Yuan Min talked exaggeratedly, Chen Xiaoyi nodded in agreement, and Sun Dasheng was dumbfounded when he heard it. Pen? Interesting? Pavilion wWw. ｂiquge。 ｉｎfo

Familiarity with a society is a completely different thing from integrating into a society, Sun Dasheng escaped from the foot of Wuzhi Mountain for a year, and he can't say that he is familiar with modern society, let alone integrate into this society.

Sun Dasheng has no emotional intelligence, and modern society places great emphasis on emotional intelligence.

Here, we have to talk about this EQ and why Sun Dasheng has no EQ.

Everyone has noticed that in modern society, all of a sudden, the whole world has begun to emphasize this emotional intelligence, and even its importance has a tendency to faintly surpass IQ.

Countless experts, countless scholars, countless successful people, they all have their own judgments about emotional intelligence, these people constantly emphasize the importance of emotional intelligence, according to them, it seems that without this emotional intelligence, or emotional intelligence is at a lower level, you will hit a wall everywhere in this society.

In fact, you must not be fooled by the so-called emotional intelligence.

Let's start with another term - "unspoken rules".

The so-called unspoken rules are rules buried under the surface of the water, which are invisible, but they actually exist, and have a powerful ability to influence the social order.

Because most human beings are instinctively inclined to be good, everyone supports fairness and justice, and emphasizes the observance of order, so this has formed a righteous and bright moral system and social system, which is the clear rules, so that our laws must also be formulated in accordance with the clear rules.

But if everyone abides by the rules, then the space for private interests will naturally be small, which will naturally not satisfy some people's greater desire for interests, so the unspoken rules appear.

The emergence of unspoken rules is to destroy the explicit rules, make an opening in the system of explicit rules, and then obtain their own maximum benefits through this opening.

Knowing how to fiddle with unspoken rules is called emotional intelligence.

To put it bluntly, emotional intelligence is the use of unspoken rules, in order to satisfy the vocabulary of some people to obtain super-regular benefits, and in modern society, emotional intelligence has been put on the table by these people who have obtained benefits.

For example, a unit or a certain company is obviously a competition for a post, and it is clear that the capable are preferred, but it is often recognized that the capable person is not selected, and those who only know how to slip around and usher in the delivery on weekdays have risen to a high position - what is the reason? Unspoken rules.

And when everyone starts to talk about it, the leader will say intentionally or unintentionally: "This person's emotional intelligence is not enough, and he still needs to be trained." So everyone seemed to "understand" without understanding.

Got it, this EQ is the unspoken rules you should follow, you don't understand it, you don't cater to it, so your EQ is poor.

Because IQ is visible, comparable, and measurable by everyone, the leader has to find a reason to brush you down, right? Emotional intelligence is then the best excuse – because it gives discretion to leaders.

The people who eat melons think about it, that capable person does bring great pressure to everyone because of his ability on weekdays, and he should be more low-key.

As a result, everyone recognized that his emotional intelligence was indeed insufficient.

But the gem is more dazzling than the pebble, how can he hide the light?

This is just a small example, and in the big picture, emotional intelligence and unspoken rules are everywhere.

Our news reporters often say this -- we hope that Japan and other countries outside the region will not interfere in the situation in the South China Sea and that we will be able to handle our own affairs well.

It's very knowledgeable and emotionally intelligent.

Let's talk about Japan first, after the nationalization of the ******, we have already turned against this "short man", and our strength is stronger than him, so we don't need to give him face, we can directly name him internationally.

But that extraterritorial country is different. This bastard is the world's policeman, for the time being, our strength is far from him, if we really fight with him, we are doing the tactics of injuring a thousand enemies and injuring a hundred, which is extremely not cost-effective, so we have to endure it.

So we didn't name him, everyone knew who the other party was scolding, but the last veil was still there, so after the scolding, we continued to cooperate in the economy, but if Jin Xiaopang jumped up and down, and when you, a foreign country, wanted me to help suppress it, I couldn't secretly make a mess -- let's talk about the conditions first.

Those who do this play with unspoken rules, of course, these people have emotional intelligence, and those who can understand are also considered to be beginners to emotional intelligence, only those who roll up their sleeves and shout every day to beat this and that, that is really lacking emotional intelligence.

So emotional intelligence isn't exactly a derogatory term either.

Well, after talking about so much IQ and EQ, we have to go back to Sun Wukong, do you say that Sun Wukong is a person with emotional intelligence?

Apparently not.

First of all, Sun Wukong can't see the other party's overtures, and if others don't challenge you, it doesn't mean that others are afraid of you, but that others don't want to do much.

But Sun Wukong can't see it.

The example is the first official seal of Bi Ma Wen.

At that time, did Heavenly Court know how powerful Sun Dasheng was? I don't know! Heavenly Court has no contact with Sun at all, they don't know Sun at all, all the information is taken back casually by clairvoyance and Shunfeng Ear, just the epidermis, Heavenly Court does not have a deep understanding of Sun Dasheng.

But Heavenly Court's cultivation is very good, and without knowing Sun, they showed favor for the first time, and sealed Sun Dasheng an immortal official - Bi Ma Wen, equivalent to the current director of the Animal Husbandry Bureau - not at the county, city, or provincial level, but directly gave him a department-level horse management officer--not small.

But Sun Wukong obviously has no emotional intelligence, and when he heard that Bi Ma Wen was just a horse officer, he immediately reversed, and secretly ate the fairy peach and went down to heaven - the internal reason is because Sun Dasheng dislikes this official and is not fat - he can't enjoy the Yaochi feast (hey, the great sage seems to have the potential to be corrupt!). ）。

This is a serious violation of discipline, and if it were placed in modern times, the Discipline Inspection Commission would certainly go to him and transfer him to justice.

Not only that, Sun did an even more outrageous thing in the Nether Realm - he erected a banner, Sun Wukong proclaimed himself the Great Sage of Monkey King, what he did is treason in modern times, and he will be beheaded in any country.

But the cultivation of the heavenly court is really good, the Jade Emperor doesn't want to do much and really gives in, this is emotional intelligence, the Jade Emperor is showing favor to Sun Dasheng - everyone lives in harmony, I don't want to be troublesome.

Who wants to be troublesome again, Sun Dasheng has no emotional intelligence, he can't read or understand, Sun Dasheng's desire can't be suppressed, he can't be a few days and then reversed.

There was no way to do it now, Sun Wukong forced the other party to a dead end, and the Jade Emperor could only turn his face with Sun Dasheng.

As a result, everyone knows that it is resources and friends who fight in wars, and the Jade Emperor has many resources and a wide face; And our Sun Dasheng only has one Huaguo Mountain, and his friends are only afraid of one "Pakistan Railway".

So, he was crushed to the bottom of the Five Fingers Mountain.

This is our Monkey King, he is a big hero, he has great skills but no emotional intelligence, do you know Sun Wukong's habits? If it is not pleasing to the eye, it will be killed with a stick, and there is no room for turning at all, which is very fatal in interacting with people.

Having said that, I just want to show that Sun Wukong's emotional intelligence belongs to zero, so it is difficult for him to integrate into modern society.

…… (To be continued.) )