive than the son". In the Leting family, the mother can discipline her son because he is wrong, but she cannot interfere with his son's subjective decision-making, even if he has not inherited his father's position and family property. However, women in the Leting family can still influence men's decision-making.

Take the family meeting of the Byrons family as an example, Yun Xin did not speak at the meeting after reprimanding Myer. When Gray and Maier debated, she could only watch from the sidelines, and she didn't even dare to step forward to dissuade her. However, this does not mean that Yunxin cannot influence Myer's decision-making, she does not want Mel to have sex with his fiancées before marriage, so she asks Mel to do so in a suggestive tone. Mel did this because he respected his mother and was used to following her instructions, not because Yunxin could influence his thoughts.

Of course, as far as the result is concerned, Maier still goes against his mother's wishes, but that is also a helpless move. If Maier doesn't do that, Kiki will have to suffer forever, and that's a special case.

In other words, if the mother of the Leting family can maintain a good relationship with her son, she can still influence her son's decision-making. In fact, it is not only the relationship between mother and child, but also the relationship between siblings, siblings, husband and wife, etc., if the relationship is maintained well, the women of the Leting family can influence the decision-making of men.

In other words, the more power a man with whom he is close to him, the greater the benefit of his influence. Even if these women are not involved in decision-making, their presence is a deterrent to others. In other words, the status of women in the Leting family is related to the status of the men with whom they are close.

Since men have the right of first refusal, it is said that for the wives of the Letin people, the benefits of having sons are more than having daughters. Maier is now the lord of the two countries, and even if his son does not inherit the throne, he will be a prince when the new king ascends the throne, and he has more or less his own power and has a certain influence in the royal family; And his daughter can only become the eldest princess, and she still has to marry in the end, and her influence in the royal family is very limited. Even during the reign of Myr, the prince had more influence in the royal family than the princess - no way, who made the Letings a patriarchal civilization.

From May 14 to 17, Maier held an official wedding with the four princesses-to-be. On the last day of Nanyi's wedding, just the night before the wedding, she was still arguing about whether she should marry or not, and even thought about leaving the child to Yanhe to raise and quietly leave the Byronic Kingdom.

But in the end, she couldn't do that. She was reluctant to have children, not to Meier and Yanhe, and even more reluctant to have this city of Byrons that she had built with her own hands. So in the end, Nami married Meier, but she didn't approve of the wedding in her heart, and she didn't consider herself a member of the Byrons family.

So after the wedding, she refused to change her name to Gray "Father" and Yunxin "Mother", but called them "Mr. Gray" and "Mrs." However, the two didn't care about this, and sometimes half-jokingly called her "layman", which made Nanyi layman blush.

By the way, after marrying Mayer, everyone's name for Nami Layman has also changed. People no longer call her "layman", but "Princess Nami Nam", "Her Royal Highness the Princess" or "Her Royal Highness Nami Nam", and the family calls her by her first name, or "Xiao Nan" like Yan He. Later, even the folk tales circulating on the streets and alleys called her "Princess Nami Princess", and over time, the title of "Nami Layman" was gradually forgotten.