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"Then do you love her very much?" I went on to ask:

"I love it very much, although we are in a dormitory, but we will still write love letters to each other, we really love each other, compared to those so-called couples in society, I don't know how innocent it is!" Cyy replied:

"Then what will you do with the truth about your relationship with her once it is exposed to the public?" I asked:

Cyy thought deeply for a while, picked up a glass of water in front of him, took a sip and said: "Love, can withstand any test, we dare to face it!" After finishing speaking, Cyy felt a little uneasy, and hurriedly asked me, "You won't tell my parents and teachers about the two of us, right?" I nodded and said, "I'll be concerned about your privacy and won't talk about it, but if your parents ask me how I'm communicating with you?" How should I answer? ”

Cyy thought for a while and said, "You just say I'm in love, which affects my studies." After communicating with me, I suddenly woke up and decided not to fall in love and focus on my studies, so it's okay to say no? ”

I nodded and said, "That's a good reason, I accept it." I can relay this reason to your parents and put your parents at ease. But you have to do it so that it doesn't interfere with your studies. Otherwise, my grades will continue to decline, and I believe that the agreement between the two of us will definitely not last, and your unbelievable relationship will be exposed. Cyy smiled and said, "One word is a deal!" ”

"Cyy, I have one more request. Can you introduce that roommate of yours to me? I want to talk to her. I seemed to think of something, so I hurriedly asked:

Cyy hesitated for a moment and "um" for a long time. Then he said a little embarrassed: "Brother Jiang, she is more introverted and shy, if you ask her out to talk about this matter, I don't think she will tell you, but will be very disgusted with you." ”

I smiled and said, "You're too worried, I'm just talking to her to make sure if she's just like you, and it's also an acquired homosexuality." Of course, I wouldn't just ask her directly. Rather, it will be judged by some technical questions. Cyy nodded and said, "Okay, no problem!" Grant you this request, but you have to invite us to dinner karaoke. I nodded and said, "Okay." No problem! ”

Tips about homosexuality:

1. There are many terms for homosexuality, in general. Male homosexuals are called "gay", "brokeback" and "gay", and female homosexuals are called "lala", "lily" and "lesbian"; In ancient China, the names of homosexuality were more elegant, such as: the good of Longyang, the love of peaches, etc.;

2. Homosexuality is divided into congenital and acquired. Congenital homosexuality is not a mental illness;

3. The gay crowd went from underground to Zhengda because of the Stonewall incident in the United States in 1960;

4. Homosexuals (including bisexuals) account for about 5% of the world's population. This means that 5 out of every 100 people are likely to be gay (including bisexual). So when we meet gay people, we don't need to make a fuss;

5. Homosexuality is only different from ordinary people in terms of sexual orientation, and others are basically the same as ordinary people, so we don't need to discriminate or avoid it;

6. Many countries have recognized same-sex marriage, and the first country to recognize same-sex marriage is the Netherlands.

(Marriages in China have a very high divorce rate because they lack some faith.) Many Chinese people still don't understand a set of data, and many people think that sex. In European and American societies with a high degree of openness, the loyalty of both husband and wife to marriage will not be much higher. But think about it. The reality is still very "shocking", and the divorce rate in China is more than 3 times that of European and American societies. The case below is very illustrative. It is also one of the reasons for the main petition for divorce in my country! ）

Late at night, I was alone in the study hanging QQ and watching a movie on PPS. When I was looking at it, QQ's system message reminded me that someone had added me. Reluctantly, I looked at the verification request: "Psychiatrist, can you help me?" "QQ for help? I rarely use QQ for work, and since the person requesting it knows my QQ number and also knows my occupation, I judged that it should be introduced by an acquaintance, so I added her.

Not long after adding it, she sent me a "tirade", I looked at it carefully, to the effect: she found out that her husband was having an affair and didn't know what to do? It's very painful, and I don't want to give up this home easily for the sake of my young daughter, and I want to ask for help. I didn't pay much attention to it at the time, and I encountered a lot of requests like this every day, so I was not surprised. Leave her a contact information so that she can contact me during the day. Let's move on to my wonderful movies.

The movie saw that at midnight, my stomach was a little hungry, my wife was on a business trip to Hanoi, Vietnam, and prepared a refrigerator full of food for me before leaving, and now there is nothing except a few packets of instant noodles, so I want to find a companion to go out for some supper, and I made a few phone calls to colleagues and friends, and I have either rested or turned off the phone. So I was ready to find a partner on QQ, and suddenly found that the QQ who added me for help was still online. Out of the idea that talking is better than nothing, I invited her to have a supper through QQ. She agreed without hesitation. The two parties agreed to meet at a restaurant.

It took me a little time to find the restaurant, and when I arrived, I contacted her by phone and found out that she had already arrived and had already selected a private room and ordered food. When I came, I had already seen her photos through QQ space, and in reality she was much more beautiful than her in the photos, and through mutual introductions, I learned that her real name was zhy, and she was the manager of this hotel. When the dishes were ready, she called out to all the waiters, and then we started talking:

"Doctor Jiang, my heart is empty now, my daughter is just 4 years old, and my husband has such a thing, I really don't know what to do? I want to get a divorce, but I'm afraid of ruining the future of my children. zhy said in a low voice, and after finishing speaking, he drank the glass of beer in front of him, and then poured himself more. Are you a good drinker? I asked: Zhy looked at me and said, "Do you work in a restaurant?" On weekdays, there is always a little bit of this entertainment and that thank you or something, and it can't be regarded as drinking, but it will order. No problem with half a case of beer. "Your husband doesn't care about entertainment like you?" I continued to ask: zhy smiled coldly and said, "He knows the nature of my work, how can he care?" When I first fell in love, I knew that if I cared, I wouldn't have gotten married! I took a sip of beer and ate the food, and looked at me as if I didn't pay attention to it, and said a little anxiously, "Doctor Jiang." Can you give me an idea? I really don't know what to do? I looked up at zhy, swallowed the food in my mouth, wiped my mouth with a napkin and said, "You tell the whole thing from beginning to end." The more detailed, the better, and if I have something I don't understand, I'll naturally interrupt you and ask you. May I? Zhy looked at me in a daze, and then took another sip of beer. After pouring. He said firmly to me, "Okay, I'll listen to you!" ”

"Five years ago, under the introduction of a friend, I met my current husband CLJ, who is a middle-level cadre in a state-owned enterprise, and he is young and promising. He's still a good person, and he's very popular in the unit, and he belongs to the kind that is particularly easy to 'provoke' girls. Because of work. He often had to work shifts. This directly caused our husband and wife to communicate very little in the real sense, and it also indirectly facilitated his contact with other members of the opposite sex. The first thing that struck me out of the ordinary was when I found a hairpin in his car. I don't need hairpins for short hair, but at the time I was wishful thinking that it might have been accidentally left behind by him picking up a female colleague. But the second time I found out, even I couldn't lie to myself! That time was my husband on the night shift, at home during the day, I was working in the unit, because of physical discomfort, I asked for leave to go home early, and when I got home, it was empty, and the bed was a little messy. It was still a bit cold in the bedroom, apparently the air conditioner had just been turned off. I didn't think much about it at the time, so I made the bed and prepared to rest, but when I was taking care of the bed, I found a few long hairs on the bed, which immediately made me suspicious, and it didn't take long for my husband to come back, and I asked him where he went. He said he was out playing cards with his friends. I hurriedly asked him questioning, after playing cards for so long, why does the air conditioner at home seem to have just been turned off? He hurriedly explained that it was a friend who asked him to play cards, and he went, but the cards were not enough, so he came back! I wanted to ask him about the long hair in bed, but I thought that I was going to my mother's to pick up my daughter soon, so I put up with it, and from that day on, I started to feel uneasy! Zhy elaborated:

"How long has it been since this happened?" I interrupted and asked:

"It's been almost half a year!" zhy thought for a while and said:

"After you got married, how did you and your husband and wife live? Is sex harmonious? I went on to ask:

zhy listened to my question, looked a little embarrassed, and asked me weakly, "Do you have to answer this?" I shrugged my shoulders and said, "It's up to you, you think it's too private to answer, I just want to know some of the roots of your couple's problems." zhy thought for a long time, took another glass of beer, and finally mustered up the courage to say: "After marriage, my husband clj seems to need that aspect more, and asks for that kind of thing to happen with me every day, I am very uncomfortable, because my own physique is relatively poor, and I can't withstand his kind of toss." But my husband doesn't seem to be aware of my body, but instead asks for more, and I don't know where he got the yellow discs, not to mention just looking at them, and asking me to imitate the heroine in the film to satisfy his lust. ”

"Then do you think that this kind of marriage is very different from the marriage you imagined?" I asked:

"Yes, Dr. Jiang, I don't know what to say? Every time he can't satisfy him, he will always show a feeling of disdain, that is, if you are not satisfied, I will pull, and I have my own way to be satisfied. Whenever I see him feel this way, I would rather grieve myself than satisfy him, because I'm really worried about what will happen to him outside. Such an aggrieved marriage developed until we had children. I always thought that the previous wronged marriage was because of the lack of children, which made the family seem to be missing something, but when I had children, my husband still went his own way, and did not take due responsibility because he became a father. But it was this refusal that he actually hooked up with a woman outside! Zhy recounted as he unconsciously drank another glass of beer. I watched as zhy drank several glasses in a row. Luckily, she said earlier that she could drink half a case of beer, so she didn't stop it, but instead helped her empty glass to fill it again. While I was helping her add, I asked, "Based on what you just said, 'He actually hooked up with a woman outside', did you have any further confirmation since you found that hair?" ”

"Yes! I can't pretend that nothing happened, I have mastered my husband's call and text message records through some means. I was able to identify a number through the records, and later I found out that the owner of that number was a divorced woman named XF. It is specialized in selling mobile phones. I can't believe that every time my husband and I update our phones, my husband takes the initiative to go to that xf to buy it. I've had a couple of encounters with that XF. I didn't expect them to hook up. zhy said angrily:

"Then how do you deal with your relationship with your husband, and your relationship with XF?" I raised half a glass of beer to Zhy and gestured for a toast, and said:

zhy really drank a lot. Grab a full glass of beer and take a sip of it. Then I took a bite of broccoli, and said while eating: "Later, I made my words clear, and my husband also acquiesced in the relationship with XF, and when I saw his disapproving face, I wanted to divorce him at that time, but when I thought about the child who was babbling, I had no idea, and I could only wronged myself again." Trying to keep him by his side through his charm. ”

"How did you wronged yourself again?" I asked curiously:

It may be the reason why zhy drank beer too quickly and couldn't help but burp. Then I was filled with beer, and I looked at her look like she wanted to say but was embarrassed to say it, and felt pity in my heart, so I whispered, "If you don't want to say it, don't say it!" Unexpectedly, before I finished speaking, zhy said with a slight sense of alcohol: "Say, why don't you say it?" Today with Dr. Jiang, you are here to confide in you, my second grievance is to learn to take the initiative to 'seduce' my husband, learn the scene in the pornographic film, take the initiative to give my husband a blowjob, take the initiative to flatter my husband, take the initiative to propose to my husband that I want to have sex...... "Don't say it, I know your grievances!" I interrupted Zhy's conversation. After the confession was interrupted, there was a temporary silence, zhy seemed to have endless grievances, and his eyes were a little red. I was a little overwhelmed and had to light myself a cigarette to get rid of it.

Holding his forehead with his left hand, he smiled awkwardly at me, then looked at my cigarette and said, "It's French Cartier, right?" I was surprised and said, "How do you know?" It's a blue-outfit Cartier. zhy said appreciatively: "There are more people who watch the smoking, so I know each other!" Can I smoke one? "I was a little embarrassed, a little panicked, and ordered a Cartier for zhy.

A few tips about extramarital affairs:

1. After marriage, men are more likely to have extramarital affairs than women, but women will be more persistent than men as long as they have extramarital affairs;

2. The definition of extramarital love is very broad, men and women have each other's families and intimate behaviors, but they do not happen to the last step (**), such a situation also belongs to extramarital affairs;

3. Men with money and power, men with machismo, and men in their forties and fifties are high-risk groups for extramarital affairs;

4. According to some relevant statistics, if your parents or friends around you have a history of extramarital affairs, it is very likely that you will also have extramarital affairs;

5. Extramarital affairs themselves are not illegal, but if extramarital affairs interfere with the freedom of marriage, it is a crime.

(Some cases are very interesting, like a supernatural case, but in the actual operation process, it is found to be an ordinary psychological case, the following case is very typical, everyone will definitely have a feeling of sudden realization after reading it!) From this point, it can also be proved in disguise: it is a very reliable thing to let psychologists study supernatural cases! ）

As a psychologist, especially a front-line psychological aid psychologist, I have to deal with some so-called paranormal cases every year, most of these so-called supernatural cases are caused by psychological pressure and burden, and a small part of them are artificially created, aiming to achieve some personal goals by creating supernatural beings.

Since I have some religious beliefs, the leaders usually don't ask me to deal with this kind of supernatural case. But since the release of a disaster film "2012", paranormal cases have come one after another, and the workload of the front-line staff of our psychological assistance department has reached saturation. At this point, I decided that I should take on my job, put aside some of my beliefs for a while, and began to deal with the first and probably the only case of the paranormal since I started my psychic work, the ghost body.

The subject of the case is called WF, and he is a middle-level manager of a foreign-funded enterprise. According to the case file, when WF was 25 years old, due to the gradual stability of his career, he wanted to leave his parents and live alone. (To be continued.) )