Ladies and gentlemen, based on some of my contacts, I have only one confusion about mental illness, disorder, or common psychological problems.

That is, some people with mental illness despair that mental illness cannot be cured, and that it will continue to recur for life.

But their understanding of the causes of psychological problems is incredibly simple.

They are unwilling to "sacrifice" a year and a half compared to the very short life of their lives to explore psychology, hoping that others will soon give a very simple, superficial, popular to common-sense explanation.

And there is no cumbersome analysis process, and tracing back to one's own experience.

And this kind of common-sense explanation can be seen everywhere in life, popular, and they have understood it since childhood. Pen % fun % Pavilion www.biquge.info

So, before I get into the main topic, I would like to give my opinion on psychology to explain the meaning of deep psychology.

It is necessary to analyze it in depth to be equal to the endless despair that comes from nowhere; and to dispel despair. It is also necessary to explore some unique hidden reasons that are not known to others in order to get rid of the deep-rooted bad popular consensus. There is a characteristic of popularization: when the belief of the public is positive and positive. Then an individual in the crowd is positive and optimistic. When the beliefs of the masses are negative, individuals cannot get rid of the negativity. For example: cancer. The popular perception is that it is almost equivalent to death. The vast majority of individuals are unable to escape this pessimism. So I can say, "I don't dare to claim how effective my methods are; But I swear to death that it's unique enough. "Even if you watch it every day and everyone watches it, it won't become popular.

Getting back to business –

For a long time in the past, psychology gave people a sense of secrecy.

As long as a person who pays a little attention to psychology, people will naturally associate him with psychological problems.

Of course, today, unlike in the past, with the increase of people's psychological pressure and the continuous emergence of psychological problems, the society's attention to psychology is increasing, and various psychological books are also emerging in endlessly.

However, society's attitude towards psychology is not yet fully accepted.

Just as when companies recruit talents, they always favor extroverts and exclude introverts.

Contact Psychology; Or people who like to think and are not sociable, are often put in the latter category.

However, I would say that there is no good or bad thing about introversion and extroversion; Introversion and extroversion are not so easy to distinguish.

It's even more biased to distinguish between extroverts and introverts because you don't know if what he's saying is from the heart.

Those who seem to be good at communication and sociability, in fact, have never fully and truly integrated into the world of others.

This can be done when they leave school, when they leave the school...... It can be seen that being separated from classmates and colleagues does not make them feel melancholy.

On the contrary, those who are "not good at words and communication" are so melancholy and reluctant when they are separated from others.

There are a lot of psychological problems, often because they deliberately cater to the outside world and forcibly make themselves extroverted, rather than introverts themselves.

People who are excessively introverted tend to suppress themselves, worry too much, be too kind, and most of their aggressive impulses are introverted, causing internal injuries.

Therefore, people are often afraid of introverts, afraid that he will one day explode and catch people off guard.

People who are excessively extroverted have no worries, and even if they commit a murder, they can eat and sleep well, and they are not afraid of crime. This kind of person is a hidden danger to society.

Therefore, we can only look for an intermediate state, and we should not overly prefer one type of personality.

The ultimate meaning of psychoanalysis is to empathize psychology itself with the client's feelings for their parents, especially the dark side of their parents.

Therefore, unless people are particularly mentally healthy, most people avoid talking about psychology; It's like not daring to face the dark side of your parents.

Patients with mental illness have deep self-blame for the dark side of their parents, and they are extremely sensitive to psychology.

Either extreme dependence or extreme resistance.

People often feel an inexplicable fear of getting to know themselves deeply, which is actually the fear of facing the dark side of their parents.

But in fact, the more you face up to the dark side, the more healthy you will be. Because the closer you are to your parents, the more you can maintain your self and autonomy.

So if someone asks you with a skeptical look, "Why did you want to study psychology?"

You could have replied, "Your question is like asking me, why do I have to deal with it instead of running away from it when my parents are at odds (or when my parents are threatened by the outside world)?"

This is by no means a metaphor, but a real substitution.

In the following analysis, we can see how the two are converted.

Fear is only because of the exaggerated hints of the dark from the outside world.

Specifically, it is the result of an overprotection from the outside world.

It's as if your friends and relatives say to you, "Don't believe this, don't look at that, don't go there...... Otherwise, you will be deceived, 'go crazy', and you will not be able to extricate yourself." ”

This kind of extreme exaggeration and suggestion is not uncommon in reality.

It also does not matter what the person's own views on unfamiliar things and the defense mechanism are.

However, people often hear the opposite argument: "Don't spoil your child, it will ruin him and he will lose his autonomy later." ”

We shouldn't have paid too much attention to these varied arguments, because they are just "emotional garbage" that people unconsciously release in their daily lives.

For example, people often hear the shocking saying, "Psychological problems have nothing to do with consciousness, only with behavior." ……

Ordinary people don't feel it, but for psychological patients who have always believed in the psychology of consciousness, they will feel overwhelmed.

In fact, this is just an emotional catharsis.

It's like someone said, "The earth is round."

But some people prefer to say, "The earth is not round."

Because this kind of common sense is too common, people often don't need things that are too common sense, and like to create something new.

Sigmund Freud once said, "The repressed is often satisfied."

This means that people tend to forget about something unquestionable or unconditional. And continue to pursue the unknown.

That's why people can't remember those carefree days of their childhood when they can't remember it, because they are successfully suppressed by complete contentment. (Successful repression is completely different from the concept of repression, and true forgetting is not the same as forgetting, and forgetting in general will take another form)

And those conditional pleasures will be remembered vividly; For example, the happiness of a reward.

If you deliberately emphasize the unquestionable and unconditional fact that "the earth is round".

On the contrary, people can't find words that match them in their memory, so they say unintentional words that are contrary to them.

But unfortunately, psychological patients, who have already lost their autonomy, may inhale this "emotional garbage" and become part of themselves.

In the later inference, mental illness is due to personality compromise, punishing oneself for the "unreasonableness" of others, blaming oneself, and leading to the "unreasonableness" of one's own thinking.

Therefore, most of the current psychological counseling advocates didactic and positive advice.

However, these are only superficial emotional outpourings, and the truly valuable information has become subconscious due to satisfaction and suppression, and it is difficult for even the instructor himself to perceive it; Not to mention visitors.

Therefore, blindly obeying and actively educating and imitating the words and deeds of healthy people is not so reasonable.

Because what you absorb may only be unintentionally released by others, and the emotional catharsis of "words do not reach the meaning".

Therefore, the deep meaning lies in tapping into that part of the subconscious that is deeply hidden and valuable.

This is difficult to obtain by preaching and imitation, and can only be the distant memory of the visitor himself.

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If a person wants to understand himself, but is afraid of warnings and hints from the outside world.

It can be understood as a kind of "sacrificing the basics and chasing the last"

It can even be understood as: devaluing one's own judgment and compromising with the outside world.

This is common in people with mental disorders.

It is also relatively common in relatively healthy people who have lost their autonomy.

In addition to this bias, there is a less realistic expectation of psychology.

This can be seen in the majority of the crowd who are keen on "motivational lectures".

They are often confused because they can't find the path to success and happiness.

However, it does not necessarily reach the level of disease.

Once you happen to hear the teachings and encouragement of some inspirational and success masters, you will suddenly become emotional, as if you have been empowered, and firmly believe that you have found a bright path.

It is true that many of the master's psychological lectures are undoubtedly interesting and infectious.

Attendees are often impressed by the brilliance and charm of the masters.

The passion in my heart is greatly aroused.

Therefore, I firmly believe that the masters do have the ability to reverse personality.

For some rigid psychology, it feels very boring.

There is nothing wrong with this, but what theory could be greater than bringing happiness to people?

That passion should not have been questioned.

However, the facts have to be rethought.

Because this passion and happiness may be short-lived.

After returning to normal life, many people inevitably return to a state of inertia and hesitation.

Most of the time, people are normal and ordinary.

Rigid psychology is not exciting and interesting, but please believe:

It's a pervasive, serene joy.

When all the clouds are cleared and the psychological confusion and obstacles are slowly cleared, what remains will be a long-lost, evocative primordial happiness that will be more real.

The doctrine of fun, the contagiousness of happiness is stronger; Dependence is also strong; But it doesn't do much for the teachable's ability to create happiness on their own.

This is why those celebrities can attract the effect of thousands of empty alleys; And psychologists have never been treated like this.

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To understand this, it is only to show an attitude towards psychology.

Let's get back to psychoanalysis itself.

Take, for example, depression and obsessive-compulsiveness.

Depression and obsessive-compulsive compulsions have become relatively common psychological disorders in modern society. Patients often live in inexplicable despair, emptiness, and grotesque thoughts, from which they cannot extricate themselves.

Both depression and obsessive-compulsive have their own distinctive features.

During a depressive episode, the person almost completely loses his resistance, as if he has fallen into an endless dark abyss;

When the compulsion occurs, the confrontation is particularly strong, but the more confrontation the more obsessive.

Negative emotions similar to depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder are sadness, low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, fear, self-blame, contradictions, and depression shared by ordinary people......

There is no essential difference between these normal negative emotions and depressive obsessive-compulsive disorder, only the difference in quantity.

As Sigmund Freud said, "I don't think people with mental illness can create some bizarre thoughts on their own, but just a distortion and amplification of the negative emotions that normal people have."

In response to these symptoms, various psychological books have appeared one after another. Such as: self-acceptance, living in the moment, going with the flow, letting go of perfection, letting go of ego, behavior to change personality......

There is no shortage of encouraging and optimistic attitudes, suggestions for action, and ways to divert attention, but there is little in-depth analysis of the causes.

As Sigmund Freud said, people are always accustomed to a good wish for the rehabilitation and treatment of mental illness; Rather than facing the disease itself.

And this kind of good wishes Yiyi may be part of mental illness.

Even if there is analysis, it is mostly from the perspective of social communication, economy, culture, education...... The general direction of the start.

Or it is a misconception on the part of the patient.

In my opinion, since psychological problems have become a disease, they cannot be solved by simple and superficial comfort and encouragement.

Nor can we simply emphasize the role of the general environment in the formation of psychological disorders, and ignore the instinctive mechanism of human beings as living beings; and accidental, instinctually stimulating events.

Otherwise, the phenomena that produce both normal and pathological personalities in the same environment cannot be explained.

It is also difficult for the patient's cognition to be changed by preaching at the level of consciousness, otherwise the highly educated should be a group with a low incidence of mental illness, but this may not be the case.

Behavior is important, but it is also reasonable to stimulate the patient's benign conditioning with the result of positive action and receiving a reward.

However, behaviorists may overlook an important element: the closer the patient gets to happiness, the more they want to suppress it. I am afraid that the fruits of this happiness will be wasted. It is often said that "when you see it, you will take it". It's just that the patient is admitted much earlier than the average person.

So behaviorism advocates reinforcing behavior. I want to use the repetition of the reinforcement reflex to completely change the patient's pathological behavior.

But how effective is this reinforcement?

It's hard to tell.

I've seen people who tried to change their procrastination personality with a long period of barracks life, and after a period of improvement, they still returned to the prototype.

Some people who blindly advocate the supremacy of action often believe that the reason why patients are anxious and fearful is that they think too much and act too little, and they do not try to achieve the results brought by action. As soon as they actually try it, they will change their perspective on things.

It's like people often motivate those who are hesitant: "You haven't done it, how do you know?"

If they really try according to the instructor's words, they may get unexpected results.

People will also be relieved to think that action is really the first priority.

As a result, many people may ignore the patient's fears and worries and think that the worries are unnecessary.

But they often ignore the necessity of the existence of such concerns.

So, when a patient tries 100 or more positive action results, and the next time they are still worried, or move on to worry about something else, people are confused and powerless.

Is there a deeper subconscious role in this?

It should not be overlooked.

There are many truths and methods, all of which are undoubtedly correct and positive.

However, the indoctrination of doctrine and methods is not very easy to correct the patient's pathological thinking.

Because the patient subconsciously identifies with only the person who teaches him the truth, he is regarded as an extreme dependence; And he didn't integrate the truth and take it for his own use.

People may see a change in his symptoms and mindset and become positive and optimistic, but this does not necessarily mean that he has really changed his heart.

Sometimes, this transformation is due to an over-reliance and suggestion; Or it is a state of false "indifference" (pathological willpower), thinking that he has completely wanted to open and let go, but in fact he is using it to attract attention and satisfy the desire he insists on in a roundabout way. And not from the bottom of your heart.

Because, sudden changes are often more likely to attract attention.

Mental health is a very delicate thing to get just right. More than enough is too much.

Even a relatively healthy person says, "You went so hard to figure out this problem, and it's not a problem for me at all." "It's a way to prove how superior you are. What kind of long-winded psychological analysis costs so much effort, and it is not as good as his "thinking open" for no reason.

It is easy for someone to ask a question, which does not necessarily mean that he is very healthy. Maybe he thinks about it in this way, but on the other hand, it's very easy to get into the horns.

Maybe his "thinking open" is just a kind of hidden "fake doesn't matter".

As the book says: accept yourself, accept the symptoms.

It may be largely a compromise made in a desperate way.

Because they don't have an in-depth understanding of the symptoms, they just feel that the more they resist the symptoms, the more painful they become.

When the actual conditions became superior and he was able to greatly satisfy him, he felt guilty and self-blame for the original "indifference", and even regretted it. So much so that even the happiness of the moment is unbearable.

Therefore, when people see people who are sunny and happy in front of others, but at some times they like to go to extremes, there is no need to be too confused.

True acceptance is to memorize the process with the deepest instincts, not simply preach.

Only instinctive memory is truly one's own, and it doesn't need to be explained too much, and it won't fall into the entanglement of right and wrong in many truths and theories.

As a result, they will not be susceptible to the hints of different people and different truths, which will lead to fierce inner conflicts.

The purpose of psychoanalysis is to eliminate all bad cues and allow the patient to make his own judgment about life.

Live with the principle of instinctive pleasure-seeking, without being swayed by the cues of the outside world.

However, the triggers are only superficial, and what really determines them are the subconscious conflicts and desires deep within.

This will be discussed in more detail in a later article.

When the time comes, you will understand that fear is subject to "personality separation", "spiritual separation...... The words imply that people are only afraid of "parents divorce".

Further, he fears that he will be "separated forever" from his mother.

It's incredible, but the conclusion is as simple as that. As long as you have the patience to explore the roundabout and complicated analysis process.

Back to the topic.

It is undeniable to accept yourself, live in the moment, go with the flow, let go of perfection, and believe in yourself...... It is a wise and active way to live.

But these are like natural phenomena: electricity, wind, light, fire, magnetism, inertia, gravity...... Natural phenomena are ubiquitous in nature. One doesn't need to get to know the essence of them to make good use of them.

However, if there is a problem with these natural forces and they can no longer be used scientifically and rationally, people have to think about their nature. Find out the root cause of the problem, and then solve it and draw inferences.

The same is true for mental illnesses.

Healthy people are able to accept themselves well and live in the moment.

But when people suffer from mental illness and are no longer able to accept themselves and let go of perfection, they can no longer be forced to live according to this standard.

Simple imitation is not only difficult to work, but even dangerous.

It may also make people lose themselves even more, because imitation is a kind of external suggestion.

They may think that this life is not necessarily related to their illness. Or rather, it is not decisive.

They will think that the disease is too complicated, too obscure, and can never be changed by a simple life.

There is no motivation to face life.

Reluctantly going to life is a kind of willpower.

And willpower is short-lived and laborious, not as long-lasting and natural as instinct.

It's like a person who reluctantly compliments a girl on being pretty, and it can feel very difficult.

If he praises her completely from the heart, no matter what the other party's response is, he will not be too reluctant and disappointed, but immersed in his own joy.

Therefore, it is necessary to analyze the cause of the problem, concentrate the doubts about all the problems on one point, and then break through in order to find a fundamental way out.

The purpose of all of the above is to emphasize the need for an in-depth analysis of the cause.

I will try to analyze the complex symptoms in depth and reduce them to the simplest causes, so that the reader will not fall into excessive deep thought and confusion.

I also try to make friends who have psychological haze and obstacles not force themselves to change themselves according to theories.

It's a natural thrust from the heart.