【Original text】Married lovers, married, more in love. Married and lightly in love, the taste is the same as chewing wax; Married without love, in the same bed and in different dreams. Su Lian is like this, especially erotic love.

What about those who are in love and have no love? The conditions change, or the appearance changes, or the wealth changes, or the soul changes.

The color is fleeting, the age is easy to twilight, the skin is easy to decay, the person is easy to age, the youth cannot be retained, and the face is like catkins, which is a change in appearance.

Money is easy to gain and lose, things are easy to rise and fall, family is easy to rise and fall, wealth and glory are exposed, and the rich and poor often alternate, which is a financial change.

Character is difficult to change, will is difficult to change, quality temperament and demeanor are difficult to change, knowledge is difficult to change, and habits are also accumulated; However, thoughts are changeable, desires are changeable, feelings are changeable, and over time, the character will gradually change. Why? The times have shifted too. This is a soul change.

If the appearance changes, the glamorous person loves relaxation and looks better; If the wealth changes, the rich will love Chongqing, and the future will be more wealthy; The soul changes, and the soul is different, and the period is even more.

The conditions are slight, the love is light, and the erotic love is still sustainable; If the conditions are different and the feelings are different, the erotic love will change.

Erotic love changes, the difference in cover conditions, and the reciprocal balance is broken, and there is no other.

Men and women in marriage and love value marriage and love more than love. After marriage, love is indifferent, and marriage is like the taste of chewing wax (tasteless); After getting married, there was no love at all, and (although) sleeping in the same bed had their own plans (thinking about the person they liked). This is true of plain love, and even more so is erotic love.

What is the reason for the indifference or even the absence of love at all? It's because there has been a big change in the conditions (of one of the two sides), or there has been a change in appearance, or there has been a change in money, or there has been a change in the spirit of the soul.

People's beauty is easy to fade, age is easy to get old, skin is easy to wrinkle, people are easy to age over time, youth can't be retained after all, beautiful appearance is like spring catkins (easy to pass away), this is the change of people's appearance.

Money is easy to accumulate and easy to lose, wealth is easy to rise and easy to fall, (from a long-term perspective) the rich family is as easy to disappear as the dew on the grass, poverty and wealth often occur with people's efforts to exchange and replace the phenomenon (not immutable), this is the change of people's money or family.

It is difficult to change people's moral character, will, temperament, and demeanor, and knowledge, because of the habits formed by long-term accumulation; However, people's thoughts are easy to change, easy to change, and emotions are easy to change, and over time, it will eventually lead to a gradual change in people's moral character. Why? The change of time and the change of environment will change people's thoughts and feelings. This is the change in the spirit of the human soul.

If the appearance becomes (aging), then the feelings of the person who is in love with the appearance of the other person will be slackened and slackened, and he hopes for a younger and more beautiful appearance; If the property becomes less or even bankrupt, then the feelings of the person who loves the property will change and hope to get more money; If the soul spirit becomes decadent, then the feelings of the person who is attached to the spirit of the other person will change, and he hopes that the soul spirit is nobler.

The changes in the conditions (appearance, property, soul and spirit) are small, and the feelings are (although) indifferent, (but) erotic love can be maintained; If the changes in the conditions (appearance, property, soul and spirit) become particularly large, and the feelings are greatly different, then the erotic love will inevitably change.

The fission of erotic love (or the breakdown of marriage) is due to a particularly large change in the conditions of the (man and woman), the reciprocal balance (of the conditions of the man and the woman) is broken (it can no longer be maintained), and there is no other reason (all other reasons are excuses).