Tang Fei and Princess Qi chatted for a short time, and they talked happily. Pen "Fun" Pavilion www.biquge.info

Tang Fei felt that this chubby girl lived transparently and was an open person, and Princess Qi also felt that although this beautiful Concubine De Niangniang looked like she was going to be blind, her personality was very kind, and she didn't have any severance at all.

The two of them are not like the mother and princess who have just met, but like old friends who have known each other for more than ten years.

Although the two people are 108,000 miles apart in terms of identity and appearance, and even separated by a gap of thousands of years, they have one thing in common, that is, they are both optimistic, love life, and love themselves.

Loving oneself is not the same as being selfish.

It is not that a woman who turns herself into a resentful woman is selfless, nor is it that a person who loves herself is selfish.

If you don't love yourself, how can you make others love you?

A few days ago, I read Weibo, which talked about Faye Wong's sky-high concert.

Who Faye Wong is, everyone should know it, right? is a very famous female singer.

However, compared with her popular songs, her love life has always attracted more attention.

In the past, we were more popular to praise her, saying that she dared to love and hate, maverick, and cold.

But recently, especially after she and Xie Gongzi got back together, the wind of public opinion has changed, and most of them are attacking her, saying that she has been divorced, watery Yanghua, and selfish self.

The public always seems to be particularly fond of paying attention to celebrity divorces.

I don't want to comment on anything else, but divorce is definitely not something to be ashamed of, or something to be criticized.

During the discussion on Weibo, a girl scolded Faye Wong and compared Coco Li, saying that although she is also a diva, Coco Li is sexy, but she is a good wife and mother, from the beginning to the end. And Faye Wong looks innocent, but she has married so many husbands, watery poplars, stinky and shameless.

At first glance, this sounds quite reasonable, and the contrast is quite stark, but if you think about it carefully, what kind of values are embodied in this?

A woman has a happy married life, and that is a good thing to envy and praise.

But if a woman is divorced due to an unhappy marriage, is there any sin in her wrong?

Does this have anything to do with the beginning or the water-based poplar?

Then I asked the girl, and I said, "Divorce isn't a mistake?" ”

The girl replied to me: "Faye Wong is not good for the child at all, she is too selfish, it is just wrong." ”

I asked her, "What do you think is good for your child?" ”

"The most basic thing is to give your child a complete home," she said. ”

As soon as I saw her say this, I knew that we probably didn't get along, so we didn't continue to talk.

In Chinese society, there are many reasons why people are still divorced due to broken relationships, most of which are due to economic reasons.

But there is also a part of it that is 'for the sake of children'.

We often hear this sentence when a woman sighs, cries and cries, and has a sad face: "In order to give my child a complete home, I have endured it all my life." ”

Please, don't push everything to the kids, okay? Don't glorify your cowardice and cowardice as a sacrifice for the sake of your children, okay?

What you are sacrificing is not necessarily what your child wants!

Do you think the child will want a mother who endures humiliation and burden, has a sad face all day long, and sighs and sighs?

Watching the tense atmosphere at home every day, a small quarrel for three days, a big quarrel for five days, all kinds of cold violence, or directly fisting, the father beats the mother?

Why do you have to endure humiliation for the sake of your children, it is because you don't cherish yourself, you have wronged yourself everywhere, and you have to pull your children to bear it with you.

When you give your life decisions to a minor child, you are not only disrespectful and uncherishing yourself, but also disrespectful and uncherishing your children.

The most terrible thing is that in the future, you may still use your 'sacrifice' to ask others to sacrifice for you, otherwise you will be wronged and unbalanced, which is really terrible.

Only those who cherish themselves will cherish others; Only those who cherish themselves are worthy of a high-quality life!

After all, Tang Fei and Princess Qi are both people who love life and love themselves very much, which is extremely uncommon in ancient times when women endured humiliation and burdens everywhere.

It is also because of this that these two girls who are also independent and optimistic soon become friends.

Princess Qi helped Tang Fei choose a small gourd as a Dragon Boat Festival gift to the emperor.

There are thousands of gifts in this world, and there is no need to choose a sachet that you are not good at, right?

The gourd in the culture of the Great Cloud Kingdom means 'Fulu', and wearing it during the Dragon Boat Festival can not only turn anger into peace, but also enhance the aura of good fortune.

The two of them were talking happily in the private room upstairs, and there was a noise from Yuanbao downstairs who loved you, and it turned out that the emperor had returned from the temple sacrifice.

Tang Fei was very happy, and took Princess Qi to greet him.

She just helped the emperor choose a particularly beautiful silver hollow gourd, although it is not so unusual, but the shape is exquisite, the hollow is elegant, and it is still a very beautiful small object.

"Your Majesty..."Before Tang Fei could speak while holding the small gourd, the emperor had already taken something out of his arms.

"Fei'er, you sit down first, I'm negligent today. I had been ready for a long time, but this morning, because I was in a hurry to prepare for the canonization ceremony, I forgot about it. ”

"Huh, what is it?" Tang Fei sat on the chair with the well-behaved Yiyan embraced by the emperor, and looked at the emperor's hand curiously.

Ah, it's a multicolored line!

It's really something that people miss so much!

Not only the Great Cloud Kingdom, but also Tang Fei's previous life also had such a custom, saying that he wanted to tie colorful threads to the children in the family during the Dragon Boat Festival.

This custom has been passed down for a long time, and Tang Fei doesn't know the specific reason, but in his previous life, his grandmother said that if he tied the colorful thread, he would follow the bad luck of the year.

There is a more detailed introduction in Da Yunguo's "Customs and Customs": 'On the fifth day of May, the sun is tied to the arm with colorful silk, and the life is long, a life is long, a life is continued, a monk is a soldier, a five-color thread, a Zhu Suo, a soldier and a ghost, and people are not sick. ’

Tang Fei watched the emperor bend down to help her tie her arms, and he didn't shy away from having Princess Qi by her side, she actually knelt directly on the ground to help her tie her ankles, and she was a little shy and helpless in her heart: "Okay, okay, Your Majesty, where do you still need to tie your ankles, just mean it." ”

The emperor was firm and couldn't help but say: "Not only the ankles, but also the neck for a while." I originally thought that I would tie it for you in the morning while you didn't wake up, but I blamed me, and I forgot to do it in the morning. ”

While tying the colorful thread, his mouth was still nagging: "You have to keep this colorful thread alive, don't break or discard it arbitrarily, this one is still in the river when it rains for the first time after the Dragon Boat Festival, so that I can bless my little Fei'er with good health and worry-free." ”