Transfer Confusion December 2013

This year you are in the third year of junior high school, and this is also your last year of junior high school life. Pen % fun % Pavilion www.biquge.info

Mom's heart is really mixed.

After more than two years of junior high school life, in addition to your English scores are still as good as ever, your Chinese, mathematics, physics, and chemistry scores are declining more and more. Especially in mathematics, it is rare to score 80 points, and sometimes even only more than 20 points, which is unbearable. Mom is not a parent who blindly pursues grades, but if you don't do 100% hard work and diligence, it is too undeserved. If you were born a stupid child, your mother approves of it. But once you made a bet with your mom that if you scored more than 100 points in math (out of 150), you asked her to reward you with a pair of shoes that you had been dreaming of for a long time. I agreed, and I am willing to try anything that is beneficial to your studies. As a result, you won, and your mother also fulfilled her promise and immediately bought you the pair of shoes that cost you more than 1,000 yuan and cost one-third of your mother's salary. So it's not that you can't do it, it's that you don't put your heart into learning -- that's what makes Mom angry. It's not terrible to be stupid, it's not shameful to be slow, it's shameful to be lazy and unmotivated, and to blindly indulge yourself.

As soon as the school started, Mr. Wang Xyu communicated with his mother, and he hoped that you would either transfer to another school, or the No. 7 Middle School would come forward to help you nominally transfer your student status to another school, and you would still study in No. 7 Middle School. He said he had talked to several other parents of students in the class who were not doing well, and one of those parents agreed to transfer, while the others chose the second option. Moreover, the homeroom teacher of each of your ten classes is like this, asking students with bad grades! I was really stunned, I really didn't expect the famous No. 7 High School to have a high admission rate in this way! I told Mr. Wang clearly: I can't do it by transferring schools! We don't have a relationship, where to contact the school? Besides, what school is willing to accept a student who does not have good grades? I don't approve of the second method either, because it will definitely affect your learning. I said, "I hand over my children to you, and you are responsible for the education, and the family is in charge of overseeing them." We parents should be blamed for the child's bad behavior, but the teacher's problem should be blamed for the child's poor grades. Didn't an educationalist once say, 'There are no bad students, only bad teachers'? I think my child has a very good character and self-care skills, otherwise why would he have won these awards every year? That's what you can see, right? He understands the problem poorly, responds slowly, you teach like a cramming duck in class, his poor grades should be a problem of the education system, how can you transfer him out? What is the essence of education? Teacher Wang was speechless.

I understand Mr. Wang's distress. The current education has deviated, and the promotion rate of students in the class is directly related to the economic benefits of teachers and the influence of the school on the outside world. No. 7 Middle School, a national famous brand key junior high school, if there are so many students with poor grades, how can it be justified? I finally knew why No. 7 Middle School occupies the first place in the key junior high school in Sichuan Province, it turns out that these students with poor grades are transferred and separated in this way, and the rest of the students are all with good grades, so of course the admission rate must be high. I understand but can't agree, isn't this premised on sacrificing children? The short-term immediate benefits are premised on the economy, but where is the quality education of children reflected? I'm arguing with reason. I told Mr. Wang that I would not transfer to the school, and I also wanted my son to graduate as a student in No. 7 Middle School. I told him about the hardships I had brought with you for so many years of divorce, I told him about the risks of my pregnancy, I told him that I just want you to grow up healthy and happy, and I don't care the most about good or bad grades. I also told him that if you were asked to transfer to another school, I would have to appeal to the Education Bureau. That night, you were studying on your own in the evening, and I was arguing with Mr. Wang, and I was making my last effort. We argued for two hours, and I said a lot, a lot...... In the end, Mr. Wang took a step back and made a concession. He said that if you are given another semester, if you fail any two subjects of physics, mathematics and chemistry more than twice a month, you will have to choose the second method in the next semester. I had no choice but to compromise. After all, you still have to study here for a year, how can you not bow your head when you are under the roof? What's more, your grades are like this, no matter how healthy and sunny your heart is, it will not be able to change the entire education pattern in China. Mom just hopes that you will be sensible, stop being playful, and work hard to make up for your studies as soon as possible. That night I thought twice about conveying the conversation to you without affecting your self-confidence and learning, and without hurting your self-esteem. You were silent for a long time, as if you understood something, but you didn't say it, and I didn't say it. For a long time, you have worked harder and made small progress!

Children are always children, and their playful nature cannot be changed. I remember once dictating English words and phrases, you were in the study and I was outside in the living room, I read one and you wrote one by one, and it was done quickly. I think it's strange when I see that you're all right: no matter how good your English score was, you wouldn't be able to get your dictation all right. Because you dictate words and require the parts of speech and phonetic transcription, and even all of these are correct, what happened this time? I couldn't figure it out, but I always felt that there was a problem. After careful observation, I finally found the flaw: it turned out that you took a picture with your mobile phone first, and then as soon as your mother read the words, even if it disrupted the order, you immediately wrote it out accurately! You say you have such an IQ, why don't you use it in your studies? Why do such an opportunistic thing? As if studying is for your mother, your mother supervises your study as if you have become a scout. This learning was originally your own task, how did it become like a game life? How did it become a war between our mother and son? Shouldn't I just let it go if I don't "care" about your grades? Should I let you transfer?

I don't know if I'm doing it wrong. Maybe you shouldn't have chosen to live in Chengdu in the first place? Maybe I should let you go to the Yulin bridging class? But there is no possibility in life, and there is no turning back in life, we can only look forward with tears.

Son, my mother is not a rich second generation, and my mother is also very stupid. But my mother knows hard work and hard work. My mother's first major was family planning, and she learned relatively little medical knowledge, but through her own efforts, she is now a qualified deputy chief physician of obstetrics and gynecology. You are not stupid, you are much smarter than your mother, your starting point is much higher than your mother, and your learning conditions are countless times better than your mother's then, which is beyond your mother's reach in many aspects. But what about your learning mentality? Now you don't understand the pain of not getting into college, you don't know the importance of knowledge, and you haven't experienced major setbacks. When you go to the society, people choose you, society chooses you, and your profession chooses you, you will know that you hate less when you use books! When you apply for a job, people may not give you a chance at all! But son, how much does your mother not want you to take so many detours to experience the hardships, and what mother in heaven doesn't want her children to be smooth sailing and safe?

It's been a hard year. Every day after work, after dinner, I take the 153 shuttle bus for an hour to pick you up from school, Monday to Friday, every day, all year round. The 153 bus is a community shuttle bus, and most of the people who ride the bus are elderly, so I can only stand most of the time. The car drove slowly and slowly, swaying and shaking, making the mother suffering from inner ear vertigo miserable. When I arrived at the school gate, I had to stand for half an hour, and I finally looked forward to your evening self-study, and then you dizzy and took the 153 shuttle bus home.

This year, both physically and mentally, I am really tired! There are more gray hairs.

But, I do.