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Wang Jian said: "Don't make trouble, the people of the secret realm obviously keep a lot of things, since you know some news that everyone doesn't know, share it, do you want me to die here?"

Lu Qingyi suddenly raised his hand, as if he was showing something to Wang Jian, and said: "You obviously know that I can take you away at any time, the space of the secret realm is different from the earth, as long as you find the right way, you can leave at any time, my original plan was ......"

"I know, I know ......"

"As for you, come with me. ”

"You know I'm worried too much, and it doesn't stop you from staying. ”

Lu Qingyi angrily pointed to Long Yifei's position and said, "Then he was caught by that woman?"

"You know that she didn't report your situation to the mission, and you're already saving face. ”

In fact, with the strength of the Great Grandmaster, it is really not something that the two of them can fight against.

Lu Qingyi intervened and said, "She has a very hot fight with that son." ”

Wang Jian turned his head with a bang.

At this time, the welcome ceremony had ended, and the purpose of the trip of the three Bai brothers and sisters, Qiao Suya, appeared, which was a formal diplomatic occasion, and there were also a large number of members of the mission standing around.

After all, not to mention Long Yifei's status in everyone's minds, they are two secret realm nobles, so it is very worthy of curiosity.

Bai San is personable, and it can be seen that he is wearing a robe embroidered with a golden dragon, and he can't see it when he is sitting in the car before, but standing in the hall at this time, it is completely different.

The sister next to him pulled Qiao Suya to speak, but he focused on Long Yifei.

Long Yifei behaved very well at this time, and he didn't have the fatigue of confronting Lu Qingyi all night, and he talked very happily.

"Well, if you continue to talk to her, it will be equivalent to having ...... A million rivals? Is it simple? ”

Wang Jian smiled bitterly, remembering something, only to remember that Long Yifei is not only a great master who can destroy the world, but also a popular national goddess, if this is discovered, she should be killed by angry fans.

If you think about it, you're a fool.

Being in Suzaku, and the goddess of the university, can occupy a small island to live, and it is very mysterious, and Ji Aoxue is a relative, and he didn't think about that place, and he should be damned.

I should have thought about this world, and it was very simple to change my appearance.

Of course, this is also a change of surname and name, and the performance is ordinary, not related to the arrogance of a big star at all, if you don't tell yourself, how can you know that Long Yifei herself is an art name, and Long is the surname of someone's father, and everyone has long known that Long Yifei was born as a descendant of Zhou Yu, and her surname is Zhou.

Zhou Fei is Long Yifei, this is as long as you recognize the inheritance of the Zhou family, understand the meaning, and the previous generation of Zhou is a lady, oh no, mother-in-law, you will understand the meaning, well, old man, you have worked hard.

sighed and thought about something, but Lu Qingyi quickly grasped a little vein in Wang Jian's thoughts: "How about it, I feel that marrying this woman is very stressful, and I don't even have your surname." ”

Wang Jian glanced at her very affectionately and said: "When we have a child in the future, we will have your surname, anyway, I don't have any palace inheritance, I don't care, the surname Lu is not bad." ”

Lu Qingyi's body trembled, as if he had thought of something, but he turned his head and dropped a sentence: "Who knows if it's true or fake." ”

Wang Jian sighed, this is the tradition.

Lu Qingyi found a place to continue to observe.

And on Long Yifei's side, Wang Jian also heard something.

Bai San, this kid is really shameless, just come over like this, don't even hide it, just a posture that I'm here, you come to soak me.

Wang Jian stood on the side, gritting his teeth, Long Yifei occasionally glanced over, but he made a look, but Wang Jian glared at him even more dissatisfied.

At this time, it seems that I should kill the past directly, I'm afraid that you won't succeed, now is a good opportunity, as Tang Tieshoe said, it's best to disrupt this negotiation, although it was originally intended to sow discord and watch others fight, but now he has become the protagonist, but the goal has been achieved.

Still, he chose ...... Observe?

He looked at himself and realized that he did have a problem with his mentality.

There's something special about me, but that's not a reason why you can be unscrupulous.

You don't have the right to ask others to do anything.

Long Yifei is a woman from a very high background, and in the education of such a woman, self-esteem must come first.

It is also the most important thing for a healthy relationship between a man and a woman.

Get your mindset right and don't control each other.

The key to whether a relationship can last is how to digest and deal with the negative experiences in the relationship. If these negative experiences can be held, talked about, and accommodated, then the positive experiences in the relationship will naturally prevail and the relationship will continue on and on. If these negative experiences cannot be held, talked about and accommodated, then it is inevitable to see them in action (quarrels, fights, cheating, divorces, tearing up).

Think of the other person as an individual, not as someone you want them to be.

In a relationship, we want the other person to conform to the image of a good man or woman within us, but this expectation becomes a source of conflict between us.

Be able to speak openly and honestly. Many people are not good at talking about negative experiences in relationships, especially those who are emotionally depressed or have a passive personality. This suppression of negative experiences can sow the seeds of conflict, estrangement, misunderstanding, and resentment, and when they accumulate to a certain extent, they can use strong destructive outbreaks as an outlet to further damage the relationship. So, when you have a negative experience with your partner, be sure to learn to speak up. The process of speaking is not only a process of emotional release, but also a process of understanding and digesting. Negative experiences that are not digested can become a time bomb in a relationship.

Emotionally driven words and actions can lead to traumatic experiences in the relationship that cannot be healed.

The contradiction between two people does not arise out of thin air because of a long time together, and the contradiction is foreshadowed from the beginning of the two people. This is true for any couple. We must realize that contradictions are not sudden eruptions at a certain moment, but have always been a torrent of undercurrents, and the causes are all in each other.

It may be difficult for us to perceive, since we can remember, we have already drawn a blueprint for future lovers, love, feelings, and life, and we have always had high expectations, to find, to pursue, to believe, to start, we have already set our own expectations, and the person we fancy, the person we choose to be together, is the person who absolutely meets their expectations, at least on the bottom line of expectations.

Every time we think of our lover and that ideal partner, we are full of confidence and energy, because we seem to see the joy and glory of our expectations and needs being met. At this time, the contradiction has been buried, and we habitually believe that the happiness, security, self-esteem, or many other things we need can be realized by others, especially those we fantasize about lovers, love, feelings, life, and have long drawn a good blueprint.

This is a terrible thing, because in this world, there is no one who can fully meet our needs, we often meet people who can meet some of our needs, and the terrible thing is that we feel that this person is so appropriate, so perfect, we feel, we believe, we think, we think, he can meet all our needs.

When we start with such a person, when we start with such an attitude, if we are not careful, the relationship will fall apart, and this stage is the most insurmountable gap between all lovers, and this state is the most difficult state for everyone to perceive. The kind that cheats on feelings, doesn't count.

The cause of conflict in a relationship is expectations, the purpose of expectation is to have our needs satisfied, but this is not the purpose of love, but we are controlled by our own expectations, and when the other person does not meet our expectations and needs, we begin to suffer.

I just want to see what I think is an expression of love, and I am deaf to other expressions of love.

For example, A thinks that someone who loves me should buy me apples to eat, which is A's expectation. B loves A very much, and one day after work he bought a banana for A to go back, A felt that this man didn't understand himself and didn't really love himself, and then A asked B to buy apples and let B do things according to his own standards of behavior to meet his own needs, thus ignoring B's feelings.

Expectations will eventually be disappointed and turn into disappointment, and in the end of disappointment will be anger, even resentment.

For example: A asks B to buy apples, B doesn't go, and then A gets angry, A's two expectations are not met, maybe they are noisy at the time, or they are quiet at the time, and then in the following time, they keep hinting at B and constantly expressing their expectations, but B does not meet A's expectations, and even if they do, A can't see it, so A feels that he has not been satisfied, so he has been very unhappy, and then secretly hates B, as long as there is a chance, it is definitely a big war.

Expectation is like a cage that locks the love that belongs to us inside without us knowing it. In the whole process of expectation, A has long forgotten that she is still in love with B, and this is how expectation hinders the love in our hearts, the more we expect, the more we deny our love in our hearts, and finally do ruthless and unrighteous things, say ruthless and unrighteous words, and hurt each other fiercely.

I want others to love me, accompany me, understand me, tolerate me, and never leave me, I want others to envy me, praise me, praise me, I can't accept that person comes and leaves, leaving me alone, lonely, ridiculed and ridiculed by those around me, this is my expectation, my needs.

This can only show one problem, I have been a person who has not been noticed, valued, cared for, respected, appreciated, and praised since I was a child, so this loss and lack of attention, longing and disappointment have planted the seeds of pain in my heart for a long time, but I have never paid attention to it before, and even denied his existence all the time. So in the long-term relationship, after we see our own expectations, we really have to think about the needs behind our expectations, I have always believed in my own needs, in fact, they are also the needs of many people, of course, this is another problem, the problem of traditional education methods, I grew up in the suppression since I was a child, and I didn't get any encouragement, so it became like this, fortunately, I woke up early. Of course, specific, different people, need to think about it, there may be other reasons.

Long-term relationship is a spiritual cultivation, hard and tribulation, every love is a torture and exploration of the heart and soul, only in this process can we learn to love, and those who are still hovering in how to start a relationship, every day shouting that I love him, love to death or live people, really do not experience the waves in the relationship.

Only those who step through the rough waves at a certain moment will know what color the sky is, and there are so few such people.

Because everyone wants to find such a person, because such a person has faith in his heart, love and love. Very few people want to be like that, because everyone wants to be loved.

The funniest thing is that if you tell the kind of person who wants to be loved every day, you can try to learn how to love others, try to reflect on your inner pain, face your inner expectations, and he thinks you are ......

Well, in fact, Wang Jian knows that the so-called love is ......

People are slaves to genes, and love is a means by which genes control people.

Why do people have to reach the stage of sexual maturity to have fantasies and needs for the opposite sex, it is because sexually mature, can reproduce offspring, this is all genes at work (friends who imagine love too well, how to explain how old children will not have love? Say that they are willing to sacrifice for each other how and how to be considered love, no, family, friendship, teacher-student love and other feelings, there are also sacrifices for each other's various interests).

What is the criterion for a man to choose a mate?Good figure, good appearance (means good health, excellent genes, and the offspring will definitely be excellent), and the appropriate age (at the appropriate age for breeding, not for children!Not too old!...... What is the criterion for choosing a woman? Handsome and tall (good genes, stronger survival ability of offspring), well-off family, and talent (the greatest ability to raise offspring)...... In fact, in the final analysis, it is the genes that control people. Scientists tell us that when humans fall in love, the brain produces a substance: the "love hormone" (search for it yourself). It makes people have beautiful fantasies about each other (magnifying the advantages, shrinking or ignoring the disadvantages), but this substance can only continue to secrete for about 3 years, and the love will end (if you can't calm down, it is not good for raising offspring). At that time, it is family affection that continues to maintain the marriage, or the passion is gone, and they break up.

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