What does marriage mean to everyone? Is love the foundation of marriage for everyone? If the novelty is over, or if you find that you don't want to live together anymore, will you choose to divorce?

The famous host Meng Fei said in the host show: "I think that when you get married, you must have love, you can't do it without love, but it can't just be because of love." I just think that habits are a very valuable thing. It's too easy for us to like a person of the opposite sex, I see that this girl is good, I will like it, and in a blink of an eye I see another girl good, I may also like it, this is something in the bones, human nature can't be overcome. The precious thing is that when I get along with her and we have a relationship, it has become a habit for her to be with me, and I can't do without this habit, and it is relatively safe to enter marriage at that time. Marriage that is simply entered because of love will soon disappear in the trivial and boring family life. However, when your love has become a habit, both parties are used to each other, and it is difficult to get used to others, at that time, it is the safest and relatively long-lasting marriage. ”

I used to agree with Meng Fei's views, but after I read too many cases around me, I don't necessarily agree with them.

Today's story is about a friend of my mother, my mother and this friend are very close, not just as simple as everyone thinks of girlfriends, there is also a kinship, but this kinship, I don't think my mom wants to admit it now.

This friend, let's call her Jingyun for the time being. In fact, in terms of seniority, I should call her aunt, but now there is no such relationship, let's call Jingyun, which is better called.

Speaking of this Jingyun, it should start with my mother when she was a child.

Jingyun is my mother's classmate in elementary school, she can be regarded as a good best friend, my mother didn't go to school much, Jingyun can be regarded as the best relationship between my mother's school life at that time.

Jingyun is a year older than my mother, and the two were in the same class at that time, and the relationship was not bad, especially my mother's temperament is more Jianghu, the kind of righteousness, and she doesn't care much about what little problems her friends have, so she has a good time with many people. This Jingyun bar, at that time, I lived relatively quietly with my grandmother's house, and my mother and I went to school together every day, so the relationship between the two was very close.

My mother said that Jingyun belonged to the kind of face-loving person when she was a child.

In fact, at that time, my grandmother's house was not very good, close to the railway, noisy, and the house was broken, and those who had no money lived there.

Jingyun is a person, he loves face more, ordinary children, he can live wherever he lives, he can say it, his family background is not something he can choose, if he can choose a reincarnated family, I believe that many people want to vote for high-ranking officials or the richest man's family. But Jingyun is different from ordinary children, she doesn't want to admit that her family lives in that area, and always likes to brag to people that she lives in the town.

But the route home is wrong, so Jingyun waits until everyone leaves every day, and sometimes there is no way, so he pretends to walk to the town for a while, and when everyone is far away, he then rushes home.

That's how my mom met Jingyun.

My mom still remembers the scene vividly.

At that time, it was already a little dark, my mother was sent to the city by the physical education teacher to test the bone age of those data because of her good jumping ability, and she met a little girl with a bag on her back and rushed back, and the little girl was quite familiar with it, as if it was a child near her home. But it was too dark to see clearly.

My mom was about to get out of the car, the car door just opened, my mom ran down, and wanted to take advantage of the fact that it was not completely dark, and hurried back home, when a child suddenly rushed over and knocked my mom down, this person is Jingyun.

Even if the two of them know each other, my grandmother and grandfather were sailing at that time, and most of the time they were not at home, so the two often played together, and Jingyun often went to my grandmother's house to spend the night.

Originally, this was a very ordinary girlfriend relationship.

But a few years later, it changed because of the arrival of one of my uncles.

At that time, my mother and Jingyun didn't go to school, my mother went to the city to learn to be a tailor and make clothes.

At that time, half of the people in the whole town were boats, or fishing, or sand mining, anyway, they all lived on boats. Many people don't even build houses and live on boats.

My mother's brother was also one of the sailors, and at that time, this brother was a sand miner, and he was able to drive a sand mining boat on his own at a young age, and the salary was very considerable.

In fact, this brother, strictly speaking, is not my mother's brother, this brother is an apprentice of my grandfather, who used to learn to drive a boat with my grandfather, and now, he can take charge of himself, so he drives a boat by himself.

My mother, who grew up with this apprentice since childhood, is commensurate with brother and sister, and the relationship is also good, this uncle of mine is more honest and straightforward, and my mother is also like this by nature, so I like people with this kind of personality, and the two have always had a good relationship, closer than with other apprentices.

My uncle, let's call him Changyu, has nothing to do with the dry red brand.

Zhang Yu, who was only in his early twenties at that time, had a considerable salary, and the income of people working in the city for two months was not as high as his monthly salary.

But because he is sailing all year round, Changyu does not want to buy a house on the shore, and feels that it is a waste to be vacant.

On this day, Changyu happened to rest, so he was going to see his sister, that is, my mother. At that time, my mother was learning to make clothes in the city, and she was still an apprentice, and she could only step on the sewing machine every day. Zhang Yu told my mother in advance that he would rest and said that he was coming, so my mother specially adjusted her working hours and came back to meet my uncle.

It just so happened that the days were not very good, and I was not married, and Jingyun was also very idle, so I wanted to go to the city to play with my mother, but it turned out that my mother did not go to work, so I went directly to the house to find it.

When Jingyun arrived at my mother's house, Zhang Yu was chatting with my mother at that time, and the two of them were sitting on a stool in the house, chatting while drinking tea, when Jingyun came in.

Originally, Jingyun was very familiar with my mother, plus my grandmother and grandfather were driving a boat at that time, and my mother was basically the only one in the house, Jingyun saw that the door was open, so she didn't knock on the door, and came in as usual.

At this time, Zhang Yu happened to be sitting next to the house, and he rushed to the door, Jingyun saw it as soon as he came in, and Zhang Yu saw someone coming in, and quickly got up. When my mother saw Zhang Yu get up, she turned around to see what was going on, and then saw Jingyun coming.

At that time, Jingyun was 16 years old, my mother was 15 years old, and Changyu was 23 years old.

Many years later, Zhang Yu told me that when he saw Jingyun at that time, it was like seeing a fairy, the lover of his dreams.

After the three of them communicated, even if they met, at that time, my mother didn't know what Changyu thought about Jingyun, and she didn't ask Changyu if he had a partner at such an age, just like that, a year later.

My mother wouldn't have thought that Zhang Yu would fall in love with Jingyun, and every time she took a break, she would find an excuse to ask Jingyun to go out.

Jingyun felt that Changyu was a poor boy at first, and he was unwilling to associate with Changyu.

But I think it's also, as far as the current Changyu is concerned, he also looks earthy, very poor and sour, and he drinks a little wine and smokes, at that time Jingyun didn't look down on Changyu, I believe it.

But if you eat and watch a movie for free, there's no reason not to go, and you're idle at home anyway.

After going out a lot, Jingyun found that this Changyu really didn't seem to be as poor as he looked, and from the look on his way of buying things, it could be seen that Changyu had a lot of money in his pocket.

At that time, Jingyun intended to inquire about Changyu.

That's the way it is in the village, where is there an impermeable wall? I know all about this inquiry. It turns out that this Changyu is honest and honest, he doesn't like to dress up, and he makes a lot of money by sailing every month! And he lives on the ship all the year round, and the owner of the ship has food and accommodation, and this Changyu usually has no other bad hobbies, even playing mahjong and cards, and the bet is just a meal. Over the years, there must have been a lot of money.

This Jingyun saw that this Zhang Yu was interesting to him, and thought, this man is so rich, if he marries him, isn't he also rich? Plus this man doesn't spend money, isn't this money all spent by himself? Jingyun didn't want to live in his family's dilapidated house next to the railroad for a long time, and wanted to move to another place, even if it was just a roadside house across the railway, it was better than a dilapidated house by the railway.

So Jingyun said to Changyu that if you want to get married, you can, at least have a decent house, you can't live on a boat, at least on the side of the road.

Unexpectedly, with the finger of this quiet cloud, it was really a dream come true. This Zhang Yu, who is spending money like dirt for a red face, took his savings for so many years, bought one of the houses that Jingyun said, and renovated it ruthlessly.

This time, the three-story building was completed all of a sudden, and because of Changyu's decoration, under the backdrop of that row of houses, this three-story small building has a different appearance, and it looks a bit like a small western-style building.

Now Jingyun really knew that this Changyu was indeed rich, so he agreed to marry Changyu.

This Changyu bar, all of a sudden, is the same as being smashed by a huge prize, I thought, it turns out that this house can be solved, and I have spent so much effort in vain, you must know this, I have already bought it.

This asked for a house, and Jingyun was embarrassed to be picky at the wedding, so she held a marriage according to the specifications in the village.

But here I have to explain, this village, because it was originally inhabited by a clan, although there have been outsiders who have married in for so many years, and there are also outsiders, but most of them are still a clan, so this marriage, basically the whole village came, and it can be regarded as very lively.

Everyone is happy that Jingyun has found such a capable husband, especially Jingyun's classmates, thinking that this Jingyun has been blowing cattle for more than ten years, and finally let her blow it true, and she really moved out of the broken house by the railway and lived in a small building.

This Jingyun's mother is even more happy, one is because her daughter's future life is guaranteed, and the other is because of her son-in-law, who is really good to her daughter, her daughter said that she wants to have a house, and she bought a house with a wave of her hand, saying that she wants to decorate, and she pretends to be like this, although the wedding is in accordance with the general specifications in the village, but gold, silver, jewelry, household appliances or something, there is no less, that is so good that it is not good, this whole village has not seen such a wife for so many years.

After this Zhang Yu got married, he went to sail a boat, and he was not very often at home. Jingyun, sometimes I go to the boat when I have nothing to do, see Changyu, and send him something to eat. The two of them are living a good life, at least that's what we see.

Jingyun is on the shore and also cooks the family very well, although Jingyun's wedding business is not very good, but Changyu's income is good, and the life of the two is good.

In the second year of marriage, Jingyun became pregnant.

After Jingyun became pregnant, she no longer took the work of the bride, one was that Changyu refused to let it, feeling that Jingyun was too hard; There are also some newcomers who feel bad, in case they are tired and bad, they are also evil, and they don't want Jingyun to be a bride. Jingyun was also happy to be idle, so he followed Changyu on the boat when he had nothing to do, saying that he was taking care of Changyu's diet and daily life, but in fact, he was walking around with the boat.

She was pregnant for ten months and gave birth in one day.

After October, she gave birth to a daughter, who looks exactly the same as Jingyun, with bad signs, big eyes, and special spirits, how to look at it and like it.

Zhang Yu was also very happy, holding his daughter and not letting go. Zhang Yu saw that his daughter looked good when she smiled, so he named her daughter Weiwei.

This is very smart, when I was a child, I was very smart, I read words quickly, and the crisp voice was very good when I read poetry.

When Wei Wei was four years old, this happened.

Actually, this is also related to Jingyun.

When Jingyun was pregnant, Changyu didn't worry about leaving Jingyun at home, so he took Jingyun to the boat to take care of her. After Jingyun experienced the life on the ship, she also felt fresh, and she didn't want to do the things of the bride again, plus Weiwei was still young, so she simply took Weiwei to live on the ship with Changyu.

This is tiny, cute-looking, and the crew usually likes to tease, and will buy some snacks for Weiwei or something.

That day, Weiwei started to be abnormal, didn't speak, kept crying, asked her what was wrong, and said that her stomach hurt.

This Jingyun felt that Weiwei might have eaten too many snacks recently, plus the change of seasons, and the stomach was a little bad, so she gave Weiwei some medicine to regulate the stomach and take good care of it, and it would be fine.

Unexpectedly, in the afternoon of that day, something happened, with a slight high fever that did not go away, and he shouted that his stomach hurt in a daze. (To be continued.) )