To persuade a person, in addition to reasoning with facts, you can also play the emotional card and the strength card.

Wei Qian is young, how many people are willing to listen to what she says? Playing the emotional card? According to Wei's father's personality, the patriarchal attitude may not give her this opportunity.

Moreover, in the eyes of outsiders, this marriage is indeed beneficial to Wei Fu, and it is also a good person for Wei Qian. The only one who voiced opposition was Wei Qian.

Eat the guard, wear the guard, and want to play the temper of the eldest lady?

Wei Qian is not stupid, she knows that she does not have this qualification. At present, she does not have the strength to make decisions about her own marriage. Not only her, but also the princesses in the Daming Palace are also difficult to determine their own fate. A lot of the cultivation of them is for this marriage after adulthood.

It's just that Wei Qian was even more unlucky, and she decided to get married when she was seven years old. In the future, when going out and walking, under the label of Huangfu, you need to be more cautious when doing things.

"Strength!" Wei Qian helped Jia Mei choose the golden lock, and after showing her attitude in front of everyone, she returned to the house to meditate. After Hongchun sent Wang Xifeng away, he stood outside the door, pacing back and forth, worried about Wei Qian's situation.

But Wei Qian understood better than she thought. In today's society, where men are dominant, the only way to control their own destiny is to find another way.

Women can't be officials, so if you want to not rely on men and become immortals, the only way to grasp your destiny is to do so.

Gather your thoughts, try to empty the distractions in your mind, and begin to visualize the bright moon.

Xuan Yun specially explained several taboos of visualization to Wei Qian, and when visualizing the Inviting Moon Chart, the most taboo is distracting thoughts. If your mind is unstable and your thoughts are full of distractions, you should never meditate alone.

There is also Xuanyun Protector in Doumu Temple, and Wei Qian is the only one in the Wei Mansion.

So, I tried not to think about it, tried to empty my mind, and it took me half a day to finally find the feeling of yesterday.

Knowing the sea, the silver moon rises, the fairy dances, and the wisps of spiritual rhyme turn from the heavenly spirit into the limbs and hundreds of remains. It's just that compared to last night's visualization, daytime visualization is nowhere near as effective as last night's.

"Is it because I don't see Yuehua, or am I alone because I don't have the help of Senior Sister Xuanyun?" I couldn't figure it out, so I had to put it aside: "It's better to wait for the evening." ”

However, if you want to collect the moonlight at night, there is a huge difficulty.

Person!

Leaning on the head of the bed, her eyes were on the door, and the girl's brows were tightly locked: she followed Hongchun and Huangyang all day long, and she couldn't hide the matter of visualizing qi training.

"My father refused to let me read more of the Four Books and Five Classics, and let me learn "Female Rings" and "Female Virtues" every day. If he had known what qi refining technique I was practicing, I was afraid that he would have been beaten with a stick earlier. Wei Qian thought about the strategy of turning around, and immediately had an idea.

"Chun'er, come in!" Raised his voice to call Hongchun: "Come with me to eat with my mother at noon." ”

There are only four serious masters of the Wei Mansion at present, and Mrs. Wei has been in poor health all these years, and she fires herself in the backyard all the year round. Wei Yan and his colleagues were drinking outside, and they often didn't see anyone at noon. And Wei Qian and Jia Mei also share their own fires, except for the dinner party when they are sometimes together, they rarely eat together on weekdays.

Hongchun guarded the door for most of the day, and when she saw Wei Qian finally speak, she was overjoyed. Push open the door and come in: "Miss, have you figured it out?" ”

Wei Qian smiled and took Hong Chun's hand to find Jia Mei.

Huang Yang happened to come back from making tea, and when he saw Wei Qian and Hongchun leaving, he hurriedly prepared Wei Qian's chopsticks and other things, and also went to Jia Mei's main courtyard with him.

After Wei Yan came back to discuss with Jia Mei, he went out to drink with his comrades at noon. Jia Mei took care of things in the house for a while, and it was time for lunch.

Seeing Wei Qian coming, Jia Mei hurriedly said to Dai Lan beside her: "Miss is here, you let the kitchen prepare a few more dishes." ”

"No, you don't." Wei Qian sat next to Jia Mei: "Daughter, it's enough to see these dishes." ”

Jia Mei was born in the mansion of the Duke of the Kingdom, although she was born from the concubine's room, she has never lacked brocade clothes and jade food since she was a child. She is particular about eating, and she only ordered someone to prepare four dishes and one soup, as well as three side dishes with condiments and two plates of snacks.

Although Wei Qian has been in this world for seven years, she is still not used to this luxury. Glancing at it, I can see the dishes on the table clearly.

There is a pot of simmered chicken soup with green bamboo shoots in the middle, and there are four dishes on the side: five-spiced drunken goose, stir-fried pork with white sauce, hibiscus tofu, and fried eggplant with duck feet, as well as three side dishes of salted white melon, sweet ginger in red sauce, and dried tofu in oil.

On the other table, there are prepared flower sugar chestnut cakes and lotus seed taro balls.

"What's the suffice of this dish?" Jia Mei beckoned to Dai Lan: "You go to the kitchen and say something, let them steam a few more braised eggs and fry two side dishes." By the way, Qian'er doesn't like meat food, so she prepares two light vegetarian dishes. ”

"Yes." Dai Lan went down to prepare, Huang Yang put down Wei Qian's special chopsticks, and Hongchun used a fine porcelain bowl to hold a whole bowl of stem rice.

The white crystal rice emitted heat, and the red toon next to it was already served with soup. The newly simmered green bamboo shoots are simmering with a few months-old pheasants, which has a unique taste.

Wei Qian was sitting precariously, not squinting, showing everyone's beautiful style, Jia Mei couldn't help nodding when she saw it.

"Standing, sitting, walking, and sleeping can best see a person's etiquette cultivation, and Qian'er is not in vain for me to teach hard for many years."

The birth of aristocracy is not only about money and land, but also about etiquette.

Now that the dynasty has been open for a hundred years, Jiafu and Weifu are only knighted with the □□ to fight the world. In the eyes of those families, they are just nouveau riche.

Three generations are not called nobles.

The ancestors of Jiafu were also shrewd and attached great importance to the upbringing of future generations. And the man marries, the woman marries, Jiafu is the home of Zhong Ming Dingshi, and the daughters of Jiafu are mostly princes and nobles, if they don't cultivate their daughters well, they will be enemies at that time.

Otherwise, how can someone say: If you want to take revenge, the best way is to give birth to a daughter, and then deliberately teach it badly, marry into the enemy's family, and harm its family.

Jia Mei's grandmother was born in a family, and she deeply understands that what Jiafu lacks most is its heritage. Strictly taught Jia Mei and other daughters, in order to increase their worth when they married in the future.

It's a pity that her grandmother left too early, and Jia Mei's marriage was handled by Jia Shi's family and married to Wei Yan, a noble disciple who fell into the middle of the family business. It's a waste of my grandmother's hard work.

"Otherwise, according to my grandmother's teachings back then, even if you sit firmly on one side, the marquis and the wife deserve it." Jia Mei remembered Jia Shi's deeds back then, and she hated in her heart. "She only cares about her own daughter Jia Min, and she has always suppressed and despised our three daughters, if it weren't for Wei Yan's respect, I'm afraid it would really be as she meant!"

Jia Mei married into the Wei Mansion by herself, and spent many years bowing her head and frowning in front of Mrs. Wei, until Wei Qian was born. But the upbringing things that Jia Fu learned were not used in the Wei Mansion.

Wei Yan is a rough man, where does he know so much. If it weren't for Jia Mei's strong request, I'm afraid Wei Yan wouldn't even let Wei Qian learn to read, no different from Wang Xifeng. It is called "a woman is virtuous if she is not talented".

Thinking about it in her mind, Jia Mei maintained the grace of being a housewife on her face, and said to Wei Qian: "You have learned this etiquette well, in the end, you have the blood of our Jia family, and our daughter's upbringing is never worse than that of men." ”

Wei Qian nodded and served Jia Mei with dishes.

Seeing Wei Qian's posture of picking up vegetables, Jia Mei shook her head: "The basic skills are still complete, but this will show up immediately as soon as I eat." "Pick up a small mallet from the side and pose as Wei Qian's pick-and-shoot vegetable.

"Picking up food for the elders is also a science, to be able to watch, listen, act, and stop, you also need to touch the minds of the elders and think about what the elders want to eat in advance. Raise your hands high, and you need to be humble to your elders. ”

Wei Qian obediently felt taught, and carefully sandwiched a piece of eggplant for Jia Mei.

Jia Mei immediately said: "Another science in this dish, the thorny and bony things try to move as little as possible. If the elders choke, it is not yours if they are stuck. If something greasy falls on you, you will suffer too. ”

Suddenly, Jia Mei stopped and sighed: "Forget it, it's useless to tell you this." This is the rule of young women of those princes and princes, if you marry the Huang family in the future, according to the customs of the Huang family, you will not pay attention to these things. You just need to be more respectful to your elders, and more attention should be paid to Huang Bao. ”

"There is another way to see the difference in intimacy between peers, if it is between husband and wife, in order to show intimacy, behave and deed should be closer to each other. But it is a practice in front of outsiders, and it is another practice for couples themselves. In front of outsiders, you must maintain your wife's manners and not be too flattering. Couples can act more often when they are alone. ”

Wei Qian's face couldn't help but smile, and she smiled bitterly in her heart. The reason why she didn't want to eat with Jia Mei was because she was afraid of Jia Mei's chatter. In her previous life, she boasted that she was already very particular about dining, and she was often called a Sven person, but she was full of mistakes in front of Jia Mei.

"Fortunately, it is worn from a small fetus, if it is really mixed halfway, I am afraid that it will be exposed in three days, and when the time comes, it will be brought to those Buddhist masters, and it will be destroyed as a ghost immediately."

This meal was eaten carefully, and it wasn't until Dailan sent three braised eggs that Jia Mei let Wei Qian go: "This method of peeling eggs has also taught you, you can try it." ”

Marinated eggs, open the upper end of the raw eggs, remove the yellow and leave them clear, pour the chicken broth marinade and stir, and then re-steam with ham capping. When done, it is still in the shape of an egg.

Wei Qian sighed and picked up a boiled egg, which was still a little warm at this time. The slightly upturned jade finger tapped carefully, and then stretched out two fingers and slowly pushed them away.

"Yes, this egg peeling test is a test of finger skills, and it is also a test of a woman's softness and elegance. If you are stupid to peel the eggshell with one hand, or the egg white is shredded, it will be a loss of honor in some occasions. ”

Wei Qian didn't speak, and silently peeled the eggshell, but it seemed that there was something wrong when steaming the eggs, and some of the egg whites at the bottom were stuck to the shell and torn off.

Wei Qian hurriedly pinched the part of the eggshell in the palm of her hand, and hurriedly put the braised egg into the plate and handed it to Jia Mei: "Mother, please use it." ”

From the appearance, the surface of the whole braised egg is smooth, and there is no crack at all.

Jia Mei gently moved the chopsticks, saw the part of the egg white that was torn off at the bottom, frowned, and saw Wei Qian's palms closed, and quietly put the egg shells stained with egg whites into the handkerchief, and said, "The reaction is not bad." If something goes wrong, you have to try to fix it right away, and if you can't do it, cut open an egg. If you peel eggs for your mother-in-law, hand the remaining half to your father-in-law, or give the children around you, don't leave a chance for comparison. ”

This is Jia Mei's personal experience. When she peeled eggs for her grandmother when she was a child, she and Jia Min handed them at the same time. As a result, she peeled it better than Jia Min, and in comparison, the egg that Jia Min peeled was pitted, and even stained with other soups and broken eggshells, and my grandmother didn't eat a bite. And she was praised a few times, and later was targeted by Jia Shi's and suffered a few secret losses.

"It's a pity that there are only three people in the Huang family, Huang Bao, but there are not so many relatives and friends." Wei Qian said quietly.

Jia Mei was stunned and couldn't help but smile bitterly. Yes, she cultivates her own daughter, which is working hard in the direction of everyone marrying into a prince. Although the Huang family is a scholarly family, it doesn't seem to be qualified enough to pay attention to these.

"Forget it, let's learn more, it doesn't hurt."

"When it comes to no harm, my daughter remembers one thing. The Huang family prides itself on being a scholarly family, and Huang Bao will inevitably take the road of scientific research in the future, if his daughter is not proficient, she will be despised by others. ”

"That's why I wanted you to learn more that day, but unfortunately your father refused to invite you to Xixi, I taught you to read and write, but further poetry and song will not be." is not afraid of god-like enemies, but afraid of pig-like teammates, when she encounters her own one, Jia Mei's various actions are overturned, and she can only watch and be helpless.

"My daughter can't learn poetry and songs, but I talked about piano skills when I chatted with Sister Xuanyun last night. If you learn the art of piano music, it can be regarded as a skill, and you will not be disgraced by your background. ”

When Jia Mei heard this, her heart moved. Qin, chess, calligraphy and painting do not seek to be proficient in everything, but at least take out one, and then marry into a scholarly family can also have a long face.

"That's fine, but your father's bullish temper is hard to find you a good gentleman."

"Why do you need my father to come forward? Sister Xuanyun in the temple is the best at piano skills, and she was also a generation of people in the past, so I just ran over there. ”

"It's okay, Master Xuanyun is a woman, so you don't have to worry about any problems with men and women." Jia Mei said to the maidservant girl beside her: "You write it down, go back and prepare a piano for the young lady." Prepare some more gifts for Master Xuanyun. ”

Seeing Jia Mei agree, Wei Qian's heart was happy. As long as you agree to learn the piano, you can go to the Doumu Temple more, and when the time comes, you can also shirk the visualization and meditation is a preparation for studying the way of qin music and calming your mind.

As for why it seems to be the same as Taoist Qi refining, it was originally a piano technique passed down by Dao Gu, so that you can swagger and practice in front of everyone.