In the past few years, because the first string of small characters in the family has gradually grown up, their marriage has become the biggest problem that plagues the family. Pen @ fun @ pavilion wWw. ｂｉｑUｇE。 ｉｎｆｏ

However, the spring and summer are long and the autumn is harvested and the winter is hidden, this year or finally to the end of the harvest of the year, under the unremitting efforts of the parents, the first string of young brothers and sisters in the family is at the age of marriage, the age of marriage, it seems that they are about to fall, to blossom and bear fruit.

Now even his sixth brother finally has a family affair that sounds pretty good.

Sichuan pepper is naturally overjoyed.

secretly winked at the calm sixth brother, quite a bit of ridicule for watching the play and not being afraid of the high stage.

Of course, what Hua Jiao thinks "sounds pretty good" is actually only because Master He is a good person in her mind, that's all.

As for whether the girl of the He family is a good daughter-in-law in the eyes of the sixth brother, and whether the sixth brother is a good match in the eyes of the girl of the He family, it is unknown whether the pepper is in the mind.

I only chuckled in my heart.

The left and right eyelids of the pepper jumped suddenly, and he sat there in a daze, but in fact, he was already turning inside and out, and he didn't let go of examining his heart in every corner.

Over and over again, uh, peppercorns were able to be sure and affirmed, and I don't know when she, seemingly, as if, as if, was no longer as afraid of marriage as she once was.

It's definitely not a difference between men and women, this time it's because of their own daughter-in-law. In the face of lifelong events, in fact, no matter whether they give birth to a boy or a girl, the mood of parents should be very different - those who have daughters will worry about being arched by "pigs", and those who have sons are also worried about arching other people's "cabbage" and being knocked on the door.

Sichuan pepper was a little stunned.

still remembers Chenguang, who was talking about dill back then, and she was also heartbroken.

The elders of the family all say that both men and women have to have two rebirths in their lifetime. The man looked at his father and mother for the first time, and looked at the business for the second time. The first time a woman looks at her father, the second time is to see the marriage. Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, the second reincarnation is not good, and most of your life will not be better.

She had always thought so.

I am worried that the dill will not be ladylike, but also worried that the in-laws will not care about it, and I am also worried that the little couple will not be able to work together...... Always worried.

When Qin Lianfeng, Fennel, and Brother Lobby got married one after another, she didn't stop thinking about it.

In the eyes of the elders in the family, they only think she is a clever ghost, but Hua Jiao understands her problem.

Because no matter the past or present life, pepper is afraid of marriage.

Whether it is a modern society or a traditional society, the cost and risk of marriage are too high and too high, and most of the risks will be borne by the woman.

In modern society, it is true that the progress of the times has given women more rights and freedoms, but at the same time, the times have also infused women who already shoulder the traditional roles and missions of being wives and mothers with a weighing stone of social work and responsibilities, making the burden on women's shoulders heavier and more stressful.

As a woman, in the workplace, you need to work hard like a man, to earn money to support your family and settle down, which is the unshirkable responsibility of every independent personality.

However, taking off the armor and returning home to take care of the life of the family, this is also a responsibility that a woman cannot shirk.

As for having children, this is the destiny of a woman.

Correspondingly, the physical deterioration, the loss of shape, and even the pain during childbirth and the accidents that may occur at any time, these incidental consequences will also be borne by the woman.

Falling in love with each other, holding hands is a lifetime of love and marriage, which is naturally the envy and yearning of every man and woman who enters the marriage hall.

But life is a piece of chicken feathers, some people may insist on singing and moving forward, but there will inevitably be people who realize that marriage is a wall, begin to feel tired and slack, and even secretly retreat.

At that time, I finally found out that you are neither my lover, nor am I the Chenguang of your good wife, and marriage should be so self-contained.

And once the marriage is unhappy, although the loss of the marriage is not terrible, and even to a certain extent, it is still a relief, but the piece of meat that falls from the body will definitely become a concern and burden that the woman will never be able to let go.

Moreover, even in modern society, once a family breaks down, the world will still pay more unwarranted attention to women. There is even a saying that a man who marries for the second time is a treasure, because after encountering an unfortunate marriage, they will inevitably know how to feel sorry for people and spread their hands! But in comparison, a woman who is married for the second time is a root grass and worthless.

Modern society has been trying to give more to women and grab more.

But is it necessary for the woman to bear the responsibility and pay the price for the consequences of an unhappy marriage?

Of course, Huajiao believes in marriage and love, but it seems that he has no confidence and feels that he can be so lucky and can have all this.

Let's go back to traditional society.

Regardless of the distant feminist society, let's just talk about the patriarchal society today.

Based on the system of private ownership of property in the feudal state, the ownership of family property began to be vested in men, which led to the loss of women's social adult status, and women have become subordinate to men.

In order to create an image of a woman who is chaste and a man who is virtuous, women's education will emphasize obedience to the patriarchal society, and obedience seems to have become a woman's destiny. For example, politically, women are required to be silent, economically they are required to have no selfish goods, and in words and deeds, they are required to listen to silence, look at the invisible, and do not climb to the heights, and do not laugh.

As a wife, daughter-in-law, and mother, all the values of a woman seem to be reflected in the oppressed and bound marriage, as well as the family.

A successful marriage means a happy and complete life, and she has become a good wife and mother by word of mouth. If the marriage is not going well, it will either be abused or divorced.

But it is this marriage that is regarded as a woman's only destination and goal, a marriage that is related to the fate of a woman's life and even life and death, and most of Chenguang is not in the hands of women.

Women do not have the right to freedom to marry.

And it doesn't matter if you're married or divorced.

In traditional society, marriage emphasizes that the Ming media is marrying, and requires all six rites, but in comparison, it is easy to divorce a wife.

Although there is also a saying about divorce, that is, the husband and wife voluntarily divorce by agreement, and the woman can also have the autonomy of divorce. However, due to the constraints of feudal etiquette, divorce in traditional society is actually more inclined to husband power.

The so-called freedom and power of divorce is actually the freedom and right of a man to divorce his wife.

The inability to gain a sense of security from marriage and the inability to obtain a sense of security from society is the source of the fear of peppercorns entering marriage.

But I don't know when it started, and I don't know what happened, but Hua Jiao suddenly realized that he didn't seem to be so afraid.

For a while, the pepper was in turmoil, and she was frightened again.

Not for anything else, just because she couldn't figure out how she wasn't afraid......

And just like what Hua Jiao had seen before, when he heard his parents talk about his family affairs, the sixth brother was so calm that he only relied on his parents to decide.

It's carved out of a mold with Brother Lobby back then.

As soon as he turned his head, he saw Huajiao sitting there in a daze, so he stretched out his hand and shook it in front of her, and when he saw that she couldn't come back to his senses, he asked softly, "What's wrong with Jiaojiao?" ”

When Hua Jiao heard that someone seemed to be calling her name, she raised her head with a confused face.

The cute little appearance made the sixth brother laugh and asked her, "What are you thinking, so distracted?" ”

Huajiao came back to his senses, shook his head, nodded again, and asked the sixth brother stupidly: "Sixth brother, you are going to get married, are you afraid?" ”

Luo couldn't cry or laugh, and pinched the pepper's cheek: "What are you talking about?" Don't talk nonsense! ”

Hua Jiao laughed, only then did he realize that he had asked a stupid word, and buried his head in Roche's arms.

The sixth brother has to answer all questions, although he feels that the question of pepper is really confusing, he still said the truth: "It's not terrible to get married, and it's not enough to live a good life." ”

Luo Che listened to his head and said: "That's exactly what I said, it's not easy for a girl to go out of a family and enter a family, you have to treat her wholeheartedly." ”

The sixth brother should be, and there is a slight flush on his face.

Hua Jiao looked at Luo, then at Sixth Brother, and then at Qin Lianbao, nodded inexplicably, and did not continue to ask.

Everyone saw it in their eyes, and they just thought that peppercorns were just children's words, so they didn't take it seriously.

Qin Lianbao and Luo Shi respectively told Qin's father and Qin Laoniang about this matter, although the old couple was full of memories of the relatives of Sun Nan and his daughters, they would never make a claim.

The men and women have their own mothers and sons to take care of their family affairs, but it is not their turn to interfere. If the son and daughter-in-law can't make up their minds and come to discuss with them, then they will naturally have to help them think it carefully. But now that the son and daughter-in-law have made up their minds, they naturally have no opinions, and they say yes one after another.

What's more, if this family affair can really be done, it will still be a high climb.

Qin Lianlong didn't think so.

Over the years, he can be regarded as following Qin Lianbao to the north and south, and he has gained a lot of knowledge.

But I know that those filial piety families that can really last for several generations, seriously, in fact, most of them advocate marrying women regardless of the dowry, and marrying women regardless of the dowry.

When discussing relatives, as long as the family background is innocent, the man has real talent and learning, and the woman is pure and chaste, everything else is easy to say.

There are even some family mottos that advocate monogamy, and at the same time, there are also those who oppose the remarriage of the husband after his death......

Although the foundation of the house is shallow, the door is upright, so that the wind will not fall and the cold will stiffen.

Xin'an Prefect He was born in a famous family, since he would propose to marry him, it must be because of his own style, and then because he took a fancy to the stamina of his own small characters.

What's more, their little six are still so good.

Although it can be said that he is a real young man, not only is he a champion in age. The starting tone is so high, but he still knows that he has to keep his eyebrows down, and he can still study hard in a down-to-earth manner, he is originally a fast son-in-law in the eyes of many old fathers-in-law, especially mothers-in-law, I don't know how many people are fighting this kid's idea.

I don't need to look at the people coming and going in the family, just say that Qin Lianfeng still hangs the joke on his lips, saying that Rao is still in Chenguang in the provincial capital, and when the list is released, there are those businessmen's families and even the cultivation and reading families, and they can't wait for the whole family to go out and catch their sons-in-law under the list. Seeing that under the comparison of many middle-aged people, Xiao Liu, who looks even more childish, is simply bright-eyed. If it weren't for their desperate stopping, they wouldn't have been robbed by others, or even by the same department, to worship and marry, but they would still be able to bring a daughter-in-law back by the way......

There is nothing high or low.

And he was also sure that not only would this marriage be nine times out of ten, but Master He would definitely not make any excessive demands.

For example, the family is separated, or the young couple moves out of the old house, sets up their own door, etc.

Thinking of this, I couldn't help but feel itchy, and I ran to talk to Qin Lianbao about Lord He's remarks.

For a few days, whenever the two brothers were free, they had to get together and talk.

Once in Qin Lianbao's study, Hua Jiao, who was tutored by Qin Lianbao in painting, was tidying up the bookcase, and after hanging a word in his ear, he didn't think about it, so he pretended to be stupid and stayed.

After listening for a long time, I understood that Qin Lianbao and Qin Lianlong were talking about "squires".

"Squire", pepper naturally knows.

Although she was not born in that era, she had also heard a slogan called "Fight local tyrants, divide the land", and also heard a word called "local tyrants and inferior gentry".

Just by looking at the literal meaning, you can know that it refers specifically to those powerful bullies who are rampant in the countryside and the common people.

100% derogatory.

Although the word "local tyrant" has turned over and has become a compliment, it has become a joking name for the rich.

But in front of the word "gentleman", there is still a word "inferior" that cannot be removed.

Therefore, in the consistent concept of pepper, the squire, or the landlord, there are naturally good people, and there are many good people, there have been many local bridges and paving for a living, are the landlords and squires out of their own pockets, it is not an exaggeration to say that it is a good person, but more are still bad people.

Because of this, Huajiao never felt that he was a squire.

But he didn't expect to hear these two words from Qin Lianbao and Qin Lianlong's mouth, and his spirit was naturally shocked.

Unexpectedly, the "squire" mentioned by Qin Lianbao and Qin Lianlong seems to be very different from the "squire" in the cognition of Huajiao.

The so-called squire is not only a gentleman in the countryside, but also a scholar who lives in the countryside.

It is a class unique to feudal society, and basically there will be two parts of people, one part is the scholar who has not been in the imperial examination but has never been a scholar, and the other part is a retired fennel or a small and medium-sized official who has been idle in the countryside for a long time to recuperate.

Expand the scope, such as the scholars of Luodi, the local more knowledgeable small and medium-sized landlords, and some clan elders...... Anyone who has influence on the rural society can basically be regarded as a "squire".

These people are similar to officials and different from officials, similar to the people and above the people. Although some of them have held the power seal, on the whole, they are probably in the position of the opposition faction......