Wu Qianqian said: "A confidante will neither have children and daughters with a man like a wife, but will never have a ** and money relationship with a man like a lover, she is just the woman who is willing to share the happiness or sorrow of a man." ”

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Xia Lin asked: "Sister Wu, can you say that my wife is a woman who has no blood relationship with that man, but is worried about the man not coming home late at night; A lover is a woman who has no family relationship with that man, but who gives the man a taste and dies to his heart's content; A confidante is a woman who has no real relationship with the man, but is willing to share the man's happiness and sorrows. ”

Wu Qianqian said: "Charlene is right, confidante is indeed such a woman. When a man is sick in bed and in pain, and he is about to die, the person who holds his hand is flustered and tears are undoubtedly his wife. Because she was afraid of his pain, afraid of his death, and longed to be painful for him, to die for him......"

"Sister Wu, if you face the same problem, what will happen to your lover?" Shiqing asked.

Wu Qianqian said: "When a man is sick in bed and in pain, and he is about to die, the first person to leave him must be his lover, because there is not much affection between lovers, and since the lover can no longer rely on it, the lover will also go on with thirty-six plans." ”

"Sister Wu is right. As the saying goes: husband and wife are birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster comes, and husbands and wives are still like this, let alone lovers? Liang Li said.

Shiqing continued to ask, "What about confidantes when faced with the same problem?" ”

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Wu Qianqian said: "When a man is sick in bed and in pain, and is about to die, the confidante will neither cry nor part, but stand in front of the bed, quietly stare at him, read his heart, and then use her mouth, her eyes, and her heart to tell him that she knows where his pain is, and she can not only understand him, but also be willing to share it silently for him, so that his soul is no longer lonely." From this, there is an essential difference between a mother-in-law and a confidante: the wife cries because she loves him; The confidante doesn't cry because he understands him. ”

"Wow! Sister Wu is like being someone's wife and confidante, and she says it too incisively. Charlene said.

"you, you've just been someone's wife?"

"Sister Wu, do you want to express what you mean? Charlene, a big perverted woman, has she been someone else's wife? Liang Li said.

"Haha, I said Lily, what do you mean by over? Am I still Yang Ronghua's wife? Charlene laughed.

Wu Qianqian said: "Isn't this a rush, let me forget that she is a married woman." I should say this: Charlene, a stinky guy, has been someone's confidante. ”

Charlene said: "What's wrong with being a confidante? Didn't you just say that a confidant is a confidant who is a little worse than his wife's love emotionally, a little more than a friend's friendship, and not a confidant who goes to bed with him like a lover? To put it bluntly, it's just a good friend who transcends friendship, so what's the point of doing it? ”

"Actually, what Charlene said is still reasonable, to put it bluntly, confidantes are actually good friends who transcend friendship, and such a relationship will not bring trouble and impact to the families and society of both parties." Xie Shiran said.

Wu Qianqian said: "Shiran has a point. As the saying goes: A wife makes a man feel distressed, a lover makes a man a headache, and a confidante makes a man feel no pain anywhere. She will not be like a lover, involved in other people's husband and wife feelings, affecting other people's family relations, let alone corrupting the social atmosphere, affecting social harmony, so, in fact, confidante is not only a stabilizer of the family, but also a good helper for maintaining social stability. ”

Cui Yingying asked, "Sister Wu, how do you understand the meaning of this family stabilizer and a good helper for maintaining social stability?" ”

Wu Qianqian said: "Because the wife is a kind of constraint, restricting a man from casually associating with other women, over time, it will cause men to rebel; Since the lover is a kind of compensation, compensating for the passion that a man cannot get from his wife, over time, it will affect the family; The confidante is different, she will neither touch the minefield of feelings, nor will she sleep with the man she likes. When a man encounters the above problems, she will kindly propose solutions, point out the maze in the man's heart, and guide the man to deal with the relationship between husband and wife and maintain a good family relationship. Yingying, you say, is this confidante a stabilizer of the family? ”

"Sister Wu is right, from this point of view, Confidante Yan does play a very good stabilizing role in family relationships. So how to understand the role of confidantes in maintaining social stability? Cui Yingying asked.

Wu Qianqian said: "Modern society is composed of thousands of families, only when each family is harmonious, can the harmony and stability of the whole society be realized, therefore, in view of the important role played by confidantes in family harmony, it is not an exaggeration to say that she is a good helper for social stability." Cui Yingying said: "It makes sense." ”