Chapter 180. Tears of tears failed to bloom. If I hate for whom?

Hua Jianhong grabbed Fan Ermao with a look, and said eagerly: "Don't go!" You, sit down. Pen Fun Pavilion www.biquge.info They don't let you say, I let you say, you say, go straight to the inside, and it's not for them to see their fate, I'm not afraid of you saying it, saying it! Now I just want you to see where to go, if not, I'll divorce him, divorce him and let him look outside, and it has nothing to do with me to find a thousand or ten thousand. As he spoke, he pulled Fan Ermao back to his original position.

Fan Ermao looked at Fan Ganni, Fan Ganni's face was so ugly, her lips moved a few times and she didn't say a word, but Xin Lihong hurriedly hit the garden, and said with a smile: "I think so, Mr. Fan, you just have to say, Gan Nili, don't stop you, you are also kind, you are afraid that Mr. Fan will speak too bluntly and hurt Jianhong's sister, but then again, this hexagram really needs to listen to some straightforward words, the rooster crows, the hen lays eggs, each performs its own duties, you have to make it clear." I think it's better for Mr. Fan to say. ”

"Say, you just have to say anything, I can afford it, say it." Hua Jianhong looked at Fan Ermao's blue eyes and said with certainty.

Fan Ermao got the holy decree, and he was not polite, and he didn't look at Fan Ganni and said: "I said sister, you listen, your man wants to be promoted." The promotion is prosperous and wealthy, and the fortune is affectionate. Which class do you want to say amorous? Just to hit the stars of wealth. The official stars are prosperous, and the official women are generally the same. ”

"Mr. Fan, don't talk about poetry. To put it bluntly, I heard you mean that the man in my family has a woman outside, so why should he be promoted again? I also know that he has a woman outside, but he just lied to himself, and never thought about it, so I have to tolerate him? ”

"Yes, your man has a woman outside, why is it linked to a promotion? Girl! The child has no mother, and it's a long story. Would you like to listen to me? ”

"Willing, willing, you say, I'm about to suffocate to death during this time, I always want to find someone to lalagua, there is no such suitable person, I caught you today, and I will talk about the grievances in my heart."

These two people talked speculatively, but left Xin Lihong and Van Gannie aside. Van Gannie just fell to the ground, and he didn't say a word, sitting on the side with a dark face and listening to them. Just listen to Fan Ermao said: "In ancient Chinese fortune telling, what is husband and wife, fortune teller compared a woman's husband and lover to the official star in the eight characters, and the man's wife, little wife, junior, lover, likened to the wealth star in the eight characters. In the eight-character time, look at the male life first look at the wealth star in the eight characters, and look at the female life first look at the official Lu star of the eight characters. To put it simply, to look at a man's life, he must first look at the strength of his wealth in the eight characters, and to look at the woman's life, he must first look at the strength of his official star. So, why do men look at wealth and women look at officials?

Because the value of a man's life is reflected by the amount of wealth. And the value of a woman's life is reflected by the living environment in which she lives. To put it bluntly, a man is rich and powerful in society, and the higher the degree of wealth, the higher the value of his life, and the wealth star is the official star, the wealth is the mother of the official, the wealth is the official, you are rich, and the natural official will come, even if you are not an official, you are also a friend of the official, and the social status will follow.

And why is a woman's life value reflected in the environment in which she lives? For example, if a girl is born in a bureaucratic family, the bureaucrat's family is naturally a deep house, if you are born into an official family, the bigger the official position, the more constraints you will receive, on the contrary, if you are born in a small official family, you will be less constrained. This confirms the theoretical truth of numerology, that is, the stronger the official star in the female life, the stronger her self-restraint, the more rigorous this person's behavior is, and the person who is strict with himself must have a noble foundation, even if she can't have an official and a half-job, but she must be a person with a rigorous style. At the same time, this also reflects a truth, why the woman who is injured in the eight characters must fail in marriage, the reason is very simple, the injured officer is a free star, does not like constraints, and marriage is a closed environment, when freedom and constraints conflict, the woman with the strong official star chooses to restrict, and the woman who hurts the official star chooses freedom, this is the truth that women judge the noble and low with the strength of the official star.

In the same way, when a woman gets married, who she marries also determines what kind of environment she will live in. When you marry an official, you naturally have to live in a supervised environment.

Living in a miscellaneous courtyard, you are naturally free and unrestrained, and naturally there are not too many people to restrain you, of course you are the character of a wounded officer, open, willful, free, unscrupulous, and do not like to restrict.

If you marry an official, what does it mean to be an official? The official is a management system, a restraint mechanism, and the official itself is a restraint mechanism, and if you marry an official, you will naturally enter the restraint mechanism, and be restrained and constrained by people everywhere. Naturally, it is the character of the official star, you will inevitably be introverted, rigorous, upright and upright, strict with yourself, restrain yourself, suppress self-awareness, be lenient with others, and have the idea of serving others.

The reason is very simple, that is, the greater your man's official position, the greater his power, the higher his reputation, and the bigger the house you live in, because the official is born with a Yin Xing, and the Yin Xing represents the house, power and reputation. You understand what I mean, right? ”

"It's a little bit clear, but it's a little academic, and it's better to be able to speak it in the vernacular."

"To put it bluntly, I'll use an analogy, a man is like a pot, and a woman is a tank. A man's value depends on how big the urinal is and how much urine it can drow. A woman is like this tank, and the value of a woman is to see how big your tank is, how much it can hold, and how big its capacity is. The more a man drowns in this urinal, the higher your value will naturally become. Woman, the larger the capacity of your tank, the more abundant you will naturally get wealth and glory. This metaphor is too clear, you are a woman, you are born in everyone, you are a big vat, large capacity, wealth and glory, you enjoy it to the fullest.

If you are a lady, after you get married, you marry a big urinal, you can naturally continue to maintain wealth and glory, of course, the prerequisite is that your big vat must be able to accommodate, must have a large capacity.

If you inadvertently marry a small urinal, then your wealth and glory will shrink and be discounted.

If you are a big vat and have enough capacity, but you marry a small urinal, then there will be two results, either you leave the small urinal and change to a large urinal; Either you don't leave the little urinal, so you have to work hard for the world by yourself, you have to show up to fight the world, and build the stupid little urinal you married into a big urinal, if your urinal can't stand the tempering, calcination, no matter how to build this small urinal is not forged, can not adapt to your big vat, no matter how he drows, drowning bleeding, drowning uremia can not satisfy your big vat, then you have to change the urinal, otherwise, you only have to converge your big vat, change the big vat small, Adapt to your husband's little urinal, lest he die of exhaustion and drown in your vat.

In the same way, if your tank is too small, and the man's urinal is full as soon as he soaks it, then it is normal for him to drown the excess urine in other people's tanks.

You get the idea. If your small tank can't accommodate the big urinal of County Magistrate Yang, it will be inevitable for him to find another tank to drown. Having said that, as long as a man is looking for a woman outside, it means that his wealth is coming, and his official fortune is also coming. ”

"You're right." Fan Ermao was about to continue, but Hua Jianhong interrupted and said, "I heard from my man that he just got a doctorate in philosophy from the provincial party school. ”

"Look, I said that your man should be promoted, which means that he is not far from going to the next level, you can wait for good news at home." Fan Ermao glanced at Hua Jianhong and said: "You have to believe what I said, men have no money to find any women, those who ask for food have no last meal, not to mention looking for women outside, and no one will follow him if he finds a wife at home, so don't mention that men are looking for concubines, their eyes are red and desperate, you must know that concubines are partial to wealth, what is partial wealth?" Partial wealth is big wealth, windfall, wealth from all directions, partial wealth is like a concubine, no long-term affection, no long-term will, anxious to come and go, suddenly obtained, big wealth, get urgent, go also anxious. So wives and concubines are always associated with money, if you suddenly come with a lot of money, what do you say, a man will inevitably find a woman to spend when he comes to a big money, if you are an official, suddenly come to a big money, you will inevitably want to make progress and go to the next level, then the first sign is that there are women outside. Like your husband is now the deputy county magistrate, and his career development is running at a high level, the official strength will naturally act in turn to be wealthy, and when the wealth is prosperous, there will naturally be women to follow. In ancient times, there was even a matter of women as tribute between countries. Therefore, once a man or a woman encounters marital and family problems, as long as it is related to money, it will be related to women.

For example, divorce, for men, divorce is equivalent to breaking money, and it is a complete financial break. Divorce for a man means that you not only give your money to someone else, but also your woman and possibly become someone else's woman. As I just said, a woman is a water tank, a man is a urinal, and when the urinal is big, as a wife's tank, you have to adjust the capacity to accommodate his urine, if you don't adjust it, you can't accommodate this pot of urine, and the final result is only divorce.

In the same way, women are water tanks, and the tanks are bigger, so as men, work harder to adapt to changes in the environment. If the tank is smaller, drown less, shrink your circle of interests, and narrow the gap between husband and wife. Therefore, both men and women must constantly adjust their mentality and adapt to each other in their married life, so as not to change the urinal and the tank. Your man is now drowning other people's tanks, you have heard about it, you must feel uncomfortable, you want to smash the outside tank, and even smash the urinal together, if you smash the tank outside him, you are equivalent to smashing your man's partial wealth, partial wealth is gone, who is the loss, or yourself. ”

"If he smashes it, he can also find a woman outside." Hua Jianhong interjected fiercely with a glare.

"Medium, medium, smashed, smashed, smashed what good can you get, I will slap your mouth first and then speak, as long as you smash the tank outside your man, your family's wealth will come to an end, your man's official will come to an end, and your glory and wealth will also come to an end. Don't believe what I said, whoever catches the junior and beats him half to death, and makes trouble in the city, this family will have no luck in breaking money, going bankrupt, and falling apart. Do you want to destroy your home? You have to find the reason, where is the reason? The reason is yours. If you are a big vat, he will not be satisfied with any drowning, will he still go out to find a vat? At most, if he is out to hunt some game, he will not have the heart to raise a concubine. You savor what I said carefully, whether it is right or not, whether it is coarse or not. Fan Ermao spoke at length, and the three women who listened were speechless, stunned. People say that three women are in one play, and now they are dwarfed by this storyteller.

However, Xin Lihong is knowledgeable and reacts quickly, and first broke the silence, so she heard Xin Lihong say: "Don't say it, what you say doesn't sound like you do, and this is the truth when you taste it, just say me, let's talk first and then speak." Let's just talk about the man in my family, he was originally a poor bastard, and his family was poor and clean. Later, he married me, and he played one day at a time, and within a few years, he was trained by me to become a leading figure in the bureau, and now he is the director of the bureau, and I think I am his wealth. ”

"Yes, you're right. What Brother Ermao said is not rough. As soon as Xin Lihong's voice fell, Van Gannie took over: "Listen to you, I also think it's right, just say me, that year in the silk factory to fight for the project, I ran to the end of the road, thinking that if this thing doesn't work, I won't do a little work, I smashed the family into it all at once, and I owe a lot of debt, if the project can't fight, hey, then I really only have a dead end, don't say it, I'm bold and careful and shameless, and I can't do it, just then, I transformed the person who built the wall into a big boss." Do you say that I brought him a blessing, I am his wealth, just that one project, after it is done, I will carry home two sacks of money, I am not his treasure, but as Mr. Fan said, my family's urinal is a little small, and my tank is big, so I have the final say on the big and small affairs of my family, and I have to worry about it. I gave him this treasure but even gave him money, and I gave him enough every day, but his hanging thing was too small, and he was not satisfied with my big vat, and every time he was half a day, he leaked, and I was upset, scratching my ears and cheeks, and when I wanted it again, he was gone.... Ha ha.... The woman burst out laughing, and the atmosphere in the room came alive, and the three women chattered together again.

"Then according to you, I only watched him raise women outside, so what became of me?" Hua Jianhong glared at Fan Ermao and said fiercely.

"Alas, the Chinese are all dualistic thinking, confusing everything, trying to seek "harmony" in everything, and seeing the relationship between husband and wife as a relationship in which you have me and I have you and you are entangled, even if there is a problem in the middle, they do not think it is their own mistake. Try to use the thinking of "points" to look at your current relationship between husband and wife, and analyze whether your relationship between husband and wife has a situation of "points". "Divide" is the concept of Westerners, Westerners like to divide everything clearly, Ding is Ding, Mao is Mao, the rules are clear, everything is clear. Westerners like the AA system, with clear personnel and no confusion with each other, which makes it easier to be friends. The same is true for doing business, the clearer the division of businessmen, the easier the business to do, the longer the friendship, the same is true for business partners, and the relationship between husband and wife, you will try to deal with your husband and wife relationship with the way of thinking of "points" from today onwards, and use your tank to pick up his urinal in stages, don't keep thinking that yours is mine, and mine is also yours, thinking about welding the urinal to your tank, not abandoning, confused, you try to use the "points" thinking method, maybe you will get unexpected results. Fan Ermao also laughed after speaking.

Precisely:

Close to the north and south of the world,

It's hard to do anything from afar.

Tears full of tears have not bloomed,

If I hate, for whom? (To be continued.) )