When Niu Tiangou took Dr. Xue Lian's hand and walked towards the fountain, they didn't notice that this scene happened to be seen by Li Xiaohong, who was wandering on another path in the park.

"Well, look, those two people seem to be Niu Tiangou and Doctor Xue Lian." Li Xiaohong hurriedly took Bai Lisa's hand and pointed to the fountain.

It turned out that Bai Lisha originally wanted to ask Niu Tiangou out to have fun today, but after being shirked by Niu Tiangou, she had to pull Li Xiaohong out to go shopping, and she came to the park after shopping.

Following the direction of Li Xiaohong's finger, Bai Lisha really saw Niu Tiangou and Doctor Xue Lian walking towards the fountain, looking at the intimacy of the two of them holding hands, the relationship must be unusual, and it seems to have developed to the level of love.

Bai Lisha never thought that Niu Tiangou shirked herself, but secretly went on a date with Dr. Xue Lian here!

Bai Lisa only felt a "buzz" in her head, like five thunderbolts, and stood there motionless.

"What's wrong with you?" Seeing Bai Lisha's pale face, Li Xiaohong hurriedly asked.

"I didn't ...... It's nothing. Bai Lisa forced herself to calm down, turned her head and said to Li Xiaohong, who looked surprised, "Maybe...... It's too tired to go shopping today, let's go back to ...... Let's go back. ”

……

Niu Tiangou and Doctor Xue Lian went straight to the pavilion bench and sat down, the fountain in front of them was still spraying very high, bringing a trace of coolness, which was very refreshing.

"How are you going to handle your relationship with Vice Dean Ma?" Niu Tiangou stared at Dr. Xue Lian's delicate face and asked a little worriedly, "How can you refuse him without offending him?" He's your immediate boss after all. ”

"What do you say?" Doctor Xue Lian smiled faintly.

"Me?"

didn't expect her to ask herself, Niu Tiangou was stunned for a moment, and then said embarrassedly: "I am ...... The one who is the least good at handling interpersonal relationships, especially the relationship between superiors and subordinates. At present, in any unit, the leader only likes to obey himself, please himself, and curry favor with his subordinates, and does not like people who have opinions and go against their own wishes. ”

"Oh? Do you have any experience in this area? Seeing that Niu Tiangou seemed to be deeply touched, Doctor Xue Lian smiled again, tilted his head and asked, Danfeng's eyes were shining.

"Of course." Niu Tiangou looked at Dr. Xue Lian and said thoughtfully, "It's just because I have my own opinions, I have a stubborn personality, I don't know how to have a good relationship with the leader, and I don't know how to make sycophants, so I have been unsatisfactory." This is one of the main reasons why I came to this coastal city away from home. ”

"Tell me about it." Dr. Xue Lian seemed to be very interested in his past affairs.

Seeing that Dr. Xue Lian looked listening, Niu Tiangou thought about it and simply opened up the topic. Uncle Taurus doesn't mean that those who love each other's souls are also in love, and their hearts are in love, their souls are in harmony, their gods are connected, and their spirits are in ...... Is that the blending of things into the only one?

Only by opening the heart can we communicate with our hearts.

So, in one breath, he said that when he was a teacher teacher before, he was not good at communicating with Teacher Geng, which caused Teacher Geng to report prejudice against him, and he lost the opportunity to go to the county seat when he graduated, and was assigned back to Beihe Town; When he returned to the Beihe Town Education Group to report, he had a big "oolong" with Principal Hu of the town middle school because he was not good at observing words and feelings, and was transferred to Tuhuang Township Middle School; Later, he was demoted to a primary school because he was dissatisfied with the problems of eating and drinking at public funds, traveling at public expense, and falsifying school registration by the leaders of the township middle school; Later, he was transferred to Nanshan Town, and he didn't know how to give gifts and pull relationships, so he was assigned to the most remote belly valley primary school; Later, he was transferred back to Xinxing Town, and he was dissatisfied with the school's indiscriminate fees, the "whirlpool" of favors, and the school district's "miscellaneous" accountants blatantly falsifying their seniority, so they simply talked about it before and after they came to Binhai without pay.

After hearing this, Dr. Xue Lian smiled softly: "I didn't expect that you were still a stunned person." ”

"But ......" Doctor Xue Lian stopped laughing and seemed to be serious, "Your personality and attitude towards others really have to be changed slowly in the future." Judging from what you said, it's a pity that I lost several opportunities because I was not good at handling the relationship with the leader. ”

"You mean...... Do you want me to learn to please? Niu Tiangou looked at her a little strangely.

"Of course not. I've never been used to those men who blindly please others, are obedient, and have no backbone. ”

Dr. Xue Lian glanced at him and said, "What I'm talking about is dealing with people, that is, we must be good at handling interpersonal relationships, especially with leaders, and reduce unnecessary troubles, which is also a science."

"People inevitably have to deal with others, they will live in a certain interpersonal relationship, and the most important thing to deal with others is to learn to respect others.

"People want to be respected. Take you in a normal school as an example, respecting the teacher is a person's good moral cultivation, this is not a pleasing horse, but a virtue that a student should have, but you are alienated from Teacher Geng because of your likes and dislikes close to Teacher Tang, and even saw him deliberately take a detour, his self-esteem was hurt, do you have a good impression of you? Of course, he will have to deal with Mr. Tang on the issue of your final assignment.

"Besides, when you went back to Beihe Town to report, Principal Hu took the initiative to greet you and ask about your hobbies, it should be said that he cares about you, you should treat him politely, and communicate with him by the way, which is the minimum respect for people, but you can't control the loss of not being assigned to the county, and ignore him, let him put a cold ass on his hot face, so that a big principal who is used to hearing compliments can't get off the stage in front of others, can he feel good? In the end, it is not surprising that you were transferred to Tuhuang Township Middle School.

From these two things, it shows that your ability to deal with interpersonal relationships is very poor, in the final analysis, it is a lack of emotional intelligence, not good at communication, and will not behave in the world. This may be related to your low self-esteem and semi-closed psychology due to your short stature. ”

Unexpectedly, Dr. Xue Lian's words were unceremonious, to the point, and they were so similar to Uncle Taurus's words - Uncle Taurus once said that one of the things he lacked the most was emotional intelligence, and although Niu Tiangou was unhappy after hearing it, he also felt that she was telling the truth.

Seeing that Niu Tiangou's face seemed a little embarrassed, Dr. Xue Lian slowed down: "It is not easy for a person who has nothing to grow up from the grassroots level, in addition to strong personal ability, there is also an important condition to handle interpersonal relationships, especially with leaders, otherwise, no matter how strong your ability is, you will not be recognized by others, and sometimes you will even be treated coldly and suppressed, which is very detrimental to a person's development."

"There are also a few people with a personality like you in our hospital, who have a high IQ and low emotional intelligence, do not know how to behave in the world, have strong self-confidence, have poor interpersonal relationships, and have an awkward relationship with the leader.

"They don't understand that life is sometimes unfair, they don't know how to get used to it, they don't know how to take a natural attitude, and they don't know how to put more energy into what they can do well. If such a person does not change his personality and attitude towards the world, he will be the same in any unit, because the rules of each unit are the same.

"You've probably heard of the success equation of 'success = 20% IQ + 80% EQ', right? In order to achieve success in your career, in addition to a high level of business ability, it is more important to have a high level of interpersonal skills.

"Some people don't care about maintaining a good relationship with their superiors, just like you, think that their character is like this, stubborn and even contradict their bosses, this kind of people have a low IQ, and they are relatively smart, but they don't dare to compliment EQ, but they don't know that 'character determines fate' actually means that EQ is more important than IQ, and EQ determines fate.

"People with high IQ tend not to have high EQ, while people with high EQ tend to have a high IQ. Those who seem to be smart have many special personalities, and they always want to do everything they can to change others, as if everyone else has changed, and his world will be there.

"In fact, only after you adapt to this world can you really own this world. Since it's too hard to change others, why not change yourself to adapt? 'Natural selection, survival of the fittest', changing oneself is the real change -- it is normal for people who can't even handle their own direct superiors to not be appreciated and promoted.

"Because no matter what unit you are in, whether it is a promotion or a salary increase, most of your future and destiny are in the hands of your boss. Therefore, it is very important for you to maintain good communication with your boss and then build a good relationship with your boss, and it is also a rule of survival in the workplace that you must memorize. ”

Hearing this, although Niu Tiangou felt that her words were reasonable, the corners of her mouth raised a hint of playful arc, and deliberately retorted: "Are you saying that patting horses, stammering, and pleasing is a kind of cleverness, emotional intelligence, and everyone should be flattered, and follow the rules of the game of 'the strong are king, and the weak are obedient', so as to get benefits from it, this is the 'traditional virtue' and philosophy of our people for thousands of years?"

"If we all do this, in this era of slavery, everyone will be servile people, act according to people's eyes, unprincipled flattery, whiskers, flattery, flattery, gifts, grievances in front of leaders and strong people, and even fold themselves at will, twisted like individuals, like dogs?

"I still admire the poet immortal Li Baihao: An Neng broke his eyebrows and bent his waist to deal with the powerful, which made me unhappy! admires Zhu Ziqing's backbone: he would rather starve to death than eat the relief food of the rice country. People are not arrogant and servile, and people are spineless. ”

After listening to Niu Tiangou's "generous statement", Dr. Xue Lian smiled, shook her head helplessly, and then said patiently: "I don't mean to accommodate others unprincipledly and violate my conscience. People cannot be without principles and lose principles, nor can they be too principled and rigid in principles. Adhering to principles should also pay attention to methods, and those who are rigid but not tough will not be able to achieve great things. ”