I've never dreamed of getting married, and I don't expect anything from it......

Playboy Joseph Pine said something similar, "Love is a game, marriage is hell, high, don't go astray because of a momentary delusion"

Gao Min naturally didn't take it seriously, he took it as a joke, watching Joseph go further and further on the "wrong path" and become a faithful advocate of the institution of marriage, "Schwartz said that marriage is the essence of a complete life - hey, Gao, as long as you find a satisfactory spouse, you can grasp the true meaning of happiness like mereads;!" ”

From abroad to China, he has seen many pseudo-celibates in the game world, who ignore family love, but indulge in lust, and are hedonists who do not want to be constrained by family ethical relationships.

But Shu Neem's serious eyes told him that she was not joking, nor was she showing her personality through shocking remarks, she was thinking that marriage had nothing to do with her.

Gao Min had a faint sense of anxiety, and the wine he drank in his mouth became bitter, and he tried his best to restrain himself from letting his emotions dominate his thinking, and tried to give Shu Neem an understanding rationally.

Shu Neem raised his head to drink the wine in the cup, and then raised his eyebrows and smiled at Gao Min's lips, "What, do you feel that you have been impacted?" Mr. Gao is well-informed, shouldn't be, maybe you think that my words are not inferior and offend the sacred marriage, so what about Mr. Gao's opinion, for marriage? ”

"Marriage, a project worth investing in for a lifetime, I will hold it for a long time, and I will never quit halfway, for marriage partners, I will keep my promise and never give up until death separates us!"

The ridiculous words choked in her throat, Shu Nee put away the banter, poured another glass of wine, and took two sips slowly, she pondered what to say so as not to appear frivolous, especially when the other party talked about marriage with a cautious attitude - what you don't care about, may not be that others don't care.

"Never leave...... Mr. Gao's wording is strict, the promise is indefinite, life is impermanent, can we have the final say? Death and life are broad, and Zicheng said. Hold the hand of the son, and grow old with the son. The most widely circulated famous sentence in the drumming chapter of the Book of Poetry, people only see what they want to see, and the yearning for beautiful love is nothing more than to grow old with the person they love, but the last two lines of the poem have been ignored. Yu Xun Xi, I don't believe it. Sigh and say goodbye to you for a long time, and it will be difficult to meet you again. Sighs are too far away to fulfill that vow—behold, that's reality! ”

"Your view of reality is negative, including marriage", Gao Min carefully considered, "It is true that there is no perfect person, perfect love, perfect marriage, and there must be flaws in the jade, but we can't just choke on food and take a detour"

Shu Neem smiled meaningfully, "How to face the imperfect world is always more experienced than me", especially the person who pursues perfection was severely hacked by his fiancée, and the green hat on his head still trusts love and marriage, no matter how he looks at it, his heart is so relieved that he can sing and cry. It's better not to say what to say, it's better to live with hope than to despair!

The voice outside the string is said to those who have a heart, if you don't understand it, it's boring, obviously Gao Min understood, and he didn't shy away from saying about that past, "I met Alyssa for six years before we confirmed our relationship, and in the seventh year, when we were still adapting to each other's loverness, she met my partner, and quickly married him after breaking off the engagement with me...... A lot of people thought I was losing face and suffered a huge blow because of it, and even fell away from love. To clarify, they misunderstood. For me, of course, there are regrets, more is introspection, I seem to see the relationship between men and women is too simple, thinking that as long as you don't hate it, you can build a family, acquaintances are better, save unnecessary steps - acquaintance, understanding, running-in, time is precious! ”

Shu Neem's expression seemed to have been quick-frozen, and he expressed his surprise vividly, "Uh...... Although I don't have much interest in starting a family, you are too rash about getting married! There is a saying, the most perfect love is in the novel, the most perfect marriage is in the dream, and the most perfect person is in the eulogy, unsatisfactory is as ubiquitous as air, it is right to face the reality, but is it really appropriate to develop acquaintances into wives or husbands? Let's quote a famous quote again, Leonidova said that the basis of marriage is love, attachment, and respect, and I especially agree that if there is no love in marriage, how can two people spend a long time, and how can they accommodate each other and respect each other? In fact, there are almost no marriages without conflict, so is it better to choose a partner who is closely related to the rest of your life? ”

Gao Min smiled slightly, "Given that since puberty, I have known only a limited number of girls, and Alyssa is the closest to me, the feeling of closeness clouds our judgment, you must know that we get along very easily, similar to brothers and sisters, I think let's get married and become legal relatives, after all, it is too troublesome to re-acquaint women ...... As for the ending, it can only be said that life will never go according to plan, Alyssa chose another man, I bless her, and at the same time feel relieved, I feel that it is an opportunity for me, a chance to find a soul mate, and it is great to live with someone who has the same heart, isn't it? ”

It's really self-explanatory...... Shu Neem is powerless to complain, how to say that it is also a relationship of mutual engagement, one party says to withdraw, it is too contemptuous of the spirit of the contract, the other party let go amicably, should it be said to be generous or not to care? Strange is puzzling, besides, the soulmates who don't touch the soul are looking away, are you sure you can find the soulmate?

Shu Neem's small action of rolling his eyes was caught by Gao Min, "What, do you have any objections to my statement?" ”

Shu Neem laughed dryly twice and spread his hands, "In the concept of physics, uniform linear motion is an ideal state, and similarly, soul mates are also, maybe I am lonely and unheard, I have never seen anyone marry or marry a soul mate, even love is very scarce, it's not that I said you, Mr. Gao, it's not good to set a random goal, it's not good to set too surreal, the probability of finding a soul mate is comparable to finding an alien in the vast universe reads;! ”

Gao Min squirted out a sip of wine, laughed and climbed down on the table, then straightened up and looked at Shu Neem and laughed again, laughing while wiping the wine stains with a tissue.

Shu Neem gnawed on the chicken for a while and threw it into the bowl, glanced at Gao Min and asked, "Funny?" When I tell jokes? ”

Gao Min shook his head, "Obviously you are very strict......", and laughed softly as he spoke, "I'm just thinking that you don't like to study liberal arts, I bet that liberal arts students generally don't quote physics concepts, of course it doesn't matter, if you can't find a beloved, and I don't reject marriage, with your high opinion, what kind of person should I find to swear loyalty and share every moment of my life with her?" ”

"It's very easy to do, find someone among your acquaintances who is good at chatting, and when you are old, you can't go anywhere in a rocking chair, at least you don't have to look at your wife and have nothing to talk about, sometimes you like to talk nonsense is also an advantage, otherwise old age life will be lonely!"

"Your advice is good, in order to avoid loneliness and old age, I will actively consider it!" Gao Min paused for a while and asked: "Regarding feelings and marriage, you have a sober and mature understanding, why don't you get married?" In my opinion, you are more qualified to organize a family than someone who blindly walks into marriage."

"Organize a family ......", Shu Nee shook the wine glass, and said casually: "Is it okay to be unmarried?" Under the framework of the law, whatever you understand, there are those who like to get married, there are those who don't like it, I want to be born with freedom from outside interference, philosophically speaking, negative freedom, yes, as long as you fall in love and get married, don't think about having negative freedom, or you just empower myself! ”

Through the dense heat, Gao Min lowered his face slightly, his expression was blurred, and Shu Neem saw him pull the corners of his mouth, "Unmarried? No, you're not. Not married is not the same as loveless or sexless, some people don't want to be bound by a marriage letter, they choose to live together, enjoy sweet love and simple life, they have a partner just don't get married, strictly speaking you are a pure celibate"

Shu Nee disagreed, and asked: "How can you see it?" ”

"The state of your life is the most powerful statement"

"The state of my life? I don't know what you're based on, maybe I'm the same-"

"You're not gay", Gao Min categorically denied, "Your computer screen composed of the International American Men's United States ensures that your sexual orientation is normal, and you are not an ardent fan of asceticism, you have not given up all your enjoyment, live like a religious ascetic, except for not dating, your quality of life is quite high, this is not like the ascetic who treats yourself harshly in the impression of ordinary people, to sum up, you have actively chosen a lifestyle of not falling in love and not getting married, that is, celibate in the narrow sense." Otherwise, I really can't explain why you, a healthy person who is excellent in all aspects, have been 'alone' so far. ”

"Do you mean that you describe me as a person who rejects □□/sex/life, does not pursue the same sex or the opposite sex?"

Simply and directly and rudely, yes, putting aside the implicit rhetoric, Gao Min really thinks so, is there any other explanation for the oolong diagnosis that went to the hospital after the car crash?

Shu Neem seemed to be amused, and laughed for a long time before clearing his throat and saying: "Listen, I won't label myself, but we can talk about celibacy, first of all, I am sure that I am not a patient with psychological and personality disorders, as you said, I am a healthy person, and what makes you wonder is why people who have no problem with psychology and physiology have non-mainstream marital values, right?" ”

"In a social atmosphere dominated by heterosexual marriage, there is very little room for non-mainstream marriage values to survive, and the attack and rejection of external public opinion, and the criticism and pressure of parents, it takes a very strong heart to resist this qiē"

"I rarely explain to people why I don't even have a boyfriend when I'm older, and when I'm bored by the question, I joke that I don't have peach blossom luck or haven't met the right person, and people will think, ah, she's a picky person, not a pervert, when you live a different lifestyle than most people, people will think you're weird, and judge you with tinted glasses, so to be safe, I'm not going to talk to them in depth, and since we've had a drink and we're on the table, let's just talk." What do you think about intimacy? ”

Gao Min was surprised by Shu Neem's frankness, her thinking was clear and organized, obviously not affected by alcohol, she was still drinking with ease, her eyes were sarcastic, her expression was unruly, and after taking off her protective color and disguise, she gradually revealed her arrogant nature.

He was excited, Shu Neem at this moment was the real her, so he told the truth, as if revealing the secret from the bottom of his heart, "I long to be intimate with another person, in this world, she will be my closest relative, she will live in my heart for the rest of my life!" ”

"It seems that you take intimacy very seriously...... But I'm a lightweight person, when it comes to intimacy, of course, you can't avoid sex, the book says that love is the sublimation of sex/desire, I 100% agree, everyone chooses lovers according to their own sexual preferences, such as homosexuals looking for the same sex, heterosexuality looking for the opposite sex, what kind of people I love happen to be the same sex and other rhetoric don't mention, it's just obeying the * needs, why whitewash! The great leader said that there is no love without a cause, and who will fall in love with the soul before the outward appearance? Quasimodo, the bell tower weirdo of Notre Dame Cathedral, is noble and kind in his heart, but who does the heroine love, a scum who has nothing to show for it, human beings are so superficial"

"So you're resistant to intimacy?" , Gao Min frowned.

Shu Neem raised his index finger and shook it, "This question is a bit complicated, let's discuss it from a physiological point of view first." I've seen an American drama where Dr. House, and one of the characters in the play says, do you know what happens to the human body when you havesex, the pupils are dilated, the arteries are constricted, the body temperature rises, the heart beats faster, the blood pressure soars, the breathing is short and rapid, the brain is radiating electrical impulses wantonly, various glands discharge secretions, the contraction of the muscles is equivalent to lifting a weight three times your weight, in short, sex does not make our body healthier, on the contrary, the danger it brings is fatal, all kinds of infectious diseases, Especially when it comes to indulging the body! ”

"So—is sex dirty and ugly in your eyes?"

"That's not it, I mean you have to treat it with a normal heart, don't beautify, see the essence through the phenomenon, what is love? Love is the foreplay of racial reproduction, and the main thing in creation is that there is no sexual implantation fun, can the great cause of having children continue? ”

"According to you, love is a lie, a trick played by the multiplication of the race, an animal instinct?"

"No, this is a blessing from heaven to mankind, and we must learn to enjoy it. My friends have a harmonious and beautiful two/sex/life, and I will be happy for them, really! It's not so much that I'm resistant to intimacy, it's that I'm resistant to the troubles that come with intimacy."