Chunhua's departure does not mean that she will be calm from now on, and Mei'er has encountered many new challenges. Pen | fun | pavilion www. ｂｉｑｕｇｅ。 ｉｎｆｏ

The big and small affairs in Zhou Lan's courtyard now fall on Mei'er, and Mei'er suddenly has a feeling that a lot of things are rushing to her face.

There are about 30 people in the young lady's courtyard, and it is not easy to manage the affairs of the courtyard.

Meier's strategy is to select the right talents, let them do it, and take charge of it herself.

Mei'er thinks that things are not difficult to do, but it is more difficult to put the right people in the right places.

This is Meier's challenge!

It's also a question she needs to think about next.

Mei'er believes that life should not stop and should be constantly full of challenges.

She feels that many things are not that she can't do them, but that she lacks confidence and persistence.

So, in fact, she is challenging herself.

Every different stage of life has its own pressures and challenges.

Mei'er's current problems are different from those she faced before, and this is her new problem.

Mei'er came to Fushun, and the two of them talked.

Mei'er still feels that Fushun can give her advice, and she also understands her situation better.

Fushun said to Mei'er: "Mei'er, your position is different now, not that your identity is different from before, but what you are facing is different from before, and the angle of natural consideration of problems will also change." There are some questions that you haven't thought about before, and you have to think about them as well. For example, if you are now a steward, you should not only think about your own errands as in the past, but should think more about how to deal with all aspects of the relationship. Let me tell you about it, what you are facing now, first, is the relationship with the upper class, which must be considered, the old lady, the eldest lady, the second lady, the young lady, etc., this is the support you try to obtain; Second, it is the relationship with the people in your own hospital, which is the foundation of your foothold. Thirdly, it is the relationship with other maids in the courtyard and the same status as you, horizontal relationships, which will also help you when you need help. These things are things that you have to think about to the extent that you are. Only when you handle these three major relationships well, can you be successful in your errand in the Zhou Mansion. ”

Mei'er blinked her eyes and listened to what Fushun said, and Fushun's words straightened out some of her thoughts.

Mei'er said: "You really should pay attention to these, and many relationships have to be handled well." ”

Fushun said: "You must know that no matter what you do, you can always do without the support of others, so you should consciously cultivate your own people and cultivate your own circle of friends now." ”

Mei'er said, "Does it have to be like this? ”

Fushun Zhengse said: "It must be like this." First of all, you have to gain the trust of the people with real power in the house, and you have the support of the old lady, the eldest lady, and the young lady to sit in this position, and there are many things that cannot be separated from their support. Secondly, you have to develop your own team, you have to train your own people. You need people to do everything, and you don't want to tell you anything, no one listens to you. You have to have someone you can use so that you can have peace of mind. Thirdly, it is to have a good relationship with the stewards of other courtyards like you, because you are at the same level, and you are facing the same things, if you have anything, you can report to each other, refer to each other, and some things can also be discussed. Definitely do not underestimate this part of the power, this circle must be taken seriously. That's it, you have to have your own circle of friends. Some are friends that you get along with naturally, and some are friends you make consciously, and these are all your friends. The road will get wider and wider. ”

Mei'er said: "Yes, this is what I am lacking, and I should pay attention to it." ”

Fushun said: "Although you find it difficult and can't do it now, you should change yourself and have this awareness." ”

Mei'er said: "Indeed, I should recognize my own shortcomings and work hard to improve. ”

Mei'er really feels that making the right friend is very beneficial. Brother Fushun is a very good friend, if there is any confusion, Mei'er is also willing to talk to him, listen to his opinions, there will be a feeling of surprise.

Mei'er and Fushun said: "This is also a problem I am thinking about now, and I plan to cultivate a few capable people, so that I can be freed from specific trivial matters, and I can consider other things." ”

Fushun said: "That's right! We have to realize that one person can't do everything, and we have to leave enough space for others to do things, so that everyone is happy. And you have to pay attention to treat different people, according to her characteristics to prescribe the right medicine, some people are slow, you often remind her to be faster. Some people are frizzy, so you have to remind her to be careful. You can't measure everyone with a ruler. You should also know the people under you. ”

Mei'er said: "Yes, I have to think about it again, sort out my thinking, and get to know more about the people under me." Sometimes I try my best to create a stage for everyone and watch the individual's creation. In short, let the people who follow you have something to gain. ”

Fushun also resonated: "Yes, what will be the fate in the future, depending on personal creation, we always hold it up here, and give us as much guidance as possible." ”

"Yes, and some of the influences are mutual, and I think I've learned a lot from others and benefited a lot," Mei'er said. ”

Fushun said: "The influence of people and people is mutual, some are positive, some are negative, depending on how to deal with it." ”

Mei'er said: "When you meet someone who has a negative impact, you have to learn to regulate your emotions yourself, to resolve the negative impact of others, and not be affected by her." Maintain the independence of your own personality and opinions. In an environment, there is influence from others, but there should be your own persistence. ”

Fushun said: "It's quite complicated, it's all up to you to experience." ”

Mei'er said: "Sometimes I feel that I am very torn, in this environment, others will inevitably affect me, to adapt to others, to accommodate myself, for a period of time will be taken away by others, for a period of time I think that I have no myself, I can't feel myself." However, after that, I will slowly adjust and really ask myself what I think in my heart, and the self will come back. ”

Fushun said: "There will be this kind of confusion. But it's good to adjust it. ”

Mei'er said: "The process is very torn, but after I cleared the fog on the surface, after being confused, I really found that I was still there, which was very moving." ”