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When it comes to "obsessive-compulsive disorder", the public may think that it is a personal problem, not a social problem.

It is purely a personal psychological problem and has nothing to do with society.

Otherwise, why didn't anyone else get sick, but you did?

This is a very common sense understanding.

But even from the perspective of common sense, modern people are not much better than "obsessive-compulsive" people.

All kinds of stress and tension pervade modern life, and it seems that there is nowhere to escape.

What I'm trying to say is: OCD is not completely independent of social problems.

Of course, it is true that they have personality problems before they are affected by society.

But it can only be said that "healthy people" have invisibly shifted the darkness in their hearts and formed a kind of social undesirable factor; Because they are too compromised and too kind, "people with mental illness" will absorb and be influenced by undesirable factors in society.

As far as formalism is concerned, it and "obsessive-compulsive disorder" are not unrelated, but share common qualities.

Because most of the "obsessive-compulsive disorder" has some ritualized and formal symptoms, but has no practical significance.

For example, "forced hand washing", "forced inspection", "forced door closing", ......

What has already been done has to be done again and checked.

There are also things such as: only giving flowers is romantic, only going out with friends to play ball is happy...... Stereotypical fun.

This is like "formalism" in society, where things that have actually been done very well must be deliberately "assessed" or "examined".

And this kind of "assessment" is extremely harsh and severe.

If you don't pass the "assessment", even if you usually do well, you won't be recognized by authority.

In the "assessment", the artificially created "walking on thin ice", subtle errors lead to the abandonment of the previous efforts of the usual excellent technology.

With "obsessive-compulsive disorder" seeing a knife and being afraid of missing; Seeing a high place, afraid to jump off...... The "step by step" is of the same nature.

"When is my compulsion going to be good? Will I be able to control my compulsive sin next time? ”

"How long can I last if my depression is so bad......?"

These are the feelings of despair and anxiety of people who are obsessively depressed.

What is not known is the desperation and the question "Will I ever pass the exam?" The extreme anxiety and "uncertainty" of "uncertainty" are entirely of a nature.

In other words: solve the problem of "will I ever pass the exam?" "This problem, obsessiveness and depression no longer exist.

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The excessively harsh and formalized "assessment" and "examination" have led to a large number of students who were originally very good but had psychological shadows to "be nervous about the examination", "make mistakes in performance", and even have a bleak future.

Therefore, if you often hear "high scores and low ability", "good system, difficult implementation"...... speech, and don't be confused.

In a sense: those outstanding talents who squeezed across the "single-plank bridge" have a certain amount of luck, luck and perfunctory.

Therefore, it is not possible to expect too much from what they will be able to do in the future.

If a good system only pursues a formality, ignores the substance, and selects people by "evidence" and "trial", it will inevitably be lucky and coping.

Deal with the "exam" first, get the "certificate" and then talk about it, and then talk about the reality later.

This may seem like a very reasonable and orderly thing, but it's not the case with human psychology. At the moment you cope, the personality has changed subtly, and it is already difficult to reverse it later.

Therefore, the actual implementation will naturally not be very powerful.

In the case of "driver's license test", almost 90% of students are particularly nervous.

This tension is not a joyful tension, but an uncomfortable tension.

Some students even have to rely on medication to relieve tension.

They will show a variety of expressions: some praying on their chests, some encouraging each other not to be nervous, some being extremely happy after the test, some being smug, and some being extremely disappointed after not taking the test......

But it's almost certain: no one willingly decides to drop out or give up the exam because of the unbearable nervousness.

In other words: no one questions the significance of the exam, only focuses on how to pass it.

As I said earlier, if something makes people too nervous, it's not because people don't feel confident in common sense, it's because they subconsciously resist doing it.

True self-confidence is the belief that one's "nervousness" is very reasonable, that is, the belief that oneself should not do such a thing.

This may be a kind of "deviance".

But when people are confused and powerless about the psychological problems in their daily lives, this kind of "deviant judgment" is very reasonable.

I said in the previous example of the S man: his future series of mental illnesses and emotional ups and downs are all because he was accidentally frightened at school, and instinctively resisted normally; Later, his father used his authority to force him to enter the school, causing him to resist being suppressed normally, and became overly compromising with the teacher, and his emotions were completely controlled by the grades.

He only had to remember the most independent and wonderful happiness before his mother accompanied him to school and was frightened.

So, in this case, it is far better to give up the exam than to endure the tension and cope with the exam.

This is not a compromise to perfection, but a defense of one's own healthy and independent personality.

Only my mother taught me skills, such as eating, walking...... is the most intimate and wonderful.

It goes without saying that it will work unconditionally!

They never "test" their children's skills, which makes them very nervous.

Because this is an "unconditional" "bloodline" and "maternal love".

We will never tolerate the slightest questioning and pursue a rigid "assessment".

It can be understood in this way: "obsessive-compulsive disorder" is because of the stereotypical "test" of "maternal love".

Those experiences of "flukely" passing the exam did bring a lot of excitement to the S man, but the "loss" after failing the exam also made him collapse.

Especially the jealousy of "classmates passed, but only he didn't" was enough to make him discouraged.

This jealousy is unusually powerful and almost insurmountable.

However, it only takes a deep understanding and tracing back to the source, and it can be easily solved.

An example similar to the "S" man, "U"

"U" has a vague memory: once his mother took him to an event.

At first, it was also a hazy and comfortable mood.

During the event, due to an accident, all the children passed successfully, but he collapsed.

It was this extremely subtle turn that made his most beautiful emotions no longer exist, and the most wonderful "maternal love" was invisibly transferred to those children, and he slowly compromised with them.

In the future, I will try my best to imitate them, and what they do, they must also do; If he didn't, jealousy would be enough to break him.

He seems to have forgotten his uniqueness. Because of the unique "fall", he forgot about the healthiest "uniqueness" that belonged to his "mother".

When he is "unique", his mood is the happiest and most wonderful. The only thing that can surpass the sense of happiness and excitement after the "fluke" test.

So, when a person is jealous of someone's accomplishments, they usually pretend that they "don't care", but the temptation to "match" them is too powerful. (Actually, it is a transfer of mother's love)

All the "indifference" seems so pale and powerless, it is nothing but self-deception.

Only the recollection of the wonderful mood before the initial "jealousy" can replace this bad temptation.

Back to "getting a driver's license".

Those who are nervous, why not to "match" with their friends in modern times, imitate them, and want to buy a car to show off?

The nervousness was just a reminder to him that these were formal, imitative pleasures, not the most real ones.

Imitation is dangerous. Because if you transfer "maternal love" to these people who are not "related", your "roots" will be crumbling.

Because outsiders' minds are always changing.

If you don't understand the rationality of "nervousness".

All the idea of dropping the exam is a pretense of "it doesn't matter".

You might say, "What's so great about a driver's license?" Don't die, you can't pull it down! It's useless if you get the test, and you may not be able to do well in the future! ”

But those who insist may say, "Don't care so much, get the certificate first!" If you get a license, it's easy to talk about how to drive, but if you can't get a license, everything is in vain. ”

They won't give up the slightest bit of enthusiasm because of your "indifference" and "indifference".

But from a deeper point of view: the personality of those who only want to obtain a driver's license as a form and ignore the essence of driving (in a deep sense, 'maternal love') has inevitably shifted to the person who "tested" him at that moment.

There is nothing - just skip the exam and pursue the possibility of substance later.

The consequence of personality transfer is that happiness and ability have been controlled by others, and it is difficult for oneself to control them.

Therefore, it is not always possible to reduce the number of traffic accidents by training people's abilities and qualities through a harsh system.

This is actually a general social anxiety.

In order to suppress traffic accidents, we are anxious to pursue a strict examination format, and then imagine that after passing the form, the actual effect will come.

Some people who are truly capable fail the "exam" because of psychological shadows or unexpected experiences.

At a deeper level, they will never tolerate any form of "questioning" and "testing" of "maternal love" by outsiders. Therefore, the subconscious mind does not cooperate with the "test", which leads to nervousness.

Giving up the exam is the unity of the conscious and subconscious.

Until he understood this meaning, his expectations of the "driving test" were always in a state of stalemate and stalemate.

Graphic description: It is like an invisible and tenacious "thread", which closely implicates his life and the "driving test"; As a result, he is unable to remember the current life and happiness, resulting in a "memory hole", which becomes the basic condition for the formation of mental illness.

This is described in detail in the previous chapter "Flashbacks and Fills in Memory".

In layman's terms, he only has a "driving test" in mind, and it seems that he must complete it; Anxiety about the uncertainty of the unknown cannot be ruled out; I can't enjoy the happiness of the moment with peace of mind.

Now, he must cut this "powerful thread" - give up the driving test. Whatever the result: the stunned instructor, the disappointment of those who paid attention to him, the seriousness of the driving test system......

In the end, he would associate these factors with "death".

The shock of those people, the focus of all attention on him, would trigger the "death threat" experience in his distant memory.

He must use the instinct of "protecting his mother" and "resisting the threat of death" to cut that "thread".

In other words: no matter how common a driver's license is, he must have the psychology of being an "exception".

Even if the whole world pays attention to him as an "exception" and there is a "threat" to eliminate him, he still has to firmly defend his heart.

As for whether you can get a driver's license, that's not an important thing to talk about later.

If you can draw inferences.

The expectation of "driving test" and "curing mental illness" is the same essence.

Perhaps, everyone will think that the "driving test" is just a trivial matter in thousands of lives, and cannot represent all mental illnesses.

But if you understand the previous content, you will understand that mental illness is a "natural growth" process, and all complex and cumbersome symptoms may be concentrated in one thing and one point.

Ordinary sadness and depression are but an extreme form of "nervousness" - numbness.

The "tension" is dealt with, and the "melancholy" no longer exists. (To be continued.) )