"What are you doing?"

Wang Jian has lost his grasp of time here, but human beings feel that time itself does not depend on watches, but on hunger.

However, what made him vigilant was that under the slight negligence of Wang Jian, Xuanyuan Mingyue had already fooled the three fat men clearly.

At least Xuanyuan Mingyue already has an extra set meal in his hand.

"This thing is not healthy, there is too much fat and fat, if you eat it again, you will become the future wife of the three fat people, uh, three fat people, do you know my wife, how about letting Sister Mingyue be your wife." ”

"Wife, wife. ”

The three fat men can bring Xuanyuan Mingyue to eat here, so they naturally trust her very much, but at this time, they are giggling and clapping.

"Okay, I have a wife. ”

"Get out. ”

"By the way, three fat people, if you want to get married, you always need a new house, don't you, do you have it? ”

"Bride, yes, to marry a bride, you have to buy a house and a car. ”

Wang Jian was shocked by the education of the three fat people's family, well, it is estimated that this is the occasional gossip.

"By the way, you know how to get in those places. ”

Wang Jian said simply, but the three fat men thought about it rarely: "I...... I don't know. ”

"Don't know?"

"yes, I don't know. ”

Wang Jian was annoyed and said, "Then I can't help it, without a new house, Sister Yue can't be your bride." ”

"Well, those places are not easy to enter, my mother said, the things there will kill people. ”

Wang Jian shook his head and searched for this information in his heart.

Well, still no information.

Because when mothers scare their children, they can use a lot of serious information. Standby station

There is a story that people regret in later generations.

said that there is a mother who has no experience with children, so she uses tricks to scare children, for example, if you make trouble and are disobedient, let the police uncle take you away.

Over time, in the minds of that child of a few years old, the police uncle is the most terrible person in the world.

So, one day, the child went missing.

Afterwards, on a certain surveillance video, the child was seen.

And at that time, a police officer did see him, and also noticed that this child of a few years old, alone, somewhat crying.

However, the fear of the police caused him to run away.

At the very least, no one ever saw him on surveillance or in reality.

This kid looks like the three fat people.

So, what's in the captain's room or other secret cabins?

Education.

The so-called horizontal comparison is with the neighbor's children, the other children in the class, some children... In fact, parents should see their children's own growth, rather than seeing how other children are blindly following, even if their children are not so good compared to others, as long as the child is growing and progressing, constantly improving, catching up and surpassing is only a matter of time Education is a long-term thing, but many parents do not have patience, hoping that their children will be able to do it immediately。

Keep an eye on the grades too closely, take the exam, and don't pay attention to how many points the child has scored, compared with whom, how many points are more. During the summer vacation, the children's cram school is breathless, shuttling between several classes a day, the purpose of which is to achieve results, the cram school for language and mathematics is to get scores, piano, guzheng, dance classes to be graded, calligraphy, sports to be awarded. In fact, growth is the most important, if you pay attention to the growth of children, pay attention to habits, etiquette, psychology, health and other factors, the results are actually the fruit of the branches, naturally it will not be bad, besides, to the society, more attention is paid to the comprehensive quality of children, that is, things other than books.

The vast majority of parents in this world do not think that family education is a skill, they always naively think that as long as they give birth to a child, they will naturally know how to educate their children, but education is a skill, a knowledge, and a skill that needs to be learned and practiced with experience to master, of which experience is very important. The longer I stay in the normal college, the more I feel that the pool of education is too deep, each stage of children's growth has its characteristics, and education needs the close cooperation of the school, family and society to complete, countless educators have written so many works on education, involving all aspects, and the university has only learned a few years in the past few years. I don't know where Chinese parents get their self-confidence, their methods are rough and primitive, their perception of education is stuck in the "tiger mom and wolf dad" or Harvard female Tsinghua man, when there is a problem, they always ask "why is my child disobedient?" Few people can think of "Is my method deviated?", they are not willing to spend time reading books on education, and they are not willing to review their own behavior and family relationships... He is full of foul language, but he asks his children to be civilized and polite, he is lazy and lazy, but he asks his children to study diligently, he is irritable and irritable, but he asks his children to be docile and obedient, and he does nothing, but he asks his children to get ahead;

In primary education, some theories have been put forward, allowing children to learn in happiness, reducing the burden of homework, and giving children more space to learn freely. Education is never a happy thing, for children, free play is much more interesting than in school, if learning is really so happy, smell the chickens dance, the head hangs over the beam, the cone thorn strand will not be passed down through the ages. Education is an activity that requires a lot of hard work to achieve results. Of course, it is not advisable to blindly study hard, the way of learning lies in having tension and relaxation, it should be said that happiness is important, but learning is more important, only at the age of learning to study seriously, it is possible to pick the fruits of learning at the age of harvest. There are also many parents who compare China's education with foreign education, and most of these parents have not experienced that kind of learning, but only hearsay, so they will bring out happy education at every turn. I only saw people happy, but I didn't think about the education mechanism behind them. South Korea's gaokao is called more brutal than the death penalty by its own college entrance examination candidates. The elite of Europe and the United States are ahead of college courses. To say that foreign education is easy is definitely not to go through field research.

Feudal society has a distinctive characteristic: the big guys are peasants. People are often united not because they need each other, but because they share the same production methods and life experiences. People also dealt with blacksmiths and blacksmiths, but the relationship was too thin, and the peasants were mainly with the peasants, because everyone was farming in the same village. Modern society has a different characteristic. Some people grow tomatoes, some buy tomatoes and sell them to factories, some produce tomato paste, some sell tomato sauce to restaurants, and some are cooks. Everyone is different, and people are strung together more organically on a chain. From a personal point of view, if you are a peasant in a feudal society, your network of relationships is like a pool of ocean balls, and everyone around you is almost the same ball as you, which seems to be quite tight, but you don't have much connection in nature.

At this time, the family blood relationship is the closest connection, and the elders, as the core nodes of the family relationship, should respect their arrangements;

Because everyone is a peasant, what you don't know and what your elders know is exactly what you need to know to make a living, so you must respect the teachings of your elders; agriculture is closely related to meteorology, and meteorology has cycles, and fluctuations in 10, 20, or even 30 years. In this case, who lives long and who sees more, young people can't know more than their elders, so they have to listen to their elders. If you are a person in modern society, with you as the center, and there is an intertwined network, maybe a large part of the people around you are not doing the same kind of work with you, maybe you don't even know the content of your partner's work, but you need them, they need you, and you are far more interdependent than one farmer needs another. Of course, there are colleagues, classmates, programmers in modern society who will still know more programmers, cooks who will still know more cooks, and peers and colleagues still play a major role in your life. But you are also becoming more and more inseparable from people who are completely different from you. But in any case, people less and less need for a large family network, the difference between people is getting bigger and bigger, if the elders and you work differently, then no one can guide anyone, and the information explosion, rapid technological progress, young people may have an information advantage over their elders.

The most basic education is survival education. Parents have an obligation to teach their children how to survive in this world. If you want to survive in this world, you have to learn how to take care of yourself. You have to be aware of finding nutritious and balanced food for yourself, and you have to know that you have to add clothes when it's cold and wear less clothes when it's hot. You have to know how to manage your life. You have to know how to avoid risks in social life, you have to know how to pursue advantages and avoid disadvantages, and how to find yourself a bowl of rice to eat so that you don't starve to death. Most instinctively driven mammals are able to do this, and they raise their children with the knowledge of teaching them basic survival skills. Unfortunately, there are many humans, who are also mammals, and for various reasons, are unable to do this. Higher-class parents teach their children how to live. They teach their children how to eat better, dress better, have fun, and have fun, and they teach them how to make their lives happier. They teach children how to get what is valuable to themselves. They teach children how to study, how to take exams. How to socialize with other people, how to make others like you, trust yourself, and give yourself a chance. How to pick up girls, how to flirt with men, how to deal with leaders and colleagues, how to do business, how to fight with other people, how to influence and manage other people. They teach children how to win in the competition of human society. The most senior parents teach their children what life is. They guide children to observe and experience the world. In the process, help children find meaning in their own lives. They don't force their children to indoctrinate them, because they know that everyone is different and everyone's life has a different meaning. They just show their children as much knowledge about the world as they can, and they will eventually find their own way. However, the reality is that there are many parents who are not even able to do the most basic education. They don't teach their children anything, they demand nothing more from their children than "obedience". Children just need to be obedient and obedient, and they don't need to master more abilities. This is not called education, this is called "domestication". There is no difference between domesticating a child and domesticating a domestic animal.

No matter how old thoughts and deeds are, they should not be believed unless they are confirmed. Truths that everyone agrees with today or think they might as well acquiesce are likely to become ethereal tomorrow, but there are still those who think that they are dark clouds that can rain down on the earth. Try out what the old man thinks is impossible, and you will often succeed. The old man has an old set, and the new man has a new set. The elderly, although they are older, may not be able to guide the younger generation better, and they may not even be qualified to do so, because although they have gained a lot, they have also lost a lot. We can wonder how much of the absolute value of life can even be understood by the wisest of people, even if he has lived a lifetime. In fact, older people don't have any extremely important advice to give to younger people. Their experience is so fragmented, their lives have been so painfully failed, they must know that they have made their own mistakes, and perhaps they still have some faith that is not in keeping with their experience, but unfortunately they are not young enough. I have lived on this planet for more than thirty years, and I have not heard a word of valuable and enthusiastic advice from the elders. They didn't tell me anything, maybe they couldn't tell me anything right. This is life, an experiment, a vast part of which I have not experienced, and the old people have experienced it, but it is of no use to me. If I had any experience that I thought would be useful, I would have thought so, an experience that my teachers had never mentioned.

We resent education that is different from our own perceptions, because to admit them is to deny us. We are disgusted with the so-called education that cannot be implemented, because everyone will say these great truths, and I will say them. We are disgusted with these two types of education, and we don't target anyone, except that most of the people who fit these types are rubbish.

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