"The easiest thing to remember is to send carbon in the snow, and the most difficult thing to let go is the sincerity that does not ask for returns. Pen @ fun @ pavilion wWw. ｂｉｑUｇE。 info" Xiao Zhen tilted his head and thought seriously for a while before he spoke.

"That's right, for the little girl of the Yang family, is it considered to be a carbon in the snow?" Xiao Nan stretched out his hand and patted his head twice, his eyes showed approval, but he continued to ask.

"Of course!" Xiao Zhen nodded almost without thinking.

"Are we sincere to the little girl of the Yang family?" Xiao Zhen continued to ask, and Xiao Zhen continued to nod.

"Do we mean to ask her in return?" Xiao Nan made persistent efforts, and as soon as these words came out, Xiao Zhen subconsciously shook his head.

"If a person pulls you out of the sea of misery at your most critical moment, takes care of you all the way, and finally sends you home without asking for anything and then drifts away, will you forget this person?" Xiao Nan asked again.

"Of course not!" Xiao Zhen's head shook like a rattle.

"That's right, the easiest thing in the world to remember is to send carbon in the snow, and the most difficult thing to let go is the sincerity of not asking for returns, in the same way, the best means of grace in the world is when others need you the most, you can appear in time, after giving a helping hand, without any gratitude from the other party, you can withdraw in time, at the same time, when you do all this, it is completely from the heart, not deliberately arranged, such grace, is the grace that others can not forget, once you have the need, the convenience will spare no effort, Anything will be done to repay you, you know? Xiao Nan clapped his hands, and then said what he wanted to express.

"But, then, doesn't it seem like the benefactor is deliberately premeditated?" Xiao Zhen was stunned for a moment, and couldn't help but subconsciously retort.

"Oh, so what do you think makes sense? Giving grace without retribution is the true gentleman's business, right? But you seem to have forgotten that there is another saying that you don't repay your kindness, and you are not a gentleman. Xiao Nan glanced at Xiao Zhen lightly, Xiao Zhen subconsciously wanted to nod, but before his head could move, Xiao Nan's next sentence came out again.

Xiao Zhen was stunned when he heard it, yes! If it is said that a true gentleman is a true gentleman who does not want to repay kindness, then why is there a saying that he does not repay a gentleman if he does not repay his kindness? There are obviously contradictory things between the two, but how wise this baby is, after thinking for a while, he figured out that there is no inevitable relationship between the two, so he blurted out: "This is different, the benefactor does not want to repay, which means that the benefactor is open-minded and generous, in the same way, if the person who receives the favor is also a gentleman, you obviously received the kindness of others, but as if nothing happened, such a person is also a character problem, and the relationship between them is not contradictory." ”

"It is worthy of being a prodigy, the reaction is fast, there is indeed no inevitable relationship between the two, and the predecessors who summed up these two sentences are also based on their different life experiences, you are young, you can figure out the knots, proving that you are indeed a child with a pure nature and a gentleman's style, but Xiao Zhen, human nature is complex, when you stand in different positions, your life values must be positioned differently."

"Kindness does not try to repay and gratitude does not repay non-gentlemen, both sentences can become warning words, that is, they are in line with the way most people deal with them, but if you start from the essence of the problem, they are still contradictory, why, since the giver does not try to repay, the recipient must repay, this is itself a contradictory behavior, but they have become a warning saying, do you know why?" Xiao Nan said.

Xiao Zhen was stunned again, he lowered his head and pondered, feeling that many thoughts had flashed through his mind, but he couldn't grasp anything, and finally he could only shake his head blankly, Xiao Nan then continued: "It's very simple, because their starting point is against the selfish instinct of human nature." Xiao Zhen was stunned again, not only him, but even Jiang Jingxuan, who was sitting with them, was slightly stunned.

"You all think my remarks are strange, very different from what the Book of Sages says, don't you?" Xiao Nan looked at their reactions and asked lightly, and the two nodded almost at the same time.

"The book of the sages plays an educational role, and its contribution to mankind is indeed indescribable, but it does not mean that everything said in the book is right, when people are born, they will take the initiative to look for the food that can continue their life - breast milk, and when they are not satisfied, they will cry, is this not selfish?" Xiao Nan asked lightly, as soon as she said this, Jiang Jingxuan, who was already seventeen years old, quickly figured out the reason, but Xiao Zhen, who was only seven years old, was stunned, he subconsciously wanted to refute, but racked his brains, but could not find a suitable word.

Xiao Nan glanced at Xiao Zhen and continued: "Of course this is selfishness, but no one will be disgusted by this kind of selfishness, and no one can refuse, why?" Because it is a common instinct of all living beings, the instinct to survive, that is to say, for all living beings who come into the world, the first reaction is the desire to survive. ”

"No matter what kind of living beings, only by surviving, can they be qualified to consider others, human beings are different from other living beings because we have opened our minds, we can think, we have emotions, it is because we have these, human beings can become the dominant people in nature, and the quality of human life will be much higher than other living beings, in the same way, human beings will also have emotions and wisdom, will derive morality and order, but no matter how it changes, our selfish instinct, which is no different from other living beings, can never be changed, What can change is how to control this instinct without affecting or threatening one's own survival. ”

"Even parents and children, it is impossible not to ask for anything in return, if one party will always give, one party will always only know, eventually the relationship between parents and children will inevitably have an irreparable rift, the same is true for husband and wife and brothers, only if both parties know how to give and reciprocate, the relationship between each other can go farther and farther, more and more harmonious, parents and children, husband and wife and brothers, not to mention other people, based on this can draw a conclusion, people, living in the world, is originally a mutually beneficial process."

"I understand what you mean, sister, what you want to tell me is that we should have good thoughts and conscience, but we don't have to avoid some naturally existing egoistic emotions in our nature, for example, a person has the ability and conscience, and helps some people who can help within the scope of his own ability, which can not only meet his inner moral and emotional needs, but also solve the problems of others, which is a good thing for benefiting others, why not do it?"

"In the same way, when you are doing a good deed, you suddenly find that doing this can not only solve the difficulties of others, but also may bring great potential benefits to yourself, and at the same time will not hurt others, this is also a mutually beneficial thing, we really don't need to be hypocritical and resistant, right?" is worthy of being a genius child, Xiao Zhen was so plucked by Xiao Nan, and his previous chaotic thoughts suddenly became clear, he stared at Xiao Nan with a pair of big eyes, and opened his mouth with some urgency. (To be continued.) )