The above are some of the specific ways in which we summarize when ordinary people really fall in love with someone. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info Of course, this is just a general routine, and the specific performance still varies from person to person. But just like you need to find the right battlefield in a war and choose the right ingredients for cooking, if you want to start a perfect relationship, the first thing you need to do is to be 100% sure that you are really in love with this person, not just an emotional illusion when you are lonely. We are open for five questions, and if you have any questions about what I just said, you can raise your hand to ask questions. Students who have not been named do not need to worry, there will be a free question session 20 minutes before the end of our course, and I will answer any questions about emotions one-on-one. Now it's just about the course we are teaching, if there is anything you don't understand, please raise your hand and signal to me. After speaking, Du Mijin raised his head, looked at all the students under the podium, and secretly took a breath, ready to meet everyone's questions.

"May I ask Mr. Du, when people are lonely and lonely, they all hope to have a companion who knows cold and hot, which is understandable. Even if I follow what you said, after asking myself carefully, I find that I may not love her so much, but with her I feel more warmth and hope in life, she is my best choice at the moment, so why can't I choose to be with her? Isn't it possible to cultivate feelings slowly? Just like the love between our fathers, most of the parents of the previous generation met through the introduction of others, and they can't talk about how much love they have, isn't it also a down-to-earth life? So teacher, don't you think what you said may be too sunny and snowy, how can you really pay so much attention to love or not? After a boy raised his hand, he stood up directly and said without waiting for Du Mijin to take the roll call. Du Mijin looked at the boy carefully, a sky blue suit, a white shirt, black-framed glasses, a small flat head, and the whole person's outfit was full of the word "stereotyped", without any eye-catching. Looking at the name tag on his daughter-in-law's collar - Chen Wei, Du Mijin quickly lowered his head, and behind the "Chen Wei" on the roster, he saw the profession he registered - mathematics teacher. No wonder he speaks so bluntly, he doesn't know how to be tactful at all, and sure enough, being strong is a common problem in the teacher's profession, and he really feels sorry for his students.

Du Mijin patiently waited for him to finish questioning and sat down, then nodded and said with a smile: "Very good, what this classmate said is not completely unreasonable, I believe that many students have also had such questions in their lives." But what I want to say is, looking at your information registration, you are 32 years old this year, right, you are a teacher by profession, and your income and educational background are very suitable candidates for marriage. At your age, the elderly in the family must be in a hurry, and they must have introduced you to girls with relatively compatible conditions, right? Then I take the liberty of asking, why are you still single? After Du Mijin finished speaking, he expected to see Chen Wei stunned in place with an embarrassed face, and he didn't know what to say for a while. Du Mijin looked at Chen Wei's red expression, and waited for a while at the right time, and after giving his strength a dismount, he smiled and said: "Actually, what Chen Wei said is very right, in our parents' generation, even if there is no sweet love, you can have a stable marriage and a complete life." However, the general environment of the times has changed, resulting in a fundamental difference in people's thinking, and modern people's sense of responsibility is more dependent on subjective will, that is, I want to be responsible for you, and I am responsible for you. If you let everyone go through decades of life hand in hand with someone you don't love now, who can guarantee that you will be able to do it? Of course, some people may say that feelings can be cultivated, this sentence is not wrong, people's hearts are flesh and blood, when a person is unreservedly good to you, over the years, there will be feelings. But you never know if the relationship you've cultivated is family, friendship, or love. People are selfish animals, there must be some people with the mentality of 'riding a donkey to find a horse', I don't love her enough, but I like her a lot, it's better than nothing, anyway, I don't have a better choice now, then I'll deal with it first, and wait until there is a more suitable candidate, and then I break up? Anyway, now that it's so casual, I avoid the emptiness, loneliness and coldness of a person, isn't it good? Here, we don't judge any behavior by morality, so I won't say whether this practice is right or wrong, I just stand in the position of each student, to briefly analyze the pros and cons of this behavior on their own feelings. First of all, you can't be sure if the person you want to get along with has the same purpose as you, and if you use her as a transition, but she uses you as a destination, this matter will be accompanied by a certain amount of trouble. Women are rarely rational when they really fall in love with a man, they will do everything to tie up and possess this man for a long time, you can't give a reasonable reason to want to withdraw, you will be very difficult to deal with the aftermath, and there is a high probability that the mental strength involved will be haggard, which is obviously not worth it. Secondly, even if you feel that you have high emotional intelligence and can divide as much as you want, you must understand whether the person you think is better, the person you really fall in love with, can wait for you to break up. If the other party still has a certain affection for you, but knows that you are not single, and people choose other candidates, you will miss out on a love, isn't it a pity? In the end, even if you break up quickly and the other party is willing to wait, do you guarantee that you can go to the end with this person? If you can't, you choose to be with another person by turning your back on one person, guess what the previous people would say about you? You're betting on your fame, and word of mouth is very important for a person, and it often determines whether you're more likely to succeed or fail in a new relationship. At that time, the chickens and eggs will outweigh the losses, so according to the overall pros and cons, choosing to be with the person you really love is obviously more worthy of our time and energy than choosing to walk with someone you like, isn't it? That's how important it is to determine if you really love someone. Chen Wei, do you understand what I mean? ”

Du Mijin gave a reasoned and well-founded reply to Chen Wei lost his temper, and even took other students to be convinced of Du Majin a few more times, and everyone listened to the next course very seriously, and Du Majin also talked about the better the state, I don't know if I think, the two-hour course is over like this. After the students left the classroom one after another, Du Mijin glanced at the list of students who planned to continue the class that Liang Youhuan had just sorted out in his hand, which was as much as eighty percent of the number of people who attended the class. (To be continued.) )